A Gentleman’s Guide To Submission

dark_cleavageI usually avoid writing generalized “how-to” guides because although some things are universal I feel that every Domme/sub relationship should be customized.

What follows here is only my opinion. I do not speak for all Professional Dominants/online Dommes, regular life non-pro Dommes, etc.

I’ve long said that what I value most in a submissive man is good manners. To be honest, I value good manners in every person. It goes beyond just being Canadian with politeness bred into my bones. It’s not necessarily the formality of proper manners that you often get with the British (which I find delightful), it can be more casual & friendly…but the heart of it is consideration & thoughtfulness. A good submissive simply THINKS of the Dominant’s needs or wants BEFORE his own, every time.

At the risk of over-simplifying it, it really can be that simple. Just putting the Dommes needs before his own.

Taking a slightly different angle, think of it as being cared for. If you are a good submissive you ‘care’ about how your Domme feels. You care that she is happy, content, etc. You get pleasure from knowing you have made her happy. In a similar way as you would feel if you were caring for a sick person, a young person, someone who needs your help, a pet, a wounded animal, etc. If you helped someone change a tire, you would feel good. If you helped an old lady bring heavy groceries up a set of stairs to her apartment, you would feel good. If you saved a puppy that was just about to fall off a balcony, you would feel good. You get the point. The chemicals that are released which produce the emotions that make you feel good are basically the same.

So in a way, serving well is somewhat self-serving. But if you didn’t like the way it made you feel to be a good submissive than you probably wouldn’t be into that, right?

This is at the heart of submission.

Now, there is another side to ‘submission’ that sadly, if more prevalent. The so-called slave who just wants a woman to act as a puppet to fulfill his fantasies. He wants her to do specific sex acts, like piss on him, fuck him in the ass, put him in chastity, kick him in the balls, spank him, cross dress him, make him suck cock, etc. etc. It’s perfectly fine to hire a Professional Dominatrix to perform those services but understand that you are not submitting to fulfill the desires of your Mistress. It’s a different thing.

Many just have a fetish & aren’t necessarily interested in submission. They just like feet, or pantyhose, etc. and that’s fine. But one should always be a gentleman.

In my case, it is possible to hire me to fulfill your fantasy of submission, you can request certain activities, let me know what your boundaries (hard limits) are…and that’s all well & good. No judgement there. It’s how Pro Domming usually works. With structure. But consider the depth & sincerity of your experience. Consider a slight shift in your thinking. Instead of thinking only about the services you want performed, think about how you can best behave to please your Mistress. Find out what she enjoys & try it, even if it’s not top of your list, just to experience the feeling of sacrificing a little to give someone else pleasure.

Personally, I like a strong submissive. A man who is a gentleman. Not a weakling that I can bully & push around, but a man who gracefully chooses to submit to me. I like a slave who has self respect & whom I can respect.

I don’t have a lot of rules to be universally followed. It’s more of a philosophy. If you come from the right spirit than it will be received as such. That is the base from which everything else is built.

Best,
Mistress T

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A kinky short story…

“Why do you pretend to be shy?”

I replied that I didn’t like intimidating people and I wanted to be treated like a normal person.

“Darling, you couldn’t be normal if you tried. There’s a boldness in you that makes mere mortals want to bow down to you, follow your orders, gain your favor, listen to your advice.”

He was wearing a leather fetish dog mask and collar but not much else. His body was strong and toned. The leather micro shorts at least left something to the imagination…until a friend whispered in my ear that he has a huge cock.

He slowly lowered himself to his knees, his strong muscles putting on a nice display. He took on the stance of an obedient dog and gently offered himself as my pet.

I stroked my leather gloved hand over his back and he shivered. I removed my glove & touched him again. This time I shivered. This was going to be fun.

Best,
Mistress T

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Private Sessions

Want to meet me in person? Here’s what you need know:

#1. I am only accepting sessions in Vancouver, BC these days. You must be in Vancouver or be willing to travel to Vancouver to see me.

#2. I don’t “escort”/engage in intercourse or oral sex with clients (no oral sex means no oral sex of any kind between us. No licking my genitals or anus.). No groping me. No hard sports.

