Dating can be fun! Or not.

Posted on August 30, 2012 by Mistress T

So I’m dabbling in ‘dating’ these days. I’ve been single for just over a year & decided a month or so ago that I’d like a more significant relationship. More significant than the casual fuck buddies I’ve had & still have, bless them.

I went on a date this evening with a guy who didn’t know about my ‘Mistress T’ persona so I just had to take advantage of the opportunity to write about the experience…without having to censor anything to save his feelings. What freedom!

We met last week at a bar where I was out with girlfriends trolling for men. He invited me out for bowling which I thought was original.

I didn’t go into it with loads of optimism. He was cute but very short. Sexually, I have no issue with short men as I am barely 5 feet tall myself…but like myself, short people tend to have ‘small dog syndrome’. We can kind of have attitude problems. Like we’re always trying to prove we can’t be pushed around. We tend to over-compensate.

I was right in this case too, by the way.

He was competitive and didn’t react well when I kicked his ass in bowling. It was just luck really. Maybe I should have just let him win? Nah.

Me at the quirky bowling alley…it was decorated with an eclectic mix of things, including this bizarre dinosaur diorama.

One of my favorite things found at the bizarrely decorated bowling alley.

You know I’m grasping for pics to spice up my blog entry when I add a photo of my reflection in a security mirror. Yup, me at that bizarre bowling alley again. Thrilling, eh?

Then he wanted to show me this cool artsy place/wine bar with art by local artists and canvases in the back where people could create their own art. It was a cool place and the concept was great, but the art was atrocious. I know, beauty is in the eye of the beer holder, or something like that. You say potato, I say “that looks like a 5 year old puked on canvas”.

I can be a judgmental prick sometimes.

I told him about the portrait Drew Young recently did of me and showed him the image on my semi-smart phone (it’s only an android…I’ll get another iPhone on the next release, it’s a long story. Anyway, I digress.)

He seemed blown away by the portrait and told me that he loved me and tried to kiss me. I turned my cheek so he couldn’t kiss me on the mouth. Awkward. Right? Yikes. And he wasn’t even drunk.

A black guy he knew came up to us to say hi and I thought to myself, in this order:

“Holy shit, it’s a black guy in Vancouver. That’s rare.”

“I wonder how big his dick is?”

“I wonder if he has black friends, or if he knows where I can find more black guys.”

The black guy told me I was beautiful, right in front of my date! Ballsy. Due to circumstances that was as far as that went but it was fun while it lasted.

It was very freeing spending time with someone who didn’t know what I did for a living. He was okay not knowing, he liked the mystery and felt he would figure it out as he got to know me better, like a game. He got as far as guessing it had something to do with marketing or promotions and that I probably work for myself.

As cute as that sounds, that, along with a handful of other things made me conclude that he really just wanted to fuck me anyway. It didn’t matter what I did for a living because he didn’t consider me a potential partner. Maybe because he was Persian, maybe something else. I didn’t care because I wasn’t interested in fucking him or dating him again.

He tried several times to kiss me & get close. He got my cheek every time. I told him I found him sexually assertive. He said he was a romantic. I said he just wanted to fuck me. He didn’t deny it. I asked him if he had a big cock (I was just toying with him at this point), he replied that I must know he doesn’t, I knew what size bowling shoes he wore….but he had hands & a mouth. I smiled politely and thought if that’s all I cared about I’d be a lesbian.

After all that he still thought he would see me again. I had given him no reason to think that we would go on another date but I didn’t have the heart to say it point-blank to his face. So I predict I’ll either dodge a few texts or reply to future invites with a ‘no thank you, not feelin’ it.’

On my way home I stopped into The Penthouse strip club to visit my gal pal and resident DJ: Samantha Mack (my-oh-my she sounds great on a mic). I also got the hands-on action I really wanted: an amazing neck & shoulder massage from the skilled Penthouse massage girl: Trish.

It was an interesting night. Did I get any closer to finding a significant other? No, but you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take….ya gotta kiss allota frogs…etc.

Why is this picture here? No reason except that I know a lot of guys don’t read my blog, they just look for sexy pics. So, here’s a random sexy pic I took yesterday. Ta-da! Now go buy a vid to jerk off to so I can afford to pay for sex instead of wasting my time ‘dating’.

Best,
Mistress T

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UK / Europe: Fall 2012

Posted on August 25, 2012 by Mistress T

My flights are booked! I will be in the UK the end of October – early November.

I will also be spending a week in another European city early-mid November…probably Barcelona but I’m still deciding.

Here’s my schedule (so far):

Oct 20 thru 23 – HAMPSHIRE, UK: I will be at Whiplash Towers filming AND seeing lucky fans privately. Double Domme sessions with Nikki Whiplash are possible as well as just one-on-one with me.

