Step up your jerk off game!

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Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

I’ve been having awesome sex with a tantra guy recently who practices ‘not’ ejaculating. This is a part of the whole tantra thing, for guys anyway. Not me. I cum all I want…but I’m supposed to support him in not cumming. That’s certainly new for me…I’m REALLY good at making guys cum. Ha ha.

So I’ve been thinking about my fans & ‘edging’. I’ve blogged about this before & created vids designed to guide you through edging exercises. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off, building it up again, backing off & repeating several times until finally blowing your top. The result? A more intense orgasm & increased orgasm control which is helpful when you’re trying to please your lover sexually.

I’ve also read some interesting articles on the value of not coming for longer periods of time, days or even weeks. I won’t get into that now but will focus more on shorter-term orgasm control. Watching my vids is great during this process. Why? Because I want to sell you vids, obviously. Hey, I’m not running a charity here! Okay, seriously, watch whatever porn you want but you might find it easier to stick to me, feeling like we have a relationship & we’re on this journey together. You’ll know what to expect from me & will likely be able to control things better. If you search “orgasm control” in either my clips store or members site you’ll find a variety of vids appropriate for this exercise.

Clips store: clips4sale.com/23869

Members site: MistressT.net

This isn’t about abstinence. This isn’t about denying your sexual urges. This is about playing with your sexual energy and harnessing your sexual power. This is about making your jerk off adventures more interesting & fulfilling. This is about making you a better lover should the opportunity arise.

Here’s a quote from tantra guru Richard Ankhara:

“Don’t take it past 70% of the pleasure point, until you’re experienced. Keep breathing deeply, in through the nose, out through pursed lips. If you get too close, breathe out fast through your mouth, and suck the navel toward the spine pulling up the diaphragm. Visualize the sexual energy moving up from the pubic bone to either the heart or the third eye. Once you’ve been doing it for a few minutes, try clenching your pelvic floor muscles on your inhalation, then relaxing them during your exhalation.
Ta-da, that’s the fundamentals of sexual tantra for men.”

So, my darlings…here’s your homework assignment: practice edging & orgasm control. Pay close attention to how you feel. If you would like to share your experience with me feel free to email me or even better: make a comment here on my blog & share with others. Obviously, this is fantastic for those who struggle with premature ejaculation but really, the energy work is great for any man.

Happy hand-humping!

xo

Mistress T

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10 thoughts on “Step up your jerk off game!”

  1. I’ll be honest. I masturbate more than once every day of my life. I have rarely missed a day when i masturbated since i discovered it.
    Although i like to edge and control my orgasm as i masturbate, i find it hard to control my orgasm over a long term. The longest I’ve been without orgasm in the last years is just over 2 days.
    But here’s the thing, that orgasm after those two days was one of the most intense I’ve ever experienced, i can still remember the feeling now, like a great build up of pressure finally being vented.
    I know the longer i go without orgasm, the better they are. Your blog has inspired me to go for “quality over quantity”, i hope can succeed and encourage others to comment on here and be honest about how much they masturbate.

  2. HI MISTRESS T, I just started following you on TWITTER and your BLOG. I just read UR latest BLOG and was wondering if you have any suggestions for the OPPOSITE of PREMATURE EJACULATION?
    It wasn’t bad when I was young, but as I get older, It becomes exausting. It seems like I find myself just quiting after the woman is satisfied, but they seem OFFENDED that they were unable to bring me to climax. It’s impossible trying to explain that it’s not them. Just wondering if you have any words of wisdom from your vast experience.
    THAIGER

    • I’m not an expert…but I’ve had some success with guys going on a strictly ‘lighter touch only’ masturbation regime. Sounds obvious…but basically they are only allowed to masturbate to a lighter touch/less intense grip, for as long as it takes for them to cum that way. Sometimes it means weeks without ejaculation, but eventually (probably months of dedicated practice) they are finally reprogrammed enough to be able to cum sooner, with less work.

    • WOW!!! I never in a million years would have considered a “LIGHTER TOUCH”,… I’m UNCIRCUMCISED and as a result, pretty sensitive at the start, so my USUAL HARD BANGING would explain why its more difficult to orgasm, the longer I take. That’s GREAT ADVICE. I’ll be sending a little TRIBUTE as a TOKEN of THANKS!!! 😉

  3. I agree. Sort of. Edging for hours on end builds great orgasms. It greatly reduces penis sensitivity. This is very pronounced in circumcised men. The result can be difficulty ejaculating and/or maintaining an erection through vaginal sex.

  4. I have been practicing edging for quite a while now, I don’t allow myself to cum in front of the computer, I want to save my energy for pleasing my GF. It has helped me to last longer with her – sometimes when she is on top, I practice deep breathing & concentrate on staying hard for her pleasure. The best experience is when she cums while riding me & I don’t cum, she ‘falls’ forward on me & can just watch & feel her trembling as she cums on top of me, because I am completely ‘sober’ (very aroused, but not cumming). I just breathe deep & repeat to myself ‘I am Rock Hard for HER Pleasure’ It Feels soo good to please her this way.

    I was sad to hear of the passing of gaspman, The first vids I purchased from lick-my-ass.com (now Clubstiletto) featured goddess Ambrosia with Gaspman. must have been over 10 years ago.

    I love the way that you are always calm & soft – spoken, but always in so much control in your videos, the loud, screaming cussing doms are a turn-off for me now.

    I Will buy some of your edging vids & continue practicing to better please my GF.

    Thanks,
    a long time fan.

  5. Hi Mistress.

    I used to masturbate daily, then I started an online relationship with a Mistress who was very much into orgasm denial and chastity. She insisted on it and I went along with it.

    That was a number of years ago and although I am currently single and without a dominant woman in my life I still keep up chastity.
    I edge myself a number of times a week and normally orgasm once a week. Every so often when feeling more sunmissive I push myself harder.

    Today, as I write this is 4 weeks since my last orgasn, I purposely kept today free and have spent it edging without cumming. This evening I will allow myself a ruined orgasm, followed by a second and third ruined orgasm without a break between.

    I’m not to sure why I do it, but I do know when I finally cum it is far far more amazing than when I was cumming daily. I like the idea of control, even if it’s self control.

    Thanks for all you do, you’re a wonderful woman.
    Love Mike xx

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