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No, we can not discuss meeting in person.

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UPDATE: Fuck it. If you send a tribute I’ll discuss meeting in person. It’s still not going to happen anytime soon but for the right money, you can get my attention.

That payment can be made in any of the following ways, in order of my preference. EMAIL: MsT@MistressT.net

Gift cards (most of these accept PayPal & credit cards):
https://www.spud.ca (delivery area Vancouver, BC)
Tribute button on one of my clips stores:
 
E-transfer for those with Canadian banks to MsT@MistressT.net. Security password: goodboy

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This blog post will be used as a response to emails asking to meet in person, for a private session, filming or anything else.

No, we can not discuss meeting in person during a pandemic. It would be irresponsible & reckless for both of us and for the community. I certainly wouldn’t take that risk for a few hundred dollars, even thousands of dollars. Certainly not to make an adult video.

WHEN might this change? Not within the next year, at least. Until there is a vaccine, I don’t see how this close, in-person activity, which in 90% of the cases would require one of us to travel to another country (the biggest no-go for the foreseeable future), could happen before everyone has been vaccinated.

So, no, I will not discuss your fantasy now, even if you think it would be possible to meet in a few months (it won’t).

I have been inundated with requests to meet. When I respond that this won’t be possible anytime soon so there is no point in discussing I have gotten more angry, hateful responses than I have received in the last decade combined. I don’t understand why I’m getting such an intense reaction from stating what is reality? Perhaps it’s a measure of the emotional health of the world right now? A desperation for men to have some hope to hold onto, something to look forward to, a fantasy to help them escape the darkness of the moment. I’m sorry, I won’t play along. But good news: there are hundreds of women out there who will. If you have a budget to discuss fantasies with women online, oh boy, it’s your lucky day as there are even more than there were before and they would love your financial support.

If you’ve been sent this as a response to a nice email telling me you’re a really big fan and you’d love to meet and you’re now feeling rejected, defensive and inspired to send me some vitriol or a denial that it will be at least a year until we could meet: take a breath. I’m sorry you feel that way. If you really want to meet me, wait to ask me when it’s actually safe for that to happen, for both of us and for our communities. For now, take care of yourself. xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

Pay-per-view & TRIBUTE buttons:

https://www.clips4sale.com/23869
https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-TTwitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet
PS: If you’d like to listen to my voice for 10 hours, I narrated my own audiobook: https://www.audible.ca/pd/There-Is-More-to-the-Story-Audiobook/B07X8R4V5W

Raffle For Free Session In London

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Glam with silliness. An enigma wrapped in weird latex gloves, wearing bunny slippers. Hey, somebunny loves you!

Happy New Year darlings! I’ve spontaneously booked a brief personal trip to London early February 2020. I have some flexibility in my schedule for a session.

Here’s my quandary: With so many devoted fans in the UK, how do I choose who gets the rare pleasure of my company? To keep things fair I decided to have a raffle. Please read carefully…no seriously, READ CAREFULLY:

#1. Minimum $50 to enter the raffle (feel free to send more!). That can be paid via the tribute button on any of my clip stores (links in signature at the bottom) or via a gift card to the grocery service I use. It’s not sexy, but it’s practical, easy & they accept paypal & credit cards: https://www.spud.ca/giftcert (Choose “Vancouver BC” as the delivery area, the name “MT” is fine & email address: “MsT@MistressT.net”) Be sure to put YOUR email address in the comments section so I can include you in the raffle and can reach you if you win.

#2. What’s possible in a private session? LIMITED activities that can be done in my hotel room without gear as I won’t be traveling with implements, strap-on, costumes, etc. So things that are possible are: Foot worship, Goddess worship (massage me), golden showers, humiliation, orgasm control (my hand or yours), spanking, spitting, ball busting, scent fetish, clothed face sitting, trampling, sissification/x-dress if you bring your own stuff, cuckolding role-play (I will not have a bull with me for cuck sessions). NO SEX, no oral sex, no oral worship, no licking me anywhere above the ankle.

