Aging In The Adult Industry

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

My birthday is tomorrow, Apr 29. I’ll be 41. So what’s it like aging in the adult industry?

Unlike the typical porn starlet, I was late to the biz. I started as a private dancer in a strip club when I was 28. The other gals where years younger except one & she didn’t really ‘dance’ for anyone. She had a few regulars who would pay her to sit & drink with them.

I dipped in & out of the adult industry for a few years & was about 32 by the time my fetish video business was full steam ahead. I started referring to myself as a MILF in the early days & added ‘mature’ soon after. The oldest among my peer group they sometimes refer to me as ‘Nana’ (& sometimes Mistress Goofball, but this isn’t a post about how hilarious I am.)

In a lot of survey’s, “MILF” is a very popular search term, often ranking higher than ‘teen’. Here’s some stats: https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review

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So in a world that in every other way tells you that as a women your value nose dives after 40 (or even after 35), I work in an industry where not only am I highly valued, there’s a lot less competition. I’ve even hammed up the older bit by wearing a grey wig & you’ll often see me in glasses, pearl necklaces, satin blouses or suites. For business, I’m not trying to pretend I’m younger, if anything, the opposite.

Silver fox:-)

Silver fox:-)

How many adult film performers are still in the biz after 40? A helleva lot less than those in their 20’s.

I have received some very generous offers from various big porn production companies who are desperate for MILF’s. I’m not really interested in working with other companies these days but since I find Virtual Reality fascinating you might see a VR fuck scene with me on HologirlsVR this year. My understanding is a key VR sex position requires me to straddle & ride a cock for several minutes & frankly, I’m not sure my knees will take it. ha ha

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh.

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh. (Find these scenes on https://www.hologirlsvr.com)

Anyway, back to how I feel about things. I’ll be honest, in the real world I don’t have the same ‘pull’ that I used to. Men don’t quite look at me the same, or look at me at all. Online though, things heat up more each year. Business is booming, sales numbers don’t lie, plus I get loads of messages from men of all ages desiring an older woman.

As if by cruel design though, with each passing year I become more settled, with less inclination to travel, with less energy to work, with less drive to work as hard as I did in the beginning. Finally achieving work-life balance I am no longer married to my work, I have a full & rich life outside of the biz. With an eye to the future I wonder when it will make sense to start to wind down the business. A recent meeting with my financial advisor, he posed the usual questions which were mathematical to him but personal to me: “How much longer do you think you’ll make this income? When will you need to start drawing on your investments? Etc.”

I really don’t know? My heart is still in it but when is the tipping point when I’m no longer a ‘hot MILF’ but I’ve gone ‘past my expiry date’? Of course I want to end on a high note & not drag things out to the point of embarrassment. I know I’m not near that yet but geez, ya know what I mean?

In writing this I did some research on Bettie Page. I thought that she had at one point decided to retire, maybe in her mid 30’s & had never let another photograph be taken of her. That she wanted to be remembered by her fans how she was. Unfortunately my research resulted in a less romantic explanation. She may have actually found religion. So I can’t draw any parallels here about Bettie Page feeling her age, etc. I’ll move on without Ms. Page.

Personally, I love getting older mentally. I wouldn’t want to go back to knowing less, having experienced less. Physically, I don’t think anyone is happy about aging. No one says: “Thank god my skin is starting to wrinkle! I’ve been waiting for this for too long!” The cosmetic industry is booming thanks to people fighting growing old tooth & nail. I’m not convinced there’s such a thing as growing old gracefully & there’s so few women in the public eye doing it naturally that most of us wouldn’t even know what it looks like anymore. I won’t stay on that topic as I know men would prefer to stay blissfully unaware of what women do to look good, while men often consider combing their hair as stepping up their game & trimming their nose hairs as ‘extreme grooming’. Ha ha

The book I’ve been writing is about my life. It’s been amazing working with my editor, going back through & discussing details of various chapters of my story. Seeing how events & experiences shaped who I am. Some pleasant, some not, but it all contributed. I hoped to have the book done in my 40th year & although that didn’t happen, the majority of the work on it happened in my 40th year & it will be done long before my 42nd.