This is my 3rd visit to Whiplash Towers & I’m very excited. It’s always a lot of fun & very productive. She has an amazing fully equipped dungeon as well as a medical room, school room & domestic settings.

That’s Nikki Whiplash. She looks pretty mean here, eh? She’ll fuckin’ crush you, man. Look out! *smile*

Oct 24 thru 28 – LONDON: I’m going to at least one of the Torture Garden fetish parties on the Halloween weekend. I’ll be staying in a hotel in London for that. I’ll consider accepting a few sessions in London during those days. Preference will be given to those I’ve seen before or those who are very generous. I’d rather only see a few select fans privately at that time. Probably no filming.

Social time: Not sure you want an actual session but you’d love to meet me & spend social time with me? Yup, I do that: dining out/shopping/live music/theater, etc. It’s gonna cost ya, but less than a session & this is a very popular option for a lot of my fans. Why? Probably because I’m so darn charming.

This could be your view of me eating across the table from you! How awesome would THAT be?! Right?!

This could be you! Imagine the joy of taking me shopping while combining fetish play. Kinda blows your mind, right?

Oct 29 thru Nov 7 (maybe 8 & 9) – BATH, UK: I will be at The English Mansion with the illustrious Sidonia Von Bork. Film slaves & private slaves are welcome to apply. That’s right: I will be accepting PRIVATE BOOKINGS AT THE ENGLISH MANSION! Cool, eh?

Click here to see the full pic collage & Mistress Sidonia’s blog entry about my last visit:

http://www.theenglishmansion.com/blog/archives/4933

IMPORTANT note for film slave wanna-be’s: I am selective about who I use as film slaves. Mistress Nikki & Mistress Sidonia already have a decent posse of tried n’ true film slaves so only apply if you are confident you will be valuable…and only if you’re prepared to either supply references or make a deposit to demonstrate you are reliable & serious.

IMPORTANT note for private session wanna-be’s: Due to the many time-wasters & flakes out there you will have to prove yourself worthy of an appointment. If you don’t have rock-solid references you will have to make some kind of deposit to prove you are reliable & serious.

A note about deposits: I know a lot of guys are serious but they don’t like making deposits. Hey, I get it. I wish I didn’t have to be a stickler on this. It’s a shame so many douche bags have wasted so many Dommes time that its come to this. I make it very easy for you to prove you’re serious. I offer lots of different ways to make a deposit…and again, if you have a reference you won’t even need to do this. If you really are serious about seeing me email me to discuss how you can prove it.

Nov 8-Nov 14: Where will I be??? Probably Barcelona, but I’m open to another European city, preferably one I haven’t been to yet. This part of my trip is more about pleasure than work but at this point I’ll be traveling solo…which can be kind of boring. I’d rather travel to a city where I have a generous fan or two who will show me around, spend social time & mix in a bit of casual play. Applications are welcome.

HOW TO APPLY TO SEE ME (SOCIALLY, PRIVATELY or for FILMING):

-Email only, don’t tweet me or apply by commenting on my blog.

-Prove you’ve read these instructions by providing ALL the information I ask for below:

1. WHERE do you want to see me? (Hampshire, London, Bath or other city.)

2. WHEN do you want to see me? (Date or dates that work for you.)

3. WHAT are you into? Specific activities. List them briefly, don’t write a novel.

NOTE: The MOST VALUABLE FILM SLAVE would be a cream pie eater and/or cocksucker willing to come to Bath to film at The English Mansion.

4. For WHAT? Private, filmed, social? All of the above?

5. DEPOSIT or REFERENCES? Either supply refs or confirm you are wiling to make a deposit.

6. BUDGET? My rates are high. If you’re a real fan I don’t have to explain why. If you’re on a tight budget I’m not your gal:-) If you are a very valuable film slave you might even get your deposit back but you’ll still have to prove yourself valuable first.

That’s it in a nutshell folks. Keep in mind that my time is always in high-demand in the UK, you kinky Brits…aim to impress in your email applications/introductions. I appreciate clear but brief and to-the-point communication. Respect my time.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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My Portrait

Posted on August 16, 2012 by Mistress T

I mentioned in a previous blog post that I had commissioned my portrait by a very talented local artist. I had actually found his art on a FemDom blog and was delighted when I discovered he also lives in Vancouver.

He’s written a great blog post about the painting & moi. I strongly recommend you check it out:

http://hedrew.blogspot.ca/2012/08/blog-post_14.html

I absolutely love the painting and the whole process has been professional & interesting. I would love to own more of his art whether I’m the subject or not so for those looking for meaningful ways to tribute me you can pitch in for more art as it brings me so much authentic, long-lasting pleasure.

You can view the painting in person & meet the artist…and probably meet me…my painting will be part of an exhibit:

Participating in Swarm 13, ACME Studios (112 e Hastings, Vancouver, BC) will open its doors to the public on September 7, 2012 with multiple exhibitions, open studios and an after party where you can dance you art out. ACME Studios houses over forty artists and four galleries: Labyrinth Gallery, Gam Gallery, The Minotaur’s Lair, and Remington Gallery.