Your session can also be social/public, like going for a meal or doing an activity together but I don’t do public play/public humiliation.

#3. Location: Central London, England

#4. When: Feb 1st or 3rd. I have personal engagements that will take up most of the week I’ll be in London but on either of those 2 days I can move things around to fit in a session for a couple of hours.

#5. Winner will be chosen on Jan 22 (NOTE THAT I EDITED THIS FROM THE 27th TO THE 22nd TO GIVE MORE TIME FOR SOMEONE WHO MAY NEED TO ARRANGE TRAVEL OR TIME OFF WORK). For discretion I will not announce the winner, I will notify him by email. When you send your tribute or gift card be sure to put your email address in the comments. If the first guy doesn’t work out for any reason I’ll pick another name until we have a session firmed up.

I’m sure I’ve missed something so if you have a question that you think others may also have, please ask it in the comments section here. If it’s a personal question you can send me an email but beware: I get overwhelmed by too much email & sometimes don’t respond for awhile or at all. Priority goes to those who have already sent a tribute. I won’t be keen to spend a lot of time corresponding with someone who is trying to decide IF he wants to enter the raffle. It’s $50. Chances are you’ve gotten $50 worth of pleasure from reading my blog, my tweets on twitter or free porn you’ve jerked off to on the internet. If $50 is that much of a stretch for you that you need to ask me a bunch of questions before sending it, just don’t bother, mmmkay:-)

Lastly, if you have a bottomless budget and want to secure a session with me without entering the raffle, send a tribute to prove you’re serious & then make me an offer. For the right circumstances I’ll find a way to fit in a very, very, very generous fan. To be clear: if you just send me an email without any kind of payment, you’ll be ignored. There’s lots of big talkers out there, show me you’re ready to walk the walk.

May the odds be ever in your favor.

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

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A Not So Unlikely Friendship with TS Rianna James

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Those who have followed me closely might have noticed some hot scenes featuring women with cocks. Some of those scenes are particularly hot because of my acute attraction to the person. I don’t have a fetish for trans women as a concept, I’ve just really been into some who I’ve had the opportunity to work with.

I confess, when I first saw Rianna, I didn’t know she was trans. I just thought she was a sexy human. I found her smile infectious. We’d run into each other at parties, we had many mutual friends & acquaintances. There might have been flirting.

I liked her as a person & eventually I was intrigued by the idea of what she had under her skirt.

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We’ve become closer lately & I’ve enjoyed taking pics & vids of her. You might find it titillating knowing that I was behind the camera for recent & upcoming pics/vids.

Rianna loves interacting with fans on cam. Like, really loves it. She’s quite the expert on many sexual topics & I feel she has a lot to teach guys about orgasm control, ass play, water sports, worship, BDSM, sexual health, as well as combining some holistic techniques to achieve better orgasms.

She doesn’t need any promotion from me. She’s plenty busy & turns business away as she also has a well-balanced personal life. (Though if you’re curious: https://www.tsriannajames.com/) I guess I just want to brag about a neat person I’m getting to know…& to do one of those things I’m passionate about: humanizing sex workers. Trans sex workers in particular are often objectified. Rianna is a playful sex tsunami but she’s also a great cook, likes flower arranging, is sweet to my pet Lovebird, enjoys yoga, watches at least an hour every day of educational youtube vids to expand her knowledge & is good to people. She’s got her head screwed on right & her positive attitude has injected some lovely energy into my life.

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xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S (Buy vids or just send a TRIBUTE! I love random tributes!): http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

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Audiobook is finally available!

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I know, it’s been far too long. Somehow you managed to survive without me updating my blog. Well done!

The current big news: my audiobook is finally out. I narrated it myself & I’m proud of how it turned out. It’s professionally recorded & edited. Nearly 11 hours of listening to my velvety voice: lucky you!

