A Not So Unlikely Friendship with TS Rianna James

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Those who have followed me closely might have noticed some hot scenes featuring women with cocks. Some of those scenes are particularly hot because of my acute attraction to the person. I don’t have a fetish for trans women as a concept, I’ve just really been into some who I’ve had the opportunity to work with.

I confess, when I first saw Rianna, I didn’t know she was trans. I just thought she was a sexy human. I found her smile infectious. We’d run into each other at parties, we had many mutual friends & acquaintances. There might have been flirting.

I liked her as a person & eventually I was intrigued by the idea of what she had under her skirt.

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We’ve become closer lately & I’ve enjoyed taking pics & vids of her. You might find it titillating knowing that I was behind the camera for recent & upcoming pics/vids.

Rianna loves interacting with fans on cam. Like, really loves it. She’s quite the expert on many sexual topics & I feel she has a lot to teach guys about orgasm control, ass play, water sports, worship, BDSM, sexual health, as well as combining some holistic techniques to achieve better orgasms.

She doesn’t need any promotion from me. She’s plenty busy & turns business away as she also has a well-balanced personal life. (Though if you’re curious: https://www.tsriannajames.com/) I guess I just want to brag about a neat person I’m getting to know…& to do one of those things I’m passionate about: humanizing sex workers. Trans sex workers in particular are often objectified. Rianna is a playful sex tsunami but she’s also a great cook, likes flower arranging, is sweet to my pet Lovebird, enjoys yoga, watches at least an hour every day of educational youtube vids to expand her knowledge & is good to people. She’s got her head screwed on right & her positive attitude has injected some lovely energy into my life.

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xo

Mistress T

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The genius of Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

FemDoms Sidonia Von Bork and Mistress T

Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com & Mistress T, flanked by 2 latex sissies.

Do you ever wonder what it’s like to film with The English Mansion? What happens behind the scenes?

I’ve been filming there for quite a few years and I’m often surprised and amazed. The pure genius of Sidonia Von Bork can not be rivaled (though often copied, poorly).

Find scenes with me, Sidonia & other fab Dommes here: http://www.theenglishmansion.com

Just blathering on about how creative & interesting she is might be a boring read so instead I’ll share a funny story from my recent trip.

Sidonia is skilled at casting people in scenarios that are a good fit. Slaves in situations that are hot for them and Dommes in roles that showcase them in the best way. Sometimes she puts me in situations that are new for me, having faith that I’d roll with the punches. Like that time she had me crush a sandwich into the mud with my boot and make a slave eat it. But that’s another story.

It was a full day of filming. We were on our third scene of the day. Things were moving along quickly and Sidonia had rushed off to put the slave in elaborate upside down bondage. We had discussed wardrobe but unusually, she hadn’t told me much about the scene. Another slave was helping me lace up my boots and I jokingly said that I had no idea what we were about to do in the next scene. We started making guesses and placing bets. You never know with Sidonia. I think she spends most of her time just plotting & scheming.

I was ushered into the dungeon where the slave was hanging upside down in a web of restraints and rope. It was art. Sidonia said we had to do the scene quickly as it was difficult for the slave to stay inverted for too long. I stood beside him & we started rolling. Sidonia started to talk, explaining the plot & situation. I just stood there, silent, trying to look like I was part of it and not just an ornament. I felt like doing the Vanna White thing, sweeping my hand gracefully over the slave to display her handy work.

I looked for opportunities to say something but for once, I was silent. The mute Domme standing there trying to not look awkward. Sidonia was having him lick her boot & she gestured for me to do the same. I followed her cues trying to look like this was all natural for me.

Sidonia grabbed some electrics and attached them to his cock, then handed me the controller explaining it can go up to 25. As I started to increase the power the slave whimpered & wiggled. I felt bad for him. I quite liked him. I’d known him for years. Sidonia egged me on to increase the power. I did it and got that familiar rush of pleasure at causing pain. Emotions are complicated, okay? *smile*

I figured this was pretty hard core. Electrocuting the slaves cock while hanging upside down. This must be the climax of the vid? But no, she grabbed some clothes pegs, handed some to me as I realized I was just standing there like an idiot while she gave me things to do. We put the pegs on his cock, balls & surrounding flesh until we ran out of cloths pegs. He looked like a porcupine. I flicked a few of the pegs as he screamed in pain. I’d give him a nice hug after it was all through. Poor dear.