Here it is (If you’re the cerebral type you might catch some of the symbolism & depth…although a lot of it is very personal to me):

Portrait by Drew Young.

Snooping is bad, mmmkay?

Posted on August 14, 2012 by Mistress T

I’m not perfect.

That will only be a shocking statement to the few delusional slaves who worship me like a Goddess. Most people know that no one is perfect so won’t find that statement very profound. Then there’s a handful who would happily list my imperfections, especially if they can share notes with others who grit their teeth when they think about me.

It’s hard to get through life without pissing a few people off, stepping on a few toes and making some enemies. People get jealous of success. People get hurt by rejection. People judge. People take a little info & go off half cocked, etc.

This blog post might be a bit of a rant. It’s directed at those who choose to follow me, my twitter, my blog, etc. but who are not fans. Those who are looking for gossip fodder. Those who are looking for anything to celebrate, like a note about me being single & lonely, problems with my living situation, something not working out as planed, etc. Yes, there are those who look for opportunities to celebrate non-positive things happening in my life. They would love to see me fall, to falter, to fail.

Who are they? They might be nosy neighbors as I’ve discussed before. They might be ex’s who are bitter about rejection. It might be competitors who are jealous of my success. It could be friends or family of ex’s who out of protectiveness for their loved one hope to see bad news of me that might bring some joy to my ex. It might be ex friends or coworkers or slaves who have been dismissed or rejected. As I write this paragraph I realize the list may be rather long.

You see, I started by saying that I’m not perfect. One of the things I have occasionally been bad at is gracefully rejecting someone. Behind me is a graveyard of ended relationships (romantic, friendly, professional, etc.). I have a lot of ex’s as friends but some of them did not end well. I have not mastered the ability to end a relationship/friendship without causing hurt & mess. I’m clumsy, too truthful, too blunt, too cold. When I decide I don’t want someone in my life anymore, for whatever reason, I don’t know how to exit without ending up looking like a giant asshole.

I have never regretted ending any of these relationships but I do regret hurting feelings.

So my message to the stalkers & snoopers, those reading for the wrong reasons: just move on. I am not going to censor what I write because it might hurt your feelings. My blog & twitter are for fans, those who support my success and want to get to know me better.

-If I want to vent to my fans because YOU have done something to piss me off or make me uncomfortable, I will.

-If I want to vent about something someone else has done to piss me off I’m not going to NOT write about it because YOU might think I’m talking about you.

-If you are an ex & reading about me fucking other men upsets you: don’t read it.

-If you’re a competitor and it makes you jealous when I write about my success: spend your time on your own business rather than snooping on mine.

-If you’re a bitter slave I’ve rejected: go away & find someone else to serve.

If I’ve hurt you in some way: I am sorry for hurting you. How I did it may have been clumsy but at the end of the day I didn’t feel having you in my life was good for me…so let’s both move on and find connections that serve us better. Do yourself a favor & make the healthy choice to never look at my twitter/blog/clips store/website again.

Best,
Mistress T

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Moving forward…leaving unhealthy relationships behind…

Chicago, Tampa & NYC

Posted on August 10, 2012 by Mistress T

This will be a bit of a long update so I’ll break it up into parts so it’s easy for you to come back to a few times if you can’t consume it all in one sitting.

Overview: I’ve been gone for 10 nights…2 nights in Chicago with a special client, 5 nights at FetishCon in Tampa and 3 nights in New York City for some work & play.

Chicago:

One of my most devoted and low-maintenance slaves who I’ve had for years had some business in Chicago so asked me to join him for a couple of days. He’s a pleasure to be around, a gentleman and very generous so the visit was more fun than anything. We went for wonderful dinners, took in some great live music and did some touristy stuff like the river boat architectural tour & the museum of science and industry.

We also went shoe shopping! Here’s a pic of the sexy shoes he got for me:

I love shoes!

Here’s a pic I took for him…it was his view as he was giving me a foot rub at the end of the night:

Nice view, hmmm?

Tampa/FetishCon:

This was the most action-packed part of my trip. I shared a room with one of my favorite people: Ceara Lynch. Well, I should qualify that…like me, Ceara is only a part of the whole person and there’s a lot more to like about this woman than just her online persona. Some have expressed curiosity about our friendship and I always just say: “She’s really really smart and I really like her.”

Here’s a list of the people/sites that I filmed with and am cross promoting with from this trip. You’ll see me appearing on their sites over the next few months (I’m unable to hyper link to clips4sale stores from my wordpress blog so just copy & paste the links):

Ceara Lynch:

https://twitter.com/cearalynch

http://www.cearalynch.com

http://clips4sale.com/16312

…& I’m the one who gets all the flack for being pantless all the time! (That’s Ceara Lynch & me by the way. I may or may not be pantless in this pic too.)

