I jumped out of a perfectly good airplane!

One of my bucket list items in my 40th year was to skydive. I finally got to do it last week, a couple months after my 41st birthday. I went with a couple of my favorite people & it will be a wonderful memory to share.

This pic is not hyper-linked. Find the vid here: https://www.mistresst.net/free_video

This pic is not hyper-linked. Find the vid here: https://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Am I an adrenaline junkie? I don’t know. I went on BIG roller coasters for the first time when I was about 18. I loved it & have been on a lot of those types of rides over the years. I bungee jumped only once in my early 20’s & hated every minute of it until it was over. I loved the rush but never did it again. I’ve white water rafted, jumped off high cliffs & gone very fast as a passenger on motorbikes, all felt too dangerous. If there is a real threat to my life I like it less than the safer thrills like roller coasters. I also loved paragliding & parasailing. So I figured skydiving tandem (attached to a professional) would be good. It would be safe but thrilling.

I was right. Though if he hadn’t shoved us out the door of that plane there is no way I would have gone. I was utterly terrified as he slide me closer to the door. It’s a shame that I had such equipment failure as you can’t really see my reaction which was complete short-circuited terror. It was sensory overload & for a split second I slammed my eyes shut because I could not handle it but realizing I was going to lose my gear if I didn’t grab it kind of brought me back to reality. And reality was hard & fast. It’s amazing, adrenaline. It gives you laser focus. You are not thinking about anything else, you are completely in the moment. To quiet the chatter of the monkey mind even for a minute is so refreshing.

This will be too hippie for some of you but when I heard this a few years ago I wept, it hit home so hard: (If the link doesn’t work just google “Rest in Natural Great Peace”) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gvo-CCtC3Zs

Rest in natural great peace
This exhausted mind
Beaten helplessly by karma and neurotic thought
Like the relentless fury of the pounding waves
In the infinite ocean of samsara.
Rest in natural great peace.

~Nyoshul Khenpo Rinpoche

I’ve heard that meditation practitioners are often adrenaline junkies because it’s a great way to focus the mind, to be present in the moment, which is kind of the goal of meditation.

Anyway, you can find the skydiving vid on the free preview page of my members site (you can stream or download for free from that page): https://www.MistressT.net/free_video

The music & audio are kind of odd as the skydive company edited the vid with copyrighted music so I had to re-edit it with royalty-free music.

Enjoy!

Mistress T

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Aging In The Adult Industry

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

My birthday is tomorrow, Apr 29. I’ll be 41. So what’s it like aging in the adult industry?

Unlike the typical porn starlet, I was late to the biz. I started as a private dancer in a strip club when I was 28. The other gals where years younger except one & she didn’t really ‘dance’ for anyone. She had a few regulars who would pay her to sit & drink with them.

I dipped in & out of the adult industry for a few years & was about 32 by the time my fetish video business was full steam ahead. I started referring to myself as a MILF in the early days & added ‘mature’ soon after. The oldest among my peer group they sometimes refer to me as ‘Nana’ (& sometimes Mistress Goofball, but this isn’t a post about how hilarious I am.)

In a lot of survey’s, “MILF” is a very popular search term, often ranking higher than ‘teen’. Here’s some stats: https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review

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So in a world that in every other way tells you that as a women your value nose dives after 40 (or even after 35), I work in an industry where not only am I highly valued, there’s a lot less competition. I’ve even hammed up the older bit by wearing a grey wig & you’ll often see me in glasses, pearl necklaces, satin blouses or suites. For business, I’m not trying to pretend I’m younger, if anything, the opposite.

Silver fox:-)

Silver fox:-)

How many adult film performers are still in the biz after 40? A helleva lot less than those in their 20’s.

I have received some very generous offers from various big porn production companies who are desperate for MILF’s. I’m not really interested in working with other companies these days but since I find Virtual Reality fascinating you might see a VR fuck scene with me on HologirlsVR this year. My understanding is a key VR sex position requires me to straddle & ride a cock for several minutes & frankly, I’m not sure my knees will take it. ha ha

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh.

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh. (Find these scenes on https://www.hologirlsvr.com)

Anyway, back to how I feel about things. I’ll be honest, in the real world I don’t have the same ‘pull’ that I used to. Men don’t quite look at me the same, or look at me at all. Online though, things heat up more each year. Business is booming, sales numbers don’t lie, plus I get loads of messages from men of all ages desiring an older woman.

As if by cruel design though, with each passing year I become more settled, with less inclination to travel, with less energy to work, with less drive to work as hard as I did in the beginning. Finally achieving work-life balance I am no longer married to my work, I have a full & rich life outside of the biz. With an eye to the future I wonder when it will make sense to start to wind down the business. A recent meeting with my financial advisor, he posed the usual questions which were mathematical to him but personal to me: “How much longer do you think you’ll make this income? When will you need to start drawing on your investments? Etc.”

I really don’t know? My heart is still in it but when is the tipping point when I’m no longer a ‘hot MILF’ but I’ve gone ‘past my expiry date’? Of course I want to end on a high note & not drag things out to the point of embarrassment. I know I’m not near that yet but geez, ya know what I mean?

In writing this I did some research on Bettie Page. I thought that she had at one point decided to retire, maybe in her mid 30’s & had never let another photograph be taken of her. That she wanted to be remembered by her fans how she was. Unfortunately my research resulted in a less romantic explanation. She may have actually found religion. So I can’t draw any parallels here about Bettie Page feeling her age, etc. I’ll move on without Ms. Page.

Personally, I love getting older mentally. I wouldn’t want to go back to knowing less, having experienced less. Physically, I don’t think anyone is happy about aging. No one says: “Thank god my skin is starting to wrinkle! I’ve been waiting for this for too long!” The cosmetic industry is booming thanks to people fighting growing old tooth & nail. I’m not convinced there’s such a thing as growing old gracefully & there’s so few women in the public eye doing it naturally that most of us wouldn’t even know what it looks like anymore. I won’t stay on that topic as I know men would prefer to stay blissfully unaware of what women do to look good, while men often consider combing their hair as stepping up their game & trimming their nose hairs as ‘extreme grooming’. Ha ha

The book I’ve been writing is about my life. It’s been amazing working with my editor, going back through & discussing details of various chapters of my story. Seeing how events & experiences shaped who I am. Some pleasant, some not, but it all contributed. I hoped to have the book done in my 40th year & although that didn’t happen, the majority of the work on it happened in my 40th year & it will be done long before my 42nd.

Turning back toward aging in this industry…it’s amazing actually. In the real world as I start to become invisible…as I’m overlooked by more men, I am becoming more desirable to certain fans. Sure, being fetishized for being ‘older’ is somewhat objectifying, like being fetishized for being an Asian woman, a black man, a BBW, etc. but most people tend to be drawn to certain physical traits, I don’t really see anything wrong with that. We like what we like, & for men seeking a mature woman, their options are more limited in porn…& here I am. Experienced, still good lookin’ & not planning to make my exit anytime soon.

Oh…& in case you felt inclined to send me a treat for my birthday, here’s my updated wish lists:

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xo

Mistress T

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New Tricks?

This post is pretty clean. Bad news for those looking for jerk off material. Good news for those wanting to get to know me more intimately. This is soap from my wish list, sent by a loving fan:-)

This post is pretty clean. Bad news for those looking for jerk off material. Good news for those wanting to get to know me more intimately. This is soap from my wish list, sent by a loving fan:-)

Maybe you can teach an old dog new tricks. The last year I’ve been really into cooking & this post is to thank the fans who have helped. I’ll get to that. A little back story first.

My closest friends are the most shocked to see me in the kitchen. It isn’t that I didn’t know how to cook at all, I could make basic things. I just didn’t cook. You would never catch me hosting a dinner party. My fridge was mostly empty except for booze, mix, ketchup & take out left overs. I’ve always eaten pretty healthy. I rarely had greasy fast food, pizza or junk…I liked sushi, thai food, salads, etc.

I worked from home a lot so I liked to get out of the house for a break & eating out became a convenient habit. It was an opportunity to socialize with friends, go for a walk, combine eating with running errands.

When my partner & I started dating nearly two years ago he wanted to cook for me but was hobbled by my limited kitchen. I added useful things to my wish list like frying pans, a pressure cooker, etc. With these new tools he made me food like nothing I’d ever experienced. It was DELICIOUS, nutritious & vegan. I started watching him cook, then I started to help. I was curious. I wanted to learn how to do it too.

I soon mastered a couple of his signature dishes & got a thrill from adjusting the ingredients here & there to play with the flavors. I would make big pots of soups & freeze individual servings so on busy days I could just pull out a jar & defrost it. My freezer no longer only contained ice cubes!

One of several things in my freezer: a black bean & squash soup with harissa spice.

One of several things in my freezer: a black bean & squash soup with harissa spice.

I wanted to learn more & started searching vegan recipes on the internet. I stumbled across posts from The Thug Kitchen & put their cook book on my wish list. After receiving it & trying some of the recipes I was a woman obsessed! I needed an immersion blender for some things so put it on my wish list. I also added crushed tomatoes, coconut milk, quinoa, brown rice, coconut oil & jars to hold my creations.

I even make my own vegi broth & hot sauce now! I use my own tahini sauce on vegi hash instead of ketchup. I pre-soak & pre-cook dried chickpeas & black beans to use in my recipes. I could go on & on.

I wouldn’t call my food gourmet, but it’s healthy as hell, yummy & comforting. I never thought I would get so excited about cooking & neither would my friends. I even have a mug that says “Domestically Disabled” on it that everyone laughs at.

It has been a team effort & the fans who have sent & continue to send all the helpful things from my wish list are part of that team. I understand some fans would rather buy me lingerie, sexy shoes or luxury items but these practical things send a message that you care about the real, every-day me.

So here’s a few snaps I took while cooking a big pot of lentil soup tonight. Don’t turn up your nose, it’s so full of flavor the last thing you would register is ‘lentils’. I also guarantee you wouldn’t care that there’s no meat in it.

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Tonight’s soup is lentil with a peanut sauce (also includes squash, cauliflower, yam, carrots, onions, crushed tomatoes, garlic, ginger, vegi broth, smoked paprika, cayenne pepper, tamari sauce, a bit of tamarind…I think that’s it. I kind of made this one up & it’s fucking delicious! Peanut butter…who woulda thunk it?!) That’s the immersion blender in my hand & the pressure cooker in the back ground. They both get well used.

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Crushed tomatoes & coconut oil…both from my wish list: thanks!

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This isn’t a very sexy post…so here’s some boobs…along with 2 frying pans from my wish list. They also get well used…just like you’d like to be;-)

If you’re interested in reducing or eliminating animal products from your diet I strongly recommend the Thug Kitchen cook book. There’s lots of curse words which is fun & they really make it easy for those new to cooking. Beyond just following recipes for specific dishes I’ve learned how to feed myself practically in a bunch of different ways.

Eat like you give a fuck. Best fucking cook book ever. Fuck yeah. Lots of curse words:-)

Eat like you give a fuck. Best fucking cook book ever. Fuck yeah. Lots of curse words:-)

Honorable mention goes to my Vega powder, vegan protein powder & basically a multi-vitamin which I have for breakfast every day. I’ve been drinking this for years & love it. It’s on my wish list if you want to send something you know I will super appreciate.

Vega powder & shaker cup sent by a fan from my wish list.

Vega powder & shaker cup sent by a fan from my wish list.

Predictably…I’m going to throw down my wish list link here…because food gets consumed to nourish my Goddess body & it needs to be replenished: http://www.amazon.ca/registry/wishlist/1156JVPYKS1QX/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_x_fFnWybACY6QEW (I know that looks messed up & I should fix it but I’m slipping into a food coma from my yummy dinner…it still works, click it & see…)

xo

Mistress T

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Omega Males + Feminism

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I read two different articles today that inspired me to write this blog post.

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The first one is about a new term for me: “Omega Male” in relation to “Alpha Male”. Most of us are familiar with the term “Alpha Male”, especially when it comes to cuckolding fantasies. He’s the bull, the well-hung stud who gets to fuck the woman while the cuckold/beta male is denied. He’s strong, masculine, confident & usually a hard fucker.

I’ve thrown the term “Alpha Male” around in my cuckold scenes for lack of a term that resonated better for me….but I think I have one now: Omega Male.

The Omega Male is quietly confident. He doesn’t need to broadcast his superiority. He’s empathetic, kind, gentle, a good guy to have as a friend & an excellent husband. He’s not as competitive as an Alpha Male & he’s more likely to walk away from a fight. He resolves conflicts with words rather than his fists. He enjoys deeper conversations & cuddling. He cares about your feelings & he treats others as he would like to be treated. The Omega Male is trustworthy & steady. He’s an attentive lover who ensures the woman is satisfied.

An Omega Male is not to be confused with a beta male or a weak pussy who wouldn’t stand up for himself, his woman or anyone else. A beta male is kind of a spineless door mat. He serves or submits because he doesn’t think he’s worthy of respect or deserves to be treated well. A beta has little or no self confidence or self worth. A beta is truly pathetic.

My partner falls under the category of Omega Male & it’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.

Here’s the Omega Male article: http://www.theearthchild.co.za/the-awesome-omega-male-what-makes-him-better-than-the-alpha/

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The other article lists practical every day ways that you, as a man, can support Feminism. To be clear, Feminism is about equality. It’s not about Female Superiority. Feminism has gotten a bad name in some circles & I’m delighted that the leader of Canada, Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, has proudly declared that he is a Feminist. I think if you ask any sane person if they feel women should be equal to men they would say YES! But if you ask a lot of men if they’re a feminist they would say NO! But it’s the same damn thing, dude.

So here’s the link to that article, have a look with an open mind: http://www.xojane.com/issues/feminism-men-practical-steps

Here’s some homework for you: If you email me a list in your own words at least 5 things from this article YOU plan to do to support Feminism I will give you a FREE 1 week membership for my site. Email: MsT@MistressT.net

xo

Mistress T

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Back at it full time!

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I am back into the swing of things after taking some time off. I’ve filmed a few times in the last couple of weeks so I figured I should formally announce that & provide updated info for those who want to serve me.

It’s pretty simple, really. Although I have idiot-proof instructions on other blog posts for everything it comes down to common sense. Think about what I need to know:

  • How do you want to serve me? Paid private or online sessions? On film as a film slave or stunt cock? Are you ordering a custom vid?
  • WHAT exactly are you into/fetishes or activities? What do you want in the custom vid?
  • When? (Dates & times for sessions or filming)
  • Where? I’m only filming in Vancouver these days & new film guys are welcome to apply for filming IN VANCOUVER. If you want me to come to your city for a session, it’s possible, but it’s going to be VERY expensive. Don’t ask unless you have a generous budget.

Basically, address these questions: WHO? – WHAT? – WHERE? – WHEN?

Take a deep breath before you send that email & put yourself in my shoes. Ask yourself: “If I received this email would I have all the info I would need to decide if we are compatible & if what I’m asking for is do-able?”

Clearly communicated emails go to: MsT@MistressT.net

When you send me an email you’ll get an auto-response. READ IT. It’s meant to be helpful.

So yes, I’m filming scenes & custom vids, taking the occasional session, doing a bit of online stuff. The book is still with the editor & rewrites/changes will start happening soon but it won’t be as demanding on my time as writing the initial manuscript was…so I can work!

My boyfriend has been having fun dabbling in online Domination of some of my slaves. It’s a niche thing & a big next step for guys into cuckolding or encouraged bi play, to serve my lover like this. It fascinates me. They are just as interested in his feet & ass as his cock. Again, that fascinates me. Most don’t identify as bisexual or gay, it’s the extension of serving me, the extreme taboo nature of it that seems to do it for these pervy slaves. Let me know if you’re into it but be prepared to pay a tribute immediately to separate you from the chickens who don’t follow thru after they blow their load. I have zero patience for that BS:-)

Speaking of patience, I confess that over time mine is wearing thin. I find myself rejecting many requests or just not responding to emails at all. If the guy seems even slightly unhinged, flaky, unable to communicate clearly or annoying in some way…I won’t engage. Life just seems too precious to spend my time having frustrating communications with strangers online. I suppose this is the “bitter or jaded” phase of the business that slaves complain about & why they are so eager to pounce on a new Domme in the scene. After a while you develop a sixth sense & can read between the lines before a guy makes it obvious he’s loony-tunes or a time-waster. As it stands only the most polite, sane & well-articulated emails get a response from me these days & I feel only the slightest pang of guilt knowing that some good guys slip through the cracks…but I don’t owe strangers, even fans, a piece of me.

So what can you take away from that? If you’ve sent me an email & I didn’t respond read the auto-response carefully & take another try at sending a well-communicated email. Ensure all pertinent info is there while still being brief & to the point. If you still don’t get a response then move along. Sending a bunch of emails if I haven’t responded will only get your emailed blocked, it won’t get you the attention you’re seeking.

It must be acknowledged that at this time I have the best group of generous, low-maintenance, lovely slaves I’ve ever had. They make my life easier & more joyful. They don’t need to be named as they know who they are. Those who tribute & send gifts but don’t beg for loads of attention. Those who just get pleasure from serving me. A common theme is the best ones usually tribute immediately to show they are serious. It’s highly effective at getting my attention. An Amazon gift card, a gift, even joining my site, sends the right message.

With that I’m going to get outside & enjoy the crisp sunny weather we’re currently having in Vancouver. It’s normally very rainy here this time of year so I need to soak up that vitamin D when I can. There’s a joke in there about getting the D but I’ll leave it up to you perverts to fill it in. Ha ha

xo

Mistress T

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Free Porn For Your Donation

A friend of mine was recently in a car accident in Thailand. She was badly injured & her girlfriend died. She’s undergone surgery & she’ll pull through but funds are being raised for her medical bills & to bring her back to Vancouver. She needs help.

She’s a good person, well known for volunteering at fetish parties to raise funds for an organization that helps sex workers.

Whatever you pitch in I’ll give you the equivalent in free time on my site: https://www.MistressT.net.

So $100 will get you 2.5 months (10 weeks) of streaming & downloading on my site. If you can only donate $20 I’ll give you 2 weeks. You get the idea. Just email the record of your donation (ANY amount) to me & I’ll set you up: MsT@MistressT.net

Here’s the link to Nezi’s GoFundMe page:

UPDATE: The GoFundMe campaign has been closed. The money is going to pay her medical bills & bring her home. Thank you to everyone who contributed!

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Thanks! xo

Mistress T

 

What’s happening?

I’m sure you’re all dying to know what’s going on in my world so here’s the update.

The book is humming along. I’ve been writing & researching how to self publish/figuring out next steps. I met with a potential editor but it wasn’t the right fit so the search continues. I’m being very particular about who I work with on this project. I have a budget to hire experts but I also want to enjoy working with them.

I took a little road trip to Vegas to hike around Red Rock & the Valley of Fire with my pal Princess Meggerz for her birthday (Find more about her here: http://meggerz.com/). Beautiful nature around Vegas for those who think it’s just a party town.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

We also enjoyed a luxurious spa day compliments of a very generous anonymous fan who sent a $1000 tribute for the spa. I’m not one to brag about gifts & tributes (I know, I’m a lousy FinDom) but holy guacamole! By any standards a $1000 random tribute for the spa is impressive & very much appreciated.

At the spa in Vegas!

At the spa in Vegas!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

While I’m bragging anyway…the same week I sold my worn & torn pantyhose for $500…which I felt was rather generous too. That pretty much covered the hotel in Vegas during our stay. I don’t usually bother selling my worn items as guys don’t usually offer enough to make it worth my while to wear them long enough to get them stinky or to package them up & mail them. But $500? Yes, that was worth my time & effort…& I gotta say: it was a bit of a thrill:-)

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

A little more bragging…a new devotee who aimed to impress basically cleared my Amazon wish list & I’m at a bit of a loss as to what to add to it now as I’m not really that greedy. Bad timing as xmas is coming & I know fans like to spoil. I’ll likely direct tributes to one of the charities I support. Stay tuned for that but in the meantime, my Kiva offer is still valid: http://blog.mistresst.net/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

I squeezed in a visit with Lexi Sindel before leaving (Find more about her here: http://lexisindel.com/). Love that brilliant, funny woman. I also got to catch up with slave Wade, Lexi’s long-time devoted slave. We’ve filmed together for years & he’s a great guy. I wish all slaves were as well-mannered. He said a lot of guys ask him how they can get an opportunity to serve a Domme like he has in real life (not just a paid professional session). His very smart response: Make yourself useful first, without expectation. Give her what you can, make her life easier, be valuable & if she’s a Domme worth serving she’ll show her gratitude, you’ll be rewarded BUT it’s not an exchange. Give & serve unselfishly, then be grateful for what comes.

It’s certainly worked for for slave Wade! He’s served her for many years & has had experiences that most subs could only dream of. To get a taste for how he’s living the good slave life check out Lexi Sindel’s FemDomEmpire.com. You’ll see a lot of Wade getting all kinds of action. Also note that a lot of the equipment you see was made by him, being handy has taken him far:-)

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn't think to take any pics. We've shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn’t think to take any pics. We’ve shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

Wade bound in one of his contraptions...from a recent vid of mine: "Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking"

Wade bound in one of his contraptions…from a recent vid of mine: “Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking”

I love road tripping, especially now in my recently acquired camper van with my boyfriend. I love finding random places to pull over & sleep. One night we tucked in behind an old fire station in a tiny ghost mining town between Vegas & Portland. The view in the morning was charming.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

We stopped into Portland on our way north to visit one of my favorite people: Ceara Lynch (More about her here: http://www.cearalynch.com/). It was great to see her & hear about her adventures, the progress of her exciting hybrid-documentary “Ruin Me” (https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/ruinme/ruin-me) & to have a smashing karaoke party night.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

I’m back in Vancouver now writing for the next few weeks. My goal is to finish my manuscript before I head to Guatemala for Xmas with Ceara & Meg.

I have long overnight layovers in Miami, Florida on both ends of that trip & would consider dinner dates or breakfast dates with fans. I prefer more casual, social meet ups rather than structured, professional sessions. Plus I won’t be traveling with any equipment. So if you live in Miami or near by & would like to meet me, this is a very, VERY rare opportunity. The tribute will need to be motivating as the ‘demand’ for my attention exceeds the ‘supply’ but email me to discuss if you’re in a position to be generous: MsT@MistressT.net

One last thing…I’m soon launching a studio on IWantClips & adding more content to my long neglected Kinkbomb studio for those who prefer those platforms for pay-per-view vids. I’ll make another blog post with the links in a few days. Stay tuned!

Thanks for all the love & support. I feel like I have a huge team of cheerleaders behind me.

xo

Mistress T

No shame.

Mistresst.net my body my choice

Some misguided critter recently tried to shame or insult me by calling me an escort. I would have been more insulted if they had accused me of being the kind of person who would try to shame someone for being an escort.

Over the last 12 years I have been a stripper, a Professional Dominatrix, a cam girl, an escort & fetish model/performer/porn star. I’ve done phone sex, I’ve done my version of a peep show or voyeur show, masturbated for money, done girl-girl shows, sold cuckolding sessions where a guy paid to lick another man’s cum from my pussy, I’ve spat my boyfriends cum into a guy’s mouth for $1000, I’ve had sex for money, I’ve done shows & lap dances at bachelor parties, I’ve done topless poker dealing, topless bartending & sold tequila shooters naked on a clothing optional beach…I’m sure I missed a few things I’ve done for money using my body & sexuality….but you get the idea.

And I’m not ashamed of any of it.

It’s my body, my life, my choices.

I decide from one day to the next what I feel comfortable doing with my body. It has evolved over the years, but I regret nothing & have no hesitation in asserting my boundaries, whatever they are that day.

I do not buy into the BS hierarchy of adult industry workers. Strippers thinking they’re better than escorts because they don’t have sex with their customers, FinDom’s or non-nude fetish models thinking they’re better than those who get naked, phone sex or cam girls thinking they’re better than others for whatever reasons. Sometimes ladies in this industry can be pretty judgey considering how harshly we’re all judged by people in the vanilla world. Some lump us all together & at best they think some kinds of work are at least not ‘as bad’ as others. Even if we’re accepted & supported by our loved ones in our choices, no one prays that their little girl will grow up to be a sex worker & most won’t brag about it. The whole adult industry is stigmatized.

Women have been using their bodies & sexuality to make money for a very long time in a lot of different ways, not just in adult work. Some do it because they want to & they like it, they find it empowering, some do it for money, sometimes both. It does nothing to benefit anyone to try to shame women for it. If most men could do it they would & I doubt they would have any shame about it.

What people choose to do for work does not define who they are or all that they are. Women in the adult industry are also mothers, daughter, sisters, friends, animal lovers, Trekkies, gamers, teachers, foodies, therapists, painters, swimmers, pilots, volunteers, writers, sports fans, musicians, travelers, gamblers, sexual assault survivors, recovering alcoholics..they might be struggling with mental illness, mourning the death of a loved one, be fighting a legal battle with an ex, be caring for an elderly family member, be dealing with PTSD, be studying to get a new job outside of the industry, be working toward a personal goal or be helping someone else to get in or out of the industry…I could go on & on because every woman doing adult work has a story, a unique personality & a life beyond her job.

So, keep this in mind the next time you find yourself or hear someone else judging, objectifying or shaming a person in the adult industry.

Shamelessly,

Mistress T

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Book update…

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Some of you know that I took a few months off last winter to start writing a book. I went to Thailand & made quite a lot of progress before my trip was cut short & I needed to return to Nova Scotia due to a death in the family.

I still had some time to write back in Vancouver before I got back to filming & editing but after that my writing got stalled. I thought I could work & write but it didn’t turn out that way. Months went by & I didn’t write a word. So I pushed to build up enough content so I could take a few months off from filming & editing again.

I’m about half way through my second & current break & I’m pleased to say that I’ve been writing like a mother fucker! I’ve made huge progress & am in the last end of the first draft of my book. There’s still a lot of work to be done before you will have an opportunity to read my book but the hardest part is nearly done.

The book is a ‘fiction’ based very closely on my life. VERY closely. It tells the story of the making of Mistress T from the beginning, from before I was even born actually. All the ingredients that went into the final product. Those with interests in psychology will likely find lots to think about. I wanted to have the freedom to embellish or omit things here & there as well as add a bit of creative writing (completely fabricate some parts) so I decided to not make it an autobiography…but again, the vast majority of the story is 100% true.

Now that it’s nearing the end my excitement is really building. I decided to write this book for me, to process some of the things that happened to me in earlier life & understand how they contributed, for better or worse, to the adult I am. I saw writing as a kind of therapy. Now that it is taking shape & I’ve spoken to a handful of experts, it’s possible that this book could become quite successful…which would be a nice bonus.

I’ll soon hire an editor & others to help move through the next steps. I’ll likely self publish but will still need a team of professionals to assist with the process, a designer, a good marketing company, a studio to record an audio book, etc. I am starting to look for the right people & companies so if you have recommendations please send them my way. (I am looking for those top in their field & I have a budget for it.)

Though I should have enough content to get me through I want a bit more of a cushion so I will be doing a couple days of filming in the next couple weeks. This will be the only opportunity in the next couple of months to have a custom vid created by me, so if you have a custom vid request email it ASAP to: MsT@MistressT.net

Thanks to everyone for their support & encouragement! xo

Mistress T

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It’s a Beautiful Life?

The upbeat Europop song “It’s A Beautiful Life” by Ace of Base came out in 1995. I was 19 at the time, which is the legal drinking age in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. So when that song came out I was dancing my tail off in the legendary bars of Halifax. A town with several big universities & a major naval port. University (college) students & sailors. Oh my.

I can still remember the excitement of entering adulthood, a clean slate on which I could create whatever life I wanted. That song, full of optimism, gave me so much hope.

Fast forward to today, 21 years later. Imagine the echoey water sounds of a community center swimming pool. Today there was also music blasting & an overly excited aqua-fit instructor barking out orders to a hand full of grey haired retirees bobbing in the water. Wearing my flotation belt I was mid-way through my lap across the pool doing the vertical cross-country skiing thing the instructor was telling us to do when that song came on. That peppy, upbeat song full of nostalgia. I was transported back to my 19th year looking forward to…what? I had no idea. A beautiful life I felt determined to create. It was in that moment that something caught my eye as a focused 70ish woman passed me. It was a band aid, sinking in the water near me. I watched the band aid lazily floating in the bright blue water, the contrast with the cheerful music of my youth was poetic.

As we all switched to water jogging, then sprinting, bunny hopping, jumping jacks & a dozen or so other ways to basically do the same thing: splash around in the water to help prevent our joints from seizing up in our old age, I reflected on my beautiful life so far. All the traveling I’ve done, the business I’ve grown, all the crazy stuff I’ve experienced, the relationships I’ve had, the good things I’ve done, the mistakes I’ve made, how I’ve changed…& I looked around at the seniors around me. Knowing that I’m at least 20 years younger than any of them, I still have a lot of life to live.

xo

Mistress T

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