Aging In The Adult Industry

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

My birthday is tomorrow, Apr 29. I’ll be 41. So what’s it like aging in the adult industry?

Unlike the typical porn starlet, I was late to the biz. I started as a private dancer in a strip club when I was 28. The other gals where years younger except one & she didn’t really ‘dance’ for anyone. She had a few regulars who would pay her to sit & drink with them.

I dipped in & out of the adult industry for a few years & was about 32 by the time my fetish video business was full steam ahead. I started referring to myself as a MILF in the early days & added ‘mature’ soon after. The oldest among my peer group they sometimes refer to me as ‘Nana’ (& sometimes Mistress Goofball, but this isn’t a post about how hilarious I am.)

In a lot of survey’s, “MILF” is a very popular search term, often ranking higher than ‘teen’. Here’s some stats: https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review

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So in a world that in every other way tells you that as a women your value nose dives after 40 (or even after 35), I work in an industry where not only am I highly valued, there’s a lot less competition. I’ve even hammed up the older bit by wearing a grey wig & you’ll often see me in glasses, pearl necklaces, satin blouses or suites. For business, I’m not trying to pretend I’m younger, if anything, the opposite.

Silver fox:-)

Silver fox:-)

How many adult film performers are still in the biz after 40? A helleva lot less than those in their 20’s.

I have received some very generous offers from various big porn production companies who are desperate for MILF’s. I’m not really interested in working with other companies these days but since I find Virtual Reality fascinating you might see a VR fuck scene with me on HologirlsVR this year. My understanding is a key VR sex position requires me to straddle & ride a cock for several minutes & frankly, I’m not sure my knees will take it. ha ha

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh.

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh. (Find these scenes on https://www.hologirlsvr.com)

Anyway, back to how I feel about things. I’ll be honest, in the real world I don’t have the same ‘pull’ that I used to. Men don’t quite look at me the same, or look at me at all. Online though, things heat up more each year. Business is booming, sales numbers don’t lie, plus I get loads of messages from men of all ages desiring an older woman.

As if by cruel design though, with each passing year I become more settled, with less inclination to travel, with less energy to work, with less drive to work as hard as I did in the beginning. Finally achieving work-life balance I am no longer married to my work, I have a full & rich life outside of the biz. With an eye to the future I wonder when it will make sense to start to wind down the business. A recent meeting with my financial advisor, he posed the usual questions which were mathematical to him but personal to me: “How much longer do you think you’ll make this income? When will you need to start drawing on your investments? Etc.”

I really don’t know? My heart is still in it but when is the tipping point when I’m no longer a ‘hot MILF’ but I’ve gone ‘past my expiry date’? Of course I want to end on a high note & not drag things out to the point of embarrassment. I know I’m not near that yet but geez, ya know what I mean?

In writing this I did some research on Bettie Page. I thought that she had at one point decided to retire, maybe in her mid 30’s & had never let another photograph be taken of her. That she wanted to be remembered by her fans how she was. Unfortunately my research resulted in a less romantic explanation. She may have actually found religion. So I can’t draw any parallels here about Bettie Page feeling her age, etc. I’ll move on without Ms. Page.

Personally, I love getting older mentally. I wouldn’t want to go back to knowing less, having experienced less. Physically, I don’t think anyone is happy about aging. No one says: “Thank god my skin is starting to wrinkle! I’ve been waiting for this for too long!” The cosmetic industry is booming thanks to people fighting growing old tooth & nail. I’m not convinced there’s such a thing as growing old gracefully & there’s so few women in the public eye doing it naturally that most of us wouldn’t even know what it looks like anymore. I won’t stay on that topic as I know men would prefer to stay blissfully unaware of what women do to look good, while men often consider combing their hair as stepping up their game & trimming their nose hairs as ‘extreme grooming’. Ha ha

The book I’ve been writing is about my life. It’s been amazing working with my editor, going back through & discussing details of various chapters of my story. Seeing how events & experiences shaped who I am. Some pleasant, some not, but it all contributed. I hoped to have the book done in my 40th year & although that didn’t happen, the majority of the work on it happened in my 40th year & it will be done long before my 42nd.