Available via Audible/Amazon/itunes: https://www.audible.com/pd/There-Is-More-to-the-Story-Audiobook

Since I released the printed version of my book last December I’ve been really touched by the feedback. It’s not just my first book, it’s my life story. Vulnerable? Oh yeah. So many of you have written to tell me how you felt about my book and I appreciate the support more than you’ll ever know.

You can also find it on Amazon along with the paperback & kindle versions: https://www.amazon.com/There-More-Story-Mistress-T

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If you haven’t read or listened to my story I hope you will. It is more important to me than anything else right now. I don’t say that to “sell more books” for financial gain, it’s more about humanizing myself & other sex workers in ways that most fans don’t usually get opportunities to experience. In this age of porn I feel that is vitally important. Even for those who don’t think they objectify sex workers, this book will likely still shift your perspective.

Having said that, even after discovering what the T stands for (it’s in the book!) kindly address me by my chosen professional name, Mistress T, if you choose to write to me. Cheers.

Please rate & review! Thanks again for your support!

xo

Mistress T

Great news: My book is officially published!

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My book is officially published, launched & paperbacks are starting to be delivered!

After three years of working on it, I can tell you that it’s a big relief. The kindle version has already sold very well and the positive feedback is pouring in. There’s quite a few reviews posted on Amazon but I’ve received far more directly. An emotional part of this journey I  hadn’t quite prepared for was the one-on-one discussions with people. Some of whom I know, some I don’t, who have read the book & feel the need to talk with me about it.

I’m told it’s hard to put down and an emotional roller coaster. Certain parts seem to really hit a nerve for a lot of people.

You can find it on Amazon (which ever one is right for you). You can search “There Is More To The Story” by Mistress T. It’s available on Kindle or paperback.

Here’s the link for Amazon.com:

https://www.amazon.com/There-More-Story-Mistress-T/dp/1999555104/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1546906000&sr=8-1

Please rate & review on Amazon, it really helps! xo

Frequently asked questions:

“Will there be an audio book with me (Mistress T) narrating?” ~ This always was & still is the plan but I have yet to figure out how to do this, technically. I’m working on it. No ETA.

“The paperback is showing as out of stock on Amazon, when will it be available?” ~ It is available. Order it anyway even if it says it’s out of stock. It will likely come way faster than it says it will.

“Can I get a signed copy?” ~ Yes, but…I consider this to be a luxury. This isn’t a cash grab for me, I just really don’t enjoy the process of going to the post office to mail things and no, I don’t have a slave to do stuff like that for me. The book itself also costs me. So I’ve listed the price as $200USD including shipping for a signed copy. The kindle version is less than $10 & the paperback around $25 so there are certainly options for any budget. To order a signed copy please send the $200 payment via the tribute button on either Clips4sale or IWantClips (links in signature below) & include in the comments your email address, mailing address & who to sign the book to. You can also email me to make other arrangements: MsT@MistressT.net

“Which way of buying is better/more profitable for the author?” ~ The best thing you can do is rate & review it on Amazon. At the moment the book is really only being marketed to my fans, which is fine, but after investing thousands of my own money (editing, design, not to mention my time) I will likely never even come close to making a profit…and that’s okay! I did it more to humanize sex workers than make money. However, I think there’s a chance it might reach a wider audience on Amazon if I get a lot of reviews. So that is the most helpful thing you can do for me! Thanks:-)

“Will you write another book?” ~ I have an idea for another book I hope to write. This one fiction but the main character would be a Dominatrix, loosely based on me. Probably two years for that but I’ll of course not keep it secret as things progress. I already have some interest from publishers for that one so the timeline might be shorter as I self-published the first one & being my first time, it took longer for me to navigate that process.

A huge thank you to those who have read & will read my book. It was a vulnerable thing to write and put out into the world but I think it’s an important book for our time, to help humanize sex workers.

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

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Fuck em’ if you want to.