Turning back toward aging in this industry…it’s amazing actually. In the real world as I start to become invisible…as I’m overlooked by more men, I am becoming more desirable to certain fans. Sure, being fetishized for being ‘older’ is somewhat objectifying, like being fetishized for being an Asian woman, a black man, a BBW, etc. but most people tend to be drawn to certain physical traits, I don’t really see anything wrong with that. We like what we like, & for men seeking a mature woman, their options are more limited in porn…& here I am. Experienced, still good lookin’ & not planning to make my exit anytime soon.

Oh…& in case you felt inclined to send me a treat for my birthday, here’s my updated wish lists:

Canadian Amazon.ca wish list: Click here

US Amazon.com wish list: Click here

xo

Mistress T

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IWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

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Feeling grateful *smile*

My birthday celebrations are not over but I am feeling so grateful I just had to make a post today.

Yesterday was my 40th birthday & so many of you helped make my day awesome. It was a wonderfully blended day of my ‘work’ world enhancing my ‘personal’ world.

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans...all together:-)

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans…all together:-)

One of my film slaves popped by first thing to drop off a thoughtful & useful present. Then my boyfriend stopped in for a quick visit & brought a thoughtful surprise.

Then I went for a nice brunch with a close friend.

Brunch at the fabulous "Medina" YUM!

Brunch at the fabulous “Medina” YUM!

Then I spent the afternoon at the spa, using a gift card sent by a fan (thank you!).

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

Then I went for dinner & drinks with another close friend using a generous gift card from another fan.

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails at L'Abattoir

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails & L’Abattoir

I returned home to my thoughtful boyfriend who had baked my favorite birthday cake. He serenaded me & then took me to bed *wink*.

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I received this wonderful necklace that you’ll see in some of the pics. Thank you Dave! It’s hard to see in the pics but it’s a Fox holding a jewel in its mouth.

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The most overwhelming present I received was from my dear friends at The English Mansion. Sidonia Von Bork commissioned a portrait from the famous artist Sardax. He blogged about it here: https://sardaxart.wordpress.com/2016/04/29/portrait-of-mistress-t/

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

I am so honored & touched by this thoughtful & generous gift. My friendship with Sidonia Von Bork has meant so much to me. She is an amazing, fascinating person. I don’t even have the words…

My birthday celebrations continue tonight. I’m heading out with friends to a lively, sexy party where I’ll have a few drinks, dance a lot & who knows what else:-)

Then I will start chipping away at my list of 40 awesome things to do the year I’m 40. I plan to make this milestone year remarkable. Thanks to a sweet fan I already have a night at the symphony (on my list) planned for next week & a big concert (on my list) mid May. I have already started volunteering (which was one of the things on my list). I’ve been paired up with a nearly blind elderly lady for weekly walks. It may not seem like a huge thing, it’s not going to lead to world peace, but it means a lot to her & it feels good for me. It’s a start…& if everyone just did a little something for other people in need the world really would be a better place.

I have a bunch of other things to plan, hiking into hot springs, skydiving, paragliding, kayaking with Whales (ethically, at a respectful distance), finishing my book, random acts of kindness, converting a meat eater to vegetarianism (any volunteers who want help with that? Reduce animal cruelty, help the environment & improve your health!), learning Spanish, etc. I’m super excited about my 40th year!

Thanks again to everyone who sent birthday wishes & to everyone who supports the work that I love. It really means the world to me. BIG love! xoxoxoxo

Mistress T

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My birthday is coming up!

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Why on earth would I be announcing my birthday? Presents, of course! I’m not really into Financial Domination but I’m not going to pass up an opportunity to get presents, gifts, offerings, goodies, treats, etc. Who doesn’t like getting presents?! *grin*

My birthday is April 29th & it’s the big 4-0 for me this time. I know, I look fantastic for my age & I feel fantastic too. Healthy diet, yoga, lots of walking, great sex, keeping things low stress, getting decent sleep…always striving for balance.