Turning back toward aging in this industry…it’s amazing actually. In the real world as I start to become invisible…as I’m overlooked by more men, I am becoming more desirable to certain fans. Sure, being fetishized for being ‘older’ is somewhat objectifying, like being fetishized for being an Asian woman, a black man, a BBW, etc. but most people tend to be drawn to certain physical traits, I don’t really see anything wrong with that. We like what we like, & for men seeking a mature woman, their options are more limited in porn…& here I am. Experienced, still good lookin’ & not planning to make my exit anytime soon.

Oh…& in case you felt inclined to send me a treat for my birthday, here’s my updated wish lists:

Canadian Amazon.ca wish list: Click here

US Amazon.com wish list: Click here

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

IWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

 

Book update…

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Some of you know that I’ve been working on a book for the last year. The mostly done manuscript (1st draft of the book) was delivered to the editor the end of December. I knew it would take her a few months to go through it so I’ve just been waiting.

I wasn’t sure what to expect. I wrote the story in such a way that I thought she might want to rearrange things to make the story arc more compelling. Being my first time I figured that there would be a lot of changes.

We had a meeting the end of last week & it went really well. Far better than I could have dreamed. Not only was she very complimentary, she’s actually reducing her fee by a 3rd based on how little work she’s actually going to need to do on the book. That’s how I know she isn’t just blowing smoke up my ass, she really does think it is great as it is. Of course there is still work to do. We’re going to meet a couple times a week & chip away at the fine details. Things she feels need to be expanded on, etc. I also didn’t have an ending but discussed my ideas with her & we agreed on how it should go. I need to write that part but in the meantime we’ll work on the rest together.

I’m beyond excited & relieved. I feared that she would come back with it all torn apart & barely resembling what I created. I’m paying her to help me make the end result great, not just to stroke my ego. I wasn’t prepared for her to love it so much & to say that it actually didn’t need that much work. We even discussed a potential spin off series…but let’s get this one birthed first.

I can’t give you an ETA. Maybe a few months? As we’re wrapping up I’ll be working with a designer & marketing company to move it through the next steps. I’ll be self publishing. I also plan to have an audio book narrated by me, of course.

I’ll keep you posted! Thanks for the ongoing support of this project. It means a lot to me.

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

IWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

Canadian Amazon.ca wish list: Click here

US Amazon.com wish list: Click here

Prepare For The Holidays!

The holidays are upon us! For some this is a joyous time, for others, not so much. So I created this little vid to offer some suggestions for helping you these days if it’s a challenge for you: https://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Click the link above this pic...not the pic...I know, I know...the pic should be clickable but cut me some slack. I can't even set the time on my microwave.

Click the link above this pic…not the pic…I know, I know…the pic should be clickable but cut me some slack. I can’t even set the time on my microwave.

I have sent the first draft of my book to the professional editor I chose. So that will get worked on by her for the next few weeks while I’m spending the holidays with my gal pals exploring Guatemala. You might have heard of these two trouble makers: Ceara Lynch & Meggerz. We’ve done a lot of traveling together over the years, I’m excited for more…& also looking forward to the warm weather!

I randomly chose this pic of us from 2013

I randomly chose this pic of us from 2013. Meggerz is on the left, Ceara Lynch in the middle, the great Mistress T on the right.

I know a lot of you will have extra time on your hands in the coming weeks so I’m going to make sure you’re set up with a bunch of great porn, to suit a wide variety of tastes.

Of course ME…you already know my site & clips store but note that there are a couple new additions, if you prefer different platforms:

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
Clips4sale: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

IWantclips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

Kinkbomb: http://www.kinkbomb.com/studio/Mistress_T_-_Fetish_Fuckery

If you like ball busting, face sitting, women beating up men & other more physical FemDom action I strongly recommend Nikki Whiplash’s studio’s. I’ve had the great pleasure of working with Nikki & I would count her as a close friend. Her verbals are fantastic & I find her style of Domination very genuine & seductive.

Nikki Whiplash & I a few years ago...likely discussing our mutual love of ballbusting:-)

Nikki Whiplash & I a few years ago…likely discussing our mutual love of ballbusting:-)

Ballbusting World PPV: http://clips4sale.com/87149

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Lethal Bitches: http://clips4sale.com/87557

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Nikki Whiplash’s PPV, for a variety of FemDom scenes: http://clips4sale.com/96987

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Speaking of FemDom variety…you’ll want to check out the PPV studio brought to you by the diabolical Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com, Bitch World FemDom: http://clips4sale.com/66613

Don't click the pic, remember, I haven't figured that out...the link is above, studio 66613 (bit creepy that number, isn't it?)

Don’t click the pic, remember, I haven’t figured that out…the link is above, studio 66613 (bit creepy that number, isn’t it?)

If Financial Domination is something you’re interested in Ceara Lynch & Princess Meggerz are legends. That’s not all they do…they also specialize in fetishes for panties, feet & other body parts & clothing items…& they’re great at humiliation…& other stuff. It’s a different style of Femdom from The English Mansion & Nikki Whiplash & I’m here to ensure you have a buffet of choices…so here’s links for them:

Ceara Lynch: http://clips4sale.com/studio/16312

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Princess Meggerz: https://iwantclips.com/store/6085/Pay-To-Obey-Meggerz

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Alrighty, you’ve got enough porn options there to keep you busy for a dozen holiday seasons.

If you’re feeling charitable, Doctors Without Borders is a good one (I donated myself today): https://donate.doctorswithoutborders.org/onetime.cfm

Thanks for all your support this past year & always. I hope that I entertained you & helped you to explore your sexuality. Orgasms are good! (Yeah, yeah, except you poor suckers locked in chastity…I don’t know how you do it…I’m going to go masturbate right now, cuz orgasms are pretty much the best thing ever.)

xo

Mistress T

Follow me on twitter for pics & random other stuff, sometimes funny, sometimes clever, sometimes bitchy, you never know what you’ll get: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

 

Book update…

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Some of you know that I took a few months off last winter to start writing a book. I went to Thailand & made quite a lot of progress before my trip was cut short & I needed to return to Nova Scotia due to a death in the family.

I still had some time to write back in Vancouver before I got back to filming & editing but after that my writing got stalled. I thought I could work & write but it didn’t turn out that way. Months went by & I didn’t write a word. So I pushed to build up enough content so I could take a few months off from filming & editing again.

I’m about half way through my second & current break & I’m pleased to say that I’ve been writing like a mother fucker! I’ve made huge progress & am in the last end of the first draft of my book. There’s still a lot of work to be done before you will have an opportunity to read my book but the hardest part is nearly done.

The book is a ‘fiction’ based very closely on my life. VERY closely. It tells the story of the making of Mistress T from the beginning, from before I was even born actually. All the ingredients that went into the final product. Those with interests in psychology will likely find lots to think about. I wanted to have the freedom to embellish or omit things here & there as well as add a bit of creative writing (completely fabricate some parts) so I decided to not make it an autobiography…but again, the vast majority of the story is 100% true.

Now that it’s nearing the end my excitement is really building. I decided to write this book for me, to process some of the things that happened to me in earlier life & understand how they contributed, for better or worse, to the adult I am. I saw writing as a kind of therapy. Now that it is taking shape & I’ve spoken to a handful of experts, it’s possible that this book could become quite successful…which would be a nice bonus.

I’ll soon hire an editor & others to help move through the next steps. I’ll likely self publish but will still need a team of professionals to assist with the process, a designer, a good marketing company, a studio to record an audio book, etc. I am starting to look for the right people & companies so if you have recommendations please send them my way. (I am looking for those top in their field & I have a budget for it.)

Though I should have enough content to get me through I want a bit more of a cushion so I will be doing a couple days of filming in the next couple weeks. This will be the only opportunity in the next couple of months to have a custom vid created by me, so if you have a custom vid request email it ASAP to: MsT@MistressT.net

Thanks to everyone for their support & encouragement! xo

Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet