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Apr 29 Birthday

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My 44th birthday is coming up. I don’t want gifts. This is not a shout out for you to send me stuff. I do want something from you though.

On my birthday this year I would like to be showered with stories of kindness, generosity, love.

You have a couple of weeks to create these stories to share with me on Apr 29th.

The parameters are wide. It can be donating to a charity. It can be sharing something with someone in your community (flour, toilet paper, etc.) it can be helping a neighbor (lawn care, fixing something, running an errand, bringing them food, etc.) it can be listening to someone who needs to be heard, offering supportive words to someone struggling, adopting a rescued animal, planting a fruit tree or any food that you plan to share later…anything that makes the world a better place, for people, animals or the environment.

To be clear, I’m encouraging you to do something good in the next couple of weeks. I want my faith in humanity bolstered on my birthday. A bukake of kindness. Lay it on me:-)

Post your stories in the comments area here on my blog, or tweet them to me (https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet ), or email them (MsT@MistressT.net).

Other than that and as always, pay for my content you consume (buy my vids), it would mean a lot to me for you to you read (or listen) to my book. The audio book is narrated by me. You could fill 10 hours listening to my velvety voice talking alllll about myself. ha ha

“There Is More To The Story” by Mistress T is available in paperback, kindle & audio on Amazon & audible: https://www.amazon.com/There-More-Story

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xo

Mistress T

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Audiobook is finally available!

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I know, it’s been far too long. Somehow you managed to survive without me updating my blog. Well done!

The current big news: my audiobook is finally out. I narrated it myself & I’m proud of how it turned out. It’s professionally recorded & edited. Nearly 11 hours of listening to my velvety voice: lucky you!

Available via Audible/Amazon/itunes: https://www.audible.com/pd/There-Is-More-to-the-Story-Audiobook

Since I released the printed version of my book last December I’ve been really touched by the feedback. It’s not just my first book, it’s my life story. Vulnerable? Oh yeah. So many of you have written to tell me how you felt about my book and I appreciate the support more than you’ll ever know.

You can also find it on Amazon along with the paperback & kindle versions: https://www.amazon.com/There-More-Story-Mistress-T

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If you haven’t read or listened to my story I hope you will. It is more important to me than anything else right now. I don’t say that to “sell more books” for financial gain, it’s more about humanizing myself & other sex workers in ways that most fans don’t usually get opportunities to experience. In this age of porn I feel that is vitally important. Even for those who don’t think they objectify sex workers, this book will likely still shift your perspective.

Having said that, even after discovering what the T stands for (it’s in the book!) kindly address me by my chosen professional name, Mistress T, if you choose to write to me. Cheers.

Please rate & review! Thanks again for your support!

xo

Mistress T

Let’s catch up!

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Hello darlings,

It’s been awhile so we have much to catch up on!

My book came out in December which ended up being more emotional than I had prepared for. If you’re one of the many who have now read it you might think it naive for me to say that but it was all logistics at the end, pushing to get it out before xmas. When the feedback started to come in I was a bit caught off guard. The first wave came from my keenest fans and closest peers in the industry, so the feedback was effusive, often very personal and intimate.

I then made the book available to my personal circle, something I hadn’t thought I’d do but the feedback was so positive from the adult industry I decided to make myself even more vulnerable by inviting people in my private life to read it. I have a fairly large social circle having been an active part of the kink party and sex party or “swinger” community for many years.

I’ve already used the term “vulnerable” which describes the feeling most accurately. The interesting thing about that is how it gives others permission to be vulnerable too. Most readers connect with certain aspects of the book, specifically the harder parts. I don’t want to spoil it for anyone who hasn’t read it but I think something meaningful happens when two people connect over a similar challenging experience.

I said it was an emotional time so it bears explaining that my primary relationship of the last few years also ended in the fall. When I made the post about open relationships being the cats ass, all was well. It was actually the healthiest relationship I’d ever had until the last end. I’ll spare you the details. Break-ups are as common as breathing air & the details are really only interesting to those involved.