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My message to new Pro Dommes: Fuck your clients if you want to. You’re the Domme, make up your own rules.

I’ll explain. I received an email from a guy this week seeking my advice. He had been seeing a Pro Domme for a year on a regular basis. Recently she had “made” him give her oral sex in a session. In another session she had intercourse with him. He “knew” that Pro Dommes weren’t supposed to have sex with their clients because it ruins the dynamic so he was asking me if it was okay to just stop seeing her or should he explain to her why he wouldn’t be seeing her again.

With a bit more conversation I determined that he had wanted to & consented to those sex acts in the session. So I told him that what two consenting adults do is their own damn business but if his feelings have changed he certainly owed her a conversation about it. Especially if he was a regular client she had come to rely on financially. I also told him the rule about Dommes not fucking clients was horse shit.

That’s right: Horse shit.

When I first started as a Pro Domme I was told this iron clad rule. I was so careful to follow these traditional rules that I didn’t even give hand jobs. I could do CBT, piss on a guys junk, sit on his face wearing full coverage panties, fist his ass, but god forbid I should even touch his penis with a gloved hand in a way that wasn’t painful. That I even let guys jerk themselves off was scandalous as I was told a proper Dominatrix doesn’t even permit slaves to cum in her presence.

I don’t know where these rules originated from but I can tell you that if you plan to pay your rent as a service provider you’re going to have to at least let guys cum. The market for clients who want only the strictest Domination is teensy-tiny.

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So what’s the difference between seeing an escort & a Pro Domme? In some cases, not a hellava lot. A lot of escorts can role-play the Dominant role & fuck a guy in the ass with a strap-on. In some cases a Pro Domme might choose to engage in sex acts with a client. Here’s the thing: sex workers are individuals with their own personal boundaries, likes & dislikes, etc. Different Pro Dommes will offer difference services. Just as some escorts do anal (giving or taking), and some don’t, for example.

When talking to new sex workers I encourage them to figure out for themselves what they like doing or not. I encourage them to communicate that clearly so they work with clients they enjoy working with, doing what they enjoy doing. I wish someone had told me that in the beginning because I missed out on a lot of hot sex with clients who I had great chemistry with because I was following other people’s rules. Boy, was I surprised years later to discover that some other Pro Dommes who claimed they didn’t fuck clients sometimes fucked them when they felt like it (with clients consent). What a revelation! A Dominant, sexually healthy woman doing what she damn well pleases.

The great thing about being a Pro Domme is that clients don’t expect sex in the session so you’re not obligated. That’s a good thing, because that won’t be the dynamic with most clients. When the chemistry is there though, why deny it? Why deny yourself the pleasure? Negotiating on the fly can be a bit tricky because you need to ensure you have genuine consent & that can break the mood, but you can’t just spring that on a guy who is in compliant sub space. It’s not rocket science though. Use your words. Have a little conversation. For example:

“Sex is not meant to be a part of today’s session but I feel like it. If you would like to (worship my pussy/have me use your cock for my pleasure) I would like that. We can discuss further and it’s always perfectly okay to simply say no or use your safe words & we’ll move on. No problem.”

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I might get some flack for this post but this is just my personal perspective as someone with real life experience.

Obviously respecting people’s boundaries and consent are essential in ALL situations. Not just sex work. So everyone should get used to communicating to understand each other, what people want or don’t want and ensuring you have ENTHUSIASTIC consent. A clear green light always. Got it? Cool.

Disclaimer: Most Pro Dommes explicitly don’t allow oral sex or intercourse. They state this on their info pages, just as I do. If your primary objective is oral sex or intercourse you’re better off booking with an escort who clearly offers those services. The odds of getting that with a Pro Domme are very slim & even asking for it in an initial email will likely result in your email being ignored. Consider the chances of it happening similar to spotting a white tiger in the wild. Not impossible but highly unlikely.

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

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Posters!

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Front view poster of Mistress T

I’ve never been a “merchandise” kind of person but a fan recently commissioned a photo shoot to create a pic to be made into a poster for him. He has a collection of posters of Dominant women in this sort of attire, thigh high boots, gloves, leather biker cap with riding crop. It’s kind of an 80’s look I guess?

So I decided to print some extra posters to see if some other fans would love to have them as well.

The pics are recent, taken in 2018 shortly before my 42nd birthday.

In addition to a signed poster (I can address it to you personally) I can slip something else in the tube, like worn pantyhose/panties/socks. Something else?

Price: It depends on what you’d like & what it’s worth to you but as always I won’t send anything for less than $200 & mailing the tube from Canada is pricey, so since I have a limited number of posters & no rush to move them, the highest bidders will win the prize!

Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S (Buy vids or just send a TRIBUTE! I love random tributes!): http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

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The genius of Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

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Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com & Mistress T, flanked by 2 latex sissies.

Do you ever wonder what it’s like to film with The English Mansion? What happens behind the scenes?

I’ve been filming there for quite a few years and I’m often surprised and amazed. The pure genius of Sidonia Von Bork can not be rivaled (though often copied, poorly).

Find scenes with me, Sidonia & other fab Dommes here: http://www.theenglishmansion.com

Just blathering on about how creative & interesting she is might be a boring read so instead I’ll share a funny story from my recent trip.

Sidonia is skilled at casting people in scenarios that are a good fit. Slaves in situations that are hot for them and Dommes in roles that showcase them in the best way. Sometimes she puts me in situations that are new for me, having faith that I’d roll with the punches. Like that time she had me crush a sandwich into the mud with my boot and make a slave eat it. But that’s another story.

It was a full day of filming. We were on our third scene of the day. Things were moving along quickly and Sidonia had rushed off to put the slave in elaborate upside down bondage. We had discussed wardrobe but unusually, she hadn’t told me much about the scene. Another slave was helping me lace up my boots and I jokingly said that I had no idea what we were about to do in the next scene. We started making guesses and placing bets. You never know with Sidonia. I think she spends most of her time just plotting & scheming.

I was ushered into the dungeon where the slave was hanging upside down in a web of restraints and rope. It was art. Sidonia said we had to do the scene quickly as it was difficult for the slave to stay inverted for too long. I stood beside him & we started rolling. Sidonia started to talk, explaining the plot & situation. I just stood there, silent, trying to look like I was part of it and not just an ornament. I felt like doing the Vanna White thing, sweeping my hand gracefully over the slave to display her handy work.

I looked for opportunities to say something but for once, I was silent. The mute Domme standing there trying to not look awkward. Sidonia was having him lick her boot & she gestured for me to do the same. I followed her cues trying to look like this was all natural for me.

Sidonia grabbed some electrics and attached them to his cock, then handed me the controller explaining it can go up to 25. As I started to increase the power the slave whimpered & wiggled. I felt bad for him. I quite liked him. I’d known him for years. Sidonia egged me on to increase the power. I did it and got that familiar rush of pleasure at causing pain. Emotions are complicated, okay? *smile*

I figured this was pretty hard core. Electrocuting the slaves cock while hanging upside down. This must be the climax of the vid? But no, she grabbed some clothes pegs, handed some to me as I realized I was just standing there like an idiot while she gave me things to do. We put the pegs on his cock, balls & surrounding flesh until we ran out of cloths pegs. He looked like a porcupine. I flicked a few of the pegs as he screamed in pain. I’d give him a nice hug after it was all through. Poor dear.

Then Sidonia grabbed this crazy butt plug thing with electrics on it. What the fuck? Who invents this stuff?! She lowered it into his ass and turned it on. His dick was still hard so I guess he liked it?

I wanted to do something without her prompting me so I looked like a proper Domme with her own mind. I decided to do the boot worship bit again but as I lifted my foot I pulled the slave closer at the same time accidentally kicking him in the face. Fuck.

It was time to take off the cloths pegs as he howled in pain, still with the electric butt plug in & the electrics on his cock. Sidonia removed the electrics from his cock and I finally got to do something that I’m good at: the hand job! It didn’t take long to produce a huge cum shot, but I was on auto-pilot and forgot to stop stroking. I accidentally delivered some of the most severe post-orgasm torture ever. The electrics still in his ass & me stroking away as if he hadn’t orgasmed he really started screaming in pain as Sidonia touched my hand to remind me to stop. We wrapped up the scene so the poor slave could get some relief.

Not my best scene though I don’t think you would notice if I hadn’t told you. Sidonia did such an effective job of controlling the whole thing, including me. That’s her mastery. When you watch the vid all you will see is two beautifully dressed Dommes tormenting a beautifully bound slave. Nothing will seem amiss. You likely wouldn’t notice that I don’t talk much or that I’m just doing what Sidonia prompts me to do. You probably won’t notice me kicking him in the face and you’ll think the post orgasm torture is on purpose. You likely won’t notice Sidonia discretely grazing my hand to get me to stop stroking his cock. It will all look gorgeous & perfect. You’ll jerk off to it & maybe not give anything much thought. Or maybe you’ll notice the little things & recognize the genius that Sidonia Von Bork really is.

Sidonia Von Bork & Mistress T at TheEnglishMansion.com

Mistress T and Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com

xo

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S (Buy vids or just send a TRIBUTE! I love random tributes!): http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

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ENGLAND! Yes, I’m finally coming back.

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Mmmm…England.

It has been nearly three years since my last visit to the UK. Too long, wouldn’t you agree?

Based on the volume of fan mail & session requests I steadily get from my beloved English fans I know the demand is higher than I can meet….but there will be a lucky few.

I don’t have the energy or desire to see 6-8 clients a day like I did at the beginning of my Dominatrix career. Especially for several days consecutively. Naturally, if I can make the same money seeing 1-2 fans a day, why wouldn’t I? It’s not all about money of course but if I can also have an experience that entails a leisurely amount of time to get acquainted over a nice meal, seeing a show or going for a stroll/taking in the sights…then, after building anticipation, ending things with a nice play session with someone I’ve become more comfortable with…well, doesn’t that sound more pleasurable than a rushed hour with a stranger?

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Yes, I have less hair now:-)

So, before you email me asking for a session in London, know that I won’t be doing basic 1 hour sessions. It’s unlikely I’d accept any booking for less than $1000 USD. I’ve already filled two of the four evenings I have available. I will take a few day time encounters (shorter perhaps). I’ll accept respectful gentleman who are generous, low-maintenance, with interests inline with mine. I’ll be using a hotel room without props (I won’t be doing a dungeon rental). Limits: No intercourse, no oral sex of any kind. No FT.

Ideal sessions would involve social time & Sensual Domination/tie & tease/role-play/foot worship/water sports, that sort of thing.

I plan to have a lovely visit in London in the company of gentlemen who I enjoy, eating delicious food, experiencing a bit of culture & having some naughty fun.

I’ll also be visiting my friends at The English Mansion (AKA: FemDom Disneyland). This is actually my main reason for the trip but I’ve included some days in London to meet fans & see the city as I haven’t been back in so long.

A dungeon of delights...

A dungeon of delights…with Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

Ah, the foolish smile of a slave who doesn't know what Sidonia Von Bork has in store for him...

Ah, the foolish smile of a slave who doesn’t know what Sidonia Von Bork has in store for him…

I am not accepting applications for film slaves while in England.

If you are generous, respectful fan who would like to spend some time with me in London the end of March/April 1, email ASAP as spots are VERY limited: MsT@MistressT.net

If accepted, a 50% non-refundable deposit will be required to hold your spot. No exceptions.

May the odds ever be in your favor.

Mistress T

Members Site: www.MistressT.net

C4S (Buy vids or just send a TRIBUTE! I love random tributes!): http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

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Hello 2018

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Other possible titles for this blog:

“The Unsuccessful Search for an Assistant”

“I guess this job is harder than I thought?”

“The realities of running a small porn production business”

About 8 months ago I decided to hire an assistant. After doing everything myself for years & seeing some of my peers outsource or have assistance with various aspects of the business I decided to give it a go.

I admit, I was feeling a bit at the end of my rope with email. It is overwhelming & so much of it can be answered with my FAQ but when I tried an auto-responder fans hated it & it created a massive junk mail problem.

The video & photo editing I really enjoy but it’s not the best use of my time. I felt I could benefit from increased tweeting as well as having someone try to put a dent in the colossal amount of stolen content being shared on free sites. The person could also screen my emails, sending the appropriate link with the information if it were one of the usual questions & just sending me the ones that needed my personal attention.

The first person I hired didn’t work out after several months. Although they seemed to be able to do the job tasks well enough after a lot of time invested in training they had miscalculated how busy their lives were. They just didn’t have time to do the job and the work wasn’t getting done on time.

I learned from the first experience and was more careful with the second hire. I painted the worst picture of the job to try to ensure they knew what they were signing up for. The reality is that you’re saturated in sexual & pornographic material. From reading the words in emails to seeing the images while editing pics, vids or looking for pirated content on free sites. The product is porn, the way it would be food in a restaurant or automobiles in a car dealership.

My second hire felt confident this wouldn’t be a problem but they have just capitulated, resigned, sounding traumatized, mentioning having nightmares from it all.

You could chalk it up as their problem, that they shouldn’t have taken the job if they didn’t think they could handle it…but that’s not giving the issue the contemplation it deserves.

Many of you reading this love porn, certainly the porn I produce. The idea of getting paid to work with it, to edit my vids & pics, to tweet about it, to look for it on free sites, might seem highly appealing. I deliberately did not hire someone who was ‘into’ my porn because I thought that would cause other problems, but I didn’t account for how unpleasant it might be for someone who was not into it.

One of my peers has had her content edited by a gay man for years & I’ve spoken to him about it, he just thinks it’s all funny. I made the mistake of assuming that would be the default, that if someone wasn’t turned on by it, that they would just find it funny or not be affected by it. To be fair, the damage was not done by my vids but more by looking for my content on free sharing sites to get removed. Seeing all that other porn too. But I had naively thought that was one of the easier parts of the job. Not so.

So I’m back to doing everything myself. I won’t make the mistake of trying to hire an assistant again. On top of that I’m at the very tail end of finishing my book & planning to embark on new ventures: getting articles published & doing podcasts, new activities that are meant to work in concert with a book launch this year. I have recently moved into a new place for the purpose of having better film sets. Samantha Mack has been a huge help in decorating sets while I was away but there’s still work I need to do. (Check out her vids: https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/36796/mack-movies )

I’m glad that I’m feeling rejuvenated after my trip to Africa in December, I’m going to need all the energy I have, as well as a few more hours in the day if possible. ha ha

I know, 1 crummy pic with some wilder beasts after a month in Africa...I'm sure you feel ripped off. It's what I have at the moment & it's better than nothing.

I know, 1 crummy pic with some wilder beasts after a month in Africa…I’m sure you feel ripped off. It’s what I have at the moment & it’s better than nothing.

Africa was great, by the way. I saw all the animals on safari, zebra’s, elephants, giraffe’s, lions, etc. The hot air balloon ride over the Serengeti was thrilling. I also visited some local tribes & villages, learning about their culture. The last end I enjoyed a few relaxing days at the beach in Zanzibar. Hours reading (The Handmaids Tale by Margaret Atwood), playing chess, making love, walking along the beach at sunset, eating good food & sleeping lots.

So, Happy New Year! 2018 is off with a bang for me, it looks like it’s going to be a busy one.

xo

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