Update and stuff


It’s been a year since my last blog post. And what a year it has been.

For the casual observer, things probably look fine. For the careful observer, you likely know that things have been very different for me during the pandemic. I have not been seeing fans in person for sessions or filming. I have changed my business model to focus mostly on my fan page: https://www.loyalfans.com/Mistress-T

That has been amazing for the fans who have used it but it’s not for everyone, I suppose. It’s also more about giving a lot of attention to fewer fans for a profit, rather than giving free attention to many more fans (like twitter).

But anyway. How ya been? Alright? Been a bit rough?

I turned 45 in April and didn’t make a big announcement about it but received some lovely gifts and tributes from fans. Much appreciated. Gift cards for Etsy helped me pick up a few new things for my summer wardrobe while supporting small business owners.

From October 2020 until early summer I focused on writing my 2nd book. A fiction. It was tremendously good for my mental health to have a creative project to focus on. I would often walk solo in the woods trying to work out some snag in the story line or some pickle the main character got herself into. I had three people read it and give feedback. I made changes and it is now in the hands of a very good, but busy editor. When she’s done I will present it to some publishers. I had been advised to seek a literary agent but upon more research that may not be the right strategy, though I’m still open to it. I wrote the book to be easily adapted to a screen play for a movie or TV series. Ideally I would find a literary agent that does all of that and so far I’ve only found agents that don’t work with screenplays. It’s all a learning experience and I welcome any advice from those in the know.

I’ve been double vaccinated so have been able to relax a bit, especially with case numbers being lower where I am…but with the Delta variant and numbers going back up I am unsure what the future holds? So no travel plans to see fans at this time and not really seeing fans locally either. Financially I don’t need to. I realize many “service providers” need to meet fans in person to make a living but since that’s not the case for me it’s hard to justify the potential risk. I have made a couple of exceptions for dinner dates with vaccinated fans and may continue to do that. If there is a chance of meeting me, you being vaccinated is a non-negotiable.

We’re all bloody tired of talking about the pandemic, aren’t we?

So I’m still here. I’m trying to enjoy life. Spending more time in rivers this summer with a few good friends. I have had a couple of new lovers which has been…lovely. I’ve been doing a bit of gardening, riding my bicycle around, hanging out with my pet Lovebird. Things are good for me.

I’m not as active as I once was but who could keep up that pace for so many years? I created over 2000 vids. It’s time to slow down and enjoy life. I know that’s not good news for those who want me to keep churning out content or for those desperate to session with me in person…but hopefully for those who see me more as a human than just a content creator or service provider, you’ll smile knowing that I’m putting self care before the job.

There’s lots of women out there who very much want to see you and want your business. I know, I’m special, but for what you need I’m not the only one. So save your begging. If you have a nearly unlimited budget and respectful demeanor, sure, message me. Maybe, when it’s safe we can meet. But if you’re just looking for a regular session at a reasonable rate, you’ll need to look elsewhere.

That’s my little update for now. I have no idea when the new book will be available as I’m not planning to self publish this one, the time line is out of my control. I’ll make announcements here, twitter and on my fan page.

Keep on keeping on my darlings.


Mistress T


How not to talk to women…

Okay...if a girl is already showing you her tits it's okay to say they're nice...

Okay…if a girl is already showing you her tits it’s okay to say they’re nice…

“Show me your tits” is a classic zero-class thing to say to a woman that will produce no positive result.

A female friend of mine was recently harassed in an alley at night while she was taking her garbage out. Three drunk guys told her to show them her tits. It reminded me of a great way to help men understand how very unwelcome that kind of attention is.

I’m talking to you guys…imagine that you’re walking down an alley at night & you encounter a few guys (bigger, tougher guys than you). They shout out ‘a compliment’: “Hey, nice ass!”. Before you can even react they follower it up with: “How bout you take your pants down & show us that ass.”

You then realize you’re in the roughest part of the gay part of town & these are tough, leather daddy homosexuals, drunk & feeling brave & horny in their group. You realize that if these guys decide they want to have you, you would likely not be able to fight them off. You realize that they’re likely quick to anger & could take you if you insult them.

How do you feel? What do you do?

(If this happens to be your sexual fantasy, to be gang-banged in an alley by some rough gay dudes please substitute them for something you’re NOT into sexually but threatened by…I don’t know, an auditor, divorce lawyer, Donald Trump, whatever.)