Then Sidonia grabbed this crazy butt plug thing with electrics on it. What the fuck? Who invents this stuff?! She lowered it into his ass and turned it on. His dick was still hard so I guess he liked it?

I wanted to do something without her prompting me so I looked like a proper Domme with her own mind. I decided to do the boot worship bit again but as I lifted my foot I pulled the slave closer at the same time accidentally kicking him in the face. Fuck.

It was time to take off the cloths pegs as he howled in pain, still with the electric butt plug in & the electrics on his cock. Sidonia removed the electrics from his cock and I finally got to do something that I’m good at: the hand job! It didn’t take long to produce a huge cum shot, but I was on auto-pilot and forgot to stop stroking. I accidentally delivered some of the most severe post-orgasm torture ever. The electrics still in his ass & me stroking away as if he hadn’t orgasmed he really started screaming in pain as Sidonia touched my hand to remind me to stop. We wrapped up the scene so the poor slave could get some relief.

Not my best scene though I don’t think you would notice if I hadn’t told you. Sidonia did such an effective job of controlling the whole thing, including me. That’s her mastery. When you watch the vid all you will see is two beautifully dressed Dommes tormenting a beautifully bound slave. Nothing will seem amiss. You likely wouldn’t notice that I don’t talk much or that I’m just doing what Sidonia prompts me to do. You probably won’t notice me kicking him in the face and you’ll think the post orgasm torture is on purpose. You likely won’t notice Sidonia discretely grazing my hand to get me to stop stroking his cock. It will all look gorgeous & perfect. You’ll jerk off to it & maybe not give anything much thought. Or maybe you’ll notice the little things & recognize the genius that Sidonia Von Bork really is.

Sidonia Von Bork & Mistress T at TheEnglishMansion.com

Mistress T and Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com

xo

Mistress T

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ENGLAND! Yes, I’m finally coming back.

Mmmm...England.

Mmmm…England.

It has been nearly three years since my last visit to the UK. Too long, wouldn’t you agree?

Based on the volume of fan mail & session requests I steadily get from my beloved English fans I know the demand is higher than I can meet….but there will be a lucky few.

I don’t have the energy or desire to see 6-8 clients a day like I did at the beginning of my Dominatrix career. Especially for several days consecutively. Naturally, if I can make the same money seeing 1-2 fans a day, why wouldn’t I? It’s not all about money of course but if I can also have an experience that entails a leisurely amount of time to get acquainted over a nice meal, seeing a show or going for a stroll/taking in the sights…then, after building anticipation, ending things with a nice play session with someone I’ve become more comfortable with…well, doesn’t that sound more pleasurable than a rushed hour with a stranger?

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Yes, I have less hair now:-)

So, before you email me asking for a session in London, know that I won’t be doing basic 1 hour sessions. It’s unlikely I’d accept any booking for less than $1000 USD. I’ve already filled two of the four evenings I have available. I will take a few day time encounters (shorter perhaps). I’ll accept respectful gentleman who are generous, low-maintenance, with interests inline with mine. I’ll be using a hotel room without props (I won’t be doing a dungeon rental). Limits: No intercourse, no oral sex of any kind. No FT.

Ideal sessions would involve social time & Sensual Domination/tie & tease/role-play/foot worship/water sports, that sort of thing.

I plan to have a lovely visit in London in the company of gentlemen who I enjoy, eating delicious food, experiencing a bit of culture & having some naughty fun.

I’ll also be visiting my friends at The English Mansion (AKA: FemDom Disneyland). This is actually my main reason for the trip but I’ve included some days in London to meet fans & see the city as I haven’t been back in so long.

A dungeon of delights...

A dungeon of delights…with Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

Ah, the foolish smile of a slave who doesn't know what Sidonia Von Bork has in store for him...

Ah, the foolish smile of a slave who doesn’t know what Sidonia Von Bork has in store for him…

I am not accepting applications for film slaves while in England.