After the break up I released the book & went on a bit of a rampage, as you do. Sex parties & debauchery. No one could say my life is boring!

I also ended up with a cute pet Lovebird who has been such a joy. She’s very social, loves to be on me as much as possible but can be a little bratty & bitey. Sometimes I feel like I’m dealing with a 4 inch version of myself. Such attitude!

So I’ve been fucking & partying my way through the Canadian winter, basically, while mourning & processing the end of the relationship. I’m grateful for the support of wonderful old & new friends. Lots of sweet cuddling, meaningful conversations & genuine human connection lubricated by a few drinks & punctuated by lots of luscious orgasms.

I have started to work on another book, fiction this time & in collaboration with a professional writer. It will likely take a couple years so don’t get too excited yet. I’m passionate about the project & it’s nice to feel that. I won’t say much about it now but I assure you that my fans will find it irresistible.

I’m toying with the idea of working more behind the camera. In the fall I enjoyed running camera & directing a couple of scenes for Samantha Mack. I may work with a local mainstream performer who wants to start creating her own FemDom/fetish content, most likely cuckolding. It would be nice to pass on some of the knowledge I’ve amassed in the last decade. Stay tuned for that collaboration.

Speaking of cuckolding…I am now open to meeting men who are interested in a real life cuckolding relationship.

1. He must live in Vancouver. I am 100% NOT interested in a long distance thing even if there is the potential to move here at some point.

2. He must be financially secure. I am not looking for a client but I’m also not looking for someone who may need my financial support at some point.

3. He must be emotionally mature & a high level communicator.

4. He must LOVE me having sex with other men & women. I prefer he not be with others unless I arrange it. I know, I’m a control freak but there are men who are into this arrangement, I’ve talked to dozens over the years.

5. I must like him, respect him & genuinely enjoy his company. I’m looking for more of a loving cuckold relationship. I don’t mind a little playful verbal humiliation but if he really needs to be degraded or demeaned, I’m not into it.

6. I do not care if he wants to be in chastity or not, if he has a working penis or not, if he wants to be denied orgasms or have them controlled. I don’t care if he’s bisexual or if he does or does not want to suck cock/eat cum. Pussy licking is mandatory though. He must love worshiping pussy & be willing to take instruction to learn how I like it.

7. I don’t particularly care how old he is but for compatibility I think within 10 years of me one way or the other would be best. I’m 42, so I likely won’t have much in common with a 25 year old or a 60 year old. You’re welcome to try to prove me wrong but please don’t waste my time. I am selective.

The ideal candidate would be mid 30’s to mid 40’s, be really into his partner having sex with other men but prefers to be devoted to one woman himself. He should be self aware & able to communicate his feelings as well as empathetic & considerate of others. He needs to have his shit together in life in general.

Note: You would not be involved with filming. You would not be an onscreen cuckold. This would be a personal relationship completely outside of my work.

Sound like you? Send me an email of introduction. I will ask anyone interested to read my book before I’ll meet them. It’s not to jack up book sales as the book was never designed to make me money, but if you read the book you’ll understand why it’s mandatory.

Here’s the link to my book “There Is More To The Story” on Amazon, kindle & paperback: https://www.amazon.ca/There-More-Story-Mistress-T

Email: MsT@MistressT.net (Stop. Before you get excited & send a stupid email with one hand on your dick, think. You won’t get a second chance to make a first impression. I’ve said I’m looking for someone emotionally mature. It’s hard to fake that. You’re not writing to the fantasy character “Mistress T”. You’re writing to the very real life multidimensional human who is looking for a real life relationship that has absolutely nothing to do with her job. If you haven’t read my book yet I strongly recommend you do so before writing me. Don’t worry, I don’t expect very many applicants due to the narrow geographic area of Vancouver only, so there’s no rush.)

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

 

Great news: My book is officially published!

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My book is officially published, launched & paperbacks are starting to be delivered!

