Aging In The Adult Industry

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

My birthday is tomorrow, Apr 29. I’ll be 41. So what’s it like aging in the adult industry?

Unlike the typical porn starlet, I was late to the biz. I started as a private dancer in a strip club when I was 28. The other gals where years younger except one & she didn’t really ‘dance’ for anyone. She had a few regulars who would pay her to sit & drink with them.

I dipped in & out of the adult industry for a few years & was about 32 by the time my fetish video business was full steam ahead. I started referring to myself as a MILF in the early days & added ‘mature’ soon after. The oldest among my peer group they sometimes refer to me as ‘Nana’ (& sometimes Mistress Goofball, but this isn’t a post about how hilarious I am.)

In a lot of survey’s, “MILF” is a very popular search term, often ranking higher than ‘teen’. Here’s some stats: https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review

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So in a world that in every other way tells you that as a women your value nose dives after 40 (or even after 35), I work in an industry where not only am I highly valued, there’s a lot less competition. I’ve even hammed up the older bit by wearing a grey wig & you’ll often see me in glasses, pearl necklaces, satin blouses or suites. For business, I’m not trying to pretend I’m younger, if anything, the opposite.

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Silver fox:-)

How many adult film performers are still in the biz after 40? A helleva lot less than those in their 20’s.

I have received some very generous offers from various big porn production companies who are desperate for MILF’s. I’m not really interested in working with other companies these days but since I find Virtual Reality fascinating you might see a VR fuck scene with me on HologirlsVR this year. My understanding is a key VR sex position requires me to straddle & ride a cock for several minutes & frankly, I’m not sure my knees will take it. ha ha

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh.

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh. (Find these scenes on https://www.hologirlsvr.com)

Anyway, back to how I feel about things. I’ll be honest, in the real world I don’t have the same ‘pull’ that I used to. Men don’t quite look at me the same, or look at me at all. Online though, things heat up more each year. Business is booming, sales numbers don’t lie, plus I get loads of messages from men of all ages desiring an older woman.

As if by cruel design though, with each passing year I become more settled, with less inclination to travel, with less energy to work, with less drive to work as hard as I did in the beginning. Finally achieving work-life balance I am no longer married to my work, I have a full & rich life outside of the biz. With an eye to the future I wonder when it will make sense to start to wind down the business. A recent meeting with my financial advisor, he posed the usual questions which were mathematical to him but personal to me: “How much longer do you think you’ll make this income? When will you need to start drawing on your investments? Etc.”

I really don’t know? My heart is still in it but when is the tipping point when I’m no longer a ‘hot MILF’ but I’ve gone ‘past my expiry date’? Of course I want to end on a high note & not drag things out to the point of embarrassment. I know I’m not near that yet but geez, ya know what I mean?

In writing this I did some research on Bettie Page. I thought that she had at one point decided to retire, maybe in her mid 30’s & had never let another photograph be taken of her. That she wanted to be remembered by her fans how she was. Unfortunately my research resulted in a less romantic explanation. She may have actually found religion. So I can’t draw any parallels here about Bettie Page feeling her age, etc. I’ll move on without Ms. Page.

Personally, I love getting older mentally. I wouldn’t want to go back to knowing less, having experienced less. Physically, I don’t think anyone is happy about aging. No one says: “Thank god my skin is starting to wrinkle! I’ve been waiting for this for too long!” The cosmetic industry is booming thanks to people fighting growing old tooth & nail. I’m not convinced there’s such a thing as growing old gracefully & there’s so few women in the public eye doing it naturally that most of us wouldn’t even know what it looks like anymore. I won’t stay on that topic as I know men would prefer to stay blissfully unaware of what women do to look good, while men often consider combing their hair as stepping up their game & trimming their nose hairs as ‘extreme grooming’. Ha ha

The book I’ve been writing is about my life. It’s been amazing working with my editor, going back through & discussing details of various chapters of my story. Seeing how events & experiences shaped who I am. Some pleasant, some not, but it all contributed. I hoped to have the book done in my 40th year & although that didn’t happen, the majority of the work on it happened in my 40th year & it will be done long before my 42nd.

Turning back toward aging in this industry…it’s amazing actually. In the real world as I start to become invisible…as I’m overlooked by more men, I am becoming more desirable to certain fans. Sure, being fetishized for being ‘older’ is somewhat objectifying, like being fetishized for being an Asian woman, a black man, a BBW, etc. but most people tend to be drawn to certain physical traits, I don’t really see anything wrong with that. We like what we like, & for men seeking a mature woman, their options are more limited in porn…& here I am. Experienced, still good lookin’ & not planning to make my exit anytime soon.

Oh…& in case you felt inclined to send me a treat for my birthday, here’s my updated wish lists:

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xo

Mistress T

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A Duo Session with Miss Jasmine

Mistress T & Miss Jasmine

Nearly a decade ago in the early days of being Professional Dominatrix’s in Vancouver, Miss Jasmine & I became friends. We did basically the same work & occasionally did sessions together. We’ve supported each other as our careers & lives have evolved.

Jasmine recently reached out to set up a duo session with a client of hers who requested me. I still like doing sessions, I just dislike the process of setting up a session with a new person. Poor communication & flakiness abound. Being contacted for a session by another professional makes the process a breeze. All the pertinent information (without the fluff) is efficiently exchanged & arrangements are firmed up quickly.

The date was set. She & I would have lunch before & then head to his hotel together. He was into a bit of bondage & sensual Domination, feet, hosiery, face sitting (clothed) & anal play/strap-on. It’s rather easy to fill up 90 minutes with those activities.

Jasmine had seen this client many times before & knew him well. He had been a fan of my vids for years & knew my style. That certainly helped with the comfort level. Things were more likely to go smoother.

We arrived & there were hugs all around. Hugging a stranger might seem a bit odd but within an hour I will have touched his private parts, a lot, & have shoved my crotch in his face, might as well get the physical contact part going right away.

He had a bottle of bubbly on ice. We decided to indulge.

Some Dommes won’t drink alcohol during a session. For me, it depends on safety really. How safe I feel with the client & what activities I’m doing. For example, I wouldn’t drink alcohol if I would be doing sounding or CP, but foot worship, face sitting & especially golden showers: sure.

For ladies reading this here’s how I feel safest: The bottle is unopened, I open it & pour my own drink. I don’t leave my drink unattended & the client drinks from the same container. This may sound paranoid but drinks getting spiked is a thing & better safe than sorry.

In my experience a drink or two can enhance the session for both parties, loosen you both up a bit. There is obviously a difference between a drink or two vs. getting smashed & out of control. A very drunk client is no fun to deal with & getting drunk yourself is unprofessional.

The view from his hotel room was stunning. I took a moment after getting changed, to admire the view & sip my drink. I’m sure the view of me in lingerie & heels from behind was a nice view for him too.

We stripped him & tied him spread eagle to the bed. He was grinning ear-to-ear & his cock was already standing at attention, twitching into the air. The next while was likely a blur to him as Jasmine & I took turns putting our feet in his face, sitting on his face & teasing his horny cock. Jasmine had brought some special smelly goodies for him (he has been buying her worn items for years). She had socks she’d worn for a couple weeks & a pair of well-worn panties. She held them over his face & made him breath deeply. He was in heaven. He kept saying he couldn’t believe we were both there & this was really happening.

Out came the rubber gloves, lube & toys/strap-ons. We incorporated ass play into the fun, moving him around in different positions, fucking him while he was on his back, doggy style & laying down doggy. At one point I was fucking him from behind while his face was buried between Jasmine’s thighs, inhaling her scent through her panties & we were left looking at each other. It was a funny moment already really, us facing each other with this guy between us having this incredible experience. I started to pull faces to make her laugh, crossing my eyes, lolling my tongue out & thrusting dramatically. She was trying hard to not laugh at loud to ruin the moment & like a jerk I just dialed up the funny faces, trying harder to make her lose it. I threw my head back, rolling my eyes back & smiling like a maniac. Poor Jasmine had to clamp her hand over her mouth to keep from laughing out loud. I loved it!

We ended things with him on his back, Jasmine fucking him in the ass with her strap-on & jerking him off while I kept my feet on his face, his eyes darting back & forth between us. I was doing my usual dirty talk, encouraging him along. He was begging enthusiastically to be allowed to cum, Jasmine laughing & holding off on giving him permission…I think most Dommes adore that moment, when a guy is right at the edge of orgasm & he’ll do just about anything to cum but also just about anything to not cum without permission, it’s incredibly powerful to have a man in that vulnerable position.

When she gave permission his whole body convulsed & he looked & sounded in every way to be cumming for at least 20 seconds before the ejaculate came out of his cock. His face was a mix of ecstasy & shock. He was muttering that he didn’t know what just happened. He was explaining that it felt like he came twice in a row. We had been working his ass for about a half hour, he likely had a prostate orgasm just before he actually ejaculated & that is a shocking experience for a lot of guys. A happy surprise *smile*.

I nuzzled his face into my cleavage & kissed his forehead. I’m known for a bit of sweetness at this point in a session, if I feel it’s appropriate. Most guys really love this part, no matter what kind of session it’s been. A bit of tenderness & a quiet moment after cumming.

As we tidied & packed up he kept expressing his joyful confusion about his orgasm & about what an amazing experience he had had. The gratitude was nice to hear. We all like to feel like we’ve done a good job, a sense of pride in accomplishment, don’t we?

You can find more of Miss Jasmine here: http://eurasianpersuasion.com/ & here: http://clips4sale.com/studio/18927

xo

Mistress T

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Who is the man who gets what u want?

Who made this mess? ....& who is going to clean it up???

Who made this mess?
….& who is going to clean it up???

Do you ever wonder who gets to be with me? Like really gets to be with me in the most intimate ways?

A few years ago I was fairly public about being single & looking but I wasn’t as vocal about my relationship when one did develop. Trying to balance some kind of private life with my public persona can be tricky. Part of me wants to keep some things just for myself & part of me wants y’all to know a lot about me to reduce the objectification of adult performers & sex workers. Like me shouting: “Hey, look at me! I’m a regular person like everyone else. I just have an unusual job. I grocery shop, I binge watch Netflix, I have complex relationships with family & friends, I’ve been in love, had my heart broken, I’ve made mistakes & hurt people I cared about, I wear flannel pj’s, I have opinions…I am a human, not just a sex doll with a pulse!”

Which brings me to this post…about my partner, which I know many of you are curious about. The reason I do it now is because I believe that he could actually help some of you. I’ll explain.

As you can well imagine, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. Is it hard to be in a relationship with a “Dominatrix” or “Porn Star”? Sure, for some guys, however, my partner is the most emotionally mature man I’ve ever met. There is no power dynamic in our relationship. Neither is Dominant. We are equals. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in.

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He’s a high level communicator, intuitive, intelligent, empathetic, open-minded & sexually skilled. He’s self assured because he brings qualities to a relationship that are lacking in many men. How do most men learn to find & build a healthy relationship? How do most men learn to be better partners & lovers? Although the education exists it isn’t mainstream & I’ll tell you, unfortunately the majority of men aren’t skilled lovers or good partners. That’s just the harsh truth.

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Over the years I’ve had requests from fans who wanted to serve my lovers or boyfriends. He’s been dabbling in that, chatting with & doing cam with a few of my fans. He’s rather good at it & enjoys it. It’s become a fun little hobby of his & sometimes we go on cam together with my fans which is fun for me too.

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Beyond fetish sessions (laughing at my sissy cuckolds & slaves who get off on humiliation, forced bi or Financial Domination) I feel like some fans could benefit from a bit of coaching. This is the guy who ‘got’ ME. The guy who won my heart & sexually satisfies me. He is superior for that reason alone & all my cuckolds should worship him for that…but other guys who just want advice on how to communicate with women in real life, especially the type of women they crave: self-assured, successful, Dominate women. How to start & build a meaningful relationship with that kind of woman. How to please a woman sexually. Sex tips & individualized training on being a better partner & lover. He can do that & the domino effect is some women will be happier with better men. It’s ninja-level FemDom when you think about it: my good man training men to better please other women. I love it!