#3. What I do: Dominatrix/fetish/woman-in-control scenarios or role-play. My specialty is tie & tease/orgasm control/ruined orgasms/FemDom styled hand jobs, to be blunt. I am equally comfortable with sensually Dominant sessions or cruel humiliation scenarios. I have a full wardrobe of leather, latex, lingerie, hosiery, boots, shoes, gloves, etc. Minimum: $400/60 mins. (or $550/90mins. $700/2 hours.)

#4. My social rate is $200/hr. Conversation over dinner, drinks, coffee/tea, etc.

#5. A deposit will be required.

Disclaimer: I rarely accept sessions as I’m either creating new content or enjoying a balanced personal life. Your best bet is to communicate clearly (but briefly) in your first email. It should look like this:

Subject line: Private session in Vancouver

Body of the email: I’m interested in a (insert session length, 1 hour, 2 hour?) session in Vancouver on this date (insert specific date/time here & indicate if you are flexible). I am interested in (insert what you want here, like tie & tease with hand release or foot worship, humiliation, etc.)
That’s it for the first email. Here’s my email address. Don’t use it when you’re horny & not thinking clearly. Do NOT send me an unsolicited dick pic: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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A Typical Encounter…

MistressT_hote_seductionRecently I accepted a private session. It’s a rare event these days. I’m pretty busy with producing vids, yoga & life in general. I’m selective about whom I meet with privately. I want to enjoy the experience too, so I screen for compatibility.

This young man would be traveling to Vancouver on business, staying in an upscale hotel & requested times with flexibility that worked for me. His interests were simple. Mainly, he just wanted to meet me. He had been a fan for years. Of course he wanted to have some kind of intimate experience with me & he wanted to cum. He was willing to work within my boundaries & let me decide how that part would go.

I get a thrill walking through lobbies of upscale hotels. I dress discretely & aim to be invisible, but good staff are trained to make everyone feel welcome so there’s always at least eye contact a smile exchanged as I make my way to the elevators like I’ve been there before. As I’ve been walking a few blocks my tight black dress has shimmied up to my hips, luckily covered by my longer coat. I’m sharing the elevator with a conservative looking man so I stand there feeling risky & a bit silly with my fanny in the breeze…until he gets off & I can pull my dress back down into place.

I knock on the door & am greeted awkwardly as I enter the room. Guys never know what to do in this moment so I give him a nice hug to put him at ease. He seems young to have the kind of job that would bring him to Vancouver & to this fancy hotel room…about to pay me a premium rate for my attention.

I like young people. They’re usually not bitter yet. Still enthusiastic about life. Still hopeful. Some people hold on to that spirit. For too many it fades.

Back to my young professional. He’s keen to please & has fetched a nice bottle of bubbly for me. He had asked in advance what I’d like & even though I said I would only have 1 glass he’s chosen what I assume is the best he could find. Impressive.

We sit in the wing back chairs & chat. He’s nervous, naturally…but I can see how he’s come so far for his age. He parrots poise & confidence well…& I sense he would be good at whatever he put his mind to.

We discuss his fetishes. Bless him, he’s not great at communicating them. I knew from his emails that he was a fan of my cuckolding vids. I draw out a few more details including that he had had cuckolding fantasies with an ex girlfriend. I let him gaze at my cleavage while finishing his glass of liquid courage before moving things to the bed.

I played the role of his girlfriend…confessing that I’ve been sleeping with other men. His pants grew tighter as I unbuttoned his shirt, looking him in the eyes & saying that I want to tell him what I’ve been doing…that I want to share it with him…

I ask him if he’s jealous. I ask if he wants to hear more. I tell him that he must have noticed he wasn’t quite satisfying me in the bedroom. I care about him so I tried to make it work but I needed to be sexually satisfied in other ways…by other men.

Cloths come off, the descriptions of my liaisons get more graphic…things get hotter, I tease him, stroke him & eventually he erupts with his head nestled in my neck while I whisper in his ear about the other man’s cum in my pussy he’s going to have to clean up.

It was sweet, intimate & hot. I held him after. He held me. Flesh against flesh. Breath coming back to normal. A smile playing on his face. He’d done something naughty. He’d lived out a fantasy and now we lay together like a real couple. He had been masturbating to my vids & reading my blog for years. He did feel like he knew me. And I felt like I knew him, in the way that I feel like I know many of my fans. I know a very real part of them that is kept secret from most others or in some cases, everyone else.

It’s moments like this that I feel a great sense of fulfillment in my job. Allowing these men to express a part of themselves they need to keep secret most or all of the time. Not just allowing it but celebrating it.

This was a fairly typical encounter for me, by design. This is what I look for when screening clients. A potential 2-way connection. I have range, sure. I enjoy a variety of different scenes & activities…but I want to feel a connection.

And in this moment, if you’ve read this far & you’re getting a warm n’ fuzzy feeling about me than you probably understand that & you “get” me. xo

Best,
Mistress T

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Oral sex?

MistressT fetish goddess asslicking ass worship

I know you want to be him, but cool your engines & read this before emailing me begging to lick me…

I get a lot of emails from guys wanting to lick my ass and/or pussy. So I decided to make a blog post on the topic so I can just email this link rather than explaining over & over.

If you’re not a reader, the short answer is: “No”. But if you’re interested in more info please read on…

If you know my story from the beginning you’ll know that I started out doing no-contact voyeur shows/masturbation shows where the guy could jerk himself off while watching me…because although I was excited by being an exhibitionist & enjoyed naughty play I wasn’t comfortable actually having sex in that situation. I didn’t like the idea of feeling obligated to have sex with a guy just because he had paid me. From voyeur shows I transitioned to Pro Domme work & I followed the so-called traditional rules of Professional Domination (no intercourse, no oral sex, no hand jobs) & that was fine but they weren’t MY rules and over time I adjusted the rules to suit me (occasionally requiring oral service from regular clients I felt comfortable with, for example.) I even ended up in a long term relationship with someone who started out as a client.

At one point I decided that I couldn’t be sure ‘escort work’ wasn’t for me unless I tried it so I gave it a go & after about a half dozen clients my curiosity was satisfied. I simply do not enjoy being in a situation where I am obligated to have intercourse or oral sex with someone because they have paid me…when it’s my job to provide that service. All sex work is providing a service to a certain extent, even traditional Pro Domme work (you are exchanging a service for money). I am naturally Dominant & a control freak. There are limits to how “service-oriented” I can be before I hit a wall.

Hand jobs tho? I love giving hand jobs & I have no issue with that. But that’s my hand vs. my vagina, so that’s understandable. It’s certainly a lot more intimate for someone to touch my vagina or anus than my HAND touching them.

I know some people see my vids and get the impression that I do everything with anyone. BUT the men I’m intimate with in my vids are men that I am very familiar with. Often they are my own personal lovers. Sometimes friends or clients I’ve had for years. Sometimes they are slaves that have served one of my fellow Dommes for a long time, making them more comfortable to be with.

If you’re reading this & trying to figure out how you can get between my legs…it’s not impossible but it’s unlikely if that is your only selfish goal. You can pay for my time in private to get acquainted or if you have value as a film slave, you can apply…but don’t try to date me. I’m running a business. Respect that. Sure, I have been in a relationship with someone who started as a client (although that was 1 out of hundreds, so the odds aren’t in your favor)…but I have NEVER gone on a date (with no compensation) with someone who has started as a fan of Mistress T. Guys looking for free play greatly offend me.

So to recap:

– I don’t offer “escort” type sessions (intercourse or oral sex for pay). That means no oral worship, no direct contact between your mouth, hands or penis & my vagina or anus. By the way, prostitution is legal where I live so this is not a legal disclaimer, it’s real.

– Hand jobs are fine (along with strap-on, role-play, humiliation, foot worship, golden showers, ballbusting, spanking, sissy play/X-dressing & a few other things.)

– My social rate is $100/hour & I LOVE meeting fans! We can go for lunch or dinner…a walk, shopping, to the theater, parties, whatever. I’m a social chameleon.

– My private session rates vary depending on details but nothing in private happens for less than $300 the first time. I am very selective about who I see in private & rarely accept sessions these days. I’m pretty busy creating all the amazing content you love to jerk off to! I do need to eat though so you’re welcome to take me for a meal (at $100/hr social rate) & discuss the possibility of a private session.

Best,
Mistress T

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A special re-connection…

MistressT Fetish Goddess

Looking back…

Way back when I was a new Pro Domme I had a house boy nicknamed “Puppy”. We had an amazingly comfortable & delightful relationship. I didn’t know then how lucky I was. I have since realized that most so-called house boys end up being high-maintenance, drama-plagued disappointments.

Puppy was anything but a disappointment. He tried really hard to please me in every way & he usually achieved that goal. He was a pleasure to have around but after several months of excellent service his work took him away & he sadly left me.

I was never able to replace him & eventually gave up on house boys & personal servants all together. I remembered him fondly but didn’t hear from him for years.

Last week I received this email:

Hi Mistress T,

You will have to search your memory banks to remember me and I hope that your memories might be fond ones.  You named me ‘puppy’ and I was your service slave for some time when you were first starting out as a professional Dominatrix. 
I saw you recently at a fetish event and I wanted to say ‘hi’ but not surprisingly you were always surrounded by people.  I was not sure if you would remember me after so long and did not want make you feel awkward if I walked up and you did not remember me.  

I never said so this in your presence because I always got tongue tied but you are the most intelligent, graceful, articulate, thoughtful, funny, creative and all around amazing woman that I have ever had the honor of knowing.  You are also one of the most honorable, ethical and integrity filled people that I have ever met and I have had the good fortune to know lots of quality people in my life.  You always conducted yourself with grace and class and I have always admired all of those traits in you even after I was no longer serving you.

Thank you for teaching me all that you did.  And thank you for your patience with my many mistakes.  I delighted in pleasing you with my cooking.  I loved the idea that putting meals in your freezer was helping to take care of you, not that you needed to be taken care of, but simply as a symbol of my devotion.

I don’t really know why it has taken me this long to have the balls to contact you and say ‘hello’.  I understand if you are too busy and/or have no interest in returning my email.  I am happy with the simple thought that this email might please you or bring even a brief smile to that beautiful face of yours.  

Even if I do not hear back from you I wish you continued success in all you do.  Though that is really a given with your talent and intelligence.  I hope that your life is filled with much love, peace and happiness.

Your puppy

I was delighted to receive this email, naturally. As I mentioned, he served me in the beginning when I was still figuring things out. A lot has happened in the last eight years. I invited him to join me at a fetish event Saturday night. I received this email after:

Dearest Mistress T,

It was absolutely wonderful to see you last night.  I really enjoyed reconnecting with you again.  Thank you for your kind words and for graciously allowing me to dance with you and your slave.  Somehow you have grown even more charming, witty, graceful and beautiful than I remembered.  Trust me when I say that is no mean feat.  

I truly hold you in the highest regard.  Not just because you are ‘kinkyasfuck’.  But simply as a human being who has the courage to live life honestly and on her own terms.

With much affection,
puppy

I’m not sure yet what place puppy might hold in my life in the future but it’s nice to have him back & it would be nice to have him around. We’ll see. So many slaves, fans & clients have come & gone over the years. Some have stuck around but the nature of the business is that there are many single-serving relationships. It really means something to me to have longer term relationships.

Speaking of long-term vs. short-term…I’m excited to see one of my longest running, most devoted slaves in Orlando just before Christmas! He has been with me for years & we’ve followed each others ups & downs…the relationship is strong & mutually fulfilling. He’s taking me to Disney & I’m SO looking forward to it!

At this point I plan to only see him during my stay but if I end up with any free time I’ll contact those who have applied to be on an Orlando contact list (email: MsT@MistressT.net with “Orlando” in the subject line.)
Best,
Mistress T

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Fans say the darndest things…

I think the look on my face says it all...

I think the look on my face says it all…

Here’s a peek into my mail bag…not a day goes by that I don’t read something in my email or twitter that causes me to screw up my face, roll my eyes or say out loud: “What the fuck?!”.

These are quotes from emails & my reaction to them:

From a fan in India: “i just thought if you can make me come to the US by a job visa or by the way of romance, or you can find me a place to work with you… I will thank you. “

~ Um, no. Firstly, I’m a Canadian living in Canada & secondly: no.

From a fan trying to bait/manipulate me into catering to his fetish for small penis humiliation:  “Hello mistress!
I was wondering if you could tell me if I have a small penis or not?”

~ *tumble weeds blowing through his inbox as he sits waiting for a response that’s never coming*

“Ive been in chastity for a while now and I think its shrunk :l”

~ Who cares?
“I want full ownership by the most beautiful Domme who ever walked the earth!!!
Beat me, bind me, cuck me, Torture my cock and balls any way you wish, make me a sissy-slut too!!!
I am totally straight, but I would suffer the humiliation of faggotry for you!!!”

~ Ah yes, yet another “straight” guy begging me to “make” him suck cock…and ordering me to do stuff to him. Hot? Not.

“I am so desperate to lick your ass and swallow your farts because it is my oxygen.”

~ No it’s not.

“I think it is hot when you work with black men and do some things in public.  I could even fly you places to work with allot of black men you like and cover all expenses.”

~ Fantasy & reality are not the same thing buddy.

“I would also love to see you take an SUV on a public road and pull over and jump on the gear shift riding it to one incredible orgasm.”

~ What about me would make you think I would be interested in fucking a vehicle?

“Why would a stunning young lady like your self be empressed with a battered up boxer like me. But I want to keep fighting 4 u sweetie. I love the thought of taking painfull face punches and suffering the pain while I think of u during a fight and the thought that your all relaxed with your adorable sexy size 4 feet up. And the fear before the fight. I want to take pain for u misstress T. I’m a sadist as u can realise.”

~ This is actually kind of impressive…”Fight Club” is one of my favorite movies…keep up the good work Boxer!

“My Penis gets very Hard & Erect & I am willing to let you practice your Fellatio & Hand Job with it, in exchange for Lessons.”

~ Haa haaaa ha! You’ll let me PRACTICE giving blow jobs on your penis?! Oh, SO generous.

From a new film slave: “omg..I am such a lucky boy! I wish I could do so much more Mistress T, you have really impacted me in the short time that Ive spent around you. I mean I obviously was very familiar with you long before getting the honor of meeting you and being a film slave and honestly my thoughts have been so completely consumed with thoughts of you. I know I am just a prop, film slave and I love it! but for me, this opportunity has created such a buzz within me.. “

~ Okay, that’s actually very sweet…and a nice way to end things today.

Best,
Mistress T

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The English Mansion: Love & Gratitude

I awoke today with a wave of gratitude so strong it actually brought me to tears. I was thinking about my relationship with Sidonia Von Bork & her crew at The English Mansion. I realized how much I’ve learned from my experiences there & how much I’ve benefited.

Here’s the page on their site that lists all the movies I’m currently in, with more added frequently: http://www.theenglishmansion.com/MistressT

United in shared passions:-)

United in shared passions:-)

This was from one of our earliest shoots.

This was from one of our earliest shoots.

I took this pic...THAT was a fun day of us taking turns using the sex slave for our pleasure.

I took this pic…THAT was a fun day of us taking turns using the sex slave for our pleasure.

I have spent a lot of time with Sidonia & she has been generous in both her professional guidance as well as her personal support. I consider her a mentor & a cherished friend. She is an icon in the classic FemDom world. Her brilliant & creative mind is behind the many diabolical scenes & scenarios portrayed in her films. Her intelligence & deep understanding of the deviant is evident in her excellent blog.

Sidonia Von Bork & I using a slave's man pussy.

Sidonia Von Bork & I using a slave’s man pussy.

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Thanks to the generous promotion from The English Mansion I have become very popular in England & throughout Europe. Every day I get applications from fans in the UK asking to be in my films or to meet me personally. To show my appreciation for The English Mansion & to separate the serious applicants from the rest I am now requiring an important step in application: you must be a member of TheEnglishMansion.com before I’ll even discuss meeting you in person.

A dungeon of delights...

A dungeon of delights…

I will be back in the UK within the next few months (I come every spring & fall) but I will no longer be publicly announcing specific dates. I will no longer answer random emails asking when I’ll be in the UK. You must send your membership ID to prove you have a current membership for The English Mansion. If you do not support the fine work they do & you’re not familiar with my vids on their site than you do not deserve my attention.

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Serious applicants who send their membership ID for The English Mansion will also be given a 3 day free premium membership to my site: www.MistressT.net.

There is a limited number of opportunities to meet with me for a private session or to film with me, so no guarantees that you’ll be accepted but I can guarantee that without verification that you’re a paying supporter of the work I’ve done with The English Mansion you will not even be considered.

The English Mansion is the #1 site in the world for classic FemDom. It showcases legendary top Domina’s as well as fresh faces & has a long-standing solid reputation for having the most quantity & highest quality classic FemDom porn all under one ‘roof’. You should already be a member anyway!

To apply to see me in the UK (I will not be touring anywhere else in Europe) email MsT@MistressT.net with the following info:

#1. Your membership ID for www.TheEnglishMansion.com (I will only use it for verification that you are a paying member.)

#2. Indicate: film slave, private session only or both/either?

#3. List preferred activities & hard limits.

#4. If applying for film include a nude torso pic with erect penis.

Cheerio,

Mistress T

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The FemDomme Uniform

How do you recognize a truly Dominant woman?

The ultimate Pro Domme accessory is a slave.

The ultimate Pro Domme accessory is a slave.

Many imagine a woman wearing leather or latex, maybe a corset, certainly severe high heeled boots or shoes. Maybe stockings & garters, leather or latex gloves, red lipstick & holding a whip. This is the cliche image of a Dominatrix.

My favorite Domme outfit.

My favorite Domme outfit.

Some in the traditional ‘scene’ feel that a real Dominatrix doesn’t get naked. The many Financial Dommes (Fin Dommes) have taken their own twist on that. They never get naked but they will tease in tiny bikini’s or lingerie, slutty dresses, jeans, etc. but rarely in BDSM fetish attire.

Boss of the year?

Boss of the year?

Being Dominant is about being in control, so some men feel a powerful business suit puts the woman in the drivers seat. On International Women’s Day it’s interesting to note that when it comes to politics, owning or running large corporations or holding senior management positions…the vast majority of the decision makers of the world are still male. Isn’t it a shame that men don’t have more Sarah Palin’s to jerk off to? (That’s sarcasm folks.)

You'll never look at flannel pj's the same way again.

You’ll never look at flannel pj’s the same way again.

Since before anyone gave me permission I’ve been plying my craft in casual attire, domestic clothing, naked…& recently, in my pj’s. This may seem extreme to some but the reality is that many of my fans are more interested in ME than my attire. The majority of guys who want to connect with me on web cam want to talk to me like a real person. They don’t want me to put on a show…which is fortunate because I’m not interested in that either. I perform for the camera when I make vids and I love it, but when it comes to one-on-one connections I prefer to actually have a personal connection.

A lot of guys fantasize about serving me in real life. Well, ya know what? I don’t hang around my home in latex & high heeled boots. My downstairs neighbor is grateful that I wear comfy socks instead.

Need all the bell's & whistles?

Need all the bell’s & whistles?

I understand for some guys their fetish is the clothing. They need that traditional Dominatrix outfit to get off. That’s fair & that’s why I go for that look sometimes too. It feels good to get all sexed up & know it makes a man’s knees weak…but if you think that I’m any less Dominant or in control in flannel pj’s, think again.

So, how do you recognize a Dominant woman? The only answer is within you. Does she make you feel submissive?

Best,
Mistress T

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More Adventures

Mistress T in fishnets.

Fishnets are great for ‘fishing’ for lovers. I usually catch quite a lot…

Even I find my life bizarre at times. My Saturday last night was blog-worthy.

It was a fetish party night. In Vancouver these days there’s at least two a month. It’s my regular thing & I’ve been going for ten years now. I know a lot of people. Everyone dresses in sexy attire. It’s very friendly. I drink, I dance & I make out with people.

Last night I went to a pre-party. It was at the apartment of one of my ‘occasional’ casual lovers. I arrived before everyone else so I could squeeze in an orgasm to set the tone for the evening. A moment after arriving I checked to see how much time we had & advised him to get a towel for me to sit on so I didn’t make a wet spot on his sofa. I lifted my dress & with him kneeling on the floor he happily licked me to climax. Just in time as the other guests arrived moments later.

It was a nice pre-party with some very interesting people. All of them sexy, every one.

The fetish party was slower than usual. It’s a long weekend here (Canada Day) so people are out of town camping, etc. There were a lot of familiar faces though & I really got my dance on. I was invited into the ‘make out room’ & gave my kiss-proof lipstick a run for its money. He was a new friend, I don’t recall his name, one who didn’t know about ‘Mistress T’ & I loved that. I prefer to be wanted for ‘me’ rather than the ‘porn star’. He asked me if I would make out with his girlfriend & I gladly obliged. She was sitting by the dance floor & I strode over in my platform stiletto’s, slowly straddled her & brought my face very close to hers & just breathed (I was chewing cinnamon flavored gum). Take notes boys, most women do not want to be attacked when you kiss them for the first time. Give her a chance to make the decision, to meet you part way. She did & we kissed softly while I was careful to keep most of my weight on my legs & not her lap.

There’s an art to good kissing & I pride myself of being really fucking good at it. Men & women tend to be different…but everyone is unique. Read the signs, body language, breathing, etc. Use your hands well…I might stroke someone softly or pull their hair & choke them.

They asked me to come home with them but I had had a few drinks & actually prefer to not have sex when I’m drunk. I prefer to eat hamburgers. I’m mostly vegetarian which makes eating burgers when I’ve been drinking seem even more hedonistic. When sex is part of your work, it’s funny how the urge to rebel comes out in other ways.

As I was making my exit I got an email from a fan offering me $750 to come over to his place. I still wanted a hamburger more than the money so I went to my favorite late night diner & messaged him for awhile to get a feel for the situation. He actually sounded fun so I finished my meal, made my safety call (called a friend with the address of where I was going) & headed over. It was a nice place in a nice neighborhood.

He opened the door at about 3am, me half in the bag, now changed into my comfy (non-fetish) attire. A sun dress & flip flops. I sized him up quickly & checked my gut. Just a harmless, horny, lonely guy. I entered & he handed me the wad of cash. I got myself a glass of water (I wanted to check the place out a bit) & then asked him what may be a famous Mistress T line someday: “So, what are you into?”

The first thing he said was golden showers. Perfect, of course I needed to pee so told him to strip & get in the bathtub. As I was standing above him, pissing on his face, focusing on not falling off the edge of the tub I marveled at my crazy life.

Rinsed off on the bed I told him to tell me what else he’s into. Cuckolding, being made to suck cock, humiliated, degraded…I felt like I had won the lottery. I started to stroke his erect cock, I like to feel a hard cock in my hand. It gives me a great sense of power. Then I told him to take over while I used my most powerful weapon: my mouth. Not like THAT! I meant my verbals. I told him that a woman like me would never fuck him or even have anything to do with him without him paying for it. I told him that he might be useful someday as a cock fluffer for me. Maybe I’d pimp him out at a sex club or a gay bar. I called him names, painted a bleak future for him as my cuckold, I went on & on, looking down at him, looking him in the eye, whispering in his ear as he stroked himself off. Then I kissed him a few times on the forehead because I like to let certain men know I don’t mean all the awful things I say.

We laid in bed awhile longer chatting. Him with spunk all over his tummy & me still in my sundress. I asked how many women he had emailed looking for a late night hook up. I knew how hard it was to get a Domme over to your place at all, let alone in the middle of the night with no advance notice. I figured he had tried them all & probably some escorts too. As it turns out, he had only emailed me. He’s just a huge fan & took a shot. I only accept about one client a month these days so I told him he was even luckier than he thought he was. I also told him that he was a sucker for paying me $750 to pee on him & talk dirty for less than an hour. I gave him back a few hundred.

As I left I called my pal Samantha Mack to say I was fine & walking home. She insisted on coming to pick me up & we went for a bite at our favorite 24 hour vegetarian place. As I crawled into bed at around 5am I mulled over my bizarre life. So many crazy adventures!

A note on safety: Going to a strangers place in the middle of the night while intoxicated is pretty much the riskiest thing you can do. I don’t recommend it. I went with my gut, I made a safety call, I have self defense training, but if the guy had wanted to do me harm the odds would not have been in my favor. Part of the reason I did it was for the thrill, although I also believe there are more people in this world who would rather hug you than hurt you.

Best,
Mistress T

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