I have big plans for this year. Rather than celebrating with a birthday dinner or party I’ve made a list of “40 awesome things to do in my 40th year”…so that I mark this milestone year with a lot of memorable & meaningful things. The list contains some obvious activities like skydiving & paragliding but also things like “helping a young woman reach a goal”, volunteering & a minimum of 12 random acts of kindness. I included “finish my book” so for those wondering when my book will be done…I’m hoping by this time next year.

If you would like to “gift” me one of the awesome things on my list here are some examples of things you could contribute to:

– Kayak with whales (kayaking excursion in Tofino)

– Tickets for a local theater performance

– Tickets for the symphony: http://www.vancouversymphony.ca/concerts/

– Adrenaline activities: “escape room” game / paintball / zip line / skydive / para-glide

Gift certificates for my favorite spa are ALWAYS appreciated: http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/ (Just give them my email address, they know who I am, it’s fine: MsT@MistressT.net)

Amazon.com gift cards are always a wonderful choice (to this email address): MsT@MistressT.net

Here’s my Amazon Wish List: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_p9jbxb0WKY55P

If you would like to take me to the symphony, theater, out for dinner, etc. There is an additional tribute required for my company in public. Please inquire via email.

Thanks in advance for all spoiling! *smile*

xo

Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
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Birthday advance warning…

My birthday is at the end of April. That makes me a Taurus & I’ll be 37 (I’ve never lied about my age).

Cake a friend made me a couple years ago.

Cake a friend made me a couple years ago.

In preparation for those who feel the urge to spoil me on my special day I have updated my Amazon Wish List. Thank you to those who have sent me presents from the list, they are much appreciated.

Here’s the link: http://amzn.com/w/LYLSUGVVJA6W

You might notice the updated list is pretty short. Apparently some items can’t be shipped to Canada so my options on Amazon are somewhat limited. All of the items on there now CAN be shipped to me…& you are always welcome to send an Amazon Gift Card so I can shop for just the right thing.

You can also send $$$ via the tribute button on my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

It looks like this:

Look for the tribute button on my clips store!

Look for the tribute button on my clips store!

If you’d like to do something even more personalized feel free to contact me: MsT@MistressT.net

Maybe this year my birthday cake will look like this:

Birthday boobs! Yah!

Birthday boobs! Yah!

Cheers,
Mistress T

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We can't always get what we want for our birthday...

We can’t always get what we want for our birthday…

Road Trip!

Tomorrow morning I set out on a week-long adventure. A vacation. A girls road trip. One of those trips that you just know you’ll look back on and smile about for the rest of your life.

My good girlfriend is turning 40. We decided to do a road trip to mark the milestone. We’re heading to Calgary, but we may not make it…there’s a lot of flooding between here and there right now. It’s about the journey, not the destination though as we have a list of wineries and hot springs along the way. We’ll be traveling in a camper so we’ll do a mix of camping and staying in nice places, as we feel like.

She & I have been friends since before I was ‘Mistress T’. Actually, the first time I met her I served her a birthday tequila shooter when I was working as a tequila girl on a nude beach back in my mid 20’s. She’s watched me grow & evolve…she’s been there throughout my relationships, as I went through my stripping phase, when I started the voyeur show business, as I became a Dominatrix then got into vids.

We used to go camping a couple times a year and spent hours talking while driving, playing cards, soaking in hot tubs, sitting around a camp fire, drinking wine from the bottle or walking through the woods.

As I’ve gone through all my changes she’s accepted me and supported me. I’m sure sometimes it was difficult to not judge, especially since she is more on the conservative side…but she’s always been an excellent friend.

So, I won’t be online much in the next week. Vids are all pre-loaded to come out on my clips store & members site so don’t worry, you’ll get your porn fix (& there’s some AMAZING vids coming out on my clips store this week, keep checking!).

I’ll tweet if/when I can.