If you are generous, respectful fan who would like to spend some time with me in London the end of March/April 1, email ASAP as spots are VERY limited: MsT@MistressT.net

If accepted, a 50% non-refundable deposit will be required to hold your spot. No exceptions.

May the odds ever be in your favor.

Mistress T

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A Duo Session with Miss Jasmine

Mistress T & Miss Jasmine

Nearly a decade ago in the early days of being Professional Dominatrix’s in Vancouver, Miss Jasmine & I became friends. We did basically the same work & occasionally did sessions together. We’ve supported each other as our careers & lives have evolved.

Jasmine recently reached out to set up a duo session with a client of hers who requested me. I still like doing sessions, I just dislike the process of setting up a session with a new person. Poor communication & flakiness abound. Being contacted for a session by another professional makes the process a breeze. All the pertinent information (without the fluff) is efficiently exchanged & arrangements are firmed up quickly.

The date was set. She & I would have lunch before & then head to his hotel together. He was into a bit of bondage & sensual Domination, feet, hosiery, face sitting (clothed) & anal play/strap-on. It’s rather easy to fill up 90 minutes with those activities.

Jasmine had seen this client many times before & knew him well. He had been a fan of my vids for years & knew my style. That certainly helped with the comfort level. Things were more likely to go smoother.

We arrived & there were hugs all around. Hugging a stranger might seem a bit odd but within an hour I will have touched his private parts, a lot, & have shoved my crotch in his face, might as well get the physical contact part going right away.

He had a bottle of bubbly on ice. We decided to indulge.

Some Dommes won’t drink alcohol during a session. For me, it depends on safety really. How safe I feel with the client & what activities I’m doing. For example, I wouldn’t drink alcohol if I would be doing sounding or CP, but foot worship, face sitting & especially golden showers: sure.

For ladies reading this here’s how I feel safest: The bottle is unopened, I open it & pour my own drink. I don’t leave my drink unattended & the client drinks from the same container. This may sound paranoid but drinks getting spiked is a thing & better safe than sorry.

In my experience a drink or two can enhance the session for both parties, loosen you both up a bit. There is obviously a difference between a drink or two vs. getting smashed & out of control. A very drunk client is no fun to deal with & getting drunk yourself is unprofessional.

The view from his hotel room was stunning. I took a moment after getting changed, to admire the view & sip my drink. I’m sure the view of me in lingerie & heels from behind was a nice view for him too.

We stripped him & tied him spread eagle to the bed. He was grinning ear-to-ear & his cock was already standing at attention, twitching into the air. The next while was likely a blur to him as Jasmine & I took turns putting our feet in his face, sitting on his face & teasing his horny cock. Jasmine had brought some special smelly goodies for him (he has been buying her worn items for years). She had socks she’d worn for a couple weeks & a pair of well-worn panties. She held them over his face & made him breath deeply. He was in heaven. He kept saying he couldn’t believe we were both there & this was really happening.

Out came the rubber gloves, lube & toys/strap-ons. We incorporated ass play into the fun, moving him around in different positions, fucking him while he was on his back, doggy style & laying down doggy. At one point I was fucking him from behind while his face was buried between Jasmine’s thighs, inhaling her scent through her panties & we were left looking at each other. It was a funny moment already really, us facing each other with this guy between us having this incredible experience. I started to pull faces to make her laugh, crossing my eyes, lolling my tongue out & thrusting dramatically. She was trying hard to not laugh at loud to ruin the moment & like a jerk I just dialed up the funny faces, trying harder to make her lose it. I threw my head back, rolling my eyes back & smiling like a maniac. Poor Jasmine had to clamp her hand over her mouth to keep from laughing out loud. I loved it!

We ended things with him on his back, Jasmine fucking him in the ass with her strap-on & jerking him off while I kept my feet on his face, his eyes darting back & forth between us. I was doing my usual dirty talk, encouraging him along. He was begging enthusiastically to be allowed to cum, Jasmine laughing & holding off on giving him permission…I think most Dommes adore that moment, when a guy is right at the edge of orgasm & he’ll do just about anything to cum but also just about anything to not cum without permission, it’s incredibly powerful to have a man in that vulnerable position.