After three years of working on it, I can tell you that it’s a big relief. The kindle version has already sold very well and the positive feedback is pouring in. There’s quite a few reviews posted on Amazon but I’ve received far more directly. An emotional part of this journey I  hadn’t quite prepared for was the one-on-one discussions with people. Some of whom I know, some I don’t, who have read the book & feel the need to talk with me about it.

I’m told it’s hard to put down and an emotional roller coaster. Certain parts seem to really hit a nerve for a lot of people.

You can find it on Amazon (which ever one is right for you). You can search “There Is More To The Story” by Mistress T. It’s available on Kindle or paperback.

Here’s the link for Amazon.com:

https://www.amazon.com/There-More-Story-Mistress-T/dp/1999555104/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1546906000&sr=8-1

Please rate & review on Amazon, it really helps! xo

Frequently asked questions:

“Will there be an audio book with me (Mistress T) narrating?” ~ This always was & still is the plan but I have yet to figure out how to do this, technically. I’m working on it. No ETA.

“The paperback is showing as out of stock on Amazon, when will it be available?” ~ It is available. Order it anyway even if it says it’s out of stock. It will likely come way faster than it says it will.

“Can I get a signed copy?” ~ Yes, but…I consider this to be a luxury. This isn’t a cash grab for me, I just really don’t enjoy the process of going to the post office to mail things and no, I don’t have a slave to do stuff like that for me. The book itself also costs me. So I’ve listed the price as $200USD including shipping for a signed copy. The kindle version is less than $10 & the paperback around $25 so there are certainly options for any budget. To order a signed copy please send the $200 payment via the tribute button on either Clips4sale or IWantClips (links in signature below) & include in the comments your email address, mailing address & who to sign the book to. You can also email me to make other arrangements: MsT@MistressT.net

“Which way of buying is better/more profitable for the author?” ~ The best thing you can do is rate & review it on Amazon. At the moment the book is really only being marketed to my fans, which is fine, but after investing thousands of my own money (editing, design, not to mention my time) I will likely never even come close to making a profit…and that’s okay! I did it more to humanize sex workers than make money. However, I think there’s a chance it might reach a wider audience on Amazon if I get a lot of reviews. So that is the most helpful thing you can do for me! Thanks:-)

“Will you write another book?” ~ I have an idea for another book I hope to write. This one fiction but the main character would be a Dominatrix, loosely based on me. Probably two years for that but I’ll of course not keep it secret as things progress. I already have some interest from publishers for that one so the timeline might be shorter as I self-published the first one & being my first time, it took longer for me to navigate that process.

A huge thank you to those who have read & will read my book. It was a vulnerable thing to write and put out into the world but I think it’s an important book for our time, to help humanize sex workers.

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S (Buy vids or just send a TRIBUTE! I love random tributes!): http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

Book cover-exciting!

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Book cover art by Drew Young. Book cover design by Srdjan Filipovic. Back cover author photo by Photobin Photography

It’s really almost done!

I have been pushing hard to get the book done before Christmas & I think we might ‘just’ make it.

As I’ve said before, it’s my first time doing this & I’m self-publishing so everything has taken longer than expected but I’m so close to the finish line! I plan to sell e-books and soft cover books via Amazon using a print on demand service.

For those wanting signed copies, I don’t have a great plan for that yet but I’m open to ideas. It depends on the volume and I have no idea what to expect?

To start I’ll likely get some books printed and sent to me, then I’ll take orders for signings via email(?) & payment via…? In any case, there’s no way I’ll be able to get signed copies to fans before the end of December. But I should be able to take orders & get the book into your hands by the end of January.

Stay tuned for more info!

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S (Buy vids or just send a TRIBUTE! I love random tributes!): http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

IWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

Manyvids: https://www.manyvids.com/MistressT

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

Book update…

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The book. Yes, I wrote a book. I’ve learned that writing a book is easy! The hard part is in the editing. That’s the work. Getting a polished product across the finish line. It’s been edited twice by two different editors. I’m on my 3rd editor who is half way through. After that I’ll have a special nit-picky editor do the last sweep to perfect all punctuation, grammar & spelling.