Alexandra Snow:

https://twitter.com/DominaSnow

http://clips4sale.com/38007

Here’s Domina Snow & I with um, FTKL…I didn’t film with him because he’s a tickle guy & I’m not ticklish:-) Note the feather…yup, for tickling. But not me.

Princess Meggerz:

https://twitter.com/meggerz

http://clips4sale.com/12252

Princess Meggerz & me at the FetishCon bar. Cheers!

Humiliation POV:

http://www.clips4sale.com/16417

http://www.humiliationpov.com

Bratty Foot Girls:

http://www.clips4sale.com/40537

We Love Ballbusting:

http://clips4sale.com/32245

Here’s a bunch of random pics taken at FetishCon:

Ceara Lynch, Ashley Fires & I at the clips4sale booth at the convention.

There were some impressive shows/performances at the parties…this was a woman suspended & swung around by hooks through the flesh of her upper back. Pretty crazy!

A devil on stilts stole my nose! There were some interesting characters at FetishCon…lots of crazy costumes…

I’m sure someone has a fetish for raccoon hand puppets…I wonder if he jerks off with that thing?

Domina Snow & I at one of the parties…

FetishCon was a lot of fun & productive business-wise. I would do it again for sure. I even had a fun little weekend fling…*wink*.

New York City:

The last leg of my journey, the 3rd city, the 3rd hotel room…the last 3 nights. I was there because one very generous fan made it worth my while. He turned out to be one of my most memorable clients but not in a great way.

The arrangement was for 2 evenings and the whole day in between but due to his irresponsible poor time management we only spent a portion of one evening together. “A man of his word” (his label for himself) he did compensate me fully anyway and did so in the most bizarre way I’ve ever seen:

After postponing our session time by a few hours, then a few more hours all day & evening he finally just left the balance of my tribute with the reception of my high-end hotel in the toe of a worn pair of boots. This had nothing to do with any fetish as far as I know. My guess is that he didn’t have an envelope? I don’t know who the boots belonged to…I haven’t spoken to him since & will not speak with him so it may well remain a mystery.

Someone else’s used boots full of cash. How bizarre?

I tried to make the best of my time in NY anyway and took myself out for a nice dinner & live jazz. Money doesn’t buy happiness though and it sucked feeling slightly disrespected, it sucked knowing he had paid so much & gotten such little value for his money (I prefer to earn the money I make, believe it or not) and it sucked being on my own all day & night in New York City. If I had had more notice I could have made other arrangements with a friend or fan.

One of the jazz places I went to…

Zinc…a very cool live jazz place.

The next afternoon I had a nice lunch and a fun session with a fan. Here’s a pic he took of me at lunch (while gushing that he couldn’t believe he was actually meeting me in real life):

So many great places to eat in NY!

That evening I went to see The Book of Mormon on Broadway (awesome!) and had dinner with guess who??? I’ll call him Mr. Venus in Fur. He was the gentleman who brought me to NY in March 2012 to see Venus in Fur on Broadway with him. I wrote about it in my blog back then…about the swanky hotel room he put me up in, etc. We’ve stayed in touch since & took the opportunity to hang out again. It was a wonderful evening. He’s an interesting person who I hope will remain in my life.

I decided to shop away my last day in NY and contacted a financial slave I haven’t seen in awhile. He’s served me on and off for years. I actually made my very first cuckolding vid FOR him (custom). I never released it on my site but I might some day. A few years ago he paid me $1000 for a snow ball. My boyfriend & I were in town and a snow ball is when I take my boyfriends cum in my mouth & then spit it into the cuckolds mouth. Oh, we’ve had some fun…

So I texted him that I was at Agent Provocateur and he left a meeting to come buy me what I wanted. I was impressed. We went back to his fancy penthouse apartment to catch up and play.

Here he is making an ass of himself:

If you look really closely you can see his unimpressive cocklet. It’s like a real cock, but smaller.

Here’s me modeling what he bought me. He has a gorgeous view & an over-the-top opulent penthouse…clearly compensating for something *smile*.

I do have an interesting life…

Mr. Mini-Dick Money Bags took me for dinner then had his driver take me to the airport. I rode in luxury reflecting on my trip and about how interesting my life is.

There are pro’s and con’s to being single. I love the freedom but I also get lonely and bored sometimes. In a perfect world I’ll meet someone who is my best friend, who gives me complete freedom without possessiveness or jealousy…someone to share all these amazing adventures with.

Until then…a rolling stone gathers no moss.

Best,
Mistress T

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Who’s talking about me?

Posted on August 2, 2012 by Mistress T

In my last blog entry I mentioned that I’ve been granting some interviews recently. A few of those interviews have been released & I’ve attached the links below…after two blog entries that also discuss me:

Sidonia Von Bork’s blog (The English Mansion):

http://www.theenglishmansion.com/blog/archives/4933#.UBe3GtBaw28.twitter

(You really have to click on this link. Loads of crazy hot pics of me!)

Sidonia & I having some fun during my last visit to The English Mansion…

Ceara Lynch’s blog:

http://cearalynch.wordpress.com/2012/07/30/fetishcon/

Ceara & I during our last adventure at the AVN’s in Vegas…

INTERVIEWS:

XCritic Interview:

http://www.xcritic.com/columns/column.php?columnID=3298

Daily Loaf Interview:

http://cltampa.com/dailyloaf/archives/2012/08/01/pro-femdom-mistress-t-on-the-art-of-control#.UBque0RIhot

Crave Online Interview:

http://www.craveonline.com/lifestyle/interviews/193189-talkin-sex-with-mistress-t#.UBgFxQ5na5c.twitter

Fixe Magazine Interview:

http://fixemagazine.com/post.php?postid=3147

Random image I grabbed to give you some eye candy. You’re welcome.

Best,
Mistress T

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A little of this & that…

Posted on July 24, 2012 by Mistress T

This will be kind of a hodge-podge blog post.

Banana’s don’t really go in Hodge Podge…

If you’re not familiar with that term…when I was growing up hodge-podge was a dish my mother made with fresh veggies from the garden (potatoes, carrots, peas, green beans, etc.) boiled, water poured off and then cream and salt & pepper added. I loved it…and it means a bunch of stuff all thrown in together.

#1. Follow up to blog post about my judgmental neighbors.

About 5 months ago I wrote about my neighbors finding out about my profession. There was talk of them forming a lynch mob to drive me out of the building:

http://mistresst.wordpress.com/2012/02/28/being-judged-sucks-monkey-balls/

I received an outpouring of support and many inquires from folks wondering how things turned out. At this point, nothing else has really happened. Their worst nightmares or fears never became reality. I have been quiet and considerate. There has been no drama with me so no cause for them to take further action. For now it has blown over & I hope it stays that way.

Happy to have a home…for now:-)

#2. Follow up to my man-hunt.

About a month ago I wrote about my search for a partner:

http://mistresst.wordpress.com/2012/06/22/must-love-dommes/

http://mistresst.wordpress.com/2012/06/24/follow-up-to-must-love-dommes/

I did not receive the avalanche of applications and proposals you might have expected. I tried a little online dating but other than that, there’s not much to report. I’m still single and often wonder if I really want my life to change. There are pro’s & con’s to being in a relationship vs. being single…and often the grass seems greener. My life is pretty awesome right now…

Awwww, pretty cute, eh?

#3. I just went on a swingers camping weekend.

And I didn’t get laid. Shocking, right?

There were about 40 people, all couples except myself and one other solo female. I was there with a half dozen wonderful friends who I’ve known for years…these friends just happen to be in open relationships…and they are an inspiration. They have the healthiest, happiest relationships I have ever seen…I’m referring to MY group of friends, not ALL swingers. Oh, by the way, they prefer the term lifestylers to describe the modern version of swingers who are younger & more physically attractive. (Although a google search for the definition of lifestyler will reveal that the term is used in a whole lot of other alternative lifestyles other than swinging.)

The highlight of the weekend was a very fast motorcycle ride along winding roads with breath taking scenery. It was thrilling being on the back of a motorcycle going that fast, feeling so vulnerable and so alive. I certainly get the whole adrenalin junkie thing. Zing!

Weeeeeeee!!!!!

#4. What’s happening now and what’s coming up?

I recently commissioned a portrait of myself. The artist/painter is working on it as we speak. The process has been very interesting as his art is more about telling a story about a person. He needed to get to know me which meant making myself very vulnerable to a complete stranger. He’s very talented so I’m excited about the end result. I may or may not post the image on my blog. I’ll decide when I see it if I feel comfortable exposing it to the world or if I prefer to keep it private.

The artist is Drew Young: http://dyoung.co/

I have been answering loads of interview questions lately which has been an interesting experience. It’s made me look at what I do in a different way. I’ll post links when interviews go live.

Thinking so hard smoke must be coming out of my ears…

This week will be busy with filming & editing. This weekend might be a bit of a crazy party weekend…then Monday I leave Vancouver for a bit. A couple days in Chicago with a special long-time client before I hit Tampa for FetishCon:

http://mistresst.wordpress.com/2012/06/29/fetishcon-in-florida-aug-2-5/

We are still looking for good quality film slaves and I now have an opening the evening of August 1 in Tampa (for a private meeting or for filming). Email: MsT@MistressT.net

I might be heading to New York for a couple days after Tampa before returning to Vancouver. A very generous slave is making it difficult to say no even though Vancouver is my favorite place to be in August. It’s about the only time of year we get decent beach weather here…& I love being naked down at our beautiful clothing-optional Wreck Beach. A couple days in NY with a fun, generous slave is pretty tempting though…we’ll see.

