Vegas 2015 recap

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

I’ve survived another of our legendary Vegas trips! I had an amazing time, as always.

I cherish the relationships I have with others in this wacky industry. It means so much to have peers to discuss the unique issues that come with this business. I’m sure it’s the same for anyone, whether you’re a lawyer, work in the medical field, a teacher, a mechanic, a bar tender, a CFO, a coder, etc.  There are things about your work that only those who do the same work understand. For me living in Vancouver I’m often fairly isolated from others who understand my work. My friends are very supportive, but it’s different hanging out with those who walk the walk & talk the talk.

So these Vegas trips are great opportunities to network, meet new friends and build on the relationships I already have. Sure, we party a bit, but we also share meals & talk, go to the spa & talk, hang out & talk. It’s fun AND it feeds my soul.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room...Meggerz & I.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room…Meggerz & I.

 

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Here’s a shout out to both Kinkbomb & Clips4Sale who hosted amazing dinners & events. These events bring the community closer & it’s very much appreciated.

We has some crazy nights too...Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

We had some crazy nights too…Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo....mmm furrries:-)

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo….mmm furrries:-)

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Here’s also a shout out to The Cupcake Girls. They provide excellent free services to women in the adult industry. (Like legal advice, medical/dental, counseling, educational support, emergency services, etc.)  They have a suite at the AVN convention where gals can come get their hair or make-up done for free, get mini massages, something to eat, etc. It’s a wonderful place to connect with other ladies in the industry & a very positive way to spread the word about the good work they do.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

So, until we meet again! Thanks to the ladies who made this trip awesome. Particularly…& because your photo is here:

Princess Meggerz: www.Meggerz.com

Ceara Lynch: www.CearaLynch.com

Alexandra Snow: www.AlexandraSnow.com

Lexi Sindel: www.FemdomEmpire.com

Shauna Ryanne: http://shaunaryanne.weebly.com

Caroline Pierce: https://twitter.com/caroline_pierce

Jasmine Mendez: http://laughinglatina.weebly.com/

xo

Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
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Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/MistressTdotnet

 

NY Trip Rescheduled Due To Blizzard

It's up to you New York...New York!

It’s up to you New York…New York!

This is an update for all you New Yorkers hoping to see me…you did not miss your chance! Due to the blizzard my flight was cancelled (no flights were going in or out of NY). Rather than trying to cram the bookings I had into half the time I decided to postpone the trip.

In case you’re wondering what I do about deposits in cases like this: I have the ability to issue a refund via the helpful support staff at clips4sale which I did for 1 gentleman. All the others were happy to hold tight for when I do make it to NY (within the next few months).

Note that if you ask support for a refund without my giving them the go-ahead you risk being permanently blocked from clips4sale. They do that to prevent scams. But don’t worry, if there is a legitimate reason for a refund I’m happy to facilitate it so you won’t get blocked. I’m a fair person.

If you are generous & able to make a deposit send an email introducing yourself & describe exactly what you’re hoping for during our time together (social/private/specific activities). Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/MistressTdotnet

New York New York

The fates have aligned & I will be coming to New York soon. Well, if you call fate a generous fan compensating me enough to come there…

Me in NY in 2007! I've been back several times since but I didn't get any typical touristy photo's.

Me in NY in 2007! I’ve been back several times since but I didn’t get any typical touristy photo’s.

This fan also gave me a flexible return ticket so I decided to take a few extra days to hang with my pal Meg, you may recall she & I have gone to Vegas, Greece & New Orleans together: (http://meggerz.com/)

Meg & I in Greece in August. LOVE this gal:-)

Meg & I in Greece in August. LOVE this gal:-)

I’ll also have time to spend with some other fans.

How do you get to be one of the lucky few? Well, money obviously is key but it’s equally about ‘low maintenance’. That means I prefer fans who communicate clearly but briefly, who are willing & able to make a deposit right away to demonstrate they are reliable & serious…& frankly, fans who are just really excited about spending time with me. That means it’s more about connecting with ME than a list of services or props.

This will likely be my last trip for awhile. I plan to take some time to work on other projects (don’t worry, the vids will continue) but trips take a lot of energy & I’ll be putting that energy elsewhere. So if you want to see me, this will be you last chance for awhile.

Here’s how you apply. If you do not follow these instructions you will likely not get a reply. If I am not interested or able to see you, you may not get a reply either:

Email subject line: New York

Email body:

#1. In a short paragraph or point form explain what you’re hoping for during our time together & what you’re offering (Minimum $500).

#2. State that you are willing to make a minimum 50% deposit via the tribute button on my clips store. http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (If you are not willing or able to do this, do not email me. No exceptions.)

My email address: MsT@MistressT.net

Cheers to rich perverts!

Cheers to rich perverts!

NOTE: Before you get all butt-hurt about it sounding like I’m all about the money & you not being able to afford to see me…put yourself in my shoes: would you rather see 6 guys a day for $200 an hour or 2 guys a day for about the same amount of money? 2 guys to negotiate all details & organize things with, versus 6? And who wants to be the last guy on the day I’ve seen 5 others? He’s not going to get the best version of me.

Also, it’s New York City! If I’m not enjoying the guy I’m seeing & being compensated well I’d rather not make money & just go enjoy the city or hang out with Meg. So if you don’t have a generous budget, sorry, that’s just the way life goes.

Best of luck to all applicants!

Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/MistressTdotnet

 

A Gentleman’s Guide To Submission

dark_cleavageI usually avoid writing generalized “how-to” guides because although some things are universal I feel that every Domme/sub relationship should be customized.

What follows here is only my opinion. I do not speak for all Professional Dominants/online Dommes, regular life non-pro Dommes, etc.

I’ve long said that what I value most in a submissive man is good manners. To be honest, I value good manners in every person. It goes beyond just being Canadian with politeness bred into my bones. It’s not necessarily the formality of proper manners that you often get with the British (which I find delightful), it can be more casual & friendly…but the heart of it is consideration & thoughtfulness. A good submissive simply THINKS of the Dominant’s needs or wants BEFORE his own, every time.

At the risk of over-simplifying it, it really can be that simple. Just putting the Dommes needs before his own.

Taking a slightly different angle, think of it as being cared for. If you are a good submissive you ‘care’ about how your Domme feels. You care that she is happy, content, etc. You get pleasure from knowing you have made her happy. In a similar way as you would feel if you were caring for a sick person, a young person, someone who needs your help, a pet, a wounded animal, etc. If you helped someone change a tire, you would feel good. If you helped an old lady bring heavy groceries up a set of stairs to her apartment, you would feel good. If you saved a puppy that was just about to fall off a balcony, you would feel good. You get the point. The chemicals that are released which produce the emotions that make you feel good are basically the same.

So in a way, serving well is somewhat self-serving. But if you didn’t like the way it made you feel to be a good submissive than you probably wouldn’t be into that, right?

This is at the heart of submission.

Now, there is another side to ‘submission’ that sadly, if more prevalent. The so-called slave who just wants a woman to act as a puppet to fulfill his fantasies. He wants her to do specific sex acts, like piss on him, fuck him in the ass, put him in chastity, kick him in the balls, spank him, cross dress him, make him suck cock, etc. etc. It’s perfectly fine to hire a Professional Dominatrix to perform those services but understand that you are not submitting to fulfill the desires of your Mistress. It’s a different thing.

Many just have a fetish & aren’t necessarily interested in submission. They just like feet, or pantyhose, etc. and that’s fine. But one should always be a gentleman.

In my case, it is possible to hire me to fulfill your fantasy of submission, you can request certain activities, let me know what your boundaries (hard limits) are…and that’s all well & good. No judgement there. It’s how Pro Domming usually works. With structure. But consider the depth & sincerity of your experience. Consider a slight shift in your thinking. Instead of thinking only about the services you want performed, think about how you can best behave to please your Mistress. Find out what she enjoys & try it, even if it’s not top of your list, just to experience the feeling of sacrificing a little to give someone else pleasure.

Personally, I like a strong submissive. A man who is a gentleman. Not a weakling that I can bully & push around, but a man who gracefully chooses to submit to me. I like a slave who has self respect & whom I can respect.

I don’t have a lot of rules to be universally followed. It’s more of a philosophy. If you come from the right spirit than it will be received as such. That is the base from which everything else is built.

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/MistressTdotnet

 

A kinky short story…

“Why do you pretend to be shy?”

I replied that I didn’t like intimidating people and I wanted to be treated like a normal person.

“Darling, you couldn’t be normal if you tried. There’s a boldness in you that makes mere mortals want to bow down to you, follow your orders, gain your favor, listen to your advice.”

He was wearing a leather fetish dog mask and collar but not much else. His body was strong and toned. The leather micro shorts at least left something to the imagination…until a friend whispered in my ear that he has a huge cock.

He slowly lowered himself to his knees, his strong muscles putting on a nice display. He took on the stance of an obedient dog and gently offered himself as my pet.

I stroked my leather gloved hand over his back and he shivered. I removed my glove & touched him again. This time I shivered. This was going to be fun.

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/MistressTdotnet

Private Sessions

Want to meet me in person? Here’s what you need know:

#1. No, I am not coming to your city. I don’t ‘tour’, which means that I don’t announce I’m going to a place & then take a dozen sessions with multiple clients. I did this years ago & I am no longer interested. I occasionally accept an invitation to travel to another place IF the fan has compensated me extremely well AND we’ve built a rapport/I’m interested & feel comfortable with him. So start with an introduction and a tribute to get my attention. (There is a section on tributes on my FAQ: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/frequently-asked-questions/)

#2. Want to see me in Vancouver? Your best chance of seeing me in person is if you are in Vancouver or willing/able to come to Vancouver.

#3. I don’t escort/engage in intercourse or oral sex with clients (no oral sex means no oral sex of any kind between us. No licking my genitals or anus.). No hard sports.

#4. What I do: Dominatrix/fetish/woman-in-control scenarios. My specialty is tie & tease/orgasm control/ruined orgasms/FemDom hand jobs. I am equally comfortable with sensually Dominant sessions or cruel humiliation scenarios. I have a full wardrobe of leather, latex, lingerie, hosiery, boots, shoes, gloves, etc. Minimum: $400/60 mins. (or $550/90mins. $700/2 hours.)

5. My social rate is $100/hr. Conversation over dinner, drinks, coffee/tea, etc.

Disclaimer: To be honest I really don’t have much time for private sessions these days. I rarely accept them as I’m either creating new content or enjoying a balanced personal life.

Email a brief but clearly communicated message that includes the specific activities you’re interested in, when you’re hoping to meet in Vancouver & session length request: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/MistressTdotnet