If you’d like to send a little vacation pocket money…buy my girlfriend & I a drink or a night in a nice place, you can now tribute me easily through Kinkbomb:

http://www.kinkbomb.com/Tribute-Mistress-T-20.html

Have a wonderful week!

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I’ve been known to forgo frivolous things like wine glasses while on vacation…

Not hot springs…just a tub…but I’m eating in the tub wearing a funny bath cap: it kinda looks like I’m on vacation, or at least not working very hard…

On the road…literally…

Granny porn?

My birthday was yesterday. I turned 36. That makes me a Taurus & a Fire Dragon, if you follow that stuff. It means that I’m stubborn, ambitious, lucky & charismatic which results in being successful at most anything I do…also passionate in every way including a ferocious temper (apparently).

I really am 36 by the way. I know, I look WAY younger, like 34 or even 33. Many women lie about their age which has made it nearly impossible for anyone to guess a woman’s age. I’m often told I look like I’m 25. Sure, I might look like a 30 year old women who lies and says she’s 25, but I do not actually look 25.

The amount of pressure woman are under most of their lives to look good, which also means looking younger, is tremendous.

For my own content I have only ever filmed with extremely high quality HD. You can watch my vids on the largest screens with crisp, vivid resolution which seems like a great idea except that you really do see every little thing. A pimple, a bruise, fine lines on my face, make up applied improperly, lipstick on my teeth,  a bit of lint stuck to my privates, etc. Sometimes I think it’s a miracle that my fans still think I’m so beautiful even though they see me as I am, not airbrushed or photo shopped.

As time marches on this reality is becoming threatening. Gravity is a bitch and none of us get out alive.

Thankfully, I got into the porn business late and quickly built a fan base who appreciated me as a MILF, cougar, a Mother or mature woman. That will buy me more time than those who marketed themselves as nubile 20 year old college girls. One can guess what my ‘best-before-date’ might be, but what will my actual expiry date be in front of the camera? Will I be able to eroticise granny porn?

If you have money you don’t have to grow old gracefully these days. You can fight it, kicking and screaming with the miracles of medicine. From botox & fillers to boob jobs and everything in between: the battle against aging is big business.

You can try to change the way people think but you just can’t change the way people are hard wired. Humans feel a drive to reproduce, whether our heads decide we want children or not, our genitals tell us to fuck. In the purely primal sense, younger women are better candidates than older women for a male to impregnate. The majority of men will always be more drawn to younger women…even if they’re just going to jerk their baby-making juice into their gym sock while looking at her on a computer screen.

Before you send me hate mail, note that I said ‘the majority’ of men are more drawn to younger women. I know there’s many men who prefer more mature women, but the percentage decreases with each passing decade (he may be attracted to a 45 year old but not a 65 year old) and women are acutely aware that their stock decreases with each passing year.

Having said all this, I still wouldn’t turn back the clock for all the tea in China. I like myself better and am happier than I’ve ever been. As cliche as it is, I really have gotten better every year. I love what I do right now and I’ll do it for as long as I have an appreciative audience. Then what? Who knows, but I have at least a few more years to figure it out and I’m as excited about the future as I am about the present.

I had a wonderful birthday party surrounded by friends who have known me for years. Friends who have watched me evolve and always accepted and celebrated me. A new friend commented that he was drawn to me because if so many sweet people could adore me that much there must be more to me, a softer side than I had shown him up to that point. I explained, as I’ve often do: “I’m like an onion, I’ve got layers.” (Shrek reference). Part of me is very cold, tough, strong and bitchy…but another part is as compassionate, giving and loving as you can imagine. My good fiends know I would do anything, absolutely anything for them. I’m dependable and generous.

Like a baby being welcomed into the world surrounded by loving parents & supportive nurses & doctors, my passage into 36 was facilitated by my self-made family of loving, supportive friends. I did not get plastered but sipped & savored the finest champagne I’ve ever had compliments of the most devoted slave I’ve ever had.  I enjoyed a birthday cake baked by a wonderful friend who made it the special way my mother always did for me…with whipped cream instead of frosting, etc. It was a perfect evening and weekend.