The English Mansion: Love & Gratitude

Posted on March 23, 2014 by Mistress T

I awoke today with a wave of gratitude so strong it actually brought me to tears. I was thinking about my relationship with Sidonia Von Bork & her crew at The English Mansion. I realized how much I’ve learned from my experiences there & how much I’ve benefited.

Here’s the page on their site that lists all the movies I’m currently in, with more added frequently: http://www.theenglishmansion.com/MistressT

United in shared passions:-)

This was from one of our earliest shoots.

I took this pic…THAT was a fun day of us taking turns using the sex slave for our pleasure.

I have spent a lot of time with Sidonia & she has been generous in both her professional guidance as well as her personal support. I consider her a mentor & a cherished friend. She is an icon in the classic FemDom world. Her brilliant & creative mind is behind the many diabolical scenes & scenarios portrayed in her films. Her intelligence & deep understanding of the deviant is evident in her excellent blog.

Sidonia Von Bork & I using a slave’s man pussy.

Thanks to the generous promotion from The English Mansion I have become very popular in England & throughout Europe. Every day I get applications from fans in the UK asking to be in my films or to meet me personally. To show my appreciation for The English Mansion & to separate the serious applicants from the rest I am now requiring an important step in application: you must be a member of TheEnglishMansion.com before I’ll even discuss meeting you in person.

A dungeon of delights…

I will be back in the UK within the next few months (I come every spring & fall) but I will no longer be publicly announcing specific dates. I will no longer answer random emails asking when I’ll be in the UK. You must send your membership ID to prove you have a current membership for The English Mansion. If you do not support the fine work they do & you’re not familiar with my vids on their site than you do not deserve my attention.

Serious applicants who send their membership ID for The English Mansion will also be given a 3 day free premium membership to my site: www.MistressT.net.

There is a limited number of opportunities to meet with me for a private session or to film with me, so no guarantees that you’ll be accepted but I can guarantee that without verification that you’re a paying supporter of the work I’ve done with The English Mansion you will not even be considered.

The English Mansion is the #1 site in the world for classic FemDom. It showcases legendary top Domina’s as well as fresh faces & has a long-standing solid reputation for having the most quantity & highest quality classic FemDom porn all under one ‘roof’. You should already be a member anyway!

To apply to see me in the UK (I will not be touring anywhere else in Europe) email MsT@MistressT.net with the following info:

#1. Your membership ID for www.TheEnglishMansion.com (I will only use it for verification that you are a paying member.)

#2. Indicate: film slave, private session only or both/either?

#3. List preferred activities & hard limits.

#4. If applying for film include a nude torso pic with erect penis.

Cheerio,

Mistress T

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A little discussion on Piracy

Posted on March 17, 2014 by Mistress T

Arrrrrr there any pirates out here?

I am not going to lecture, don’t worry. This is only a discussion on an interesting topic.

A topic that pretty much no one cares about except for the business’s it effects…so I suspect this will be my least popular blog entry ever *smile*. Although a blog I did a year ago on a similar topic generated quite a few comments: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/pay-what-you-want/

I recently tweeted a link to an article written by a video game producer who conducted an experiment on piracy: http://www.greenheartgames.com/2013/04/29/what-happens-when-pirates-play-a-game-development-simulator-and-then-go-bankrupt-because-of-piracy/

It was a fascinating social experiment but I don’t think I got a single comment on that tweet. Why? Because nearly everyone participates in file sharing in one way or another (music, movies, TV shows, video games…PORN, etc.) & its become so normal for most people that we don’t even think of it as being wrong or illegal. Even I am guilty of it.

Here’s a great quote from that video game article: “To be fair, there are still individuals who either can’t make a legal purchase because of payment-issues or who genuinely cannot afford the game. I don’t have a quarrel with you.”

I echo that. For a variety of reasons, for some guys it is just not possible to buy my vids through clips4sale or to join my site. Here’s a nod to the guys who actually mail me cash to join my site or make other efforts to pay when options are limited.

I contract the services of not one but two different companies to scour the internet for my illegally distributed content & they get thousands of links removed weekly. THOUSANDS. My stuff is very popular it seems…but despite that, business is good. Would it be better with less piracy? Who knows.

Some argue that those who watch the free stuff would never pay anyway…and some argue that the free stuff IS promotion & it brings paying customers to me. Those two statements contradict each other yet they are the two most common responses I get when discussing piracy with those who engage in file sharing. Kind of funny.

We’ve seen how the internet & file sharing has impacted the music industry. Musicians have had to change their business model to adapt.

Netflix was created in this new environment. Before Netflix I streamed TV shows illegally. I didn’t feel good about it but I didn’t have a television anymore & it seemed like the only viable option. When Netflix came along I was happy to pay $8/month to get a good quality option for watching TV shows & movies.

