Lucky Guy

Posted on March 10, 2015 by Mistress T

When I tweet pics of me with guys/slaves the most common comment I get is “Lucky guy” followed by “Wish I was him/wish it was me”.

So who are these lucky guys and where do they come from? Unlike the guys you see in a lot of mainstream porn, 99% of my guys are not professional performers. I live in Vancouver, Canada. We don’t have a porn scene here so there are no professionals (that I know of) to hire even if I wanted to. While traveling I have had the opportunity to work with a few pro’s. Exactly 3 I think: Shane Diesel, Wolf Hudson & Deviant Kade. Slave Wade might be considered a pro by now too?

When I started making my own vids I had a partner. The first couple of years he was the only guy I filmed sex scenes with. Those who have been watching my stuff for more than 5 years probably know who I’m talking about. After we went our separate ways I started filming with others.

Each one has their own unique story. Some I’ve only filmed with once or a few times, for a variety of reasons. Perhaps we were only in the same place at the same time briefly, like a guy from out of town visiting. Sometimes I just don’t ‘click’ with someone enough to want to work with them anymore.

The ones that have stuck around earn nicknames and are close to my heart. The Gladiator, The Fire Hose Guy, Superman, The Young Fella, Eager Beaver, etc.

Most tend to be fans who simply offer themselves to be used for filming. Usually they don’t show their face which is fine with me. I think it’s easier for the viewer to imagine it’s him if he isn’t distracted by a face. They need to keep their anonymity. They all have lives. One of them sneaks out of the office to film with me & always shows up in a sharp suit, perfectly coiffed. He’s so beautiful I wish my fans could see more of him than just his cock, but alas…

Another one is a personal friend I’ve had for many years. He comes & goes. When he’s in a relationship we don’t film. When things don’t work out he comes back.

I found one fella while on vacation in Mexico. He was American & came to Vancouver to film with me several times over the next couple of years.

Some guys get shared or passed around among the other Vancouver Dommes. We’re a small, close community.

When I’m in England I get use of the English Mansion slaves or those who belong to Nikki Whiplash.

A more unique story is of the guy I accidentally found through one of those adult dating sites. I hadn’t been on it in over a year but I logged in to get the profile of someone impersonating me removed. While I was waiting for the admin to message me back another message came in & I looked at it. He had a nice cock so I asked if he’d like to be in my vids. He ended up being a wonderful film guy.

I prefer the ones who come regularly. I enjoy getting to know them & figuring out how to control their orgasms. I like pushing boundaries & introducing them to new things. We often sit around chatting over tea before or after filming which is also nice for me. Sometimes we go for a bite to eat or hang out socially. Some of them are lovers before they are in my films…sometimes they become my personal fuck toys off camera after. Some of them serve me in a more ‘slave’ way personally.

So I would say that they all consider themselves to be as lucky as you think they are. I wouldn’t keep anyone around who isn’t appreciative. I have more guys to film with than I need. I also consider myself lucky. I love what I do & a big part of that is liking those who I do intimate scenes with.

Info on applying to be a film slave: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/frequently-asked-questions/

Best,
Mistress T

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When A Compliment Is An Insult

Posted on March 5, 2015 by Mistress T

I make myself pretty accessible. I tweet & blog a lot. I really want my fans to see me as a person & not an object (as many women are portrayed in the adult biz).

Being accessible can be a double edged sword though. I often get emails that are complimentary but inappropriate.

Picture if you will, my every day life. I wake up, check my email & twitter from the bathroom in the dark. Then I put on music, chill indie or something cheerful while I shake up my protein drink & boil water for green tea. I then answer emails in my flannel pj’s while sitting in front of a large window, sometimes putting seeds out so birds entertain me.

The rest of my day might include a meal with friends, yoga, walking, errands, doing housework, making myself something to eat, going to the spa with friends, visiting a sick friend, talking to family on the phone, writing my book, planning trips, going out to parties, having sex or any number of other things that are NOT work related.

For work I edit, film, tweet, blog, occasionally session in person or webcam…and answer emails.

This is a bit long-winded because what I’m going to say might sound ‘bitchy’ and I want you to see me as a regular person first and not just a porn star, Dominatrix, celebrity or whatever.

I understand the concept of ‘fan mail’. I also understand the reality is that many of my fans have never paid a cent to enjoy my content, yet they still consider themselves devoted fans, hungrily consuming whatever they can get their mitts on for free. Maybe they genuinely can’t afford to pay anything. Maybe the concept of paying has never occurred to them, they are a part of the demographic that just thinks free porn is the norm. In any case, they have never contributed in a positive way to my work. There’s an argument that watching the pirated stuff negatively effects my business but we’ll leave that for today & just assume that they are at a ‘zero’ in terms of positive or negative contribution…

Until…

They send me a long email telling me how much they adore me, how they’ve jerked off to dozens of my vids…but wait until the end to mention that they aren’t a member of my site or anything but they just HAD to write me anyway.

Now they have stolen my time. Minutes that I won’t get back to enhance my personal life or create more great content. Minutes that add up when many guys do this. Each one thinking they are doing me a favor by telling me how sexy they think I am or how much they love my vids. “Compliments’ that turn into insults when they then point out they’ve paid nothing for the content I’ve worked hard to create.

I have to read those emails because they often all sound the same at first (opening with compliments) before the guy gets to the business part: he wants a custom vid, he wants to meet me in person, he wants to volunteer to be a film slave, etc.

Then I feel like a dick for not responding to those ‘compliment only’ emails, which I just don’t have time for. So I end up feeling worse than if he had just never sent the email in the first place.

Here’s the bitchy part that would have sounded harsher if I opened with it:

Do not send me complimentary emails if you have not paid for anything & have no intention of paying for something or contributing in a way that has value to me.

I don’t need your compliments. I do not suffer from low self esteem & I know very well by now how truly wonderful my content is.

If you’re going to jerk off to my content for free at least have the decency to keep it to yourself & don’t annoy me with emails that waste my time.

Capisce?

To the many, many wonderful fans who join my site, buy vids from clips4sale, send me gifts from my Amazon Wish List, tribute or support my efforts in any way: THANK YOU! You make my day, every day. xo

Best,
Mistress T

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Penis Size

Posted on February 16, 2015 by Mistress T

I read an excellent New York Times article about sex & what we can learn by what people search on Google. Here’s the article in its entirety: Searching for Sex http://nyti.ms/1CPxwKV

The topic I’m focusing on in this blog post is the issue of penis size. This article says that Google searches indicate that men are obsessed with penis size…asking Google if they have a small penis and how to make their penis larger.

From New York Times article: Searching for Sex http://nyti.ms/1CPxwKV

The article also says this: “Do women care about penis size? Rarely, according to Google searches. For every search women make about a partner’s phallus, men make roughly 170 searches about their own.”

I do a lot of vids featuring “Small Penis Humiliation” specifically for guys who are aroused by being humiliated. I’ve received some serious questions regarding my own personal views on penis size & it has been a challenging tight rope for me to walk. I’m in the business of fantasy fulfillment. I create pornographic content for entertainment purposes. It might be a confusing mixed message for a fan of my small penis humiliation to read or hear me say that it might be okay if you’re not hung like a horse.

I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again: mainstream porn is the wrong place for people to look for sex education. If you believed everything you saw in mainstream porn you would probably assume all men had huge cocks that were always erect & able to ejaculate under any circumstances…among other absurd things (like all women love it in the butt, can deep throat anything & absolutely love swallowing cum, preferably from 6 different dudes at the same time.) Mainstream porn gives guys the wrong ideas about sex like Disney movies give girls the wrong idea about romance. Cuz, honey, Prince Charming isn’t going to gallop in on his horse, rescue you & then live happily-ever-after with you in a damn castle.

But I digress.

Back to me. It’s true that I prefer the esthetic of larger cocks in my vids. Video is a visual medium & it’s entertainment. I cater to the fetish of “small penis humiliation” for those who are aroused by that.