I want it to be right. I want to put out a good product & being my first book I am learning as I go. It’s an emotional project. The book is about my life, the ingredients that went into me becoming Mistress T & my life in this role. There’s plenty of salacious stuff of course, but it’s an accurate reflection of a real life lived & that means there is heart break & emotional trauma too because who gets to their 40’s without having some shit happen?

The ending of the book has been the hardest. I aim to summarize my view of how the adult industry has been both empowering & objectifying for me. I’m trying to walk the line, explain it the right way so a reader can’t say that I either glamorize or condemn the industry. I don’t want my book used as evidence that being a sex worker is damaging but I don’t want it used as inspiration for a woman to get into the biz, not understanding the full spectrum of how it can affect you.

So that is my work this week. Crafting an ending that is all things. Accepting that the lens of the reader will still influence how they interpret it.

Current challenge: I could use little review blurbs for the back cover. Publishers typically have a system for getting other authors to review each others books for the back cover, or something like that, but I’m self publishing. There’s some controversy around these review blurbs. Marketers say it’s a must. Skeptics say it’s just authors doing favors for each other. Does it even make a difference anymore? As with everything I do, I aim for authenticity so I’ll take a sincere review from someone who has enough “celebrity” status to carry weight. Or I’ll just not have any. Whatever. If you, yes, you reading this, can assist me by either being a “celebrity” or reputable reviewer or can help connect me with an appropriate person I would be grateful.

I’ll be doing an audio book, narrating it myself. I might do a video series of me reading the book too. We’ll see.

I plan to use Amazon to distribute & haven’t worked out a painless way to sell signed copies yet, but I know there will be a demand for that. If you’re interested in getting a signed copy keep checking my twitter & blog as I will make announcements when I have it sorted. I won’t keep it a secret, I assure you;-)

I’ll give you a teaser today. I think I have finally settled on the beginning of the book & you’ll find it below:

“Do you mind?”

He asked from behind me, cock in hand, stroking. By the dim glow of the TV I could make out his size; large. But I already knew that. Mom loved to brag about her boyfriend.

Even at thirteen I could recognize the face of a man boiling with excitement and sexual tension, but I didn’t care, didn’t feel threatened, didn’t feel much of anything. Shrugging, I returned to my show. What was on TV? It wasn’t porn; He was masturbating to me.

I had already become numb to sexually inappropriate situations. I wasn’t surprised when my mother didn’t break up with him for it. She simply ensured that we weren’t alone together anymore. After all, she had been dangling me in front of him from the start, had shown him a picture of me in lacy lingerie that barely concealed my budding breasts.

I couldn’t have known back then that I’d make a career out of innumerable men masturbating to their fantasies about me.

To be continued…

x

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

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Hello 2018

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Other possible titles for this blog:

“The Unsuccessful Search for an Assistant”

“I guess this job is harder than I thought?”

“The realities of running a small porn production business”

About 8 months ago I decided to hire an assistant. After doing everything myself for years & seeing some of my peers outsource or have assistance with various aspects of the business I decided to give it a go.

I admit, I was feeling a bit at the end of my rope with email. It is overwhelming & so much of it can be answered with my FAQ but when I tried an auto-responder fans hated it & it created a massive junk mail problem.

The video & photo editing I really enjoy but it’s not the best use of my time. I felt I could benefit from increased tweeting as well as having someone try to put a dent in the colossal amount of stolen content being shared on free sites. The person could also screen my emails, sending the appropriate link with the information if it were one of the usual questions & just sending me the ones that needed my personal attention.

The first person I hired didn’t work out after several months. Although they seemed to be able to do the job tasks well enough after a lot of time invested in training they had miscalculated how busy their lives were. They just didn’t have time to do the job and the work wasn’t getting done on time.

I learned from the first experience and was more careful with the second hire. I painted the worst picture of the job to try to ensure they knew what they were signing up for. The reality is that you’re saturated in sexual & pornographic material. From reading the words in emails to seeing the images while editing pics, vids or looking for pirated content on free sites. The product is porn, the way it would be food in a restaurant or automobiles in a car dealership.