So that’s the next couple weeks…I am still planning to head back to London/Bath in the fall. Probably late September but I’ll know better by the end of August.

Lastly, I’d like to share part of an email from a fan who had the privilege of spending time with me recently:

“How often can you say in life that the reality was so much better than the dream.

I thank you for a truly wonderful experience. I can genuinely state that I have never experienced anything like you gave me this evening, I repeat never.

I would have willingly left without cuming just to have spent that precious time with you.

I will contact you the next time I am in Vancouver and if I have a long enough stopover in other places I’ll try and establish your availability.

Thank you for access to your site. It was most unexpected and I am delighted. I love the site password :).

However, I must admit I was very touched that you gave me a hug after. I really appreciated that experience.

Please take care and safe travels and I hope to see you soon.”

Happy Fetish Porn Star:-)

I did warn you it was going to be a hodge-podge blog post!

Best,
Mistress T

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Do Men Hate Women?

Posted on July 13, 2012 by Mistress T

I came across this interesting article: “5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained To Hate Women”.

Link: http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html#ixzz20VvWlh4z

The whole article is great and I recommend clicking that link & reading the whole thing…I’m just going to touch on a few things from the article and add my own comments here. Whether you agree or disagree with the author of the article or me…or if you have anything to add, I invite you to comment!

#5. We were told that society owed us a hot girl.

“Does it seem like men feel kind of entitled to sex? Does it seem like we react to rejection with the maturity of a child being denied a toy?”

T: For this point the writer talks about how the guy always gets the pretty girl at the end of every movie and by this and in other ways men grow up expecting that they’ll just get a great girl.

I’m not sure how much I agree with this point…but I will say that I think those same movies teach women that happiness is dependent on a relationship. Which is a whole other topic.

I have certainly witnessed many times men getting very angry over rejection. Not just frustrated or disappointed, but fucking ANGRY. It makes a certain amount of sense that someone would get that mad if they felt entitled to something & they weren’t getting it.

I also ponder this as it applies to “Tease & Denial” & fetishes for different forms of sexual rejection. I know from personal experience that certain men WANT to be denied, get off on being rejected, love being taunted with what they can not have. This strikes me as one of those situations where the intensity of emotion for one thing becomes eroticized, like wires getting crossed…kind of the pain/pleasure thing, but psychologically.

#4. We’re Trained from Birth to See You as Decoration

“Her role in society or level of accomplishment doesn’t matter. Even if she’s a damned candidate for the Supreme Court, the female always has a dual role: to function as a person, and to act as decor.”

“Yes, even in that setting, when judging a female for a position on the highest court in the land, our instinct is still to judge her suitability as a sex partner. It’s the first thing we notice.”

T: In this section the author talks about what’s already been talked about to death…how we are all (men & women) brainwashed into thinking a woman’s physical beauty is more valuable than intelligence, personality, creativity, etc.

I hate that this is true BUT I am very grateful that I got to be one of the pretty ones. It really lubricates life. I worked hard in my early 20’s to prove myself by taking jobs where I interacted with people over the phone. I know that if I wasn’t pretty, or if I became disfigured that I would would make my way in life using my brain but for as long as I still have my looks, I’ll take advantage of that too.

#3. We Think You’re Conspiring With Our Boners to Ruin Us

“Seriously, do a Google search for “masturbating in public library.” Notice something in common with all of those stories? They’re all dudes. I’m saying that men are far, far more likely to engage in extremely high-risk masturbation in public. They’re more likely to do it at work, and they’re more likely to do it in situations where they could go to jail.

It’s because, in males more so than females, the sex drive is completely detached from the rest of the personality. The part of the male brain that worries about job security or money or social reputation or legal consequences has almost no veto power over the sex drive. You’ve heard guys say they were “thinking with their dick” or “I was thinking with the little brain” or “I took an order from Captain Bonerhelmet.” That’s what they’re referring to.

Science doesn’t seem to totally understand why the “base urges” part of the brain reacts differently in men. Maybe it’s just a matter of having 10 times as much testosterone in their system, or maybe society has trained us to be like this, or maybe we’re all spoiled children. My theory is that evolution needs males who will stay horny even in times of crisis or distress, and thus cuts off the brain’s ability to tamp down those urges. Whatever — nailing down the cause isn’t the point. The point is that a man can be giving the eulogy at his own grandmother’s funeral, and if there is a girl in the front row showing cleavage, he will be imagining himself pressing those boobs in his face, with his own dead grandmother not five feet away.”

