Combo Improv

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I posted this on my twitter feed: “Quick: request a topic for a blog post!”

The first few responses were: 24/7 slavery, humiliation & cuckolding training, edging & electro CBT.

I thought it might be fun to combine all those in a little made up story. Welcome to “Combo Improv!” Here it is:

After a short, whirlwind romance, you ask me to marry you. It wasn’t much of a surprise since I’d been teasing you like crazy but told you I wanted to wait until after we were married to have sex. I had let you see me half naked, we’d cuddled…one time you even blew your load in your shorts rubbing against my butt while watching TV when you thought I was asleep. I had only pretended to be asleep though & I called you on it before you’d even finished cumming. The surprise & humiliation ruined your orgasm.

I laughed at the wet spot in front of your pants as you blushed & tried to hide it. I then got more serious & shamed you for being inappropriate, for having so little control & for disrespecting me. I think I heard you crying a little in the bedroom as you were changing & cleaning up. That amused me.

On our wedding night you were SO excited thinking we were finally going to have sex. I had other plans for you though & presented you with a device that fit around your cock & balls. I had a remote & could give you a little (or bigger!) electric shock when ever it suited me. I planned to turn you into my cuckold & my 24/7 slave.

Of course you were reluctant but after I modeled the special lingerie for our honeymoon you came around. Or rather your dick decided for you.

I fitted the device around your cock & balls, then gave you a little tester shock. You jumped & your rock hard cock started to go soft. Perfect.

I stroked the sensitive flesh of your cock with my finger tips & you quickly grew to full attention & started drooling pre-cum.

Stroking you lightly like that I told you about your new reality as my slave & cuckold. How you’d learn to always put my needs before yours. How my pleasure will give you pleasure. How I’d train you to orally please me & worship my pussy. You will wait on me hand & foot, not beg for attention or argue with my choices.

You’ll also be responsible for all the household chores & maintenance, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, etc. You could choose to do all of it yourself or hire staff for some things. It only matters to me that I never have to think about such mundane things.

I will also take lovers as I see fit & although that might seem difficult at first you’ll learn to get enjoyment from seeing me have satisfying sex with other men. We’ll be starting right now, on our honeymoon. I’ll have a lover & you’ll watch. You can stroke yourself & keep yourself on the edge of orgasm. If you misbehave or get too close to orgasm I will shock your cock & balls. If you are a good boy at the end of the adventure I’ll let you cum…

Deep down this is what you really wanted, even if you didn’t know if consciously. You were attracted to me because I’m a confident, naturally Dominant woman. You wanted to marry me even though I denied you sex. I humiliated you in many ways & you put up with it…I bet you even liked it secretly. I married you because I could see in you the potential to be a great slave. You are easily trained & compliant. You are naturally submissive & you’ve always been very sweet to me. I can already tell you care about my needs more than yours. I think we’ll be very happy together.

xo

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My thoughts on condoms in porn…

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This post has nothing to do with the whole condom law thingy in California recently…but regarding that, I would have voted ‘no’ because I think performers should have a choice whether to use condoms or not. It shouldn’t be a law.

My body, my choice.

Which leads nicely into this blog post about MY thoughts on condoms in porn.

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Even the hyper-observant wouldn’t be able to tell how many men I’ve had unprotected intercourse with in my vids since their faces have so often been unidentifiable. I’ll tell you: three. Does that surprise you? How many men do you think I’ve had intercourse with in my vids using a condom? Less than twenty. In a decade & thousands of scenes, I’ve had sex with less than two dozen different male performers & only bareback with three.

Of those three, two of them were my long-term partners/boyfriends, the other one was a close friend & long term partner of a close friend. I trusted them completely with my sexual health. We all knew each others sexual activity & were tested regularly.

My choice to use condoms was about safer sex until more recently, when it also became about birth control. At 40 my doctor wanted me to consider going off the birth control pill that I’d been on since my teens. Apparently there are higher side-effect risks for older women. I wasn’t keen on getting surgery (tubes tied) or the invasive process of getting an IUD & potentially bleeding for months…sexy talk, eh? Perhaps too personal? Good. I’m a feminist who strives for EQUALITY & a part of that is both sexes being informed about & taking responsibility for birth control. So take a deep breath & keep reading because the next part is going to make you squirm even more.

My partner agreed to get a vasectomy which enabled me to go off the pill (& y’all still get the cream pie scenes you love so much!) but now the risk of having sex without a condom with others isn’t just about STI’s, I now risk an unwanted pregnancy. In other words, I’m not fucking anyone else without a condom. Period.

I’ve recently been approached by a big porn production company to do a boy/girl fuck scene but they had a bareback-only policy…& that got my back up.

So what’s the problem with condoms?

– Guys complain it reduces sensitivity so they lose their boner or can’t cum.

My thoughts on that: the condom just feels different & a guy isn’t used to the sensation. A simple solution is to jerk off with a condom to get used to it! If it’s just you masturbating & you’re on a budget, re-use that condom a few times. Yuck? Whatever. I’m sure you’ve done worse.

– There’s a stigma with condoms. It implies that one of you or both of you might be diseased & going without says that you trust each other.

My thoughts on that: grow the fuck up. Using a condom says that you respect your body & your partners body. If you want to do the trust thing down the line after you both get tested & agree to it…& you have other birth control sorted out, fine. But in the beginning, just grab the damn condom as if it’s a forgone conclusion & get on with it.

– Stopping to put the condom on interrupts the flow & you lose your boner.

My thoughts on that: you can jerk off while surfing porn & keeping an ear open for your roomie, boss, wife or mother in case they walk in, you can do this. Experiment with incorporating the condom into the play. I’ve seen guys effectively lick my pussy while putting the condom on at the same time & I’ve managed to put the condom on while stroking a cock & kissing the guy, just experiment & practice until it becomes just another part of the action. Figure it out.

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Honestly tho, the problems with condoms are mostly psychological so how do we help with that? Personally, I feel seeing more condoms in porn would help. Some disagree, saying porn is fantasy, it’s entertainment, guys don’t want to see condoms, it’s a turn off…but we all know that many, MANY young men are using porn as sex ed, like it or not & that what we see does influence sex trends. Anal sex & cumming on a woman’s face are two examples of things that were popularized by porn. There certainly wasn’t a huge women’s movement to try to convince men to cum on our faces, to fuck up our make-up, our hair & squirt sticky goop in our eyes that stings like a sonofabitch. Sex acts that were rarely done 50 years ago are now the norm for a lot of people & the driving force most of the time is porn.

So, it stands to reason that if men saw more condoms in porn that it would become more acceptable, reducing most of the problems with condom use & therefore reducing STI’s & unwanted pregnancies.

BUT, business is business & with so much piracy these days porn producers are fighting for every dollar. They say men won’t pay for porn with condoms in it. That’s probably true in enough cases for some porn producers to draw a hard line against condoms. It’s just business & changing this trend isn’t like turning a canoe around, it’s like turning the titanic around. It would take a lot of producers bravely using condoms in their scenes, taking the financial hit until the trend turned.

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So what can you do as a porn consumer? Decide to buy a porn scene even if you see there’s a condom & your knee-jerk reaction is negative. Give it a chance. Try to acclimatize yourself to it & support the producers who are taking the risk creating a scene with a condom & support the performers who are choosing that for their bodies. That’s about it as far as I can tell.

Also, if you don’t like fucking with a rubber, practice jerking off with one. Your dick, your responsibility. Figure it out.

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Also, get tested! Condoms are not 100% effective. Responsible fuckers use rubbers AND get tested regularly. It’s no big deal & it feels great to get the ‘all clear’ or to catch something early so you can treat it or deal with it. Ignorance isn’t bliss.

xo

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Aging In The Adult Industry

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

Mature Domme tip #107: You may not have the energy you had in your younger years. Keep a slave handy to use as a chair for when you need a little rest.

My birthday is tomorrow, Apr 29. I’ll be 41. So what’s it like aging in the adult industry?

Unlike the typical porn starlet, I was late to the biz. I started as a private dancer in a strip club when I was 28. The other gals where years younger except one & she didn’t really ‘dance’ for anyone. She had a few regulars who would pay her to sit & drink with them.

I dipped in & out of the adult industry for a few years & was about 32 by the time my fetish video business was full steam ahead. I started referring to myself as a MILF in the early days & added ‘mature’ soon after. The oldest among my peer group they sometimes refer to me as ‘Nana’ (& sometimes Mistress Goofball, but this isn’t a post about how hilarious I am.)

In a lot of survey’s, “MILF” is a very popular search term, often ranking higher than ‘teen’. Here’s some stats: https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2016-year-in-review

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So in a world that in every other way tells you that as a women your value nose dives after 40 (or even after 35), I work in an industry where not only am I highly valued, there’s a lot less competition. I’ve even hammed up the older bit by wearing a grey wig & you’ll often see me in glasses, pearl necklaces, satin blouses or suites. For business, I’m not trying to pretend I’m younger, if anything, the opposite.

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Silver fox:-)

How many adult film performers are still in the biz after 40? A helleva lot less than those in their 20’s.

I have received some very generous offers from various big porn production companies who are desperate for MILF’s. I’m not really interested in working with other companies these days but since I find Virtual Reality fascinating you might see a VR fuck scene with me on HologirlsVR this year. My understanding is a key VR sex position requires me to straddle & ride a cock for several minutes & frankly, I’m not sure my knees will take it. ha ha

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh.

Yeah, I might need a helper to lift me up & down in this position. Sheesh. (Find these scenes on https://www.hologirlsvr.com)

Anyway, back to how I feel about things. I’ll be honest, in the real world I don’t have the same ‘pull’ that I used to. Men don’t quite look at me the same, or look at me at all. Online though, things heat up more each year. Business is booming, sales numbers don’t lie, plus I get loads of messages from men of all ages desiring an older woman.

As if by cruel design though, with each passing year I become more settled, with less inclination to travel, with less energy to work, with less drive to work as hard as I did in the beginning. Finally achieving work-life balance I am no longer married to my work, I have a full & rich life outside of the biz. With an eye to the future I wonder when it will make sense to start to wind down the business. A recent meeting with my financial advisor, he posed the usual questions which were mathematical to him but personal to me: “How much longer do you think you’ll make this income? When will you need to start drawing on your investments? Etc.”

I really don’t know? My heart is still in it but when is the tipping point when I’m no longer a ‘hot MILF’ but I’ve gone ‘past my expiry date’? Of course I want to end on a high note & not drag things out to the point of embarrassment. I know I’m not near that yet but geez, ya know what I mean?

In writing this I did some research on Bettie Page. I thought that she had at one point decided to retire, maybe in her mid 30’s & had never let another photograph be taken of her. That she wanted to be remembered by her fans how she was. Unfortunately my research resulted in a less romantic explanation. She may have actually found religion. So I can’t draw any parallels here about Bettie Page feeling her age, etc. I’ll move on without Ms. Page.

Personally, I love getting older mentally. I wouldn’t want to go back to knowing less, having experienced less. Physically, I don’t think anyone is happy about aging. No one says: “Thank god my skin is starting to wrinkle! I’ve been waiting for this for too long!” The cosmetic industry is booming thanks to people fighting growing old tooth & nail. I’m not convinced there’s such a thing as growing old gracefully & there’s so few women in the public eye doing it naturally that most of us wouldn’t even know what it looks like anymore. I won’t stay on that topic as I know men would prefer to stay blissfully unaware of what women do to look good, while men often consider combing their hair as stepping up their game & trimming their nose hairs as ‘extreme grooming’. Ha ha

The book I’ve been writing is about my life. It’s been amazing working with my editor, going back through & discussing details of various chapters of my story. Seeing how events & experiences shaped who I am. Some pleasant, some not, but it all contributed. I hoped to have the book done in my 40th year & although that didn’t happen, the majority of the work on it happened in my 40th year & it will be done long before my 42nd.

Turning back toward aging in this industry…it’s amazing actually. In the real world as I start to become invisible…as I’m overlooked by more men, I am becoming more desirable to certain fans. Sure, being fetishized for being ‘older’ is somewhat objectifying, like being fetishized for being an Asian woman, a black man, a BBW, etc. but most people tend to be drawn to certain physical traits, I don’t really see anything wrong with that. We like what we like, & for men seeking a mature woman, their options are more limited in porn…& here I am. Experienced, still good lookin’ & not planning to make my exit anytime soon.

Oh…& in case you felt inclined to send me a treat for my birthday, here’s my updated wish lists:

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xo

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Sex Workers: Now Available In Human Form!

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I just read this great article “What It’s Like To Be A Mom & A Sex Worker”:

https://www.romper.com/p/what-its-like-to-be-a-mom-a-sex-worker-48312

I wanted to share it as a nod to the women I know in the industry who are mom’s & I really wanted men to read it as yet another way to humanize sex workers.

I write often in my blog about the objectification of women & how important it is to educate & remind people that sex workers are multi-dimensional beings with lives outside of sex work, with hopes & fears, dreams & disappointments, quirks, families, friends, hobbies, feelings, etc. Yup, even that ‘cum-dumpster’ you just jerked off to who took a load of cum on her face while getting fucked in the ass…has a whole life outside of your fantasy. Maybe she volunteers at a soup kitchen or animal shelter, maybe she has kids or an aging parent she takes care of, maybe she teaches yoga, maybe she plays the same video games you do, maybe she bakes the best cookies or fixes up old cars. Sure, maybe she’s dealing with childhood trauma & struggles with addiction or has suicidal thoughts….but ya know what? So do a lot of lawyers, accountants, teachers, mechanics, real estate agents… My point is that sex workers are just people, a slice of the population, like you & the folks around you.

The last paragraph of the article gave me hope & maybe my blog post will contribute to the future this woman sees coming:

“I support anyone’s choice to choose the life that suits them best. It’s hard yet rewarding work to provide nurturing love and companionship to people, whether it’s to my growing daughter or to my grateful clients, and I’m happy to do so. Thankfully, the stigma that sucks joy from my work is slowly dissipating, as people become more progressive and enlightened about their world. And if, in the future, my daughter wants to become a stripper, porn performer, cam-girl, dominatrix, or whatever, I hope she performs just like her mama — with poise, confidence, and a smile.”

Stigma. That word. I’m really sick of it to be honest. Thankfully I mostly don’t care what people think about me in that regard, but on the list of downsides of this occupation “stigma” is the top of the list. The more the world hears & sees sex workers when they’re not doing sex work the more informed people become & the more we can reduce stigma. It’s not easy tho & most don’t want to expose themselves. Most of the women I know in the industry who have kids are careful to hide the fact they have kids from their clients & they are even more careful to keep those who know they have kids from finding out about their profession. The 2 things don’t mix well…but I’ll pull the curtain back & tell you that there’s a hell of a lot of women in the industry who have kids & there’s a hell of a lot of mom’s that are doing sex work. Sex workers who are parents could be excellent secret agents, living double lives, telling lies & keeping secrets. I hope some day it all doesn’t have to be like that.

SIDE NOTE: Unrelated to this article I highly recommend the Netflix series (or book it was based on) “13 Reasons Why”: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/13_Reasons_Why 

It explores some really tough topics that young adults struggle with: bullying, suicide, consent/rape, objectification & how to support young people who are struggling with some of these issues. So although this is particularly pertinent for young adults or the parents of young adults I think anyone would get a lot out of this. Especially the parts about objectifying women in small ways that add up to a bigger problem. It’s easy to think that one comment or incident is no big deal but seeing over the series how little things accumulated…I won’t ruin it for you, but I hope this series becomes required watching & is discussed in classrooms. People need to understand the consequences of their actions, men in particular in this regard (sexual objectification of women) & women need to learn how to better advocate for themselves.

Be kind to yourselves & to each other.

xo

Mistress T

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Book update…

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Some of you know that I’ve been working on a book for the last year. The mostly done manuscript (1st draft of the book) was delivered to the editor the end of December. I knew it would take her a few months to go through it so I’ve just been waiting.

I wasn’t sure what to expect. I wrote the story in such a way that I thought she might want to rearrange things to make the story arc more compelling. Being my first time I figured that there would be a lot of changes.

We had a meeting the end of last week & it went really well. Far better than I could have dreamed. Not only was she very complimentary, she’s actually reducing her fee by a 3rd based on how little work she’s actually going to need to do on the book. That’s how I know she isn’t just blowing smoke up my ass, she really does think it is great as it is. Of course there is still work to do. We’re going to meet a couple times a week & chip away at the fine details. Things she feels need to be expanded on, etc. I also didn’t have an ending but discussed my ideas with her & we agreed on how it should go. I need to write that part but in the meantime we’ll work on the rest together.

I’m beyond excited & relieved. I feared that she would come back with it all torn apart & barely resembling what I created. I’m paying her to help me make the end result great, not just to stroke my ego. I wasn’t prepared for her to love it so much & to say that it actually didn’t need that much work. We even discussed a potential spin off series…but let’s get this one birthed first.

I can’t give you an ETA. Maybe a few months? As we’re wrapping up I’ll be working with a designer & marketing company to move it through the next steps. I’ll be self publishing. I also plan to have an audio book narrated by me, of course.

I’ll keep you posted! Thanks for the ongoing support of this project. It means a lot to me.

xo

Mistress T

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New Tricks?

This post is pretty clean. Bad news for those looking for jerk off material. Good news for those wanting to get to know me more intimately. This is soap from my wish list, sent by a loving fan:-)

This post is pretty clean. Bad news for those looking for jerk off material. Good news for those wanting to get to know me more intimately. This is soap from my wish list, sent by a loving fan:-)

Maybe you can teach an old dog new tricks. The last year I’ve been really into cooking & this post is to thank the fans who have helped. I’ll get to that. A little back story first.

My closest friends are the most shocked to see me in the kitchen. It isn’t that I didn’t know how to cook at all, I could make basic things. I just didn’t cook. You would never catch me hosting a dinner party. My fridge was mostly empty except for booze, mix, ketchup & take out left overs. I’ve always eaten pretty healthy. I rarely had greasy fast food, pizza or junk…I liked sushi, thai food, salads, etc.

I worked from home a lot so I liked to get out of the house for a break & eating out became a convenient habit. It was an opportunity to socialize with friends, go for a walk, combine eating with running errands.

When my partner & I started dating nearly two years ago he wanted to cook for me but was hobbled by my limited kitchen. I added useful things to my wish list like frying pans, a pressure cooker, etc. With these new tools he made me food like nothing I’d ever experienced. It was DELICIOUS, nutritious & vegan. I started watching him cook, then I started to help. I was curious. I wanted to learn how to do it too.

I soon mastered a couple of his signature dishes & got a thrill from adjusting the ingredients here & there to play with the flavors. I would make big pots of soups & freeze individual servings so on busy days I could just pull out a jar & defrost it. My freezer no longer only contained ice cubes!

One of several things in my freezer: a black bean & squash soup with harissa spice.

One of several things in my freezer: a black bean & squash soup with harissa spice.

I wanted to learn more & started searching vegan recipes on the internet. I stumbled across posts from The Thug Kitchen & put their cook book on my wish list. After receiving it & trying some of the recipes I was a woman obsessed! I needed an immersion blender for some things so put it on my wish list. I also added crushed tomatoes, coconut milk, quinoa, brown rice, coconut oil & jars to hold my creations.

I even make my own vegi broth & hot sauce now! I use my own tahini sauce on vegi hash instead of ketchup. I pre-soak & pre-cook dried chickpeas & black beans to use in my recipes. I could go on & on.

I wouldn’t call my food gourmet, but it’s healthy as hell, yummy & comforting. I never thought I would get so excited about cooking & neither would my friends. I even have a mug that says “Domestically Disabled” on it that everyone laughs at.

It has been a team effort & the fans who have sent & continue to send all the helpful things from my wish list are part of that team. I understand some fans would rather buy me lingerie, sexy shoes or luxury items but these practical things send a message that you care about the real, every-day me.

So here’s a few snaps I took while cooking a big pot of lentil soup tonight. Don’t turn up your nose, it’s so full of flavor the last thing you would register is ‘lentils’. I also guarantee you wouldn’t care that there’s no meat in it.

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Tonight’s soup is lentil with a peanut sauce (also includes squash, cauliflower, yam, carrots, onions, crushed tomatoes, garlic, ginger, vegi broth, smoked paprika, cayenne pepper, tamari sauce, a bit of tamarind…I think that’s it. I kind of made this one up & it’s fucking delicious! Peanut butter…who woulda thunk it?!) That’s the immersion blender in my hand & the pressure cooker in the back ground. They both get well used.

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Crushed tomatoes & coconut oil…both from my wish list: thanks!

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This isn’t a very sexy post…so here’s some boobs…along with 2 frying pans from my wish list. They also get well used…just like you’d like to be;-)

If you’re interested in reducing or eliminating animal products from your diet I strongly recommend the Thug Kitchen cook book. There’s lots of curse words which is fun & they really make it easy for those new to cooking. Beyond just following recipes for specific dishes I’ve learned how to feed myself practically in a bunch of different ways.

Eat like you give a fuck. Best fucking cook book ever. Fuck yeah. Lots of curse words:-)

Eat like you give a fuck. Best fucking cook book ever. Fuck yeah. Lots of curse words:-)

Honorable mention goes to my Vega powder, vegan protein powder & basically a multi-vitamin which I have for breakfast every day. I’ve been drinking this for years & love it. It’s on my wish list if you want to send something you know I will super appreciate.

Vega powder & shaker cup sent by a fan from my wish list.

Vega powder & shaker cup sent by a fan from my wish list.

Predictably…I’m going to throw down my wish list link here…because food gets consumed to nourish my Goddess body & it needs to be replenished: http://www.amazon.ca/registry/wishlist/1156JVPYKS1QX/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_x_fFnWybACY6QEW (I know that looks messed up & I should fix it but I’m slipping into a food coma from my yummy dinner…it still works, click it & see…)

xo

Mistress T

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Twitter account suspension?

UPDATE on March 6, 2017. Suspension was a technical error:

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Hiya! In case you went to my twitter feed today & saw something strange…it seems that my account has been suspended. Why? Beats me. I haven’t been given a reason yet, or any other info. I re-read the rules & terms of service. As far as I can tell I haven’t done anything wrong. I have sent a message to support but the auto-reply advised that it can take a few days to get a response. So, we wait.

I’m not too concerned…it’s only twitter after all & even if I permanently lost my account it wouldn’t really matter. It’s a nice diversion & I know a lot of my fans enjoy it…but it’s just social media. Life is about so much more.

Maybe go outside, take in some nature or talk to people in person today to commemorate the day Mistress T’s twitter account was suspended. Ha ha

Love,

Mistress T

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Omega Males + Feminism

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I read two different articles today that inspired me to write this blog post.

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The first one is about a new term for me: “Omega Male” in relation to “Alpha Male”. Most of us are familiar with the term “Alpha Male”, especially when it comes to cuckolding fantasies. He’s the bull, the well-hung stud who gets to fuck the woman while the cuckold/beta male is denied. He’s strong, masculine, confident & usually a hard fucker.

I’ve thrown the term “Alpha Male” around in my cuckold scenes for lack of a term that resonated better for me….but I think I have one now: Omega Male.

The Omega Male is quietly confident. He doesn’t need to broadcast his superiority. He’s empathetic, kind, gentle, a good guy to have as a friend & an excellent husband. He’s not as competitive as an Alpha Male & he’s more likely to walk away from a fight. He resolves conflicts with words rather than his fists. He enjoys deeper conversations & cuddling. He cares about your feelings & he treats others as he would like to be treated. The Omega Male is trustworthy & steady. He’s an attentive lover who ensures the woman is satisfied.

An Omega Male is not to be confused with a beta male or a weak pussy who wouldn’t stand up for himself, his woman or anyone else. A beta male is kind of a spineless door mat. He serves or submits because he doesn’t think he’s worthy of respect or deserves to be treated well. A beta has little or no self confidence or self worth. A beta is truly pathetic.

My partner falls under the category of Omega Male & it’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.

Here’s the Omega Male article: http://www.theearthchild.co.za/the-awesome-omega-male-what-makes-him-better-than-the-alpha/

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The other article lists practical every day ways that you, as a man, can support Feminism. To be clear, Feminism is about equality. It’s not about Female Superiority. Feminism has gotten a bad name in some circles & I’m delighted that the leader of Canada, Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, has proudly declared that he is a Feminist. I think if you ask any sane person if they feel women should be equal to men they would say YES! But if you ask a lot of men if they’re a feminist they would say NO! But it’s the same damn thing, dude.

So here’s the link to that article, have a look with an open mind: http://www.xojane.com/issues/feminism-men-practical-steps

Here’s some homework for you: If you email me a list in your own words at least 5 things from this article YOU plan to do to support Feminism I will give you a FREE 1 week membership for my site. Email: MsT@MistressT.net

xo

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A Duo Session with Miss Jasmine

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Nearly a decade ago in the early days of being Professional Dominatrix’s in Vancouver, Miss Jasmine & I became friends. We did basically the same work & occasionally did sessions together. We’ve supported each other as our careers & lives have evolved.

Jasmine recently reached out to set up a duo session with a client of hers who requested me. I still like doing sessions, I just dislike the process of setting up a session with a new person. Poor communication & flakiness abound. Being contacted for a session by another professional makes the process a breeze. All the pertinent information (without the fluff) is efficiently exchanged & arrangements are firmed up quickly.

The date was set. She & I would have lunch before & then head to his hotel together. He was into a bit of bondage & sensual Domination, feet, hosiery, face sitting (clothed) & anal play/strap-on. It’s rather easy to fill up 90 minutes with those activities.

Jasmine had seen this client many times before & knew him well. He had been a fan of my vids for years & knew my style. That certainly helped with the comfort level. Things were more likely to go smoother.

We arrived & there were hugs all around. Hugging a stranger might seem a bit odd but within an hour I will have touched his private parts, a lot, & have shoved my crotch in his face, might as well get the physical contact part going right away.

He had a bottle of bubbly on ice. We decided to indulge.

Some Dommes won’t drink alcohol during a session. For me, it depends on safety really. How safe I feel with the client & what activities I’m doing. For example, I wouldn’t drink alcohol if I would be doing sounding or CP, but foot worship, face sitting & especially golden showers: sure.

For ladies reading this here’s how I feel safest: The bottle is unopened, I open it & pour my own drink. I don’t leave my drink unattended & the client drinks from the same container. This may sound paranoid but drinks getting spiked is a thing & better safe than sorry.

In my experience a drink or two can enhance the session for both parties, loosen you both up a bit. There is obviously a difference between a drink or two vs. getting smashed & out of control. A very drunk client is no fun to deal with & getting drunk yourself is unprofessional.

The view from his hotel room was stunning. I took a moment after getting changed, to admire the view & sip my drink. I’m sure the view of me in lingerie & heels from behind was a nice view for him too.

We stripped him & tied him spread eagle to the bed. He was grinning ear-to-ear & his cock was already standing at attention, twitching into the air. The next while was likely a blur to him as Jasmine & I took turns putting our feet in his face, sitting on his face & teasing his horny cock. Jasmine had brought some special smelly goodies for him (he has been buying her worn items for years). She had socks she’d worn for a couple weeks & a pair of well-worn panties. She held them over his face & made him breath deeply. He was in heaven. He kept saying he couldn’t believe we were both there & this was really happening.

Out came the rubber gloves, lube & toys/strap-ons. We incorporated ass play into the fun, moving him around in different positions, fucking him while he was on his back, doggy style & laying down doggy. At one point I was fucking him from behind while his face was buried between Jasmine’s thighs, inhaling her scent through her panties & we were left looking at each other. It was a funny moment already really, us facing each other with this guy between us having this incredible experience. I started to pull faces to make her laugh, crossing my eyes, lolling my tongue out & thrusting dramatically. She was trying hard to not laugh at loud to ruin the moment & like a jerk I just dialed up the funny faces, trying harder to make her lose it. I threw my head back, rolling my eyes back & smiling like a maniac. Poor Jasmine had to clamp her hand over her mouth to keep from laughing out loud. I loved it!

We ended things with him on his back, Jasmine fucking him in the ass with her strap-on & jerking him off while I kept my feet on his face, his eyes darting back & forth between us. I was doing my usual dirty talk, encouraging him along. He was begging enthusiastically to be allowed to cum, Jasmine laughing & holding off on giving him permission…I think most Dommes adore that moment, when a guy is right at the edge of orgasm & he’ll do just about anything to cum but also just about anything to not cum without permission, it’s incredibly powerful to have a man in that vulnerable position.

When she gave permission his whole body convulsed & he looked & sounded in every way to be cumming for at least 20 seconds before the ejaculate came out of his cock. His face was a mix of ecstasy & shock. He was muttering that he didn’t know what just happened. He was explaining that it felt like he came twice in a row. We had been working his ass for about a half hour, he likely had a prostate orgasm just before he actually ejaculated & that is a shocking experience for a lot of guys. A happy surprise *smile*.