Most guys say they would love women to shout out cat calls to them, they think putting themselves in the women’s position is switching roles…but the key to understanding how a woman feels is to know that you could likely not fight off the unwanted advances of the person who is ‘complimenting’ you.

Make sense?

So, don’t cat call or shout at women from your cars, women walking down the street, etc. No positive outcome can be expected. At best it’s annoying to her, more often it feels threatening/scary for her. She’s not going to walk up to you & ask you to fuck her because you told her she has a nice shitter.

There are times when it’s appropriate to compliment a woman you don’t know but do it with grace: compliment her eyes, hair, outfit/style, laugh, smile, energy, (not her tits or ass). Do not act offended if she doesn’t respond the way you would like. Even if your intentions are good & your approach is ace, she does not owe you a positive response. You are not entitled to her gratitude. However she reacts, handle it with grace. Don’t get pissy & insult her if she doesn’t respond how you would like. You have no idea what she is going through in that moment or what she has been through before. Again, I can’t stress this enough: she does not owe you the response you want.

I know it’s a tough world out there…people can seem cold, it’s hard to make genuine connections, you might be lonely & craving human interaction…you might be desperately horny. I could list potential ways to meet people but this post is about how to NOT talk to women so I’ll keep it on point & leave it there. Treat women the way you would want men to treat your sister, mother, daughter or respected & cherished female friends.


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Oh, the intrigue!


I recently received an email from a mysterious admirer. He explained that he had been a fan for years & with little notice found himself in Vancouver for a couple of days. He asked if I would join him for breakfast the next day at the restaurant at his hotel. He explained that discretion was paramount. He had created that email address for this one use & it would not be checked so if I was able to come just arrive at 11am & tell the hostess I was meeting a gentleman. If I was not able to join him he understood.

He also offered a generous ‘honorarium’ for the pleasure of my company & made it clear that he was only interested in conversation.

Naturally, I was intrigued.

I arrived at the opulent hotel, went to the restaurant, told the hostess I was meeting a gentleman, she said she was expecting me & guided me to a concealed booth tucked away in the back.

It was all so very cliche, it made me laugh.

I found myself sitting across from a man most of you would likely know. Awestruck, I tried to stay composed. I understand too well how uncomfortable fame can be. He was disarming, charming, a perfect gentleman. I soon forgot who I thought he was & got to know who he really is. He had been reading my blog for years & was more of a fan of that than my vids. He confessed that he really wasn’t into most of what I create. We talked about what he did like & more about what he didn’t understand. Why some men are into some of the more extreme things that I do. We talked about politics, he was amused at how passionate I am about Canadian & American politics…we talked about charities & he expressed his amazement at my Kiva micro-loan (for free porn) idea.

He told me that he has long had an interest in fetish literature & that the main reason he wanted to meet me was to encourage me to write a book. He felt that I had the skill & the experience to produce something so much better than the insulting rubbish of 50 Shades of Grey.

It was a wonderful meeting, one I’ll never forget.

With Canadian Thanksgiving just this past weekend I’d like to express my gratitude for my awesome life. For having the opportunities to meet very interesting people & have fascinating conversations. For having a business that gives me the flexibility to live my life however I want. I am grateful for the special people in my life, for my health, for living in a safe, clean place.

I am grateful to all of my supportive fans. You are a huge part of what makes my life awesome. Thank you.


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Do I remind you of anyone?

Mistress T in heels and mini skirt.

Girl next door?

Over the years I’ve had a lot of guys tell me that I remind them of someone from their real lives. I’m not sure how common this is for sex workers/Pro Dommes/escorts, etc.?

Often it’s an ex girlfriend or a love interest from their past. There is an element of nostalgia in these encounters. They sometimes fantasize that they are reuniting with a grown up version of a teenage love from 20 years ago or so. In one situation I was able to help a guy work through some issues he had had over a relationship that didn’t end well. By playing the role of this woman I could give a different perspective of events, how she may have felt, etc.

I’ve had at least a couple of guys say that I look similar to their current wives. One fella liked to be cuckolded by me & imagine that I was his wife. He wanted so badly to see his wife fuck other men but she wasn’t into it. He lived out those fantasies with me.

Imagine I'm your wife...getting fucked by another man...