So what will happen to porn? How can we adjust to the changing behaviors of the consumer? How do we continue to make a living when more & more porn consumers get used to getting their jerk fix for free? If the majority of porn watchers don’t pay…& many porn producers stop producing porn…then there won’t be porn to share & watch for free. That seems logical, doesn’t it? Or does it?

Things are actually fine for me right now & I don’t lose sleep over piracy. I do worry about the future though. I worry about the generation that has never paid for porn & believes that full access to endless free porn is their right. I have had too many conversations with guys in their 20’s who think paying for porn is for suckers. They find the thought appalling.

Here’s another great quote from that video game article: “We are not wealthy and it’s unlikely that we will be any time soon, so stop pretending like we don’t need your 8 dollars! We are just two guys working our butts off, trying to start our own game studio to create games which are fun to play.”

I know some of you see me as a celebrity but I am not a big faceless Corporation. I’m basically a one-woman show here. I produce my own vids (I set up the scene, lights, & put the camera on a tripod). I edit my own vids & do all my own marketing. I deal with all my own email, custom vid requests, twitter, blog, etc. I use the services of a few people to do what I can’t do: a webmaster, an accountant, bookkeeper, lawyer, graphic designer and a couple of companies to help me deal with piracy. I occasionally pay performers in the traditional sense, I usually trade services. I live humbly on a fraction of what I make & save/invest the rest knowing that there is a fast-approaching expiry date on the face & body y’all love to jerk off to. Long before I’m mentally ready to retire I will not be able to do this job anymore & I will only be about half way through my life. I got a late start in this business, when many porn stars retire at 30, I was just getting started. I’ll soon be 38 & you can probably count on 1 hand how many years I have left in front of the camera. No, I’m not sure what I’ll do after. I’ll probably have more options than the average retired porn star but at this point I don’t have a firm exit plan.

So keep that in mind if you’ve enjoyed my vids…but realize you’ve never paid a cent for that pleasure.

Here’s what I ask:

#1. Don’t share my vids. (If you’ve watched them for free, at least don’t contribute to the problem more by passing them along.)

#2. If you have never paid & you have no way of ever paying: do NOT email me. I get dozens of well-meaning emails every day that in reality just waste my time. Do not add insult to injury by illegally watching my vids for free….then take up my valuable time emailing me to tell me how much you worship me. I don’t need your compliments. I know that sounds harsh but think about it for a minute.

#3. Feel free to email me links to my pirated content when you find it (but don’t expect a reward.) MsT@MistressT.net

#4. Promote me. Pirates often cut my watermark off & are careful to not say it’s a Mistress T vid. Fuck them. If there’s a place for you to type it (in the forum or comments on a tube site, etc.) tell them: “That’s Mistress T! She’s awesome!” If guys find my stuff thru piracy & want to figure out where to go to pay for it, at least give them a fighting chance.

#5. To be blunt: Pay. Support my efforts. If you really love what I do & want to support it there are numerous ways you can show your support. Email me & ask how if you’re not sure. I love getting emails from fans who want to show their appreciation through tributes or gifts. If you want to pay, no matter what the challenge (no credit card? discretion required? etc.) I will find a way to get your money *smile*.

To the vast majority of you who have been supportive of my work/art/passion: THANK YOU! Without you it wouldn’t be possible for me to do what I love. xoxox

Okay, sometimes doing what I love means causing some guy loads of discomfort. Oops. *smile*

Best,
Mistress T

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Rant-a-licious

Posted on March 12, 2014 by Mistress T

Are you fucking kidding me?

This is a rant. I don’t usually go on rants, well, at least not online. Some of you won’t agree with me here. Some of you will think less of me after reading this & I don’t give a damn.

I received a message on Fetlife from a guy saying that he couldn’t believe I was still looking, that he was pretty intimidated by me but thought he’d take a shot at contacting me anyway. I liked how he wrote & although I don’t usually message guys back (I’m a bit of an asshole that way) him saying that he was intimidated by me hit a nerve. I know it takes a lot of balls to approach a woman so I thought I’d give him a chance.

His picture left everything to the imagination. I could basically just make out that he was human. His profile said he was camera shy so I didn’t press for more pictures. I simply offered to meet up sooner rather than later to see if there was chemistry.

A few hours before we were set to meet he messaged me to say he was searching online for my vids to watch. I asked him to not contribute to piracy/file sharing by downloading my stolen, pirated content. So, we didn’t get off on the right foot. I wondered how clueless someone could be?

Within 20 seconds of meeting him I understood the gravity of my mistake. The combination of the lack of pics & his opening line about being intimidated by me should have been a screaming red flag.

The hope that we would at least have a pleasant conversation quickly evaporated as he rambled without pause for 10 minutes straight about a topic I only expressed a vague interest in.

He also talked a lot about himself & I soon learned he was in his early 40’s, unemployed with limited prospects, no plans, & seemed to think the right thing to wear when trying to impress a woman was an old hoodie & unflattering jeans.

I had plenty of time to try to think of an exit plan as he rambled on and on without noticing I was hardly paying attention anymore. When I finally had an opportunity to speak I mentioned that perhaps he should start a blog about the topic he had been rambling about and he actually said: “I should blog. As you can tell, there’s no shortage of things I have to say.”

As I abruptly thanked him for coming to meet with me he started going on about how lovely I am and how much he would like to see me again. All the while I was slowly shaking my head no. But that wasn’t enough for him. He wasn’t picking up the clues. I actually had to say that I wasn’t feeling it. Not interested. Ouch. But anyone else would have clearly picked up the obvious clues (especially me abruptly ending the meeting).

He later messaged me trying to find some way, any opportunity to spend more time with me. Really?!

He seems like a nice enough guy. Maybe the kind of guy who would do anything for ya. I’m note sure. Hell, he could be a complete bastard too. It doesn’t matter. Here’s my rant:

From now on, if a guy says that he’s intimidated by me I’m going to take that as a clear sign that on some level he knows he’s not good enough for me. GOOD: BE INTIMIDATED. Some people are out of your league or just in a different league. I know that a politician or a guy from a high profile rich family who cares about public image is not going to marry a Dominatrix/porn star. I know that if a guy really wants a bunch of kids & a house wife baking cookies for the Church fundraiser that I’m not right for him.

If you’re an unemployed, unattractive guy with shitty social skills & can’t be bothered to be presentable for a first impression DON’T approach an ambitious, well-traveled, independent, beautiful, groomed, successful business woman who has a reputation for chewing men up & spitting them out. What the fuck are you thinking? It’s like hunting big game with a pellet gun.

It’s ironic that the guy I met with today started his correspondence saying that he couldn’t believe I’m still looking. Did he think that I must be desperate enough by now to settle for anything?

I recently received an email from someone who reads my blog saying that I’ll always be single because I’m a dirty whore. I’m not sure if it was hate mail or fan mail but no one can deny that I’m a pretty damn successful whore and a guy who wants to be with me better have his shit together too.

I’m not perfect & I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for realistic compatibility. Just because I have a fucked up occupation doesn’t mean that I’m going to settle for anyone with a pulse.
Grrr.
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
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Blog: http://www.MistressT.net/blog/
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PS: For those who follow my blog closely & are confused because you thought I was seeing someone…well, it’s complicated. He’s still in my life but I’m still seeking… he is a bit of a cuckold & we’ve never been exclusive, sooo….maybe I’ll write a blog entry about non-monogamy & poly relationships at some point.

The FemDomme Uniform

Posted on March 8, 2014 by Mistress T

How do you recognize a truly Dominant woman?

The ultimate Pro Domme accessory is a slave.

Many imagine a woman wearing leather or latex, maybe a corset, certainly severe high heeled boots or shoes. Maybe stockings & garters, leather or latex gloves, red lipstick & holding a whip. This is the cliche image of a Dominatrix.

My favorite Domme outfit.

Some in the traditional ‘scene’ feel that a real Dominatrix doesn’t get naked. The many Financial Dommes (Fin Dommes) have taken their own twist on that. They never get naked but they will tease in tiny bikini’s or lingerie, slutty dresses, jeans, etc. but rarely in BDSM fetish attire.

Boss of the year?

Being Dominant is about being in control, so some men feel a powerful business suit puts the woman in the drivers seat. On International Women’s Day it’s interesting to note that when it comes to politics, owning or running large corporations or holding senior management positions…the vast majority of the decision makers of the world are still male. Isn’t it a shame that men don’t have more Sarah Palin’s to jerk off to? (That’s sarcasm folks.)

You’ll never look at flannel pj’s the same way again.

Since before anyone gave me permission I’ve been plying my craft in casual attire, domestic clothing, naked…& recently, in my pj’s. This may seem extreme to some but the reality is that many of my fans are more interested in ME than my attire. The majority of guys who want to connect with me on web cam want to talk to me like a real person. They don’t want me to put on a show…which is fortunate because I’m not interested in that either. I perform for the camera when I make vids and I love it, but when it comes to one-on-one connections I prefer to actually have a personal connection.

A lot of guys fantasize about serving me in real life. Well, ya know what? I don’t hang around my home in latex & high heeled boots. My downstairs neighbor is grateful that I wear comfy socks instead.

Need all the bell’s & whistles?

I understand for some guys their fetish is the clothing. They need that traditional Dominatrix outfit to get off. That’s fair & that’s why I go for that look sometimes too. It feels good to get all sexed up & know it makes a man’s knees weak…but if you think that I’m any less Dominant or in control in flannel pj’s, think again.

So, how do you recognize a Dominant woman? The only answer is within you. Does she make you feel submissive?

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
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Monthly Archives: March 2014

The English Mansion: Love & Gratitude

Rant-a-licious

The FemDomme Uniform