A couple of Netflix Documentaries to watch…

I recently watched a couple of documentaries on Netflix that were recommended to me. “Hot Girls Wanted” and “Love Me”.

I know most of my readers aren’t here for documentary reviews, but bare with me.

“Love Me” is a documentary about American men seeking love and Ukraine women seeking marriage and a life in America, both using an introduction service to meet. Kind of the ‘mail-order bride’ thing, but more in depth. They followed about a dozen guys through the process and frankly I found the whole thing fascinating. Also sad in some ways. Sad because it reminded me of how many lonely people there are in this world who want nothing more than companionship.

The American men were mostly ‘conventially’ unattractive. Heavy set or obese, awkward social skills, etc. but had at least a decent amount of money. The Ukrainian women tended to be very attractive physically but often spoke little or no English. Both parties had an interest in family, which was the commonality that brought them together.

I confess, it made me uncomfortable. The imbalance of physical attractiveness was often so acute. How in most cases nothing else seemed to matter to the men except looks, they didn’t seem to care about personality or compatibility…or even whether or not the woman was even interested in them. To be fair, the two couples who ended up getting married and living in the US seemed genuinely happy with each other. Down right adorable to be honest. I couldn’t help wondering what sex was like? Did the women genuinely enjoy sex with these guys? Some women don’t care what a guy looks like (I’ve had some fantastic sex with guys who were…well, NOT pretty…hell, I’ve been known to say that ugly guys try harder in bed) and some women feel better about themselves having sex with guys who aren’t as good looking. So I know looks tend to be less important to women than men…but we’re talking a pretty wide gap here in both looks & personality. They weren’t charasmatic, charming, but just average looking dudes.

The guy…I wonder if during sex he’s just thinking “Wahoo!” Or if he’s looking down past his giant, hairy gut & double chin at this super model who doesn’t speak English and thinks “if I hadn’t basically paid for this she would never have had sex with me”. Not in the prostitute-by-the-hour way, but in the living with each other and having children together kind of way. How would he ever know if their love was ‘real’? Maybe it doesn’t matter if both parties are getting what they want? Right now I wish Ceara Lynch was here to discuss this. Maybe we’ll get lucky & she’ll comment below with her perspective. I feel like this topic is more of a discussion peice than a monologue.

Moving right along, “Hot Girls Wanted” is a documentary about amateur girls, usually 18-22 getting into the porn business. I found a fair bit of this shocking but that’s what they were likely going for: the shock factor, especially with the violent niche stuff (facial abuse, etc.). Although I have an adult business I have been quite sheltered, living in Canada and within my niche of FemDom Fetish porn.  I have basically zero personal experience in the mainstream porn world. I got into this business around the age of 30 and was never exploited. I didn’t do it because I needed money, although the money was nice. I didn’t do it to get famous, I never wanted to be a porn ‘star’. That seemed to be the main motivator for the girls in this documentary: money, to make it ‘big’ (they loved the attention/compliments/ego stroking) and often they wanted a way out of their small town.

What I struggle with here is that the girls are so young and naive, they are so easily taken advantage of, often encouraged to do things they aren’t comfortable with. The agents/producers seem to use them very hard, knowing that they’ll probably be in and out of the business in a year or less. But this is what the market demands. Men watching this type of mainstream porn seem to want an unending supply of young new faces and for them to be used hard, broken.

I don’t imply these are unwilling victims. These girls answer ads for this kind of work, they walk in with their eyes open. They are compensated fairly (it seems). It’s just unfortunate that so many of these girls are simply too young & inexperienced to really make an informed decision…and that YOUNG & INEXPERIENCED is what guys want so badly.

I have been in complete control of every sex scene I’ve done, with the exception of the 2 scenes I did for Kink.com’s Divine Bitches. Happily, I was attracted to and liked both of the male performers I had sex with in those scenes and everyone treated me with the upmost respect. I was given the option to use condoms and have sex in any way that I wanted. In a way, the all-female team made it feel like the male performers were there as much for my pleasure as I was there to help create a quality scene that would make them money. But the nature of the situation, meeting someone minutes before having sex with them left me reluctant to do scenes like that again…and I haven’t. I knew I got lucky there, that it wouldn’t always be like that with other producers. There was a risk of getting into uncomfortable situations working FOR other people and I just didn’t need to do it. Being in control of my own scenes and deciding who I had sex with was plenty profitable and better suited to my control-freak personality.