Imagine I’m your wife…getting fucked by another man…

I’ve had guys say that I remind them of their aunt, mom or mothers friend. Someone they had a crush on when they were younger. Sometimes a school teacher or someone in an authoritative position. We role play fantasies that would have been too taboo to play out otherwise.

Mistress T in a business suit.

Did you do your homework???

Men are very visual & I understand they often like a certain ‘look’. I’ve kept basically the same hair style & haven’t gotten tattoos & piercings like a lot of my friends. Partly because of my job, for those who fantasize I’m a 1940’s pin-up model or Hollywood actress. Or to make it easier for those who are pretending I’m someone else. I don’t mind though. I like my look.

I find it fascinating that men can imagine that I am someone else, someone who meant or means something special to them. That I can help them fulfill fantasies or work through unresolved issues. This is one of the more interesting parts of my work.

Do I remind you of someone? Or are you a woman in a similar line of work who gets told by a lot of men that you remind them of someone? Feel free to share in the comments!

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Merry Ho…Ho:-)

Click the link below to see the free vid.

Click the link below to see the free vid.

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Happy (whatever you celebrate)! …or in some cases…it may not be happy. For some this time may be dull, lonely or even depressing. Some of you will have some happy moments but will also have extra time on your hands with vacation time from work.

I am sensitive to the fact that this is not necessarily a happy time for some of you. In an attempt to escape those unhappy moments you may choose to spend more time masturbating to porn. I’m not a therapist (I just play one in adult vids) but masturbating may not be the worst thing you could so for yourself right now. So I always release a few extra vids during this time & I release at least a couple special ones that I think many guys will really love.

I also made this casual little free vid (see above) to hopefully give you a warm feeling & put a smile on your face. It’s been scientifically proven that the act of smiling, even if forced, releases some of those happy chemicals that lift your mood. So maybe watch some comedy stuff too?

As the vid says: “Thank you for being a fan…& take care of you.”

Big love,

Mistress T

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Ass Worship!


Since “Kim K” has plastered the internet with her butt recently & “the bottom” is top of a lot of people’s minds right now, I decided to do a blog post about my rear-end.

Women in my family tend to have pretty big cabooses. Growing up I always looked at those butts with dread because the women in my family complained about them so much. It seemed like a curse. I never heard anyone say that a big bum was a good thing.

As my womanly curves developed I was a bit sensitive about my more ample bottom. I certainly didn’t view it as a positive thing. My family, society & the media had all told me that a large derriere was something to be embarrassed of. Well, except for Sir Mix-A-Lot, he couldn’t lie about his love for big butts…but I thought it was a parody. Any compliments I received I laughed off like people were just being funny or patronizing.

It wasn’t until I got into the adult business that I really understood that not only was my butt great the way it is…but that it didn’t matter what your figure was, guys like all sorts of figures. Some guys like skinny ladies, some like bigger gals, some like Asian, black or blonde…you get the point. Being sexy is so much more than just the measurement of a certain area of your body.

I’ve learned to love my butt…after thousands of compliments over the years. I wish every woman could experience that. It’s a shame that the media & society has brainwashed so many women to believe that they aren’t sexy just because they don’t look like runway models or Penthouse Pets. So here’s a nod to Kim for at least making big booty a more mainstream thing. Bottoms up!

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Here's a little inspiration to not get behind in your worshiping. Ha, 'behind'. I slay me.

Here’s a little inspiration to not get behind in your worshiping. Ha, ‘behind’. I slay me.

Are you an ass man?

Are you an ass man?

That magnificent ass...

That magnificent ass…


Looks like an ass you'd like to kiss, right?

Looks like an ass you’d like to kiss, right?

MistressT saddle up

Saddle up!

MistressT latex panties

Under that juicy ass!

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The thrill of exposure

As you can imagine, I get a whole lot of interesting mail. Lots of confessions. Sometimes I’m the only one who knows the darkest secrets certain men hold.

Well, not this one: “Stef” is all about the exposure. He wants the world to know that he’s a dirty, cock-loving little fag boy. This is not a drunken whim, Stef has been emailing me consistently for weeks begging for this, he has paid me to do this and I’m not the first Domme he’s done this with. So, without further adieu I present Stef’s filthy pics & excerpts from his emails to me. Some of you may find this fascinating…and if you find it arousing & want to do the same, by all means contact me, prepared to pay for the privilege.




Stef: “I hope to make a movie with you, i dream of your strapon in my ass :). I’m really serious when i invite you in Montpellier (one oh the best town in France said the New York Times!)”