My second hire felt confident this wouldn’t be a problem but they have just capitulated, resigned, sounding traumatized, mentioning having nightmares from it all.

You could chalk it up as their problem, that they shouldn’t have taken the job if they didn’t think they could handle it…but that’s not giving the issue the contemplation it deserves.

Many of you reading this love porn, certainly the porn I produce. The idea of getting paid to work with it, to edit my vids & pics, to tweet about it, to look for it on free sites, might seem highly appealing. I deliberately did not hire someone who was ‘into’ my porn because I thought that would cause other problems, but I didn’t account for how unpleasant it might be for someone who was not into it.

One of my peers has had her content edited by a gay man for years & I’ve spoken to him about it, he just thinks it’s all funny. I made the mistake of assuming that would be the default, that if someone wasn’t turned on by it, that they would just find it funny or not be affected by it. To be fair, the damage was not done by my vids but more by looking for my content on free sharing sites to get removed. Seeing all that other porn too. But I had naively thought that was one of the easier parts of the job. Not so.

So I’m back to doing everything myself. I won’t make the mistake of trying to hire an assistant again. On top of that I’m at the very tail end of finishing my book & planning to embark on new ventures: getting articles published & doing podcasts, new activities that are meant to work in concert with a book launch this year. I have recently moved into a new place for the purpose of having better film sets. Samantha Mack has been a huge help in decorating sets while I was away but there’s still work I need to do. (Check out her vids: https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/36796/mack-movies )

I’m glad that I’m feeling rejuvenated after my trip to Africa in December, I’m going to need all the energy I have, as well as a few more hours in the day if possible. ha ha

I know, 1 crummy pic with some wilder beasts after a month in Africa...I'm sure you feel ripped off. It's what I have at the moment & it's better than nothing.

I know, 1 crummy pic with some wilder beasts after a month in Africa…I’m sure you feel ripped off. It’s what I have at the moment & it’s better than nothing.

Africa was great, by the way. I saw all the animals on safari, zebra’s, elephants, giraffe’s, lions, etc. The hot air balloon ride over the Serengeti was thrilling. I also visited some local tribes & villages, learning about their culture. The last end I enjoyed a few relaxing days at the beach in Zanzibar. Hours reading (The Handmaids Tale by Margaret Atwood), playing chess, making love, walking along the beach at sunset, eating good food & sleeping lots.

So, Happy New Year! 2018 is off with a bang for me, it looks like it’s going to be a busy one.

xo

Mistress T

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I’m still here…just busy.

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New digs: more space for film sets!

It’s the Saturday night before Halloween, arguably the biggest party night of the year next to New Year’s. Every year that I can remember I would have been getting all decked out in a costume with friends, having drinks & heading to some big party.

But not this year.

It’s not that I didn’t have options. Weeks ago friends were reminding me to get tickets to the big fetish party or sex club party as they always sell out fast. I was invited to go to Seattle to meet up with some of my fav peers in the industry. I even realized this morning that there’s a fantastic house party just a 26 minute walk from my place, I wouldn’t even need to figure out transportation. It couldn’t be easier.

But I’m not going out. I’m watching a couple episodes of Fargo on Netflix & going to bed early. Hopefully the firecrackers aren’t too bad around here tonight.

When I get that pang of feeling like I’m missing out it’s quickly followed by a feeling of exhaustion & the idea of socializing seems like torture. Not the kind of torture some of you lot like: Tsk tsk.

You see, it’s been a busy time. It IS a busy time. And taking some down time tonight is self care. I probably wouldn’t have done it a few years ago but I’m 41, I’m starting to be nicer to myself & frankly, I don’t have the energy I once did. I bet a lot of you get that, at least those over 35.

So why am I so busy? I recently moved. Everyone knows what that’s like. It all happened kind of fast. My landlord was selling the apartment I’d lived in the last few years & my noisy upstairs neighbor was driving me nuts. I found another place that was really great & I just did it. I did it even though I knew it would be hard. I knew it would be hard because the new place needs a lot of work & I’m about to head out of town on a couple big personal trips. Some of you might know about Africa in December, but I’m also doing a personal trip to Mexico in November. These trips were planned long before I even thought about moving.