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Sure, a lot of you will just want to go on cam for 10 minutes & jerk off while he laughs at you & tells you that you’re inferior…& it’s hot because he is a superior male who gets to fuck the woman you’ve been jerking off to for years…& it’s hot because he’s a good looking younger bi guy who gets off on the idea of making my cuckolds suck his cock & eat his cum…& yes, he is happy to do that…but he can also do so much more.

Of course ur not gay…but u can’t deny that’s a great ass…

Admit it, u like his ass...ur drawn to it...

Admit it, u like his ass…ur drawn to it…

...so drawn to it that I bet u'd lick it if I told u to. Now it's all u'll be able to think about...

…so drawn to it that I bet u’d lick it if I told u to.
Now it’s all u’ll be able to think about…

For example, he can assist with erectile dysfunction & orgasm control…he’s a professional tantra practitioner & works solo or does double sessions with the very talented Olivia Jade (http://oliviajade.net/). Olivia is one of, if not the most highly regarded certified tantra practitioner in Canada. She helps a lot of men with ED & premature ejaculation, among other things. I highly recommend her services as well.

So, if you want to ‘serve my man’ (via skype cam or messenger/email ) in the usual dirty ways: cuckolding, forced bi, humiliation, jerk off instruction, cum eating instruction, etc. & you’re in a position to be generous, reach out to me & I’ll coordinate it. We can both be involved or you can serve just him. Or, if you think you could benefit from chatting with an evolved man who in my experienced opinion is an expert at having a healthy relationship AND is also highly sexually skilled…send me a note:

MsT@MistressT.net

As I mentioned, this is just a fun little hobby for him & his time is limited so he will give his attention to those who are the most generous & enjoyable to deal with. This is a rare & valuable opportunity so conduct yourself accordingly. That means:

  • communicate clearly about what you’re hoping for/wanting/what you’re into
  • be ready & able to tribute to show you’re serious
  • be respectful & reliable

Those things go for me as well!

You only live once!

Mistress T

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Who am I?

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This blog was set up for you to get to know me more intimately…& on twitter recently I invited fans to ask me questions that I would answer on my blog. It seems there is a lot of interest in learning more about me, the woman behind Mistress T. So here’s a bunch of random stuff, using your questions as a guide.

What are you passionate about? I am a feminist, vegetarian, animal-lover, atheist. I’m passionate about human-rights issues & equality. I’m anti-discrimination, I have ZERO tolerance for racism, homophobia, sexism, etc. I’m concerned about environmental issues & do what I can to reduce my impact.

How do you stay in shape? I’m blessed with good genes but I also eat very carefully (no meat, very little sugar, deep fried foods or processed foods, easy on the carbs, etc.) I do yoga, recently started doing aqua-fit & I walk a lot.

Trump or Hillary? I’m Canadian so can’t vote in the US election but I would NOT vote for Trump because he would be a disastrous choice no matter how you look at it. Period.

Would you be submissive? I’ve often been asked if I would ever consider “switching” & trying being submissive. If you read my blog from the beginning there is a part where I talk about dabbling as a submissive in my early days in fetish, at parties, way before I got into private sessions or video. I loved the exhibitionism but submitting wasn’t my jam. I hate pain & getting Dominated just makes me angry. I’m naturally Dominant but I don’t need to actually be Dominant all the time. I’m actually just as happy to be equal with someone. But if you’re hoping to see me in a scene where I’m being spanked, tied up, Dominated: forget it. It will never happen.

Along those lines, it is unlikely you’ll see me in scenes with big production companies like “Blacked”, etc. Going from filming my own scenes for years & working with companies like The English Mansion & Club Stiletto where it’s very much a collaboration & I’m still very much in control, the idea of just being a performer who is directed to do sexual acts with someone I possibly haven’t even met before…doesn’t hold much appeal.

I know some fans crave to see me in certain situations, some would love to see me take a load of cum on my face, get fucked by several well-hung black guys, get fucked in the ass, be Dominated, etc. But my body: my choice. I decide.

Biggest joy and biggest frustration about what you do? Biggest joy: I love being creative & performing. I always have. I was in every school & church play when I was growing up. Biggest frustration: Email. Just reading my email often puts me in a bad mood. It’s a never-ending shit river of time-wasting annoyance. Reading ‘complimentary’ emails from guys who openly state they only watch my vids on free-sharing sites (so have never paid) but just have to waste my time telling me that I’m ‘the best’ to guys sending requests for sessions in random places all over the globe. Of course, it’s worse than you could imagine. I have to read it all to get to the few emails that need my attention, like custom vid requests, actually worthwhile film slave applicants, the rare session I decide to take, etc. Doesn’t sound like a big deal? Many peers I’ve met says the same thing. Dealing with emails in this biz is amazingly frustrating & over time is wears on you.

How did your family react when you told them or they found out you’re in the porn biz? I get this question a lot & have addressed it at least a couple times in my blog but again: not a big deal in my case. I was about 30 when I changed careers from sales & marketing in the vanilla world to the adult industry. I had already lived away from my family for 9 years, had invested in real estate, traveled the world & demonstrated I was able to make smart decisions for myself. They didn’t worry about me. As long as I was healthy & happy they didn’t judge. Which leads me to the other question I get a lot…

What will you do AFTER porn??? As the years go by I get this question more & more. I am 40 now & have been in the adult industry for a decade so I understand why some folks are checking my expiry date & exit strategy. There is a cliche about women in the porn industry being reckless with their money & having expensive habits (drinking, drugs, gambling, leech boyfriends, etc.). We’re not all like that. In fact, most of my peers are careful with their finances. In my case, I started investing in my retirement in my early 20’s, I invested in real estate before I turned 30. Financial security has always been a priority for me & I’ve been smart and lucky. When I am done with porn I’m not sure what I’ll do but I’m not worried. I’ll still want to keep busy & productive. I’ll have transferable skills & will find something I enjoy. At this time I’m trying to get a book written & I’ve started the free T-Time Sex Ed series. My future might include more writing, education, speaking engagements, advice columnist, performing in some other way, something that helps people, animals or the environment…money won’t be the main motivator so I’ll have the freedom to do what I enjoy with less concern about finances.

How can a slave make himself worthy? A lot of fans want to serve me, interact with me in some way, online or in person. The charitable part of me wants to give every guy what he so badly wants. But the part of me that’s in charge of self-care knows that I don’t have the energy to give that much of myself. I work toward work-life balance & that means turning down 90% of the requests I get for online or in person one-on-one interactions with fans. The few that earn my attention pay generously & have excellent manners.

Are you religious? Favorite flavor? Favorite fiction book? Do you ever wear granny panties? Ever played video games? Atheist. Good dark chocolate with lavender. Fresh sun-warm berries or cherries just picked. A nice cup of Jasmine Green Tea. To name a few. Recent favorite speculative fiction: Margaret Atwoods MaddAddam Trilogy. I don’t wear any panties. Ever (except as part of a sexy outfit for filming or fetish/sex parties). I pretty much live in yoga pants/leggings, sometimes flannel pj’s. When I was a teen I played tetris at the arcade & Super Mario at a friends house. Pong a bit as a kid. That was pretty much it.

What do You think of the friend Zone? What do You think of “nice guy syndrome”? Thank You Mistress I think the world needs more guys who are genuinely kind, respectful & thoughtful. Some girls might get a thrill out of bad boys but emotionally mature women, especially those who have had enough of getting treated like shit by bad boys, will one day appreciate a nice guy. Life is not all about getting laid. If you’re angry because girls won’t fuck you, than you’re probably not really a nice guy. Girls don’t owe guys sex. Having real friends & a sense of community is more meaningful than one-night stands. If you really want meaningless sex pay for an escort or go on Tinder to get your fix. I think if your biggest complaint is the too many girls want you to be their friend but don’t want to fuck you than you should consider yourself pretty lucky in life. Think about it. If a real romantic relationship that includes sex is what you’re after try looking for women who you have things in common with & accept those friendships while being open to them developing into more, without expectation. All kinds of different people find partners, you can too, but in the mean time be good to yourself & appreciate what you already have.

That’s it for today! Feel free to submit more questions in the comments area below & maybe I’ll do a follow-up post.

xo

Mistress T

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Now Mobile-Friendly + Discounted!

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I’ve recently made 2 important improvements to my site:

#1. Mobile-friendly! Members can now stream my vids on any mobile device! You can watch my vids on your smart phone, iPad, etc. If you have the space you can download them too but I understand that streaming on smaller devices will be the most important feature to a lot of my fans.

#2. New discounted price for recurring Premium membership! $39 recurring monthly is the new price ($10 less than it was before!). That gives you access to 1460 vids in my library + at least 10 new vids per month! (Usually 12 or 13)

Join now here: https://www.mistresst.net/content/front

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If you are currently on the previous price & you want to change it here’s how: (Unless you consider your membership a way of serving me than just leave it at $49/month)

Simply go to www.vtsup.com and log in with the same username/password you use for my site. Follow the instructions – it’s easy. (Then rejoin my site with the same username/password to get the new price for the PREMIUM recurring membership.)

If you have any problems please email my helpful webmaster: Webmaster@MistressT.net

There are other little improvements to the site, like “Infinity Scroll” on the video page. You can turn it on or off.

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Did you know my members site is 8 years old? I started my clips store a year before that & was performing in Club Stiletto scenes the year before…& doing Professional Domination sessions privately before that. So I’ve passed a decade in the biz. Wow, I have done A LOT of kinky stuff!

I’m still enjoying it & I’m glad that so many of you are still loving my content. My site has been doing better than ever despite not being completely compatible with some mobile devices so I’m excited that a lot more fans will be able to enjoy my vids now that my site has been improved. 8 years ago watching porn on phones was not as common. Now I think it has become one of the primary ways guys are watching porn.

I understand there is a lot of free content out there. If you are a fan of me & a fan of my content joining my site is the best way to show your devotion, support & also to most easily & safely view my content without annoying ads, click-bait, pop-ups, risk of viruses & contributing to illegal piracy that’s negatively impacting my industry. Thanks for your support! xo

Mistress T

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Rumors of my retirement have been greatly exaggerated.

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I have no plans or intentions to retire in the near future.

That could be the end of this blog post, but I’ll expand on it.

Apparently there has been some rumors circulating that I will soon retire. The only reason I can think of for the rumors is a possible misunderstanding regarding the short break I took several months ago to start writing my book.

By the way, there has not been much progress on the book since I returned to work so it looks like I’ll have to schedule more breaks from work & write in chunks as it does not seem possible to do both simultaneously.

But taking breaks for 1-3 months once or twice a year is not the same as retiring!

I have been Mistress T for about a decade and I recently turned 40. In this biz both of those milestones are significant. Most female performers in adult films do not stay in the industry that long & most are not doing it into their 40’s.

I still love it though & it’s the best job I’ve had. I love running my own business, working for myself, having full control over things & the freedom to create work life balance however I choose. I did my time in my 20’s working more traditional 9-5 jobs in the vanilla world & I would not go back to it. Working for other people, dealing with office politics, following other people’s rules…it wasn’t for me.

So what will I do after this? I honestly don’t know & I don’t feel like I need to know yet. I have no plans to retire any time soon but I have been careful with my money & I have a lot of transferable skills. I’ll have more options than the cliche 30 year old ex porn star with no other job experience or education who didn’t save any money.

I have been working less the last year & that will continue. I put a lot of time & energy into building this business for years. I practically lived out of a suitcase traveling internationally to film & session. I’ve done all my own filming & editing, answered my own emails, written my blog posts, managed my own social media, marketing & all the other small & big things that business owners do. I’ve been rewarded & have the business built up to the point where I don’t need to put in as much time for it to keep chugging along. Sure, I could make more money doing more web cam & sessions, producing more content, etc…& I know my fans desperately wish I toured the world constantly so they could session with me in their city…but the personal expense of that extra money is too great. My physical & emotional/mental health is worth more. At this time, I am happier living a quieter life in Vancouver, working less, enjoying other aspects of life more.

But I am not planning to retire! Working less probably means that ya’ll will have me around for longer.

So if you want to meet me, you have 2 choices but both are expensive unfortunately. You can come to Vancouver…or you can possibly bring me to you. I am not keen to travel these days BUT if I’m compensated very well AND I feel interested & comfortable, it’s possible. Both in Vancouver & elsewhere that means meeting just me/solo or with my lover & I (cuckolding and/or encouraged bi).

I love meeting fans for interesting conversation over a nice meal. Yes, going for lunch or dinner with Mistress T is a pleasure many lucky fans have enjoyed & I hope many more.

I rarely web cam/skype but that’s possible too…usually for the very generous & fairly flexible. Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Custom vids are a favorite of mine. I enjoy making your fantasies come true. Info on ordering custom vids: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/custom-vids/

Film slaves/stunt cocks are still welcome to apply. Filming only in Vancouver these days. So ya need to be here or willing & able to come here. READ THIS BEFORE EMAILING: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/booking-filming-springsummer-2016/

Lastly, please be respectful of my valuable time & don’t waste it. Please do not email me only to compliment or praise. As well-intentioned as it is, it adds up to more of an annoyance than anything beneficial. Please only email if you’re sending a properly communicated application to be in my films, if you want a custom vid or want to pay for my time/attention. If you want to SHOW your appreciation & adoration sending a tribute is far better than expecting me to take up my valuable time reading an email compliment. Here’s my wish list: AMAZON WISH LIST

xo

Mistress T

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Oh, the intrigue!

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I recently received an email from a mysterious admirer. He explained that he had been a fan for years & with little notice found himself in Vancouver for a couple of days. He asked if I would join him for breakfast the next day at the restaurant at his hotel. He explained that discretion was paramount. He had created that email address for this one use & it would not be checked so if I was able to come just arrive at 11am & tell the hostess I was meeting a gentleman. If I was not able to join him he understood.

He also offered a generous ‘honorarium’ for the pleasure of my company & made it clear that he was only interested in conversation.

Naturally, I was intrigued.

I arrived at the opulent hotel, went to the restaurant, told the hostess I was meeting a gentleman, she said she was expecting me & guided me to a concealed booth tucked away in the back.

It was all so very cliche, it made me laugh.

I found myself sitting across from a man most of you would likely know. Awestruck, I tried to stay composed. I understand too well how uncomfortable fame can be. He was disarming, charming, a perfect gentleman. I soon forgot who I thought he was & got to know who he really is. He had been reading my blog for years & was more of a fan of that than my vids. He confessed that he really wasn’t into most of what I create. We talked about what he did like & more about what he didn’t understand. Why some men are into some of the more extreme things that I do. We talked about politics, he was amused at how passionate I am about Canadian & American politics…we talked about charities & he expressed his amazement at my Kiva micro-loan (for free porn) idea.

He told me that he has long had an interest in fetish literature & that the main reason he wanted to meet me was to encourage me to write a book. He felt that I had the skill & the experience to produce something so much better than the insulting rubbish of 50 Shades of Grey.

It was a wonderful meeting, one I’ll never forget.

With Canadian Thanksgiving just this past weekend I’d like to express my gratitude for my awesome life. For having the opportunities to meet very interesting people & have fascinating conversations. For having a business that gives me the flexibility to live my life however I want. I am grateful for the special people in my life, for my health, for living in a safe, clean place.

I am grateful to all of my supportive fans. You are a huge part of what makes my life awesome. Thank you.

xo

Mistress T

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Vegas 2015 recap

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

I’ve survived another of our legendary Vegas trips! I had an amazing time, as always.

I cherish the relationships I have with others in this wacky industry. It means so much to have peers to discuss the unique issues that come with this business. I’m sure it’s the same for anyone, whether you’re a lawyer, work in the medical field, a teacher, a mechanic, a bar tender, a CFO, a coder, etc.  There are things about your work that only those who do the same work understand. For me living in Vancouver I’m often fairly isolated from others who understand my work. My friends are very supportive, but it’s different hanging out with those who walk the walk & talk the talk.

So these Vegas trips are great opportunities to network, meet new friends and build on the relationships I already have. Sure, we party a bit, but we also share meals & talk, go to the spa & talk, hang out & talk. It’s fun AND it feeds my soul.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room...Meggerz & I.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room…Meggerz & I.