T: I found this point most interesting…the writer talks more about anger and how men get mad because they feel it’s women’s faults that they can’t control their urges. I wonder if this anger is more or less prevalent in the FemDom community? I wonder how many men who jerk off to FemDom porn resent sexy, powerful women for having so much control over them? Feel free to comment on this.

#2. We Feel Like Manhood Was Stolen from Us at Some Point

“A once-great world of heroes and strength and warriors and cigars and crude jokes has been replaced by this world of grumpy female supervisors looming over our cubicle to hand us a memo about sending off-color jokes via email. Yes, that entire narrative is a grossly skewed and self-serving version of how society actually evolved. It doesn’t matter.The result is a combination of frustration and humiliation and powerlessness that makes us want to get it back in the only way we know how: with petty, immature acts of meanness.”

T: I found this point less interesting…the writer expands on this but the above quote gives you an idea of what he was driving at. Men are resentful that they have been forced to adjust their behavior by women… in the workplace, etc.

#1. We Feel Powerless

“It’s like that for most men, most of the time. We’re starving, and all women are various types of food. Only instead of food, it’s sex. And we’re trying to conduct our everyday business around the fact that we’re trying to renew our driver’s license with a talking pair of boobs. So, from about age 13 on, around 90 percent of our energy and discipline is devoted to overcoming this, to behave like civilized human beings and not like stray dogs in a meat market. One where instead of eating the meat, they want to hump it.”

“This is really the heart of it, right here. This is why no amount of male domination will ever be enough, why no level of control or privilege or female submission will ever satisfy us. We can put you under a burqa, we can force you out of the workplace — it won’t matter. You’re still all we think about, and that gives you power over us. And we resent you for it.”

T: This is really what it all boils down to. As hot as it can be to give up control in a sexual power exchange scenario, most people prefer to be in control of themselves & their lives. We hate anything that we’re obsessed with or addicted to that has any control over us: cigarettes, coffee, drugs/alcohol, gambling, video games, a TV show you can’t get enough of…a book you can’t put down…a food that you crave (chocolate, hamburgers)…PORN.

Best,
Mistress T

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Filming doesn’t always go smoothly…

Posted on July 9, 2012 by Mistress T

Fans of my films see the end result. The finished product, after all the set up, filming and editing. What goes on behind the scenes? Do you ever wonder? Do you wonder WHO the guy is? What his story is? Do you wonder if there were out-takes or bloopers? What happens when things don’t go as planned?

I hope this doesn’t pop the fantasy bubble for some of you, but I wanted to share an experience from today to give you a sense of the REALITY of the type of porn I create.

A few months ago a fan contacted me wanting to meet me. He lived far away in the US and after a few months and a hand full of emails he ended up coming to Vancouver. He really just wanted to meet me. A private session, coffee or filming was discussed and we settled on filming a foot job vid because he didn’t have enough money for a private session and I didn’t want to go on a date with him.

The moment he saw me he gushed that I was even more beautiful then they said I would be. I wondered who ‘they’ were but he was so nervous I just let it go.

He was young but showed me his ID to prove he was in his early 20’s (legal) and let me know right away he was sexually inexperienced. By that I assumed a virgin. I made him a cup of tea while he rambled on about what a huge fan he was and how amazing it was to finally meet me…he rambled about a bunch of other personal stuff too…I’m used to nervous guys doing this and just let him go on and on.

I didn’t say much as I set things up for filming, he was doing all the talking, watching me move around the room he paused mid sentence several times to say how beautiful I am in person.

Everything was all set and I told him to remove his cloths and lie down. His pubic hair wasn’t trimmed at all and he pretended to be surprised by it himself and said he ‘forgot’ to trim it…to which I replied: “You didn’t forget. Don’t lie. You have never trimmed that bush & you know I prefer it trimmed.” He apologized.

We started filming and he warned me that he would likely cum very quickly. He had filled out the film slave application from my blog so he knew I preferred film slaves who cum easily. I felt optimistic.

However, after several minutes of feet-on-cock action I could tell we were going to have problems. He said he needed to touch me. I allowed him to touch my leg. He asked to see me naked. I said no. He asked me to have sex with him. I said no. He said he needed more intimacy. I said: “You’ve come to the wrong place.”

At this point I’m thinking of you the reader. If you’re another Domme reading this you’re probably thinking either: “Jerk!” or “Yup, business as usual.” If you’re a guy reading this you’re probably thinking: “Geez, ya can’t blame the guy for trying!” or “Would it kill you to be a little nicer to the poor boy?”

I suggested that if he couldn’t actually cum from a foot job than we could do a tease and denial vid instead. He begged me not to, he said he needed to cum and that he could do it with his own hand. Now, I know that a vid with a guy jerking himself off on my feet isn’t going to be a big seller. I knew that by letting him do that I was pretty much putting the nail in the coffin of this shoot. All my time wasted. A vid that probably wouldn’t sell…but believe it or not, I have a soft spot. I told him to go for it. It was evident he was never going to cum from a foot job anyway. It wasn’t intimate enough for him.

After all was said and done he begged to film with me again. Promising he would do better next time…but also saying that he just needs more intimacy. I explained that you don’t go to a car mechanic to get your toilet fixed…and you don’t come to someone who specializes in humiliation and Domination for a cuddle.

He admitted to being a virgin. I asked if he really thought I would have sex with him and he said he hoped so and he was sure he would cum in like 30 seconds FOR SURE. I let him know that that wasn’t going to sell me on the idea. It’s not going to happen.

I feel bad for him. I do. To be a virgin in your early 20’s and to come so far just to meet the fantasy woman you’ve been jerking off to for years and then to be sexually rejected by her. As much as I do humiliation and cruelty in my vids, I actually didn’t get any pleasure from sending him away so sad. I wasn’t about to have pity sex with him though.

I haven’t decided what I’ll do with the vid yet. I’ll have to watch it and think about it. Here’s a still from the cum shot:

He shoots!…but he didn’t score…

If anyone has the thought that I wouldn’t have these issues if I hired professional male performers…understand that overall I prefer to work with real fans, personal lovers or friends. I think it gives my films a more authentic feel. I also really enjoy meeting and getting feedback from real fans…and I did enjoy meeting this boy today. I just didn’t enjoy sexually rejected him and I wish we could have created a better vid. You take the good with the bad though!

NEW NOTE (Added Aug 6, 2012): I decided to release the footage from this shoot. After watching it I felt like there was certainly enough hot stuff there for someone to jerk off to…but it’s also a very unique and interesting vid if you know the full story behind it. I did not edit out all the awkward bits either. This is the full, raw version:

http://www.clips4sale.com/23869/6633289

(I can’t hyper link to clips4sale from here so you’ll have to do the extra work of copying & pasting the link. It’s called “Blooper Shoot Full Length”).

Best,
Mistress T

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Home from my fun road trip!

Posted on July 8, 2012 by Mistress T

I’m back from a great week-long road trip with my gal pal. She turned 40 this last week and this is how we chose to mark the milestone.

We set out with a loose plan of making our way to Calgary to visit another friend of hers, stopping along the way to check out some wineries and hot springs. We were traveling in her parents camper thinking we would be ready for anything but we only slept in it twice the whole trip. Once just randomly on a side street and at her friends place in Calgary who already had company in the spare room and living room.

We took a couple little ferry’s during our trip too…fun & so beautiful!

Check out our cool ride! The scenery was breath taking.

We spent a couple nights at Halcyon Hot Springs in a posh cabin:

Hmmm, camper or cabin? I’ve made my choice…

We ended up doing quite a few hot springs: Halcyon, Radium, Upper Banff, Fairmont and Ainsworth. I loved how fancy Halcyon was but my favorite was Ainsworth with it’s very cool cave! It was hard to get pics inside the steamy cave but I managed a couple:

Hot n’ steamy inside the cave at Ainsworth Hot Springs.

Here’s a better shot of the actual cave with therapeutic hot springs water pouring in. It was VERY atmospheric.

Spending hours on the road talking to my friend about everything under the sun was wonderful. We stopped when we were hungry and ate at quaint diners. We got junk food when we stopped for gas. We ate tons of cherries, strawberries and peas from road side farmers markets. We stayed in some nice places and not-so-nice-places. We saw a lot of wild life along the way: bears, deer, elk, etc.

The time at her friends place in Calgary was interesting. A small horse ranch in the middle of no where. The kind of home with needlepoint pictures of horses on the wall and lots of nic nacs like toll-painted cats. I knew the other visiting friends were going to be interesting when I noticed the tattoos on his arms: a marijuana leaf, an eagle and a winged unicorn…and she started talking about the end of the world on Dec 21. All very down to earth friendly people who reminded me of my family in Nova Scotia. Rural people tend to be very different from city people and although I prefer the city, it was a good reminder of my roots to spend time with them.

The trip was fairly tame. We didn’t end up hitting too many wineries or partying very much so we decided we should go out with a bang on the last night. We got a room next to the most happening bar in the small town of Osoyoos. We sat at the bar drinking and waiting for it to get busy but even at its peak there was probably no more than 40 people, most under 30. I was approached by a boy who said his friend had a crush on me but was too shy to come up to me. I asked how old he was, they were both only 21! I explained that I’m 36 but he didn’t care. We spent the last hour of the night sitting with a table of 21 year olds, dancing and chatting. It was flattering, but it felt a bit silly.

They were very sweet but I didn’t go home with any of them. The one who liked me seemed more interested in dating me than having a one-nighter (he actually lives closer to Vancouver, they were tourists in Osoyoos too.) I wasn’t really interested in either….again, it was flattering but it felt a bit silly.

Speaking of silly…here’s a hand full of funny pics I took along the way: