Now Mobile-Friendly + Discounted!

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I’ve recently made 2 important improvements to my site:

#1. Mobile-friendly! Members can now stream my vids on any mobile device! You can watch my vids on your smart phone, iPad, etc. If you have the space you can download them too but I understand that streaming on smaller devices will be the most important feature to a lot of my fans.

#2. New discounted price for recurring Premium membership! $39 recurring monthly is the new price ($10 less than it was before!). That gives you access to 1460 vids in my library + at least 10 new vids per month! (Usually 12 or 13)

Join now here: https://www.mistresst.net/content/front

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If you are currently on the previous price & you want to change it here’s how: (Unless you consider your membership a way of serving me than just leave it at $49/month)

Simply go to www.vtsup.com and log in with the same username/password you use for my site. Follow the instructions – it’s easy. (Then rejoin my site with the same username/password to get the new price for the PREMIUM recurring membership.)

If you have any problems please email my helpful webmaster: Webmaster@MistressT.net

There are other little improvements to the site, like “Infinity Scroll” on the video page. You can turn it on or off.

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Did you know my members site is 8 years old? I started my clips store a year before that & was performing in Club Stiletto scenes the year before…& doing Professional Domination sessions privately before that. So I’ve passed a decade in the biz. Wow, I have done A LOT of kinky stuff!

I’m still enjoying it & I’m glad that so many of you are still loving my content. My site has been doing better than ever despite not being completely compatible with some mobile devices so I’m excited that a lot more fans will be able to enjoy my vids now that my site has been improved. 8 years ago watching porn on phones was not as common. Now I think it has become one of the primary ways guys are watching porn.

I understand there is a lot of free content out there. If you are a fan of me & a fan of my content joining my site is the best way to show your devotion, support & also to most easily & safely view my content without annoying ads, click-bait, pop-ups, risk of viruses & contributing to illegal piracy that’s negatively impacting my industry. Thanks for your support! xo

Mistress T

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What’s Your Price?

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Dolled up last night:-)

A friend recently told me about a site called “WhatsYourPrice.com”, a unique dating site where men pay women to go on dates with them. Dates, not sex.

I found this hard to believe so a couple weeks ago I signed up to see what it was all about. I was honest in my profile about being in a relationship, an open one, but I listed my profession as something else & said nothing about kink, BDSM, porn, etc. I figured if a guy recognized me, fine, otherwise it would be nice to not talk about my work anyway. Usually when people find out what I do that ends up dominating the conversation. Pun intended.

Women on dating sites typically get bombarded with messages from guys. A literal avalanche of messages. The buckshot approach is used by most men, their strategy being to message as many women as possible to play the numbers game. It all ends up being an enormous waste of time usually. Also, the vast majority of female profiles on dating sites are completely fake, this is a known fact. My pics are illegally used on numerous dating sites on fake profiles set up to scam men out of money.

On this site tho, it’s set up to eliminate those problems. I received very few messages & they were to the point. A financial offer to take me on a date. I could then accept the offer or counter a higher amount. We could go back & forth like that or they could accept & then we go on to arrange a date. I would get the money when I showed up in person for the date. You can see how this cuts thru most of the BS other dating sites have.

My first almost experience was a bit discouraging as I accepted his offer & then he confessed that he was only in town that one night & had set up dates with three women in case someone didn’t work out & I was the third one to accept. He hoped that I would ‘stand by’ & be on-call in case the other two flaked out. I declined & made other plans but then received a bunch of messages from him after his other two dates no-showed. It was off-putting.

A few other false starts & one finally worked out last night. The offer I accepted was $200. I clarified this was for dinner only, no sexual services. The date was set for a nice French restaurant. The gentleman was very well-mannered, early 40’s, from out of town & in need of some dinner company. He liked that I was more mature. He said he didn’t know what he would talk about with a girl in her 20’s. He said it was the first time he’d used this site for this sort of thing but who knows?

The conversation flowed. He was pleasant enough. Not someone I would normally date & I could understand why it would just be easier for him to ‘hire’ companionship than to try to find a beautiful woman who was interested in having dinner with a fella from out of town who was not exactly overflowing in charm or looks.

I was happy to have the experience, if nothing else it gave me something to write a blog post about. I think I’ll continue with the site. Based on my experience so far I’d say I might go on one paid date a month. I don’t need the money but the whole thing fascinates me. I also think that I’m really good at it. I’m an excellent listener. I’m good at making people feel comfortable & interesting. I can carry my own with travel stories & the like.

A note that although sexual services are not meant to be a part of this, I understand that in some cases it likely is. Prostitution is not illegal in Canada where I live & I have no issue with it, it’s just not my thing. I’m likely a better conversationalist & dinner companion anyway:-)

So what do you think of this? Men: Would you pay a woman to go for dinner with you? How much? $100? $200? Women: Would you go on a date with a man for money? If so, how much would make it worth your while? Feel free to comment below!

Mistress T

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Performance

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It has been an interesting week.

I went to a play that was very emotionally moving. I went back the next night & the next. Three nights in a row I sat there, knowing what was coming & let my heart be ripped wide open. I cried. Tears pouring down my cheeks, too paralyzed witnessing this moving display to even wipe my face. All around me I could hear quiet sniffles as others were crying too. The feeling of being in a room of people all experiencing the same intense feeling is powerful. In such contrast to our normal lives. Non-connections with strangers. Often feeling so little.

I offered to film the performance the fourth night as a gift.

I sat there last night holding my camera. The camera that I’ve had such an intimate relationship with for years. How many times have I set it up, turned it on, checked the lighting & frame? Looked at myself in the viewfinder & turned it on? Turned it on & turned into someone else for 10-20 minutes. How many times I’ve stood in front of that camera & looked into the lens as if I’m looking you right in the eye. Imagining that I’m penetrating your soul. I’ve held eye contact with my camera, said & done more personal things for it than I have for almost any real human. I’ve often said that if aliens looked down & observed me they would think that I was in love with my camera, that we’re in an intimate relationship.

I sat there last night & held my camera. I looked through the viewfinder at the same moving performance I’d seen the last three nights in a row. When the moments came, the hard moments, the gut-wrenching moments I was ready with my tissue…but the tears did not come. I did not get the tightness in my throat. It did not feel like I got kicked in the gut. I did not feel like I could collapse on the stage with the performer & sob with her.

I felt nothing.

The play ended & the lights went out. We all sat there in a moment of darkness. Everyone else changed forever. Everyone else wiping their tears & struggling to take a breath to compose themselves. I stared at the viewfinder with its timer, telling me how much battery life was left & how much recording room. I felt alarm at my numbness.

I have processed this experience & I am guessing that after years of being someone else with that camera that I’ve rewired my brain. That I disconnect from my authentic self to perform…which is not surprising or necessarily bad…but it’s important to be aware of. I have not been able to write my book while working, even when working very little. I could only write when I took a couple months off earlier this year. I can’t do both at the same time. So…here is an advance heads up that I will be taking another couple months off at some point in the near future to invest time in writing my book, which I feel very driven to do. I already have a few extra months of content filmed so when I’m ready I can do it. I still love what I do. I don’t want to stop or even take time off…but it’s in conflict with something else I really want to do. Such is life.

I’ll say what I’ve said many times…this blog is about getting to know me more intimately…in case anyone is pissed off there was no jack off material again. That’s what my vids are for:-)

xo

Mistress T

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Going on the sly

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Let me be clear: this post is in no way meant to be enticing to those with a fetish for toilet play. The types of video’s I’ve made in this genre have nothing to do with real life. Therefore I will endeavor to use terminology that is not titillating. You should still be able to follow along.

I’ve had my share of flings & one-night stands over the last couple of decades. My preference is usually to not spend the night for one particular reason: I am very ‘regular’ & always ‘go’ as soon as I wake up in the morning. That can make things awkward with a new person, especially if they are hoping for morning sex.

I recently had a one nighter with a fella I just met. (I still have a wonderful boyfriend, for those on the ball…we’re open about the occasional dalliance as we realistically understand monogamy doesn’t usually work…but that’s a whole other topic). This fella was a friend of a friend so I felt comfortable going for it after a brief flirtation. I was out of town though so ended up spending the night at his…& found myself in an awkward predicament I thought my fans might find amusing, cringe-worthy, interesting or at least a nice break from the US political gong-show.

When we arrived at his fancy custom designed home I got the tour. I made special note of the locations of the bathrooms. One on the main level near the kitchen. One in the guest bedroom. One in his bedroom. But wait, what in the actual fuck? The toilet in his open-style bedroom was basically right out in the open. Sort of tucked behind a half wall with no door, fully in view from the bed & most of the room.

I was pretty confident this had nothing to do with a fetish. This was just a design concept that made perfect sense for a single guy.

The sex was fantastic. Lots of fun. We drifted off to sleep with me feeling impending doom about what’s coming in the morning: he had mentioned that he likes morning sex.

From a deep sleep at early light I felt him slip carefully from the bed & out of the bedroom. I slowly start to become more alert…& as it goes every morning my body switches into evacuation mode. I start to panic. In the morning light the toilet sits there half out in the open like a clown at a funeral.

Like a lot of people, women in particular, I like to be discrete about my lavatory visits. I try to be fairly stealth about it. Why? To create the illusion that I don’t even do that nasty bit of business? Classy ladies don’t vacate their bowels? Who knows, but at 40 years old I’m still trying to do it on the sly & the last thing I want a temporary lover to be thinking about or visualizing is what I’m doing in the washroom for 15 minutes.

I listened but could not hear him. I decided to take a risk on the open toilet. I could try to make it to one of the others but I didn’t know where he was & if I would get intercepted. I worried he might think I was snooping or worse, he might actually know exactly what I’m doing. God forbid.

I sat there, like a deer in an open field during hunting season. My bowels locking up in fright & cramping in urgency at the same time. Trying to relax, bargaining that if he walked in I could just ask for privacy. So what if I was doing a #2 for Christ sake. Everyone does it. I could make a joke about it. Maybe I’d even seem cool to not care. But then I heard a noise & my butt clamped shut as I jumped up, flushed & hurried back to bed.

A few minutes later he came back in as I pretended to still be asleep. He slipped into bed & started cuddling me. The last thing I wanted was to be touched. He asked if I’d like to have sex or if I was more hungry? He could make me breakfast or we could go out, then have more sex later. Again, SO wasn’t interested in sex as my poor body sent out alarm bells that it was time for our morning routine. Keeping my game face I tried to suggest as sensually as possible that we go out for breakfast & have sex later. That would allow me to ask to ‘freshen up’ before going out. A great plan! I could use the guest room under the guise of wanting to test out the “James Bond” washroom cleverly hidden behind sliding doors.

I nearly sprinted to the door as he followed & got me a towel…trying to sneak in a little sexy fondle & kiss. Bless his heart. He was actually perfectly lovely but it was everything I could do to not squat right there & relieve myself. I was a woman on a mission. He no sooner left & I got down to business. It was such a relief. I think I heard angels singing. But the moment I flushed he opened the door & walked in saying he was worried I wouldn’t be able to reach the shampoo on the high shelf in the shower. I was MORTIFIED. Was he fucking standing right outside the door waiting for me to finish??? Could he smell it?!

So much drama over a natural bodily function. Why all the fuss? I don’t know but I don’t think I’m anywhere near being more okay with it than I ever have been.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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Rumors of my retirement have been greatly exaggerated.

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I have no plans or intentions to retire in the near future.

That could be the end of this blog post, but I’ll expand on it.

Apparently there has been some rumors circulating that I will soon retire. The only reason I can think of for the rumors is a possible misunderstanding regarding the short break I took several months ago to start writing my book.

By the way, there has not been much progress on the book since I returned to work so it looks like I’ll have to schedule more breaks from work & write in chunks as it does not seem possible to do both simultaneously.

But taking breaks for 1-3 months once or twice a year is not the same as retiring!

I have been Mistress T for about a decade and I recently turned 40. In this biz both of those milestones are significant. Most female performers in adult films do not stay in the industry that long & most are not doing it into their 40’s.

I still love it though & it’s the best job I’ve had. I love running my own business, working for myself, having full control over things & the freedom to create work life balance however I choose. I did my time in my 20’s working more traditional 9-5 jobs in the vanilla world & I would not go back to it. Working for other people, dealing with office politics, following other people’s rules…it wasn’t for me.

So what will I do after this? I honestly don’t know & I don’t feel like I need to know yet. I have no plans to retire any time soon but I have been careful with my money & I have a lot of transferable skills. I’ll have more options than the cliche 30 year old ex porn star with no other job experience or education who didn’t save any money.

I have been working less the last year & that will continue. I put a lot of time & energy into building this business for years. I practically lived out of a suitcase traveling internationally to film & session. I’ve done all my own filming & editing, answered my own emails, written my blog posts, managed my own social media, marketing & all the other small & big things that business owners do. I’ve been rewarded & have the business built up to the point where I don’t need to put in as much time for it to keep chugging along. Sure, I could make more money doing more web cam & sessions, producing more content, etc…& I know my fans desperately wish I toured the world constantly so they could session with me in their city…but the personal expense of that extra money is too great. My physical & emotional/mental health is worth more. At this time, I am happier living a quieter life in Vancouver, working less, enjoying other aspects of life more.

But I am not planning to retire! Working less probably means that ya’ll will have me around for longer.

So if you want to meet me, you have 2 choices but both are expensive unfortunately. You can come to Vancouver…or you can possibly bring me to you. I am not keen to travel these days BUT if I’m compensated very well AND I feel interested & comfortable, it’s possible. Both in Vancouver & elsewhere that means meeting just me/solo or with my lover & I (cuckolding and/or encouraged bi).

I love meeting fans for interesting conversation over a nice meal. Yes, going for lunch or dinner with Mistress T is a pleasure many lucky fans have enjoyed & I hope many more.

I rarely web cam/skype but that’s possible too…usually for the very generous & fairly flexible. Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Custom vids are a favorite of mine. I enjoy making your fantasies come true. Info on ordering custom vids: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/custom-vids/

Film slaves/stunt cocks are still welcome to apply. Filming only in Vancouver these days. So ya need to be here or willing & able to come here. READ THIS BEFORE EMAILING: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/booking-filming-springsummer-2016/

Lastly, please be respectful of my valuable time & don’t waste it. Please do not email me only to compliment or praise. As well-intentioned as it is, it adds up to more of an annoyance than anything beneficial. Please only email if you’re sending a properly communicated application to be in my films, if you want a custom vid or want to pay for my time/attention. If you want to SHOW your appreciation & adoration sending a tribute is far better than expecting me to take up my valuable time reading an email compliment. Here’s my wish list: AMAZON WISH LIST

xo

Mistress T

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Confessions of an Unlikely Film Slave

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From “Cum Drinking Cock Sucking Sissy”

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From “Milked Drained Used”

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From “Medical Experiment”

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From” Ball Tease 1 Finger CumShot”

This was written by one of my film slaves:

I’m in my mid-thirties, a mild mannered, clean cut, IT middle manager, happily married (though clearly not fully sexually sated), and really just a mostly grown up geek.  Physically I’m average at best, including my cock. If you saw me on the street, stunt cock for femdom handjob porn videos would be the furthest from your assumptions and or imagination.

This tawdry tale starts about three years ago when porn music videos (PMV) were my primary extramarital libido quelling tool.  For the uninitiated; PMVs are basically montages of different porn, cut and edited to music, usually following a theme.  There is even a sub-genre referred to as cockhero where the video prescribes the way and tempo to which you should wank, with the challenge being to make it to the end and the designated reward montage.  Well, one of these videos finished with a montage of femdom material that included amongst others, some MistressT footage that was both novel and arousing.

Sleuthing out more of MistressT’s work wasn’t hard thanks to her watermark that was graciously left intact.  After some preview piracy, I ended up purchasing two videos from her clips4sale site which were already favourites in my rotation.  Some months later, and about a year and a half ago now, I went back for more and I stumbled onto her blog where one of the recent posts referenced a prior post on film slave applications, not only that, but I learned that MistressT was local to me and Vancouver based!  I figured it was clearly a sign.

I had no delusions that my chances weren’t astronomically slim despite my proximity.  I figured that in the least the application process itself would be fantasy fodder with the bonus of an outside chance for an opportunity of a lifetime.  I was meticulous in adhering to the application guidelines, treating it as though it was a job application and including a $50 tribute for piracy penance.  I spent a week brewing over the email, finally sent it, and MistressT replied in under an hour with “Well, they say you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.  Sure, I’d give you a go.” and we setup a date and time.

For days leading up to the session I waffled between incredulity and nervous anticipation with building arousal throughout.  The session was scheduled for 4pm and having denied myself release for a couple days prior, all throughout the workday I was exceedingly horny and hopelessly distracted.  My first impressions of MistressT were that she was; nice, professional, in charge, smoking hot, exuding sexuality and short.  Some brief nervous banter ensued prior to getting down to the task at hand.

I left the first session feeling underwhelmed; I mean I had nothing to complain about, it was great in that I got jerked off by a hot, eager and almost naked lady and she filmed it to boot.  In part, I had worked up impossible anticipation and expectations and in part, it was a little weird and awkward that we were strangers.  It also was both weird and a fulfilled fantasy that I was being objectified and used only for my cock and that the situation lacked any sense of intimacy.  Shortly after the session I sent MistressT an email thanking her for the opportunity, sharing some of my feelings about the session and offering myself for future sessions if she was interested, thinking that I would not hear from her again.  I was wrong.

I’ve since had the pleasure of filming with MistressT several dozen times; including in a rented dungeon, with VR cameras (and on looking technicians) and some scenes that incorporated ideas and fantasies of my own.  So far, my two favourite scenes are “orgasm control tough love” and “1 finger cum shot”.  Even more rewarding than the getting off part (which is great) is being wanted for the part, for the confidence it has given me and for just having been in porn, I mean what guy hasn’t fantasized about that?  The weirdness and awkwardness that was there initially has dissolved as we have slowly gotten to know each other and built a rapport.  In this process, I discovered that MistressT, and more so the multi faceted woman behind her is really a great and interesting person and someone that I wanted to call a friend.

This classic worlds in collision scenario caused and continues to cause me angst.  First, I wasn’t positive that the feelings were mutual, and I didn’t want to be misconstrued as creeper and make things awkward.  Regardless, it seemed moot as the legitimate options for social overlap have significant hurdles on my end, namely my wife and societies petty sexual hang ups.  It pains me that I have not, and cannot share this with my wife and best friend, especially since I think her and the person behind MistressT would get along swimmingly.  In fact, I have not shared that I am a film slave with a single sole, in part this is eating me up and I’m dying to tell someone, in part having a dirty little secret is fun.  I mentioned this dilemma to a friend of mine recently, she told me that I should write about it and she would post it on her blog…

Only a fool knows what the future holds, I hope though that mine contains a good many more filming sessions, pushed boundaries, explored fantasies and engaging banter with MistressT.  Even more so, I sincerely hope that our friendship continues to develop and that I might also have the courage to further collide our worlds.  Whatever my future holds, it’s been an absolute privilege to have known and to have been known by MistressT, a refreshing counterpoint to the vast swaths of mostly vapid humanity.

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Is Financial Domination contagious?

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In my early days as a Professional Dominatrix before I started doing videos, I received an email from a guy in New York who offered to send me $100 on the spot just to speak with me on the phone for a few minutes. I found that strange & thrilling. I could hardly believe it when he actually sent the money. He was the first one to tell me about Financial Domination & said he was a pay pig. I had never heard of such a thing.

Over the years I’ve met with him several times & he’s spent a lot of money on me. One time he paid $1000 just to have me snowball my boyfriends cum into his mouth! My boyfriend & I literally skipped down the streets of Manhattan after bursting with joyful disbelief at what just happened.

He’s come & gone over the last decade but he’s certainly the most generous & the most authentic ‘pay pig’ I’ve had. I never really felt drawn to Financial Domination otherwise. I’m not materialistic, I’m not greedy & I didn’t have the patience to wade through the mountains of time-wasters most FinDom’s complain about. Maybe it’s my country upbringing & strong work ethic…but the idea of getting paid for nothing holds less appeal than getting paid well for something. No offense to the many amazing FinDom’s out there, some of which are my close friends. I just don’t seem to be wired that way, otherwise I suppose I would have attracted more authentic ‘pay pigs’ along the way.

But…recently I’ve been drawn to the idea of having a generous cuckold. I’m not sure where the idea started but lately I’ve desired a very specific kind of arrangement. A cuckold who I actually like & enjoy spending time with. One that I tease & deny, sometimes playfully. Fun tease & denial, not serious or mean denial. A cuckold who is into both mental and physical Domination.

Very key to my ideal fantasy is that the cuckold very genuinely loves to please me, loves to give me gifts, do nice things for me, pamper me & enhance my life. To be truly worshiped & adored, not just for my body but for my mind.

I’m financially secure. I don’t need a sugar daddy, I don’t need my rent paid & I don’t need to be rescued. I love to feel appreciated though & the right cuckold would be in the financial position to generously express his gratitude for the opportunity to be an important part of my life.

So…am I catching the Financial Domination bug? I have no interest in blackmail, in forcing a guy to pay me, in demanding payment or putting him on a payment schedule. Yet…I find the idea of being spoiled thrilling.

Recently I put a few pairs of new boots on my wish list, not for me, but for my boyfriend. I was absolutely thrilled when two different cuckolds got him new boots! That’s a new twist for me & I like it. So where do we go from here? Well, geography is going to be the biggest challenge followed by financial security. Finding the right cuckold in Vancouver might be tough. I’ll put it out there into the universe & we’ll see what happens *smile*.

Email: MsT@MistressT.net

xo

Mistress T

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My version of “FemDom”.

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The debate around what FemDom is or is not is one that seems to never get old. The concept of there being rules for being a proper Dominatrix actually seems rather humorous. To get nude or not, to wank a dick or not, to fuck your slaves or not, etc. It’s a big, wide topic that I’ll narrow to just me for now.

Over the last decade I’ve figured out what feels right for me. It’s been an interesting journey that continues to evolve. At times I’ve tried various things and then decided to not do them anymore. If you’ve been following be since the beginning you might have noticed that some video themes came & went.

When I get custom video requests I often go with my gut. I know by now what I’m going to be comfortable with for personal reasons or in terms of my ‘branding’. As far as my branding is concerned, I’ve spent years trying to do a simple thing: portray myself as a woman who is in control of her body & sexuality and who is also in control of the male’s I interact with.

For me, that is my simple version of FemDom. Female in control. That can take a lot of different forms. It can be sensual or subtle Domination in various roles. It doesn’t have to be linked to physical pain or dungeons.

So when I get requests to do vids where I am in any way objectified, not in full control, like I’m so horny I’ll do something I wouldn’t otherwise do, where a male is in the power role, etc. I know that it’s not right for me.

I feel that the vast majority of porn on the internet portrays women as submissive, weak, often degraded objects there for the pleasure of men. I don’t need to create any more content like that, there’s plenty. I’d like to try to balance things out by offering a different dynamic.

A lot of men want to give up control. They want a woman to initiate & to take her pleasure. They find confidence sexy.  Despite that, the tidal wave of mainstream porn, the music/film industry, media & advertising brainwashing everyone into thinking of women as objects is a powerful force. When so-called fans ask me to do typical mainstream porn acts like take it in the ass, have guys blow their loads on my face, in my mouth, on my tits, on my ass…why ask me for that? Isn’t the billion images on the internet of women doing that enough? Or is it specifically that I don’t that makes it appealing? The whole fucked up thing of persuading women to push their boundaries. A girl in a bikini will get asked to get naked. A naked girl will be asking to masturbate….then jerk a dick, then suck it, then fuck it…but that’s not enough…then she’ll be asked to take it in the ass, then a gang bang, and on and on…until she’s used up. This is exactly how it goes for the majority of women who get into the adult industry.

And I feel the pressure. I have felt it from day 1. The pressure to do more. How no matter what I did, guys always wanted more. Happily there are many loyal fans who love what I do & to them I am eternally grateful. Happily I am able to assert my boundaries & I actually take pleasure in saying: “No, I’m not going to do that.” I enjoy denying men when I sense they are part of the “more!” culture. The pushers. Those addicted to trying to get women to do things they don’t really want to do. There are so many of them & it’s become so accepted that guys don’t even realize it’s a problem…but hey you, if you’ve ever tried to persuade a woman to do something beyond what you think she’s comfortable with: fuck you.

If you want to see what it looks like when a woman is in control of her body & her sexuality study FemDom vids, mine & those in my network of peers. We’re not always perfect, sometimes we try things & they don’t work out like we thought, sometimes we can even seem hypocritical, we’re human, but overall the modeling in healthier. It’s a step closer to equality. FemDom isn’t about equality but it swings the pendulum far enough in the other direction from the usual that it puts a dent in the normalization of female objectification…& I’m happy to do my part.

Mistress T

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Feeling grateful *smile*

My birthday celebrations are not over but I am feeling so grateful I just had to make a post today.

Yesterday was my 40th birthday & so many of you helped make my day awesome. It was a wonderfully blended day of my ‘work’ world enhancing my ‘personal’ world.