Everything is fine. Great really. Just a lot on my plate right now. Some of that has been to prepare to take another break from the biz to work on the book. I find it difficult to write while I have my “Mistress T” hat on so most of my writing has been done while taking work breaks for a month or two. My editor & I have been working away on the book for months but now it’s time for me to dig into her edits, flesh out a few parts & put the finishing touches on it. I’m really hoping that my time in Mexico will be good for that because I really want to get this damn book done!

Good news for fans of my vids. I’ve been busy the last few months filming some fantastic content for you. I was going over the upcoming list today & I’m really excited. Rivers of cum will be produced because of my vids in the coming months. Ha ha.

I’ve been getting my new sets ready so I can start filming when I’m back in January. My pal Samantha Mack is helping to source furniture & textiles, over-seeing the painting, etc. I have a kink expert putting the dungeon together while I’m away with some custom-made kinky creations. *insert evil laughter here*

I’ve also been training a helper/assistant here in Vancouver who will ensure things run smoothly while I’m “away”. I’m never really away, I’ll still be on twitter, dealing with time-sensitive email, maybe blogging if you’re lucky:-)

For long time observant fans you’ll notice the shift in me finally letting other people help me. I did everything myself for so long. Control freak. Hiring experts to do things better than I could, hiring people to do things I could but things that aren’t the best use of my time, accepting the help from friends when it’s offered…all of that. Old dog, new tricks.

Business is great & it inspires me to keep going, to keep making vids my fans love. All of you who support my work by buying my vids make it possible for me to keep doing it. Thank you.

I’ve added some things to my wish list for my new place if you’d like to send a housewarming present: http://a.co/afmffTS

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

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Aging In The Adult Industry

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Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

My birthday is tomorrow, Apr 29. I’ll be 41. So what’s it like aging in the adult industry?

Unlike the typical porn starlet, I was late to the biz. I started as a private dancer in a strip club when I was 28. The other gals where years younger except one & she didn’t really ‘dance’ for anyone. She had a few regulars who would pay her to sit & drink with them.

I dipped in & out of the adult industry for a few years & was about 32 by the time my fetish video business was full steam ahead. I started referring to myself as a MILF in the early days & added ‘mature’ soon after. The oldest among my peer group they sometimes refer to me as ‘Nana’ (& sometimes Mistress Goofball, but this isn’t a post about how hilarious I am.)

In a lot of survey’s, “MILF” is a very popular search term, often ranking higher than ‘teen’. Here’s some stats: https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review

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So in a world that in every other way tells you that as a women your value nose dives after 40 (or even after 35), I work in an industry where not only am I highly valued, there’s a lot less competition. I’ve even hammed up the older bit by wearing a grey wig & you’ll often see me in glasses, pearl necklaces, satin blouses or suites. For business, I’m not trying to pretend I’m younger, if anything, the opposite.

Silver fox:-)

Silver fox:-)

How many adult film performers are still in the biz after 40? A helleva lot less than those in their 20’s.

I have received some very generous offers from various big porn production companies who are desperate for MILF’s. I’m not really interested in working with other companies these days but since I find Virtual Reality fascinating you might see a VR fuck scene with me on HologirlsVR this year. My understanding is a key VR sex position requires me to straddle & ride a cock for several minutes & frankly, I’m not sure my knees will take it. ha ha

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh.

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh. (Find these scenes on https://www.hologirlsvr.com)

Anyway, back to how I feel about things. I’ll be honest, in the real world I don’t have the same ‘pull’ that I used to. Men don’t quite look at me the same, or look at me at all. Online though, things heat up more each year. Business is booming, sales numbers don’t lie, plus I get loads of messages from men of all ages desiring an older woman.

As if by cruel design though, with each passing year I become more settled, with less inclination to travel, with less energy to work, with less drive to work as hard as I did in the beginning. Finally achieving work-life balance I am no longer married to my work, I have a full & rich life outside of the biz. With an eye to the future I wonder when it will make sense to start to wind down the business. A recent meeting with my financial advisor, he posed the usual questions which were mathematical to him but personal to me: “How much longer do you think you’ll make this income? When will you need to start drawing on your investments? Etc.”

I really don’t know? My heart is still in it but when is the tipping point when I’m no longer a ‘hot MILF’ but I’ve gone ‘past my expiry date’? Of course I want to end on a high note & not drag things out to the point of embarrassment. I know I’m not near that yet but geez, ya know what I mean?

In writing this I did some research on Bettie Page. I thought that she had at one point decided to retire, maybe in her mid 30’s & had never let another photograph be taken of her. That she wanted to be remembered by her fans how she was. Unfortunately my research resulted in a less romantic explanation. She may have actually found religion. So I can’t draw any parallels here about Bettie Page feeling her age, etc. I’ll move on without Ms. Page.

Personally, I love getting older mentally. I wouldn’t want to go back to knowing less, having experienced less. Physically, I don’t think anyone is happy about aging. No one says: “Thank god my skin is starting to wrinkle! I’ve been waiting for this for too long!” The cosmetic industry is booming thanks to people fighting growing old tooth & nail. I’m not convinced there’s such a thing as growing old gracefully & there’s so few women in the public eye doing it naturally that most of us wouldn’t even know what it looks like anymore. I won’t stay on that topic as I know men would prefer to stay blissfully unaware of what women do to look good, while men often consider combing their hair as stepping up their game & trimming their nose hairs as ‘extreme grooming’. Ha ha

The book I’ve been writing is about my life. It’s been amazing working with my editor, going back through & discussing details of various chapters of my story. Seeing how events & experiences shaped who I am. Some pleasant, some not, but it all contributed. I hoped to have the book done in my 40th year & although that didn’t happen, the majority of the work on it happened in my 40th year & it will be done long before my 42nd.

Turning back toward aging in this industry…it’s amazing actually. In the real world as I start to become invisible…as I’m overlooked by more men, I am becoming more desirable to certain fans. Sure, being fetishized for being ‘older’ is somewhat objectifying, like being fetishized for being an Asian woman, a black man, a BBW, etc. but most people tend to be drawn to certain physical traits, I don’t really see anything wrong with that. We like what we like, & for men seeking a mature woman, their options are more limited in porn…& here I am. Experienced, still good lookin’ & not planning to make my exit anytime soon.

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Book update…

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Some of you know that I’ve been working on a book for the last year. The mostly done manuscript (1st draft of the book) was delivered to the editor the end of December. I knew it would take her a few months to go through it so I’ve just been waiting.

I wasn’t sure what to expect. I wrote the story in such a way that I thought she might want to rearrange things to make the story arc more compelling. Being my first time I figured that there would be a lot of changes.

We had a meeting the end of last week & it went really well. Far better than I could have dreamed. Not only was she very complimentary, she’s actually reducing her fee by a 3rd based on how little work she’s actually going to need to do on the book. That’s how I know she isn’t just blowing smoke up my ass, she really does think it is great as it is. Of course there is still work to do. We’re going to meet a couple times a week & chip away at the fine details. Things she feels need to be expanded on, etc. I also didn’t have an ending but discussed my ideas with her & we agreed on how it should go. I need to write that part but in the meantime we’ll work on the rest together.

I’m beyond excited & relieved. I feared that she would come back with it all torn apart & barely resembling what I created. I’m paying her to help me make the end result great, not just to stroke my ego. I wasn’t prepared for her to love it so much & to say that it actually didn’t need that much work. We even discussed a potential spin off series…but let’s get this one birthed first.

I can’t give you an ETA. Maybe a few months? As we’re wrapping up I’ll be working with a designer & marketing company to move it through the next steps. I’ll be self publishing. I also plan to have an audio book narrated by me, of course.

I’ll keep you posted! Thanks for the ongoing support of this project. It means a lot to me.

xo

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