In reality though I think most men will find that most women are happiest with men who run average (6 inches) to slightly larger than average. Not huge (many women complain about painful intercourse when their partners are too large, especially too long) but also not too small. So what is ‘too small’? Under 4 inches & slender I would say. But even then, many women can be pleasured with mouths, hands & toys. If the chemistry is there it really doesn’t matter what your dick looks like (in many cases).

There. I said it. In reality if your dick isn’t huge it may not be the end of the world. I hope most of you knew that already & didn’t need to hear it from me? But I’ll keep making vids humiliating guys with small penis’s because that’s what I do. I’ll also keep the slave chained up in my bathroom, the shrunken men in a jar in my kitchen, the slave laying by my front door to wipe my feet on, the slave I’m sitting on right now while I write this blog and the slave tied to my bed being denied an orgasm for weeks until I decide to film his release…cuz, ya know, everything I film is 100% real. *smirk*

Best,
Mistress T

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NY Trip Rescheduled Due To Blizzard

Posted on January 28, 2015 by Mistress T

It’s up to you New York…New York!

This is an update for all you New Yorkers hoping to see me…you did not miss your chance! Due to the blizzard my flight was cancelled (no flights were going in or out of NY). Rather than trying to cram the bookings I had into half the time I decided to postpone the trip.

In case you’re wondering what I do about deposits in cases like this: I have the ability to issue a refund via the helpful support staff at clips4sale which I did for 1 gentleman. All the others were happy to hold tight for when I do make it to NY (within the next few months).

Note that if you ask support for a refund without my giving them the go-ahead you risk being permanently blocked from clips4sale. They do that to prevent scams. But don’t worry, if there is a legitimate reason for a refund I’m happy to facilitate it so you won’t get blocked. I’m a fair person.

If you are generous & able to make a deposit send an email introducing yourself & describe exactly what you’re hoping for during our time together (social/private/specific activities). Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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New York New York

Posted on January 21, 2015 by Mistress T

The fates have aligned & I will be coming to New York soon. Well, if you call fate a generous fan compensating me enough to come there…

Me in NY in 2007! I’ve been back several times since but I didn’t get any typical touristy photo’s.

This fan also gave me a flexible return ticket so I decided to take a few extra days to hang with my pal Meg, you may recall she & I have gone to Vegas, Greece & New Orleans together: (http://meggerz.com/)

Meg & I in Greece in August. LOVE this gal:-)

I’ll also have time to spend with some other fans.

How do you get to be one of the lucky few? Well, money obviously is key but it’s equally about ‘low maintenance’. That means I prefer fans who communicate clearly but briefly, who are willing & able to make a deposit right away to demonstrate they are reliable & serious…& frankly, fans who are just really excited about spending time with me. That means it’s more about connecting with ME than a list of services or props.

This will likely be my last trip for awhile. I plan to take some time to work on other projects (don’t worry, the vids will continue) but trips take a lot of energy & I’ll be putting that energy elsewhere. So if you want to see me, this will be you last chance for awhile.

Here’s how you apply. If you do not follow these instructions you will likely not get a reply. If I am not interested or able to see you, you may not get a reply either:

Email subject line: New York

Email body:

#1. In a short paragraph or point form explain what you’re hoping for during our time together & what you’re offering (Minimum $500).

#2. State that you are willing to make a minimum 50% deposit via the tribute button on my clips store. http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (If you are not willing or able to do this, do not email me. No exceptions.)

My email address: MsT@MistressT.net

Cheers to rich perverts!

NOTE: Before you get all butt-hurt about it sounding like I’m all about the money & you not being able to afford to see me…put yourself in my shoes: would you rather see 6 guys a day for $200 an hour or 2 guys a day for about the same amount of money? 2 guys to negotiate all details & organize things with, versus 6? And who wants to be the last guy on the day I’ve seen 5 others? He’s not going to get the best version of me.

Also, it’s New York City! If I’m not enjoying the guy I’m seeing & being compensated well I’d rather not make money & just go enjoy the city or hang out with Meg. So if you don’t have a generous budget, sorry, that’s just the way life goes.

Best of luck to all applicants!

Mistress T

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A Gentleman’s Guide To Submission

Posted on January 14, 2015 by Mistress T

I usually avoid writing generalized “how-to” guides because although some things are universal I feel that every Domme/sub relationship should be customized.

What follows here is only my opinion. I do not speak for all Professional Dominants/online Dommes, regular life non-pro Dommes, etc.

I’ve long said that what I value most in a submissive man is good manners. To be honest, I value good manners in every person. It goes beyond just being Canadian with politeness bred into my bones. It’s not necessarily the formality of proper manners that you often get with the British (which I find delightful), it can be more casual & friendly…but the heart of it is consideration & thoughtfulness. A good submissive simply THINKS of the Dominant’s needs or wants BEFORE his own, every time.

At the risk of over-simplifying it, it really can be that simple. Just putting the Dommes needs before his own.

Taking a slightly different angle, think of it as being cared for. If you are a good submissive you ‘care’ about how your Domme feels. You care that she is happy, content, etc. You get pleasure from knowing you have made her happy. In a similar way as you would feel if you were caring for a sick person, a young person, someone who needs your help, a pet, a wounded animal, etc. If you helped someone change a tire, you would feel good. If you helped an old lady bring heavy groceries up a set of stairs to her apartment, you would feel good. If you saved a puppy that was just about to fall off a balcony, you would feel good. You get the point. The chemicals that are released which produce the emotions that make you feel good are basically the same.

So in a way, serving well is somewhat self-serving. But if you didn’t like the way it made you feel to be a good submissive than you probably wouldn’t be into that, right?

This is at the heart of submission.

Now, there is another side to ‘submission’ that sadly, if more prevalent. The so-called slave who just wants a woman to act as a puppet to fulfill his fantasies. He wants her to do specific sex acts, like piss on him, fuck him in the ass, put him in chastity, kick him in the balls, spank him, cross dress him, make him suck cock, etc. etc. It’s perfectly fine to hire a Professional Dominatrix to perform those services but understand that you are not submitting to fulfill the desires of your Mistress. It’s a different thing.

Many just have a fetish & aren’t necessarily interested in submission. They just like feet, or pantyhose, etc. and that’s fine. But one should always be a gentleman.

In my case, it is possible to hire me to fulfill your fantasy of submission, you can request certain activities, let me know what your boundaries (hard limits) are…and that’s all well & good. No judgement there. It’s how Pro Domming usually works. With structure. But consider the depth & sincerity of your experience. Consider a slight shift in your thinking. Instead of thinking only about the services you want performed, think about how you can best behave to please your Mistress. Find out what she enjoys & try it, even if it’s not top of your list, just to experience the feeling of sacrificing a little to give someone else pleasure.

Personally, I like a strong submissive. A man who is a gentleman. Not a weakling that I can bully & push around, but a man who gracefully chooses to submit to me. I like a slave who has self respect & whom I can respect.

I don’t have a lot of rules to be universally followed. It’s more of a philosophy. If you come from the right spirit than it will be received as such. That is the base from which everything else is built.

Best,
Mistress T

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A kinky short story…

Posted on January 6, 2015 by Mistress T

“Why do you pretend to be shy?”

I replied that I didn’t like intimidating people and I wanted to be treated like a normal person.

“Darling, you couldn’t be normal if you tried. There’s a boldness in you that makes mere mortals want to bow down to you, follow your orders, gain your favor, listen to your advice.”

He was wearing a leather fetish dog mask and collar but not much else. His body was strong and toned. The leather micro shorts at least left something to the imagination…until a friend whispered in my ear that he has a huge cock.

He slowly lowered himself to his knees, his strong muscles putting on a nice display. He took on the stance of an obedient dog and gently offered himself as my pet.

I stroked my leather gloved hand over his back and he shivered. I removed my glove & touched him again. This time I shivered. This was going to be fun.

Best,
Mistress T

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Private Sessions

Posted on January 3, 2015 by Mistress T

Want to meet me in person? Here’s what you need know:

#1. I am only accepting sessions in Vancouver, BC these days. You must be in Vancouver or be willing to travel to Vancouver to see me.

#2. I don’t “escort”/engage in intercourse or oral sex with clients (no oral sex means no oral sex of any kind between us. No licking my genitals or anus.). No groping me. No hard sports.

#3. What I do: Dominatrix/fetish/woman-in-control scenarios or role-play. My specialty is tie & tease/orgasm control/ruined orgasms/FemDom styled hand jobs, to be blunt. I am equally comfortable with sensually Dominant sessions or cruel humiliation scenarios. I have a full wardrobe of leather, latex, lingerie, hosiery, boots, shoes, gloves, etc. Minimum: $400/60 mins. (or $550/90mins. $700/2 hours.)

#4. My social rate is $200/hr. Conversation over dinner, drinks, coffee/tea, etc.

#5. A deposit will be required.

Disclaimer: I rarely accept sessions as I’m either creating new content or enjoying a balanced personal life. Your best bet is to communicate clearly (but briefly) in your first email. It should look like this:

Subject line: Private session in Vancouver

Body of the email: I’m interested in a (insert session length, 1 hour, 2 hour?) session in Vancouver on this date (insert specific date/time here & indicate if you are flexible). I am interested in (insert what you want here, like tie & tease with hand release or foot worship, humiliation, etc.)
That’s it for the first email. Here’s my email address. Don’t use it when you’re horny & not thinking clearly. Do NOT send me an unsolicited dick pic: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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Top 20 vids of 2014

Posted on December 31, 2014 by Mistress T

I’m sure you’re wondering what my most popular vids were in 2014? Here’s a count down from 20th to the #1 vid of my top selling 20 vids for the last year. Did you see them all?

#20. Soul Sucking FemDom

#19. Two New Sex Slaves

#18. Party Cocksucker

#17. Medical Exam Extraction

#16. New Hubby Becomes Cuckold

#15. Chastity Cruelty

#14. Suck Black Cock For Me

#13. Divorce or Cuckolding

#12. Suck Cock Balls Ass

#11. Boobs, Big Cock & Buckets of Cum

TOP 10!:

#10. Grand Cum Load Gracefully Extracted

#9. Prison Bitch Initiation

#8. Slave Sucks Cock For Us

#7. You Love Me

#6. Black Magic Soul Sucking

#5. Cuckold Fag Mind Fuck

#4. Hand Over Control

#3. Epic Cum Shot Compilation

#2. Suck Cock To Earn Your Orgasm

The #1 Most Popular vid of 2014 goes to “Mindblowing Handjob”! I guess it really was mind blowing! It was also released on my birthday *smile*.

#1. Mindblowing Handjob

Best,
Mistress T

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Merry Ho…Ho:-)

Posted on December 22, 2014 by Mistress T

Click the link below to see the free vid.

Link to vid above: http://www.MistressT.net/free_video

Happy (whatever you celebrate)! …or in some cases…it may not be happy. For some this time may be dull, lonely or even depressing. Some of you will have some happy moments but will also have extra time on your hands with vacation time from work.

I am sensitive to the fact that this is not necessarily a happy time for some of you. In an attempt to escape those unhappy moments you may choose to spend more time masturbating to porn. I’m not a therapist (I just play one in adult vids) but masturbating may not be the worst thing you could so for yourself right now. So I always release a few extra vids during this time & I release at least a couple special ones that I think many guys will really love.

I also made this casual little free vid (see above) to hopefully give you a warm feeling & put a smile on your face. It’s been scientifically proven that the act of smiling, even if forced, releases some of those happy chemicals that lift your mood. So maybe watch some comedy stuff too?

As the vid says: “Thank you for being a fan…& take care of you.”

Big love,

Mistress T

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Tag Archives: fetish

Lucky Guy

When A Compliment Is An Insult

Penis Size

NY Trip Rescheduled Due To Blizzard

New York New York

A Gentleman’s Guide To Submission

A kinky short story…

Private Sessions

Top 20 vids of 2014

Merry Ho…Ho:-)