I nuzzled his face into my cleavage & kissed his forehead. I’m known for a bit of sweetness at this point in a session, if I feel it’s appropriate. Most guys really love this part, no matter what kind of session it’s been. A bit of tenderness & a quiet moment after cumming.

As we tidied & packed up he kept expressing his joyful confusion about his orgasm & about what an amazing experience he had had. The gratitude was nice to hear. We all like to feel like we’ve done a good job, a sense of pride in accomplishment, don’t we?

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Back at it full time!

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I am back into the swing of things after taking some time off. I’ve filmed a few times in the last couple of weeks so I figured I should formally announce that & provide updated info for those who want to serve me.

It’s pretty simple, really. Although I have idiot-proof instructions on other blog posts for everything it comes down to common sense. Think about what I need to know:

  • How do you want to serve me? Paid private or online sessions? On film as a film slave or stunt cock? Are you ordering a custom vid?
  • WHAT exactly are you into/fetishes or activities? What do you want in the custom vid?
  • When? (Dates & times for sessions or filming)
  • Where? I’m only filming in Vancouver these days & new film guys are welcome to apply for filming IN VANCOUVER. If you want me to come to your city for a session, it’s possible, but it’s going to be VERY expensive. Don’t ask unless you have a generous budget.

Basically, address these questions: WHO? – WHAT? – WHERE? – WHEN?

Take a deep breath before you send that email & put yourself in my shoes. Ask yourself: “If I received this email would I have all the info I would need to decide if we are compatible & if what I’m asking for is do-able?”

Clearly communicated emails go to: MsT@MistressT.net

When you send me an email you’ll get an auto-response. READ IT. It’s meant to be helpful.

So yes, I’m filming scenes & custom vids, taking the occasional session, doing a bit of online stuff. The book is still with the editor & rewrites/changes will start happening soon but it won’t be as demanding on my time as writing the initial manuscript was…so I can work!

My boyfriend has been having fun dabbling in online Domination of some of my slaves. It’s a niche thing & a big next step for guys into cuckolding or encouraged bi play, to serve my lover like this. It fascinates me. They are just as interested in his feet & ass as his cock. Again, that fascinates me. Most don’t identify as bisexual or gay, it’s the extension of serving me, the extreme taboo nature of it that seems to do it for these pervy slaves. Let me know if you’re into it but be prepared to pay a tribute immediately to separate you from the chickens who don’t follow thru after they blow their load. I have zero patience for that BS:-)

Speaking of patience, I confess that over time mine is wearing thin. I find myself rejecting many requests or just not responding to emails at all. If the guy seems even slightly unhinged, flaky, unable to communicate clearly or annoying in some way…I won’t engage. Life just seems too precious to spend my time having frustrating communications with strangers online. I suppose this is the “bitter or jaded” phase of the business that slaves complain about & why they are so eager to pounce on a new Domme in the scene. After a while you develop a sixth sense & can read between the lines before a guy makes it obvious he’s loony-tunes or a time-waster. As it stands only the most polite, sane & well-articulated emails get a response from me these days & I feel only the slightest pang of guilt knowing that some good guys slip through the cracks…but I don’t owe strangers, even fans, a piece of me.

So what can you take away from that? If you’ve sent me an email & I didn’t respond read the auto-response carefully & take another try at sending a well-communicated email. Ensure all pertinent info is there while still being brief & to the point. If you still don’t get a response then move along. Sending a bunch of emails if I haven’t responded will only get your emailed blocked, it won’t get you the attention you’re seeking.

It must be acknowledged that at this time I have the best group of generous, low-maintenance, lovely slaves I’ve ever had. They make my life easier & more joyful. They don’t need to be named as they know who they are. Those who tribute & send gifts but don’t beg for loads of attention. Those who just get pleasure from serving me. A common theme is the best ones usually tribute immediately to show they are serious. It’s highly effective at getting my attention. An Amazon gift card, a gift, even joining my site, sends the right message.

With that I’m going to get outside & enjoy the crisp sunny weather we’re currently having in Vancouver. It’s normally very rainy here this time of year so I need to soak up that vitamin D when I can. There’s a joke in there about getting the D but I’ll leave it up to you perverts to fill it in. Ha ha

xo

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