 

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Here’s a shout out to both Kinkbomb & Clips4Sale who hosted amazing dinners & events. These events bring the community closer & it’s very much appreciated.

We has some crazy nights too...Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

We had some crazy nights too…Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo....mmm furrries:-)

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo….mmm furrries:-)

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Here’s also a shout out to The Cupcake Girls. They provide excellent free services to women in the adult industry. (Like legal advice, medical/dental, counseling, educational support, emergency services, etc.)  They have a suite at the AVN convention where gals can come get their hair or make-up done for free, get mini massages, something to eat, etc. It’s a wonderful place to connect with other ladies in the industry & a very positive way to spread the word about the good work they do.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

So, until we meet again! Thanks to the ladies who made this trip awesome. Particularly…& because your photo is here:

Princess Meggerz: www.Meggerz.com

Ceara Lynch: www.CearaLynch.com

Alexandra Snow: www.AlexandraSnow.com

Lexi Sindel: www.FemdomEmpire.com

Shauna Ryanne: http://shaunaryanne.weebly.com

Caroline Pierce: https://twitter.com/caroline_pierce

Jasmine Mendez: http://laughinglatina.weebly.com/

xo

Mistress T

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Loan $ to a worthwhile cause & get FREE PORN!

Okay, this is huge.

Have you wanted to join my members site but couldn’t for any of the following reasons:

1. You don’t have extra money to spend on porn?

2. Your wife or girlfriend might see it on your credit card statement & give you a hard time (even though I have discreet billing, I know it’s still scary for some.)

3. You don’t have a credit card? (But you could pay by paypal if I accepted it, which I don’t)

I have an AMAZING solution for you!

You can now “loan” money through a charitable organization called Kiva & I will give you the equivalent in free time on my site. In other words, you’ll donate money to a good cause (that YOU choose) but you’ll actually get the money back (because it’s a loan) AND you’ll get free porn for it.

Now bare with me as I get this rolling. You’ll need to actually email me the receipt for the money you loaned/donated via Kiva & I will manually have to set you up with a membership on my site so if loads of guys do this it might take me a couple days to get back to you, but don’t worry, you’ll get your free porn.

Here’s step-by-step easy instructions:

1. Go to http://www.kiva.org/about (I suggest you watch their info vid so you understand a little more about this charitable organization).

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2. Choose who you want to donate money to by clicking “Lend” in to top left corner & scrolling through the many worthwhile applicants (I chose to support a couple of women in 3rd world countries who were trying to start businesses).

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Choose to lend where you like, women, conflict areas, education, etc.

Choose to lend where you like, women, conflict areas, education, etc.

3. Loan the money. You can pay via paypal. If your wife, girlfriend or anyone else sees this you will look like a saint, helping a charitable organization. They’ll never know you’re also a porn pervert who will now have access to amazing jerk off material because of your good deed!

4. Send me an email with proof that you’ve done it: MsT@MistressT.net (You can request a username/password)

I’ll give you the equivalent in time on my site. I suggest a minimum of $50 for 1 month of premium access (streaming & downloading). Remember, this is a LOAN, you will get the money back at some point. So if you’re really too tight on money right now to buy porn or GIVE to charity at least know that you’re money is doing good until it comes back to you. And your reward for sharing what little you do have: free porn! Win-win.

If discretion is required you can create a new email address in gmail or whatever to email me…but know that whatever email address you use to email me I will not add it to any mailing list. You will not get anything unsolicited from me. Just confirmation your account has been set up.

Cool, right?

Questions, comments or concerns? If possible, please use the comments function on this blog in case others have the same question & would benefit from seeing the answer. Thanks!

Mistress T

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Black bull next week!

Mistress T jerking off black stud.

Ka-pow! Splooge all over your face!

Mistress T with black slave.

Ebony and ivory…

I will do a big post about my Greece trip with Meggerz soon…This is just a heads up that my black bull will be visiting me next week. So if you have a custom vid request or if you want to serve over web cam or in person in Vancouver (filmed or in private) email ASAP: MsT@MistressT.net

xo

Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
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