Well Stef, I just might do that. I love France.

Stef: “In virtual: i would like to be denounced as a homosexual. be exposed on internet. You know i play the straight man in normal life, girls are looking at me. i had a girlfriend 2years ago but she discovered that i had sucked cock and offered my ass to men while i was with her because she saw pics on my cell phone. she insulted me, i was humiliated but she didn’t imagine all the things i did (wearing her panties or clothes and being fucked by men like that). So she left me and since this time, i went to gay bar more and more.
I’ve seen her 1 month before because i had some things to her since we were together. this day i weared a tight pants but she didn’t talk about it, i don’t know if she guesses that i’m addict to cocks now..”

Stef: “Please expose me as the pathetic lyer i was. I used an innocent girl in order to protect my social reputation of “straight man”. But i’m not a man anymore, don’t u think? While she was at work, i cheated. She didn’t understand why i was touching her less and less. She couldn’t imagine that her “Camille” was a bastard who was craving cocks more than her pussy. Close to the end of our relationship, i was becoming more and more impotent. For example, one evening she called me and invited me to join her in her apartment. I came and she was wearing sexy clothes, she was gorgeous and she wanted to have sex with me. But my dick stayed soft and she was disappointed. She didn’t know that, during all the afternoon she was working, my ass was pounding by 3 men who chummed inside me like the real whore i am.”

To the rest of my readers…use the comments section to share your opinions on this sort of thing. Are you interested in reading about another guy’s exploits/experiences? Does his exposure do anything for you? Or is this sort of exposure a completely selfish act for ol’ Stef…who no one really gives a damn about anyway? Thoughts?

If you want to follow or communicate with Stef here’s his twitter account:

https://twitter.com/Subqueer (Stef Queer Bitch)

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Name & shame…sort of.

"Why would you NOT mention WHERE you want to meet me??? Why?!"

“Why would you NOT mention WHERE you want to meet me??? Why?!”

Avid readers of my blog probably know that geography is important to me when it comes to inquiries to meet…yet many of the inquiries (for private sessions or film slave applications) make no reference to a location. It’s frustrating to read a long email, to reply asking for the city & have the response be some obscure place I’ve never been, have no plans to go to & the applicant has no intention of coming to meet me.

Below is an example of such a communication that happens frequently EXCEPT this is also an example of a clearly mentally unstable person who seemed fine at first & then goes psycho. I don’t need to post this persons email address because what he requests is so specific & unique any Domme reading this will remember it & never accept a session with this hateful, unbalanced person.

Greetings Mistress T,

I’ll save you the long and overly articulated email, as it states you desire in your blog.

–I have never seen a mistress before, but your beauty is too spellbinding to resist.
–I’m deeply into ballbusting as I had a testicle removed as a baby, and it fucked my head all up as a child.
–I desire a caring, or “motherly” type of approach to ballbusting; I’m not into humiliation or abuse, but rather affectionate and sympathetic infliction of testicular pain.
— That being said, I would still happily comply with the requirements you have set for your clients: addressing you as you desire, me being addressed as you desire, etc.

Do my desires fit within your style for a ballbusting session?  What is a “donation” for a session like this?

Thanks much,


NOTE: He sounds great in his first email. He mentions that he reads my blog …but I guess he missed the parts where I harp on about guys not communicating clearly by telling me WHERE they want to meet me. So I respond with:

$x for x minutes in Vancouver…if that’s where you’re hoping to see me?

Mistress T

Mistress T,

I saw that you’re in Vancouver (beautiful city!), and I was hoping you might have a travel schedule, as I’m in Denver.  Though if you are stay put in Vancouver, then I might have to plan a trip.  Although if I do that, considering travel and lodging, I might have to go the on-camera model route, if that’s of interest to you.  Otherwise, I’m in Vegas quite a bit, if you’re ever there.

NOTE: Now I’m annoyed. I’m not going to Denver or Vegas in the foreseeable future. IF he comes to Vancouver he won’t be able to afford to pay for a session. So maybe I should have just not responded but I think the question is valid…so I asked:
“Why would you have not mentioned location in your 1st email?”