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans...all together:-)

Cards from family, work peers/friends, films slaves & fans…all together:-)

One of my film slaves popped by first thing to drop off a thoughtful & useful present. Then my boyfriend stopped in for a quick visit & brought a thoughtful surprise.

Then I went for a nice brunch with a close friend.

Brunch at the fabulous "Medina" YUM!

Brunch at the fabulous “Medina” YUM!

Then I spent the afternoon at the spa, using a gift card sent by a fan (thank you!).

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

My favorite spa, Miraj Hamman, where I am pampered, scrubbed & massaged.

Then I went for dinner & drinks with another close friend using a generous gift card from another fan.

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails at L'Abattoir

Delicious food & outstanding cocktails & L’Abattoir

I returned home to my thoughtful boyfriend who had baked my favorite birthday cake. He serenaded me & then took me to bed *wink*.

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I received this wonderful necklace that you’ll see in some of the pics. Thank you Dave! It’s hard to see in the pics but it’s a Fox holding a jewel in its mouth.

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The most overwhelming present I received was from my dear friends at The English Mansion. Sidonia Von Bork commissioned a portrait from the famous artist Sardax. He blogged about it here: https://sardaxart.wordpress.com/2016/04/29/portrait-of-mistress-t/

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

A pic of the portrait by Sardax & the home-made card by Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion

I am so honored & touched by this thoughtful & generous gift. My friendship with Sidonia Von Bork has meant so much to me. She is an amazing, fascinating person. I don’t even have the words…

My birthday celebrations continue tonight. I’m heading out with friends to a lively, sexy party where I’ll have a few drinks, dance a lot & who knows what else:-)

Then I will start chipping away at my list of 40 awesome things to do the year I’m 40. I plan to make this milestone year remarkable. Thanks to a sweet fan I already have a night at the symphony (on my list) planned for next week & a big concert (on my list) mid May. I have already started volunteering (which was one of the things on my list). I’ve been paired up with a nearly blind elderly lady for weekly walks. It may not seem like a huge thing, it’s not going to lead to world peace, but it means a lot to her & it feels good for me. It’s a start…& if everyone just did a little something for other people in need the world really would be a better place.

I have a bunch of other things to plan, hiking into hot springs, skydiving, paragliding, kayaking with Whales (ethically, at a respectful distance), finishing my book, random acts of kindness, converting a meat eater to vegetarianism (any volunteers who want help with that? Reduce animal cruelty, help the environment & improve your health!), learning Spanish, etc. I’m super excited about my 40th year!

Thanks again to everyone who sent birthday wishes & to everyone who supports the work that I love. It really means the world to me. BIG love! xoxoxoxo

Mistress T

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My birthday is coming up!

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Why on earth would I be announcing my birthday? Presents, of course! I’m not really into Financial Domination but I’m not going to pass up an opportunity to get presents, gifts, offerings, goodies, treats, etc. Who doesn’t like getting presents?! *grin*

My birthday is April 29th & it’s the big 4-0 for me this time. I know, I look fantastic for my age & I feel fantastic too. Healthy diet, yoga, lots of walking, great sex, keeping things low stress, getting decent sleep…always striving for balance.

I have big plans for this year. Rather than celebrating with a birthday dinner or party I’ve made a list of “40 awesome things to do in my 40th year”…so that I mark this milestone year with a lot of memorable & meaningful things. The list contains some obvious activities like skydiving & paragliding but also things like “helping a young woman reach a goal”, volunteering & a minimum of 12 random acts of kindness. I included “finish my book” so for those wondering when my book will be done…I’m hoping by this time next year.

If you would like to “gift” me one of the awesome things on my list here are some examples of things you could contribute to:

– Kayak with whales (kayaking excursion in Tofino)

– Tickets for a local theater performance

– Tickets for the symphony: http://www.vancouversymphony.ca/concerts/

– Adrenaline activities: “escape room” game / paintball / zip line / skydive / para-glide

Gift certificates for my favorite spa are ALWAYS appreciated: http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/ (Just give them my email address, they know who I am, it’s fine: MsT@MistressT.net)

Amazon.com gift cards are always a wonderful choice (to this email address): MsT@MistressT.net

Here’s my Amazon Wish List: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_p9jbxb0WKY55P

If you would like to take me to the symphony, theater, out for dinner, etc. There is an additional tribute required for my company in public. Please inquire via email.

Thanks in advance for all spoiling! *smile*

xo

Mistress T

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