I was going through some old pics today & came across a few images that I used for advertising Pro Domme services back in my early days when I didn’t show my face in ads. Ah, discretion…guess that’s out the window now!
I struggle with the concept of ‘celebrity’. Part of me wishes that my image wasn’t all over the internet. It’s not that I’m ashamed of anything I’ve done…well, maybe the vid where I fucked myself with the little plastic man wasn’t my best moment…but I’m not ashamed of being a porn performer…it’s just the concept of being recognized in public that makes me squirm. It’s happening more often these days & every time I get an unsettling feeling.
I was camping last weekend. The first evening I was hanging out by the campfire when my girlfriend met a guy in the hot tubs who told her he recognized me & was a fan. I spent the rest of the weekend avoiding him. My camping weekends are sacred. No internet or phone. Just me, my friends & nature. The last thing I need is for some guy to be thinking how different I look without make-up or how lucky he is to be naked in a hot tub with ‘THE’ Mistress T. Maybe he wouldn’t have made it weird & asked me a bunch of questions…I wasn’t taking the chance.
I also recently got an email from a fan who said that he saw me at lunch that day but didn’t want to bother me while I was dining with friends. Good boy for keeping his distance…but almost creepy he emailed me to tell me.
I know some people love the idea of being recognized, to feel like a celebrity or a little bit famous. Not me. But I’m in up to my ears now. I’m all over the internet. At least my fans seem to be respectful & tend to keep their distance, which is awesome.
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I can understand what you mean. Once I was lucky enough to have my picture published on a local newspaper (an interview on the Culture pages) and of course I run into some people saying “Aren’t you the guy on the papers?”. I remember the third time I heard that I couldn’t help rolling my eyes. So on the one hand, fame can be good for some careers, but on the other hand not everyone feels comfortable with being a celebrity.
to our luck you did not remain faceless. – taken all your fans are as taste- and respektful as they appear in their comments, it seems not so unlucky to stumble over one of them.
Thats the kind of blogs i like…
Well the fact is…you are famous,in that scene…but i guess thats the price one has to pay as a “celibitry”. OK, i guess its a bit diffrent for an adult-performer compared to a movie-star or singer.
But most important is…this blog shows that you are a human being just like everyone else, with need for time off etc.
Thats what i really like in this sort of posts…getting a personal and not a professional impression.
Well in all honesty, what did you expect right? Especially as your name, persona, exposure increases.
Additionally, you have a very unique look. Anyone who has seen you once will instantly pick you out of a room or remember you. I know the first time I noticed one of your vids, I was wondering who this “pretty” redhead with the voluptuous and petite body was.
It’s crazy someone recognized you while camping. Even worse is the guy who emailed you. Does this mean you dont necessarily like non-professopnal encounters with fans? I mean if I saw you out and about, would be hard not to at least say hi if you’re alone or discreetly. Then again, we all have different comfort levels. I do remember one of your blog posts where you said you tend to think there are more good people than bad out there.
Thank you for sharing. It’s always hard to know how to respond when one crosses paths with a celebrity in day-to-day life. If I ran into you in public, I would want to have a chat but discretion and respect are probably the key thoughts to keep in mind.
BTW, I loved the image of you on the stairs. For me, the confident and self-assured person that I saw in that picture made me think “this is a person who is comfortable with who she is and in her own sexuality.” That’s a gift.
I sympathize. I can just feel the awkwardness of those situations. Although I was immediately reminded of a scene from the comedy series “Dream On” where Martin’s new girlfriend (who did porn movies at one point in her career) is on the verge of being recognized by a man at a dinner party.
Of course, it is possible to totally disguise yourself and still look beautiful. The actress who plays Elvira, Cassandra Peterson is rarely recognized out of make up. I wonder if anyone in your line of work has managed to pull off such a feat.