That’s all I wrote. Just that question. At which points he shows another side to himself:

Christ you mistresses are all the same.  Are you even human?  What the hell’s the difference?  I do a lot of traveling and I can make it to Vancouver if I need to.  I want to thank you for reminding me why I’ve had no desire to see a domme in the first place.  Have a great time in that fantasy world of yours where low lifes lick your boots.  Sounds very fulfilling–your parents must be so proud. 

NOTE: My parents are actually very proud of me & yes, they know what I do…but it’s interesting that so many people fall back on that insult. I hope in the future a person can freely choose to do adult work without the stigma that’s attached to it. Here’s a great article about this topic…I’d really like all of you to read it: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/what-i-want-to-know-is-why-you-hate-porn-stars/Content?oid=19094602

So, fellow Dommes out there…beware of a guy requesting a ‘motherly’ ballbusting session (1 testicle, in Denver). He’s a nutter.

For the rest of you, for the love of fucking god, tell me what city you are inquiring about when you write about meeting me. I live in Vancouver. I go to the UK a couple times of year. Other than that my travel is random & I don’t “tour”…so no, I’m not randomly going to be in Michigan, Toronto, Italy or Argentina.

Don't be fooled by cute-ness!

Don’t be fooled by cute-ness!

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What will you do…?

Me about 8 years ago when I first got into the business...one of the only pics where you can see my braces!

Me about 8 years ago when I first got into the business…one of the only pics where you can see my braces!

About 8 years ago (about 30 years old) when I started I was already old by industry standards...but you wouldn't have known it.

About 8 years ago (about 30 years old) when I started I was already old by industry standards…but you wouldn’t have known it.

The two most common questions I get asked are:

“How did you get into this?” (As in, how did I become Mistress T, a Dominatrix & adult film performer/producer.)


“What are you going to do…ya know, after?” (As in, what will you do when you’re too old to do this?)

For the first question I created this blog. If you read it from the beginning you will learn the whole interesting story of how I got here. I still get asked a lot but usually I redirect people to my blog for the full story & just give them the super condensed version.

The older I get, the more frequently I get the second question. At 38 I’m already a dinosaur in the porn biz. I know, I look younger and my audience tends to be drawn to “MILF’s” or more mature women but still, there is an expiry date in this profession unlike those who work as doctors or lawyers who can continue to practice when their 80 if they feel like it. It doesn’t matter how they look.

The short answer to the question is simply that I don’t know…and the hippie response is that we can’t really know. It’s one thing to have a plan, but life can throw all kinds of curve balls, good or bad. If you even consider curve balls to be either good or bad…but then I’m really doubling-down on the hippie talk.

I had a whole different life before I got into the adult biz. 12 years ago I would never have imagined I would be where I am. I seriously had no idea. I thought I would probably continue in the office world, climbing the corporate ladder. Sales/marketing, eventually management. Life threw me a few unexpected curve balls and one thing led to another. Here I am.

I love what I do & I have no plans to stop anytime soon…I’ll do this for as long as I want to & for as long as I make a living doing it. That depends on my looks but it also depends on the market & how much file sharing impacts revenues for producers…and I suppose there are other factors I haven’t even thought of. Remember: curve balls.

Sometimes when people ask about my future I know they’re really asking about finances. It’s a personal question that’s not really anyone’s business. We’ve all heard the sad stories of 40 year old strippers or porn stars who blew all their money & have nothing. Similar stories for football players or rock stars I suppose? The adult industry isn’t the only one that pays the young well because their careers are shorter than most.

The obvious answer is to move into more of a producer role, creating content with other people…and that is possible…but only if file sharing or other factors don’t impact the industry so much that money just can’t be made that way. Or maybe I’ll do something else altogether? I had a whole life before this & as a result of my varied experience I have a whole list of transferable skills. I’d love to do work that felt like it was making a positive difference in the world, to help others or our planet. I’m a little bit hippie.

Even if I am financially able to retire I won’t. I enjoy having structure & purpose. I enjoy accomplishing things & being productive.

So for now, I’m here for the long haul. Fear not. Fear not for yourself as you won’t be losing me anytime soon and fear not for me. I have always done well & I’m sure that will always be the case.

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Another pic from about 8 years ago. Fresh on the scene & no idea that Mistress T would become internationally known in the FemDom community. I just had fun & didn't worry about the future:-)

Another pic from about 8 years ago. Fresh on the scene & no idea that Mistress T would become internationally known in the FemDom community. I just had fun & didn’t worry about the future:-)


Blinded, so you can see…

Why this pic? Because he's wearing sunglasses (like a blind guy)...but also because his character helped many of us to empathize with someone (a 'cook') we may have never thought we would empathize with. Walk a mile in someone's shoes...

