Feeling grateful *smile*

My birthday celebrations are not over but I am feeling so grateful I just had to make a post today.

Yesterday was my 40th birthday & so many of you helped make my day awesome. It was a wonderfully blended day of my ‘work’ world enhancing my ‘personal’ world.

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans...all together:-)

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans…all together:-)

One of my film slaves popped by first thing to drop off a thoughtful & useful present. Then my boyfriend stopped in for a quick visit & brought a thoughtful surprise.

Then I went for a nice brunch with a close friend.

Brunch at the fabulous "Medina" YUM!

Brunch at the fabulous “Medina” YUM!

Then I spent the afternoon at the spa, using a gift card sent by a fan (thank you!).

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

Then I went for dinner & drinks with another close friend using a generous gift card from another fan.

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails at L'Abattoir

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails & L’Abattoir

I returned home to my thoughtful boyfriend who had baked my favorite birthday cake. He serenaded me & then took me to bed *wink*.

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I received this wonderful necklace that you’ll see in some of the pics. Thank you Dave! It’s hard to see in the pics but it’s a Fox holding a jewel in its mouth.

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The most overwhelming present I received was from my dear friends at The English Mansion. Sidonia Von Bork commissioned a portrait from the famous artist Sardax. He blogged about it here: https://sardaxart.wordpress.com/2016/04/29/portrait-of-mistress-t/

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

I am so honored & touched by this thoughtful & generous gift. My friendship with Sidonia Von Bork has meant so much to me. She is an amazing, fascinating person. I don’t even have the words…

My birthday celebrations continue tonight. I’m heading out with friends to a lively, sexy party where I’ll have a few drinks, dance a lot & who knows what else:-)

Then I will start chipping away at my list of 40 awesome things to do the year I’m 40. I plan to make this milestone year remarkable. Thanks to a sweet fan I already have a night at the symphony (on my list) planned for next week & a big concert (on my list) mid May. I have already started volunteering (which was one of the things on my list). I’ve been paired up with a nearly blind elderly lady for weekly walks. It may not seem like a huge thing, it’s not going to lead to world peace, but it means a lot to her & it feels good for me. It’s a start…& if everyone just did a little something for other people in need the world really would be a better place.

I have a bunch of other things to plan, hiking into hot springs, skydiving, paragliding, kayaking with Whales (ethically, at a respectful distance), finishing my book, random acts of kindness, converting a meat eater to vegetarianism (any volunteers who want help with that? Reduce animal cruelty, help the environment & improve your health!), learning Spanish, etc. I’m super excited about my 40th year!

Thanks again to everyone who sent birthday wishes & to everyone who supports the work that I love. It really means the world to me. BIG love! xoxoxoxo

Mistress T

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Mature Mentality


I once heard this ‘joke’: A young bull & an old bull were on top of a hill looking down at a group of cows. The young bull excitedly said: “I’m going to run down there a fuck a cow!” & the older bull calmly responded: “I’m going to walk down & fuck them all.”

It’s funny, but it’s also a learning opportunity. I’ll get to it, but I’ll also share another interesting bit of info. The preferred client for a lot of sex workers, escorts & Pro Dommes, is middle aged men, not young, hot 20-somethings. Why do you think that is?

The title of this blog post is a hint. “Mature mentality” is what separates the men from the boys…but it’s not just an age thing. A 45 year old man can be cocky, disrespectful & annoying…and a 23 year old guy can be a complete gentleman…it’s just that cockiness tends to be more common for guys in their 20’s.

What does it mean to be cocky? Cockiness is a false confidence, it’s bragging or boasting about your good looks, how big your dick is, about how much sex you get, about how much money you make…it’s a sense of entitlement, that a woman should want you, that people should give you what you demand. It’s turning the focus on you, looking for reinforcement, it’s a hunger for recognition or power. It’s selfish & shallow.

A lot of older men will tell you that they were like that when they were younger. They think back on their 20 year old selves & laugh at how stupid they were but how much they thought they knew. They cringe at how they treated women.

Older men tend to be humble, they’ve made some mistakes and learned from them. They’ve learned through trial & error how to get a woman & how to please her…& it’s not about sex tips from Maxim…it’s about learning to listen to women, about turning the focus toward the woman rather than themselves. It’s unselfish. Often when women feel seen, heard, respected & cherished they then return ten fold what they received. Not always of course, there are selfish takers, but in general, older men find that they end up getting more in the end by giving more.

Young men tend to objectify women, see sex as a game with women as the opponents. Older men tend to appreciate connection & intimacy more. Again…there are exceptions on both ends but the reason I’m posting this it to encourage men who fall more into the ‘cocky’ column to rethink their perspective & actions. I encourage young men who tend to brag & boast to dial it back. Young men who think that they’re hot & that’s all it should take to get sex, to rethink that. If you’re the kind of guy who thinks sending an unsolicited dick pic to a woman is a good approach, you need to SERIOUSLY change your way of thinking.

I get emails every day from these kinds of guys. Boys in their 20’s who think that I should be falling over myself to take a session with them because they are good looking. These are the kinds of guys who would not respect my boundaries, who would think that once in the same room I would give in & let them fuck me. They think I would rather see them than a pudgy, balding 50 year old man. But I would take the mature, respectful, appreciative gentleman over the entitled, cocky kid any day.

You don’t have to be 50 to have that “mature mentality”. I’ve met guys in their 20’s that have it too. It’s a state of mind, it’s a way of living, it’s about coming from a place of humbleness, respectfulness, kindness, thoughtfulness & gratitude. These are not weaknesses, these are strengths. Imagine a great Knight who bows to his Queen. He is not weak or less than. He is strong and charming.

Food for thought:-)

Mistress T

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Sex Ed – Consent Is Sexy

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“Consent” has been in the news a lot lately. Mainstream porn can take a certain amount of blame for giving men the wrong ideas about consent. I’ve said it before but it’s worth repeating: porn is for entertainment, not education.

Consent is sexy guys…knowing that you have a full green light, a clear YES, that a woman wants you…that’s hot. Consent can be complicated though so get informed & level up on your man game.

I’ve just read this helpful article about consent that I’m going to share with you. It references “Club Eden” which is a classy, friendly sex club in he greater Vancouver area. You’ll find lots of other great posts there about swinging/non-monogamy plus useful sex advice. Check it out:



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My birthday is coming up!


Why on earth would I be announcing my birthday? Presents, of course! I’m not really into Financial Domination but I’m not going to pass up an opportunity to get presents, gifts, offerings, goodies, treats, etc. Who doesn’t like getting presents?! *grin*

My birthday is April 29th & it’s the big 4-0 for me this time. I know, I look fantastic for my age & I feel fantastic too. Healthy diet, yoga, lots of walking, great sex, keeping things low stress, getting decent sleep…always striving for balance.

I have big plans for this year. Rather than celebrating with a birthday dinner or party I’ve made a list of “40 awesome things to do in my 40th year”…so that I mark this milestone year with a lot of memorable & meaningful things. The list contains some obvious activities like skydiving & paragliding but also things like “helping a young woman reach a goal”, volunteering & a minimum of 12 random acts of kindness. I included “finish my book” so for those wondering when my book will be done…I’m hoping by this time next year.

If you would like to “gift” me one of the awesome things on my list here are some examples of things you could contribute to:

– Kayak with whales (kayaking excursion in Tofino)

– Tickets for a local theater performance

– Tickets for the symphony: http://www.vancouversymphony.ca/concerts/

– Adrenaline activities: “escape room” game / paintball / zip line / skydive / para-glide

Gift certificates for my favorite spa are ALWAYS appreciated: http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/ (Just give them my email address, they know who I am, it’s fine: MsT@MistressT.net)

Amazon.com gift cards are always a wonderful choice (to this email address): MsT@MistressT.net

Here’s my Amazon Wish List: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_p9jbxb0WKY55P

If you would like to take me to the symphony, theater, out for dinner, etc. There is an additional tribute required for my company in public. Please inquire via email.

Thanks in advance for all spoiling! *smile*


Mistress T

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Back to work!

So I got back to work yesterday. I filmed for the first time in months, the longest filming break I’ve taken.

I had planned to start filming again in April & my keen film guys were chomping at the bit so filming got scheduled for April 1, without delay.

What hadn’t been scheduled was a bout of unglamorous food poisoning the day before. I was feeling pretty weak the morning of filming and considered cancelling the whole thing but decided to soldier on. I have always hated cancelling plans & pride myself on a reputation of being super reliable.

I dusted off the lights that were in storage and checked the camera to make sure it was still working. During its hiatus the battery had stopped working even though it was charged, but the camera works while plugged in, so no panic. That wonderful camera has traveled all over the last few years and has served me well. I don’t plan on retiring it. Hopefully a new battery will do the trick.

I had recently converted my purple ‘set’ to teal and I was excited to see how it would film. Yup, that’s what gets me excited and I’m not alone. I’ll give you a bit of behind-the-scenes info. I’ve filmed on a lot of sets and producers tend to put a lot of thought into colors and details. We really do get excited about our sets. Truth.

I took extra time to do my hair & make-up. I knew I was feeling tired, I didn’t want to look tired.

My pal Samantha Mack popped by to grab my dick. An impromptu visit. She had a custom vid request that required a very large strap-on dong & I had just the thing for her. We had a quick catch-up & I saw her out just before my first victim, er, film slave arrived.

It was great to see him. We’ve filmed dozens of scenes together. He’s very chill & best of all, he has a hair trigger for a cum shot. By that I mean that he cums very easily. He was the guy in the vid that I made ejaculate with just one finger. That makes my ‘job’ a lot easier. I can control the pace of the scene better that way, rather than getting to the part where I want the cum shot & having to jerk hard for a few minutes to get there, dragging out the dialogue past where I had wanted it. This whole hand job thing is an art. I know I make it look easy but it isn’t always easy.

He’s also great to work with because he has such a wide range of perversions. Pretty much anything I want to do he’s down for. The scene we did yesterday was an evil step-mother thing. I like playing the bad guy. It gives me an outlet for my dark side…& we all have a dark side.

We had a nice chat and a cup of tea after before he went back to work, in a better frame of mind for an important meeting. I know that sounds cliche, but it’s the truth.

Up next was a young fella I’ve filmed with a few times. I hadn’t seen him in quite awhile & he had worked hard to lose weight for me. He only had a little belly before and I’m not sure if I mentioned it to him but bellies can make filming more difficult as it can hide the action & make a dick look shorter. I was impressed that he went to the effort without being instructed…but I was most glad that he was just healthier. He had lost the little belly by cutting pop and junk food out of his diet. That will serve him well in the long run. I’m a real health nut.

We did a brother/sister scene which he thought was amusing because last time we did a mother/son scene. I promised him next time we’d do something with leather as I know he has a thing for that. He was a trooper though & performed like a champ.

The last victim of the day was a guy I have a lot of history with, 5 years at least. A slave I sort of dated for awhile a couple years ago. It wasn’t much of a relationship but it was fun while it lasted. He’s a good boy, crazy about ball busting, cuckolding & femdom. A true submissive with gentlemanly style. He loves to serve & he’s cute. A nice combo. I like filming with him & he’s made the rounds filming with most of the other Dommes around town. Little slut:-)

We did 2 ball busting scenes, both quite different. I don’t normally do hand job scenes with him (he doesn’t ejaculate as easily as I like) but he was so riled up & horny, he promised he would cum easily. And he did. The scene was super hot. A cuckolding scene incorporating real life events for us from the past. As I said, we have a long history so there’s a lot to draw from.

He hung around after filming, catching me up on his recent escapades. As a cute, fun guy he gets a lot of action in the local fetish scene. He did admit that sometimes girls say they’re intimidated by the fact that he dated “Mistress T”. An obstacle he no doubt manages to overcome. I told him he should do a blog about his adventures. He’s a ball busting film slave & party boy. He has an interesting life.

I was almost done for the day when another one of my ex’s came by for a visit. We were together almost a decade ago & have been great friends since. After he left I got ready for bed. I was tired but felt rejuvenated. All the filming went really well, I enjoyed it. I also felt blessed to have spent time with 3 of my ex’s (Samantha & I had a thing years ago as well). I’m grateful to have maintained friendships with people I’ve been in intimate relationships with.

This was a long blog with no pictures. I didn’t think to take any yesterday. I know not everyone likes to read long entries but for those who want to get to know me more intimately this blog probably hit the spot.


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