When she gave permission his whole body convulsed & he looked & sounded in every way to be cumming for at least 20 seconds before the ejaculate came out of his cock. His face was a mix of ecstasy & shock. He was muttering that he didn’t know what just happened. He was explaining that it felt like he came twice in a row. We had been working his ass for about a half hour, he likely had a prostate orgasm just before he actually ejaculated & that is a shocking experience for a lot of guys. A happy surprise *smile*.

I nuzzled his face into my cleavage & kissed his forehead. I’m known for a bit of sweetness at this point in a session, if I feel it’s appropriate. Most guys really love this part, no matter what kind of session it’s been. A bit of tenderness & a quiet moment after cumming.

As we tidied & packed up he kept expressing his joyful confusion about his orgasm & about what an amazing experience he had had. The gratitude was nice to hear. We all like to feel like we’ve done a good job, a sense of pride in accomplishment, don’t we?

You can find more of Miss Jasmine here: http://eurasianpersuasion.com/ & here: http://clips4sale.com/studio/18927

xo

Mistress T

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Back from Guatemala

Meg, Ceara & I exploring a volcano.

Meg, Ceara & I exploring a volcano.

I’m back from my trip to Guatemala with Princess Meggerz & Ceara Lynch. It was an interesting trip. Good food, good friends, nice scenery, warm weather…some ancient ruins, some luxurious spa time & lots of relaxing time to read. Here’s a few random pics from the trip:

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I’ve returned to an unusually cold & icy Vancouver. We’re having a real winter here & it’s as bizarre as it is unpleasant. I’ve lived here for 20 years & I’ve never seen so much snow. We typically just get rain in the winter, like Seattle. Brrrrr!

I’ll be ramping back up to start filming again in a couple weeks, so if you have custom vid requests you can send those in again.

As for my book…my first draft is with the professional editor I hired so that’s exciting. It will still take a few months of going back & forth, reworking things, but it’s moving along!

xo

Mistress T

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Prepare For The Holidays!

The holidays are upon us! For some this is a joyous time, for others, not so much. So I created this little vid to offer some suggestions for helping you these days if it’s a challenge for you: https://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Click the link above this pic...not the pic...I know, I know...the pic should be clickable but cut me some slack. I can't even set the time on my microwave.

Click the link above this pic…not the pic…I know, I know…the pic should be clickable but cut me some slack. I can’t even set the time on my microwave.

I have sent the first draft of my book to the professional editor I chose. So that will get worked on by her for the next few weeks while I’m spending the holidays with my gal pals exploring Guatemala. You might have heard of these two trouble makers: Ceara Lynch & Meggerz. We’ve done a lot of traveling together over the years, I’m excited for more…& also looking forward to the warm weather!

I randomly chose this pic of us from 2013

I randomly chose this pic of us from 2013. Meggerz is on the left, Ceara Lynch in the middle, the great Mistress T on the right.

I know a lot of you will have extra time on your hands in the coming weeks so I’m going to make sure you’re set up with a bunch of great porn, to suit a wide variety of tastes.

Of course ME…you already know my site & clips store but note that there are a couple new additions, if you prefer different platforms:

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
Clips4sale: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

IWantclips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

Kinkbomb: http://www.kinkbomb.com/studio/Mistress_T_-_Fetish_Fuckery

If you like ball busting, face sitting, women beating up men & other more physical FemDom action I strongly recommend Nikki Whiplash’s studio’s. I’ve had the great pleasure of working with Nikki & I would count her as a close friend. Her verbals are fantastic & I find her style of Domination very genuine & seductive.

Nikki Whiplash & I a few years ago...likely discussing our mutual love of ballbusting:-)

Nikki Whiplash & I a few years ago…likely discussing our mutual love of ballbusting:-)

Ballbusting World PPV: http://clips4sale.com/87149

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Lethal Bitches: http://clips4sale.com/87557

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Nikki Whiplash’s PPV, for a variety of FemDom scenes: http://clips4sale.com/96987

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Speaking of FemDom variety…you’ll want to check out the PPV studio brought to you by the diabolical Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com, Bitch World FemDom: http://clips4sale.com/66613

Don't click the pic, remember, I haven't figured that out...the link is above, studio 66613 (bit creepy that number, isn't it?)

Don’t click the pic, remember, I haven’t figured that out…the link is above, studio 66613 (bit creepy that number, isn’t it?)

If Financial Domination is something you’re interested in Ceara Lynch & Princess Meggerz are legends. That’s not all they do…they also specialize in fetishes for panties, feet & other body parts & clothing items…& they’re great at humiliation…& other stuff. It’s a different style of Femdom from The English Mansion & Nikki Whiplash & I’m here to ensure you have a buffet of choices…so here’s links for them:

Ceara Lynch: http://clips4sale.com/studio/16312

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Princess Meggerz: https://iwantclips.com/store/6085/Pay-To-Obey-Meggerz

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Alrighty, you’ve got enough porn options there to keep you busy for a dozen holiday seasons.

If you’re feeling charitable, Doctors Without Borders is a good one (I donated myself today): https://donate.doctorswithoutborders.org/onetime.cfm

Thanks for all your support this past year & always. I hope that I entertained you & helped you to explore your sexuality. Orgasms are good! (Yeah, yeah, except you poor suckers locked in chastity…I don’t know how you do it…I’m going to go masturbate right now, cuz orgasms are pretty much the best thing ever.)

xo

Mistress T

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What’s happening?

I’m sure you’re all dying to know what’s going on in my world so here’s the update.

The book is humming along. I’ve been writing & researching how to self publish/figuring out next steps. I met with a potential editor but it wasn’t the right fit so the search continues. I’m being very particular about who I work with on this project. I have a budget to hire experts but I also want to enjoy working with them.

I took a little road trip to Vegas to hike around Red Rock & the Valley of Fire with my pal Princess Meggerz for her birthday (Find more about her here: http://meggerz.com/). Beautiful nature around Vegas for those who think it’s just a party town.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

We also enjoyed a luxurious spa day compliments of a very generous anonymous fan who sent a $1000 tribute for the spa. I’m not one to brag about gifts & tributes (I know, I’m a lousy FinDom) but holy guacamole! By any standards a $1000 random tribute for the spa is impressive & very much appreciated.

At the spa in Vegas!

At the spa in Vegas!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

While I’m bragging anyway…the same week I sold my worn & torn pantyhose for $500…which I felt was rather generous too. That pretty much covered the hotel in Vegas during our stay. I don’t usually bother selling my worn items as guys don’t usually offer enough to make it worth my while to wear them long enough to get them stinky or to package them up & mail them. But $500? Yes, that was worth my time & effort…& I gotta say: it was a bit of a thrill:-)

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

A little more bragging…a new devotee who aimed to impress basically cleared my Amazon wish list & I’m at a bit of a loss as to what to add to it now as I’m not really that greedy. Bad timing as xmas is coming & I know fans like to spoil. I’ll likely direct tributes to one of the charities I support. Stay tuned for that but in the meantime, my Kiva offer is still valid: http://blog.mistresst.net/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

I squeezed in a visit with Lexi Sindel before leaving (Find more about her here: http://lexisindel.com/). Love that brilliant, funny woman. I also got to catch up with slave Wade, Lexi’s long-time devoted slave. We’ve filmed together for years & he’s a great guy. I wish all slaves were as well-mannered. He said a lot of guys ask him how they can get an opportunity to serve a Domme like he has in real life (not just a paid professional session). His very smart response: Make yourself useful first, without expectation. Give her what you can, make her life easier, be valuable & if she’s a Domme worth serving she’ll show her gratitude, you’ll be rewarded BUT it’s not an exchange. Give & serve unselfishly, then be grateful for what comes.

It’s certainly worked for for slave Wade! He’s served her for many years & has had experiences that most subs could only dream of. To get a taste for how he’s living the good slave life check out Lexi Sindel’s FemDomEmpire.com. You’ll see a lot of Wade getting all kinds of action. Also note that a lot of the equipment you see was made by him, being handy has taken him far:-)

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn't think to take any pics. We've shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn’t think to take any pics. We’ve shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

Wade bound in one of his contraptions...from a recent vid of mine: "Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking"

Wade bound in one of his contraptions…from a recent vid of mine: “Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking”

I love road tripping, especially now in my recently acquired camper van with my boyfriend. I love finding random places to pull over & sleep. One night we tucked in behind an old fire station in a tiny ghost mining town between Vegas & Portland. The view in the morning was charming.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

We stopped into Portland on our way north to visit one of my favorite people: Ceara Lynch (More about her here: http://www.cearalynch.com/). It was great to see her & hear about her adventures, the progress of her exciting hybrid-documentary “Ruin Me” (https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/ruinme/ruin-me) & to have a smashing karaoke party night.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

I’m back in Vancouver now writing for the next few weeks. My goal is to finish my manuscript before I head to Guatemala for Xmas with Ceara & Meg.

I have long overnight layovers in Miami, Florida on both ends of that trip & would consider dinner dates or breakfast dates with fans. I prefer more casual, social meet ups rather than structured, professional sessions. Plus I won’t be traveling with any equipment. So if you live in Miami or near by & would like to meet me, this is a very, VERY rare opportunity. The tribute will need to be motivating as the ‘demand’ for my attention exceeds the ‘supply’ but email me to discuss if you’re in a position to be generous: MsT@MistressT.net

One last thing…I’m soon launching a studio on IWantClips & adding more content to my long neglected Kinkbomb studio for those who prefer those platforms for pay-per-view vids. I’ll make another blog post with the links in a few days. Stay tuned!

Thanks for all the love & support. I feel like I have a huge team of cheerleaders behind me.

xo

Mistress T

Feeling grateful *smile*

My birthday celebrations are not over but I am feeling so grateful I just had to make a post today.

Yesterday was my 40th birthday & so many of you helped make my day awesome. It was a wonderfully blended day of my ‘work’ world enhancing my ‘personal’ world.

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans...all together:-)

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans…all together:-)

One of my film slaves popped by first thing to drop off a thoughtful & useful present. Then my boyfriend stopped in for a quick visit & brought a thoughtful surprise.

Then I went for a nice brunch with a close friend.

Brunch at the fabulous "Medina" YUM!

Brunch at the fabulous “Medina” YUM!

Then I spent the afternoon at the spa, using a gift card sent by a fan (thank you!).

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

Then I went for dinner & drinks with another close friend using a generous gift card from another fan.

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails at L'Abattoir

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails & L’Abattoir

I returned home to my thoughtful boyfriend who had baked my favorite birthday cake. He serenaded me & then took me to bed *wink*.

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I received this wonderful necklace that you’ll see in some of the pics. Thank you Dave! It’s hard to see in the pics but it’s a Fox holding a jewel in its mouth.

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The most overwhelming present I received was from my dear friends at The English Mansion. Sidonia Von Bork commissioned a portrait from the famous artist Sardax. He blogged about it here: https://sardaxart.wordpress.com/2016/04/29/portrait-of-mistress-t/

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

I am so honored & touched by this thoughtful & generous gift. My friendship with Sidonia Von Bork has meant so much to me. She is an amazing, fascinating person. I don’t even have the words…

My birthday celebrations continue tonight. I’m heading out with friends to a lively, sexy party where I’ll have a few drinks, dance a lot & who knows what else:-)

Then I will start chipping away at my list of 40 awesome things to do the year I’m 40. I plan to make this milestone year remarkable. Thanks to a sweet fan I already have a night at the symphony (on my list) planned for next week & a big concert (on my list) mid May. I have already started volunteering (which was one of the things on my list). I’ve been paired up with a nearly blind elderly lady for weekly walks. It may not seem like a huge thing, it’s not going to lead to world peace, but it means a lot to her & it feels good for me. It’s a start…& if everyone just did a little something for other people in need the world really would be a better place.

I have a bunch of other things to plan, hiking into hot springs, skydiving, paragliding, kayaking with Whales (ethically, at a respectful distance), finishing my book, random acts of kindness, converting a meat eater to vegetarianism (any volunteers who want help with that? Reduce animal cruelty, help the environment & improve your health!), learning Spanish, etc. I’m super excited about my 40th year!

Thanks again to everyone who sent birthday wishes & to everyone who supports the work that I love. It really means the world to me. BIG love! xoxoxoxo

Mistress T

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A couple of Netflix Documentaries to watch…

I recently watched a couple of documentaries on Netflix that were recommended to me. “Hot Girls Wanted” and “Love Me”.

I know most of my readers aren’t here for documentary reviews, but bare with me.

“Love Me” is a documentary about American men seeking love and Ukraine women seeking marriage and a life in America, both using an introduction service to meet. Kind of the ‘mail-order bride’ thing, but more in depth. They followed about a dozen guys through the process and frankly I found the whole thing fascinating. Also sad in some ways. Sad because it reminded me of how many lonely people there are in this world who want nothing more than companionship.

The American men were mostly ‘conventially’ unattractive. Heavy set or obese, awkward social skills, etc. but had at least a decent amount of money. The Ukrainian women tended to be very attractive physically but often spoke little or no English. Both parties had an interest in family, which was the commonality that brought them together.

I confess, it made me uncomfortable. The imbalance of physical attractiveness was often so acute. How in most cases nothing else seemed to matter to the men except looks, they didn’t seem to care about personality or compatibility…or even whether or not the woman was even interested in them. To be fair, the two couples who ended up getting married and living in the US seemed genuinely happy with each other. Down right adorable to be honest. I couldn’t help wondering what sex was like? Did the women genuinely enjoy sex with these guys? Some women don’t care what a guy looks like (I’ve had some fantastic sex with guys who were…well, NOT pretty…hell, I’ve been known to say that ugly guys try harder in bed) and some women feel better about themselves having sex with guys who aren’t as good looking. So I know looks tend to be less important to women than men…but we’re talking a pretty wide gap here in both looks & personality. They weren’t charasmatic, charming, but just average looking dudes.

The guy…I wonder if during sex he’s just thinking “Wahoo!” Or if he’s looking down past his giant, hairy gut & double chin at this super model who doesn’t speak English and thinks “if I hadn’t basically paid for this she would never have had sex with me”. Not in the prostitute-by-the-hour way, but in the living with each other and having children together kind of way. How would he ever know if their love was ‘real’? Maybe it doesn’t matter if both parties are getting what they want? Right now I wish Ceara Lynch was here to discuss this. Maybe we’ll get lucky & she’ll comment below with her perspective. I feel like this topic is more of a discussion peice than a monologue.

Moving right along, “Hot Girls Wanted” is a documentary about amateur girls, usually 18-22 getting into the porn business. I found a fair bit of this shocking but that’s what they were likely going for: the shock factor, especially with the violent niche stuff (facial abuse, etc.). Although I have an adult business I have been quite sheltered, living in Canada and within my niche of FemDom Fetish porn.  I have basically zero personal experience in the mainstream porn world. I got into this business around the age of 30 and was never exploited. I didn’t do it because I needed money, although the money was nice. I didn’t do it to get famous, I never wanted to be a porn ‘star’. That seemed to be the main motivator for the girls in this documentary: money, to make it ‘big’ (they loved the attention/compliments/ego stroking) and often they wanted a way out of their small town.

What I struggle with here is that the girls are so young and naive, they are so easily taken advantage of, often encouraged to do things they aren’t comfortable with. The agents/producers seem to use them very hard, knowing that they’ll probably be in and out of the business in a year or less. But this is what the market demands. Men watching this type of mainstream porn seem to want an unending supply of young new faces and for them to be used hard, broken.

I don’t imply these are unwilling victims. These girls answer ads for this kind of work, they walk in with their eyes open. They are compensated fairly (it seems). It’s just unfortunate that so many of these girls are simply too young & inexperienced to really make an informed decision…and that YOUNG & INEXPERIENCED is what guys want so badly.

I have been in complete control of every sex scene I’ve done, with the exception of the 2 scenes I did for Kink.com’s Divine Bitches. Happily, I was attracted to and liked both of the male performers I had sex with in those scenes and everyone treated me with the upmost respect. I was given the option to use condoms and have sex in any way that I wanted. In a way, the all-female team made it feel like the male performers were there as much for my pleasure as I was there to help create a quality scene that would make them money. But the nature of the situation, meeting someone minutes before having sex with them left me reluctant to do scenes like that again…and I haven’t. I knew I got lucky there, that it wouldn’t always be like that with other producers. There was a risk of getting into uncomfortable situations working FOR other people and I just didn’t need to do it. Being in control of my own scenes and deciding who I had sex with was plenty profitable and better suited to my control-freak personality.

At The English Mansion it was always a collaboration. It is a true FemDom environment and all males were given to me to use as I pleased, or not, which is why I’ve filmed so much with them over the years. That is not how it is on many mainstream porn sets, so I’ve heard.

My hat off to the porn stars who have found a way to make doing porn in the mainstream work for them in the long term. I know there’s a big difference in how various companies film and it’s hard to tell as the viewer what’s good acting by a gal who’s actually into rough sex (and treated with respect off camera) versus a gal that’s been pressured into a painful, humiliating sex act because she needs the money or worse: the type of scene wasn’t actually clearly explained beforehand (in other words, if she was manipulated into a situation that would leave her traumatized).

I don’t know what advice to give you if you’re into that kind of porn? Maybe spend your money on established porn performers who seem to have their shit together? Ones who are most likely ‘acting’ and not actually doing something they don’t want to do? If anyone has tips for ethical porn consumption (for mainstream stuff) please comment below. I’d like to know.

Chances are most of you reading this are into the type of porn I produce, where women are in control. That’s good. I have surrounded myself with women who run their own businesses and call all the shots (Alexandra Snow, Ceara Lynch, Princess Meggerz, Lexi Sindel, Sidonia Von Bork, Nikki Whiplash etc.) None of whom are exploited. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting women who are doing other types of adult work but have not encountered the types of girls featured in the documentary “Hot Girls Wanted”. I guess there’s a lot I don’t know about the porn industry. If you want to be a little more informed, I recommend you watch it. Or not, If you’re easily upset by women being misused, cuz there’s enough of that in this documentary to make ya squirm.

Mistress T

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Holiday 2015 VLOG (Free Vid)

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I created a VLOG to thank my fans for a great 2015. It includes little chats with some of my industry friends who I met up with during my recent road trip.

Here’s the link: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

 

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland

Ceara Lynch: http://cearalynch.com/

Jack Hammer & I in San Francisco

Jack Hammer & I in San Francisco

Jack Hammer: http://jackhammer.xxx/

Lexi Sindel & I in Vegas

Lexi Sindel & I in Vegas

Lexi Sindel: http://femdomempire.com/videos/

Lexi Sindel, Mina Thorne & I in Vegas

Lexi Sindel, Mina Thorne & I in Vegas

Mina Thorne: http://www.minathorne.com/

Meg & I...between Phoenix & Joshua Tree

Meg & I…between Phoenix & Joshua Tree

Princess Meggerz: http://meggerz.com/

A big, sincere thank you to all of my fans who made 2015 another great year. I feel your love every day.

To the fans who financially support me & my work by joining my site, buying my vids, sending me gifts & tributes, etc.: THANK YOU. You make it possible for me to do something I love while building security & helping others. I have a few charities that I give to so your money is doing good in the world too.

I know that not all of you are able to support me in a financial way by buying my vids, sending tributes, etc…I know some of you worship by following my blog & twitter…& I know that some of you think you are worshiping me by viewing content that you don’t realize has been stolen & actually hurts my business…if you are one of those people at least serve me by serving your planet: eat less meat, recycle, use less electricity, use less water, use products that are gentle on the environment…& be kind to yourself & others. Kindness goes a long way in paying it forward to make the world a better place for everyone.

A warm n’ fuzzy thank you to the many fans who made micro loans through Kiva this year to get access to free porn. It has been an enormous success! It continues & is still available for those who need to be discreet about payment but still want to do the right thing & “pay” for the porn they enjoy. Here’s the details: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

I expect 2016 to be another amazing year. I have already scheduled content for the first few months so I know for certain things are getting off to a great start. I’m so excited about the scenes that are coming up! You are going to go fucking banana’s over it *smile*.

Big love,

Mistress T

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