At The English Mansion it was always a collaboration. It is a true FemDom environment and all males were given to me to use as I pleased, or not, which is why I’ve filmed so much with them over the years. That is not how it is on many mainstream porn sets, so I’ve heard.

My hat off to the porn stars who have found a way to make doing porn in the mainstream work for them in the long term. I know there’s a big difference in how various companies film and it’s hard to tell as the viewer what’s good acting by a gal who’s actually into rough sex (and treated with respect off camera) versus a gal that’s been pressured into a painful, humiliating sex act because she needs the money or worse: the type of scene wasn’t actually clearly explained beforehand (in other words, if she was manipulated into a situation that would leave her traumatized).

I don’t know what advice to give you if you’re into that kind of porn? Maybe spend your money on established porn performers who seem to have their shit together? Ones who are most likely ‘acting’ and not actually doing something they don’t want to do? If anyone has tips for ethical porn consumption (for mainstream stuff) please comment below. I’d like to know.

Chances are most of you reading this are into the type of porn I produce, where women are in control. That’s good. I have surrounded myself with women who run their own businesses and call all the shots (Alexandra Snow, Ceara Lynch, Princess Meggerz, Lexi Sindel, Sidonia Von Bork, Nikki Whiplash etc.) None of whom are exploited. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting women who are doing other types of adult work but have not encountered the types of girls featured in the documentary “Hot Girls Wanted”. I guess there’s a lot I don’t know about the porn industry. If you want to be a little more informed, I recommend you watch it. Or not, If you’re easily upset by women being misused, cuz there’s enough of that in this documentary to make ya squirm.

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VLOG! Alexandra Snow, Sidonia von Bork & I.

While filming for the well-loved FemDom site “The English Mansion” I filmed a casual chat with Alexandra Snow & Sidonia von Bork.

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Free vid with Alexandra Snow, Mistress T & Sidonia Von Bork at: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Free vid with Alexandra Snow, Mistress T & Sidonia Von Bork at: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

It was wonderful to spend so much time with Sidonia in England (http://www.TheEnglishMansion.com/) who remains, as always, an inspiration. One of the most skilled, intelligent & creative Dominatrix’s I’ve had the pleasure of working with.

This week Alexandra Snow is a guest of honor at FetishCon in Florida. I am not attending this one but have attended several conventions which brought me together with peers from across the globe. It may have even been a FetishCon a few years ago where I first met & became friends with Alexandra (who resides in Ohio).

Having the opportunity to develop meaningful friendships with these strong, successful women in the same industry means a great deal to me. I’ve said it before, I can sometimes feel isolated running my business on my own with few others who understand what I do.

Speaking of friends in the same industry…I just spent a couple days in Portland with Ceara Lynch (http://www.cearalynch.com/) who showed me the HBO “Sex On” episode that featured her. I thought it was very well done, accurate & entertaining. I feel so much joy seeing my peers doing well, kicking ass in their careers and also achieving work-life balance. Ceara has just returned from 2 months traveling around Australia & New Zealand. Alexandra enjoyed exploring England recently & has been doing lots of fun & interesting things in her personal life. I was with them both in Mexico less than 6 months ago.

Also…The vicious Lexi Sindel of http://www.FemDomEmpire.com came to visit me in Vancouver recently. It was a personal visit (no filming) but I hope to get down to Vegas to film with her (again) in the next few months.

Back to Alexandra Snow…you can see us together (a rare treat!) in “Cleavage Weakness” for all you boob lovers. It’s a sexy duo jerk off instruction with lots of cleavage eye candy. Get it here now: http://clips4sale.com/23869

Alexandra Snow and Mistress T

Domina Snow & I in “Cleavage Weakness” on: http://clips4sale.com/23869

xo

Mistress T

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Vegas 2015 recap

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

I’ve survived another of our legendary Vegas trips! I had an amazing time, as always.

I cherish the relationships I have with others in this wacky industry. It means so much to have peers to discuss the unique issues that come with this business. I’m sure it’s the same for anyone, whether you’re a lawyer, work in the medical field, a teacher, a mechanic, a bar tender, a CFO, a coder, etc.  There are things about your work that only those who do the same work understand. For me living in Vancouver I’m often fairly isolated from others who understand my work. My friends are very supportive, but it’s different hanging out with those who walk the walk & talk the talk.

So these Vegas trips are great opportunities to network, meet new friends and build on the relationships I already have. Sure, we party a bit, but we also share meals & talk, go to the spa & talk, hang out & talk. It’s fun AND it feeds my soul.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room...Meggerz & I.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room…Meggerz & I.

 

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Here’s a shout out to both Kinkbomb & Clips4Sale who hosted amazing dinners & events. These events bring the community closer & it’s very much appreciated.

We has some crazy nights too...Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

We had some crazy nights too…Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo....mmm furrries:-)

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo….mmm furrries:-)

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Here’s also a shout out to The Cupcake Girls. They provide excellent free services to women in the adult industry. (Like legal advice, medical/dental, counseling, educational support, emergency services, etc.)  They have a suite at the AVN convention where gals can come get their hair or make-up done for free, get mini massages, something to eat, etc. It’s a wonderful place to connect with other ladies in the industry & a very positive way to spread the word about the good work they do.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

So, until we meet again! Thanks to the ladies who made this trip awesome. Particularly…& because your photo is here:

Princess Meggerz: www.Meggerz.com

Ceara Lynch: www.CearaLynch.com

Alexandra Snow: www.AlexandraSnow.com

Lexi Sindel: www.FemdomEmpire.com

Shauna Ryanne: http://shaunaryanne.weebly.com

Caroline Pierce: https://twitter.com/caroline_pierce

Jasmine Mendez: http://laughinglatina.weebly.com/

xo

Mistress T

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Happy New Year!

It’s the 1st day of the new year & I feel an appropriate blog post would be a ‘highlights of 2013’ post or something timely…but ya know what? I don’t have it in me to do an epic post today. How are YOU feeling today? Did you have a big night last night? Have you had a lot going on in the last couple weeks? If so, you’ll understand why this post will be fairly brief.

Last week I was in Mexico with the black stud filming & frolicking. “Frolicking”? Cut me some slack today.

Here’s one pic of us at the spa that I found funny & one screen shot from a vid we filmed last week. It’s already up on my clips store: “Prison Bitch Initiation”.

How could a caption make THIS pic even funnier than it already is? Oh, the pressure! Fuck it, just look at our faces.

How could a caption make THIS pic even funnier than it already is? Oh, the pressure! Fuck it, just look at our faces.

Screenshot from "Prison Bitch Initiation" where I guide you in the 1st of many prison blow jobs. Yup, you're the sucker.

Screenshot from “Prison Bitch Initiation” where I guide you in the 1st of many prison blow jobs. Yup, you’re the sucker.

As sanity-defying as it may seem, I am about to get on another airplane very soon. I’m Vegas-bound mid month & the only thing that keeps me from burying my head in the sand is that I’ll get to spend quality time with some of my favorite people, peers who ‘get me’ & get my crazy life. Ceara Lynch, Meggerz, Alexandra Snow, Kyaa & the list goes on.

FetishCon 2013 with Meggerx, ceara & Mistress T.

Meggerz, Ceara & I…feet up, drink in hand…

Princess Meggerz & Mistress T

Princess Meggerz & I at the convention. Nice T-shirts, eh?

I am not looking for film slaves in Vegas & I’m not taking sessions. I know, here’s a tissue. Stop crying…or make me an offer I can’t refuse. Maybe you can buy my love… I have enough filming booked already & I plan to have fun in Vegas, not just work. What I could use though, for once, is ideas. I’m supposed to be filming ‘trades’ with a few ladies & sometimes I have a hard time thinking of scene ideas when it’s just 2 Dominant ladies & no slave. If I can’t think of anything we’ll just make out I suppose. They’re hot & thousands of men want them, I might as well take advantage of that, right? Who cares if anyone buys the vids, just knowing how jealous I’ll make thousands of men will be payment enough…plus I get to smooch with hot women! Did I mention that? *slurp*

Goddess Kyaa, Mistress T & Alexandra Snow.

Goddess Kyaa, Alexandra Snow & I enjoying the spa…& each other:-)

That’s it for today folks. All the best for 2014…yadda yadda…buy my vids…don’t worry about me, I’ve just really been having too much fun & it’s catching up, don’t feel sorry for me. Unless feeling sorry for me makes you want to buy more of my vids or send me tributes…kidding. Sort of.

NOTE: I realize not everyone will ‘get’ my sense of humor but that’s okay. Just buy my vids.

Best,
Mistress T

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The LA Trip Recap!

I’m back from LA & I’m packing stories…oh, the stories!

I know a lot of you want to know how the Shane Diesel shoot went so I’ll cover that but it was only part of an action packed 5 day trip. I’ll start at the beginning…

A couple of years ago while staying at The Standard hotel in LA I randomly met a fan. He ended up driving me the next day to meet Glen King from MeanBitches to discuss us working together (I later returned & filmed with Glen’s FemDom site: MeanDungeon.com)

We’ll call him Slave Standard because of the way we met. We kept in touch over the last couple of years & he was happy to chauffeur me around this trip. He picked my girlfriend & I up from the airport & took us for lunch. I got him to tell my girlfriend about his fetishes & his real life D/s relationship with his wife. As it turns out, they are both big fans of my site & he was serving me with her full blessing.

We then went to The FemDom Empire to film a couple scenes with my beloved Deviant Kade. He’s one of the best, if not THE best ‘son’ I’ve filmed with for my family fantasy scenes. Both Slave Standard & my gal pal got a kick out of watching me fuck Kade in the ass with a strap-on & then jerk him off in a twisted Mommy/son role play scene.

Deviant Kade & I horsing around after filming. I'm sure he deserved a spanking for SOMETHING.

Deviant Kade & I horsing around after filming. I’m sure he deserved a spanking for SOMETHING.

Mistress T & Deviant Kade

Deviant Kade taking my big black dick…

After a stop at Whole Foods to stock up on snacks we were delivered to our hotel where my girlfriend & I relaxed for the evening in the jacuzzi & room. I barely slept that night, excited & nervous about my shoot with Shane Diesel in the morning.

The shoot went great. Shane is very sweet, respectful & a joy to be around. If you’re familiar with his films you may have a different idea of what he’s like in person. I was delighted to learn he loves feet, legs & licking pussy & ass. He was eager to worship me & do whatever I wanted. You’ll have to watch the vid for all the graphic stuff but I’ll put a couple teaser pics here. Yes, we did actually fuck. Yes, I did really take that huge cock, it wasn’t easy but he was gentle & skilled. That feeling of fullness is really something to behold, lemme tell ya.

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Shane Diesel’s monster cock…my little mouth…

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Shane Diesel was very fun to play with…

Moving right along…that evening my gal pal & I went for dinner with Slave Standard & his lovely wife who I made fast friends with. Domina Snow also happened to be in town so she joined us, which was awesome! After dinner Slave Standard drove my girlfriend & I to the house of a boy she had been communicating with online.

We arrived at a peculiar mansion, a real life goth-ish haunted house. Everything was black & the light from the candles & chandeliers was dim. You had to squint to make out the detail of the place. It was very high end, everything was designer or an object d’ art…but it was all black. The boy himself was covered in tattoo’s & wore heavy black eye liner. As it turned out he was a fairly famous & talented musician, artist & tattooist. I didn’t know who he was because his genre of music isn’t to my taste but he had evidently done very well for himself. His unusual home was opulent, once your eyes adjusted. I felt it was rude to take pics of his home & I knew a photograph couldn’t capture the real feeling of an all black interior but I did snap two pics, one of a taxidermy baboon & one in his bathroom which actually had a bit of light.

The house was full of crazy, cool stuff like this stuffed baboon!

The house was full of crazy, cool stuff like this stuffed baboon!

Atmospheric...beautiful & slightly creepy might describe the decor...

Atmospheric…beautiful & slightly creepy might describe the decor…

So we hung out with this interesting boy, we soaked in his gorgeous (black) jacuzzi & when things started to get intimate we moved to the bedroom…which was, yup, you guessed it: black. A huge room with ornate Victorian furniture, gorgeous artwork, a kind size bed with black satin sheets, mood lighting…he went down on my girlfriend while she rested her head on my lap…after she climaxed he said it was my turn.

*Pause* If you’re keeping track of things here you’ll note that I had been with Shane Diesel this same day. There was no fucking way anyone was going near my pussy which was fine, but had simply seen enough action for one damn day. My girlfriend knew this & we gracefully maneuvered him into a position where she could suck his cock (which she loves to do) while I kissed him (which I love to do). He came that way & we cuddled for awhile on the bed, the three of us in this surreal room. It was memorable.

We then watched the movie “300” on his giant 15 foot movie screen in his bedroom (it was starkly white when not being used!).

The next day Slave Standard’s wife took us for lunch & shopping while Slave Standard was left home to do chores & tasked (by his wicked wife!) to watch my vids every two hours & edge himself but not cum. She dropped us at Knott’s Scary Farm (Halloween theme park, haunted houses, etc.)

Me with one of the monsters who runs around the park scaring people. I wasn't scared:-)

Me with one of the monsters who runs around the park scaring people. I wasn’t scared:-)

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Me in one of the haunted houses at Knott’s Scary Farm.

My girlfriend had to go back to Vancouver early Sunday morning. I spent all day Sunday at the happiest place on earth: Disney! with awesome company. Domina Snow joined me & season pass holders: Slave Standard & his lovely wife. The four of us had a wonderful day packed full of fun. I loved the rides & especially the ‘World of Color’ show at night. It was kind of like the Bellagio water show in Vegas but with way more lights & fire. It was breath taking.

Domina Snow & I in front of the castle at Disney.

Domina Snow & I in front of the castle at Disney.

Alexandra Snow & I got matching glow in the dark sweat shirts! Dorks, eh? lol

Alexandra Snow & I got matching glow in the dark sweat shirts! Dorks, eh? lol

World of Color show at Disney. SO beautiful. I loved it.

World of Color show at Disney. SO beautiful. I loved it.

It was with sadness that I said farewell to Alexandra Snow who I’ve had the pleasure of seeing quite often the last few months. She really is lovely.

Slave Standard & his fantastic wife dropped me at The FemDom Empire. Another sad farewell to wonderful people who truly made my trip so special. Cherished new friends.

The next day was a fun day of filming with great people. Lexi Sindel, as always, one of my favorite producers to work with & a damn cool chick…Slave Wade who is always so helpful…super cute Ash Wednesday behind the camera…& Wolf Hudson who I was delighted to see again after an epic experience filming with him at Kink.com a couple years ago.

We filmed some scenes for my site/clips store & some for The FemDom Empire. You can find past & future scenes I filmed for The FemDom Empire on their members site:

http://www.femdomempire.com/preview/sets.php?id=14

Or clips store: http://clips4sale.com/studio/8341

You can follow Lexi on twitter: https://twitter.com/LexiSindel

Here’s some snaps from the day:

Lexi Sindel, Wolf Hudson & me.

Lexi Sindel, Wolf Hudson & me.

I just adore Wolf Hudson's positive energy. Great guy.

I just adore Wolf Hudson’s positive energy. Great guy.

If you can't tell, I love fucking Wolf Hudson. This turned out to be an epic FemDom cuckolding scene.

If you can’t tell, I love fucking Wolf Hudson. This turned out to be an epic FemDom cuckolding scene.

Poor Slave Wade....so hard to hold off cumming with Lexi's & my feet taunting him...

Poor Slave Wade….so hard to hold off cumming with Lexi’s & my feet taunting him…

My last night I managed to squeeze in one last unexpected visit with Alexandra Snow. Sitting at dinner with Lexi & Alexandra talking shop & life I felt lucky to be me. Knowing these women: strong, smart business woman, enriches my life.

I flew home the next morning & was picked up from the airport by my pal Samantha Mack, had dinner later with my best friend & then spent the night with my boy toy. It’s a good life….a very good life.

Best,
Mistress T

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