Why this pic? Because he’s wearing sunglasses (like a blind guy)…but also because his character helped many of us to empathize with someone (a ‘cook’) we may have never thought we would empathize with. Walk a mile in someone’s shoes…

I recently took a friend to an interesting restaurant called “Dark Table“. It’s one of those places where you eat in complete darkness & all the waiters are blind. Have you heard of these places? They are also in other cities like London, Paris, New York & Montreal.

The unique concept is to give the diner the experience of being blind…to empathize with the visually impared & also to note how other senses are enhanced when you can’t see.

I was really excited about trying this place but as soon as we were led into the pitch dark room by our server I felt like I had made a mistake. Sitting in the darkness trying to get my bearings I even felt slight panic. I found my eyes playing tricks on me. I kept thinking I saw light out of the corner of my eye, but there wasn’t any. My friend said the same thing.

I felt around in front of me & identified a little plastic butter packet, plate, fork & knife. The waiter brought a basket of bread & offered us each a piece of bread. He did that by pushing the basket against my breast & holding it there. It was rather ‘familiar’ to have this stranger in the dark holding a basket of bread against my boob & I wondered how much of an accident it was?

My friend & struggled buttering our bread in the dark & I laughed at how this must look…but when I realized no one could see I gave up caring how evenly the butter was smeared.

When the salad came I found the food kept falling off my fork. I worried there was going to be salad everywhere like when a 2 year old eats & flails food all over the place. I then brought the bowl up to my face & started shoveling the food into my mouth. Table manners? Gone! I had food all over my chin & said fuck it as I literally licked the bowl clean.

All the while my friend & I are trying to carry on a normal conversation while also discussing the food & trying to figure out what we were eating. Did the blindness effect the taste of the food? I think it was meant to, and it was delicious but it wasn’t profound or anything like that.

The drinks came & I was surprised they actually gave me a real wine glass (as he pushed it against my breast). I half expected a sippy cup or something. I was so glad to have wine that I protected that wine glass like breaking it would have cost me a limp.

The salad was a surprise (& not just because he also pushed it against my boob) but the main course we chose before coming into the dark so we knew what to expect, more or less. The big plate of hot food seemed daunting when I realized the food wasn’t pre-cut into bite sizes. I brought a large chunk of potato up to my mouth & struggled to get it all in like an idiot. It was a fucking potato, I just needed to bite it but I was afraid that the part I didn’t get in my mouth would drop & cause some kind of carnage. I imagined it hitting the other food on the plate & splashing god know what all over me or it might ricochet off & hit my wine glass. There was no fucking way I was going to let that happen.

I struggled through the main course with food all over my face & hands even though I was trying to use my utensils. I had been going at it for several minutes before I discovered a green string bean that I had no idea was on my plate. I wondered what else I had missed?

There was still a lot of food on my plate (and everywhere else) by the time I gave up & let the waiter take my plate away. He didn’t touch my boob that time. Probably because he suspected it was covered in food shrapnel.

The dessert came & I only had one bite. I was full & tired of the struggle. It tasted too sweet. I just finished my wine. At this time one of the other diners turned the light on her phone for some reason & I thought there was going to be riot as the other diners yelled at her. My friend, desperate for information asked what I saw from my angle when the light went on. How big was the place, etc.? Hilarious.

We were led to a dimly lite room to pay the bill & then left. I’m glad I went & I would recommend it but I doubt I’ll return.

What I loved about the experience is that it got me thinking about what it would really be like to be someone else for a day? There have been movies done on that concept. Mrs. Doubtfire & Tootsie (men experiencing what it’s like to be a woman), Trading Places (The rich experiencing what it’s like to be poor & vice versa), etc.

Empathy is the capacity to recognize emotions that are being experienced by another sentient or fictional being. One may need to have a certain amount of empathy before being able to experience accurate sympathy or compassion.”

I encourage you to take a moment today & put yourself in someones shoes. Even better if it’s someone that you would normally dislike or judge. A different gender, sexual orientation, race, economic position, weight, health, etc. There are always going to be people who have it better than you & people who are going to have it worse…and you can always find something to feel thankful for. A dose of empathy & gratitude is a good thing *smile*.

Mistress T

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