Does Your Family Know What You Do???

Me in flannel PJ's

Me in flannel PJ’s

For today’s un-sexy but intimate blog post I answer a recent question from a fan (& the frequent question of “Does your family know what you do?”):

“Since you have spoken a bit about your personal life, I just wondered how a mistress is perceived in her immediate family ? How do parents, cousins, siblings, neighbors look at you? Is there awe/fear/bemusement/curiosity/disgust/quiet acceptance?
At family functions are you a celebrity or is there finger pointing. Sorry if i am intrusive but i have always wondered how normal is life for you outside the lifestyle. Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee. Wonder how your mom reacted the first time you told her you humiliated a strange man into similar deeds. Just curious since you are a larger than life FemDom celebrity.”

From my person interaction with women in the adult industry I would say that everyone has their own story. So I won’t speak in generalities I will simply answer for me.

My family has some idea of what I do. Most of them don’t understand exactly what I do, they haven’t seen my website & I don’t spell out specific graphic details, but they know it has something to do with sex/porn/being a Dominatrix. Most of them aren’t interested in knowing more. They don’t ask a lot of questions, in some cases because it would just be awkward for them, in other cases because they have too much respect for me to do anything that might make me uncomfortable.

“Respect”? Does that surprise some of you? It’s all about perspective. My family doesn’t see a harlot when they look at me, they see the grown up version of a good girl with a bit of a wild side. They see a woman in her late 30’s who looks great, who has never had a substance abuse problem, never had a gambling problem, never been in an abusive relationship, hasn’t had an unwanted pregnancy, hasn’t been in trouble with the law, has never asked them for money, etc. They see an adult woman who has traveled the world, who is financially secure, who is happy, healthy & living her life on her terms.

In their words: “How can we find fault in how you decide to lead your life?” They respect me & my personal choices.

My family doesn’t see ‘my job’ when they look at me. They ask questions about my travels, about my life in Vancouver…they ask about my love life, they ask if I want kids, etc. They don’t treat me like a celebrity because frankly, the idea of me being a celebrity wouldn’t have occurred to them. They probably don’t even know there are ‘celebrities’ in the kind of work I do.

In other circles though I am sometimes uncomfortably treated as a celebrity. At some fetish functions or meeting people in the kink community. I quickly try to get people to see me as a regular person (with an unusual job). I try to put people at ease if they seem intimidated or in awe of me. I’m really uncomfortable with that in regular social situations. It can happen if someone else has built me up, told them “Mistress T” will be here, “she’s a famous fetish porn star” or if it’s a guy who has run across my vids on the internet & can’t believe he’s meeting me in the flesh. Argh.

In normal social situations I’m goofy, funny, an active listener, curious about other people, empathetic…the last thing I want is to be put on a pedestal or pseudo stage and asked a thousand questions about my work. I prefer to listen than talk about myself.

As for this part of the question: “Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee.”

Your family probably doesn’t want to know if you’ve paid a woman to do anything sexual to you. They probably don’t want you to know what they do sexually in private either. Neither of you care to know the graphic details of each others sex lives.

Privacy is becoming a luxury from the past. The internet is changing this & as more people are accidentally exposed people are realizing that there are more people into ‘weird’ things than ‘normal’. Society is becoming less judgmental & more accepting. But most people, especially family members, are learning information they would rather just not know.

Feel free to ask other questions in the comments area & I’ll address them.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The Joy of NOT Fucking Me.

Mistress T in Honeymoon Cuckolding.

Is that a close enough look cuck?

Does the title sound a bit strange to you? If so you might be one of the many men (or women?) who would really like to fuck me. Maybe you even fantasize about actually penetrating me or cumming inside of me?

Well, if you weren’t a few minutes ago you probably are now.

There is a whole other world though…men who get off on being denied sexually, being teased or ‘cuckolded’. Sometimes humiliation is part of it, being told they’re not worthy. Others just seem to have a frustration fetish. Some don’t even want to cum, they want total orgasm denial. Chastity can be a part of that.

Why? Why is anyone into anything they’re into?

Chastity!

You won’t be fucking me or cumming locked up in your cage!

I’m very amused by these scenario’s. I get session requests (in person & online) & custom vid requests where guys just want me to tease them with what they can’t have. Describe the sex acts they’ll never have with me, the intimate pleasures they’ll never experience. One of my favorite things to do is to get quite romantic, sensually intimate, without actually doing much of anything. Grazing my nails & fingertips along their skin & through their hair, breathing softly on their neck, moaning quietly in their ear, pressing myself against them so gently they almost don’t register the pressure…

Sweet seduction followed by…

Nothing really. Maybe a little giggle at their squirming & discomfort. A bright smile at their frustration.

Nude Mistress T & a slave.

So close yet so far…

It makes me feel powerful, I admit. Having a man want me so badly. To have his body & cock screaming to do what is supposed to be ‘natural’. To go against nature & to leave him humping the air pathetically.

That might be why I enjoy cuckolding so much. I get to feed my desire to deny a man sex with me while at the same time getting my sexual needs met by another. My cake & eat it too.

I love to say “no”. And I love to say “yes”.

Best,
Mistress T

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Tantra?

Yoni massage

Say good-bye to tense vagina with Tantric Yoni Massage! “My pussy has never felt so good!”

What the hell is tantra? I couldn’t really tell ya, but I know I like how it feels AND I know someone who CAN tell you all about it, if you’re curious? Better yet, he can just show you how to make a woman feel fantastic.

No bed skills? Virginal clumsiness? Or just want to build on your game? Learn some new tricks?¬† I can tell you that the first time he touched me I was like: “Wow, what the hell are you doing? That’s amazing!” (& I’ve been around the block, if ya know what I mean?)

The lover who is rocking my world these days can coach you through some techniques on how to please a woman…or he can actually please YOUR woman (for the cuckolds out there). He offers massage & yoni massage to women (yoni means the vagina & surrounding area)…but he’s also an instructor & can teach men a few things. Heck, if you ask me nicely (& pay me well *smile*) I might even “model” for your session.

Yup, you read that right. You could book a session where he shows you on me how to touch a woman and then you could practice on me. Holy shit, right?

Tantric yoni massage

Want to get up close & personal with my pussy AND not suck at it? Learn some new moves, stud muffin.

I wouldn’t normally allow penetration with your fingers in a session but under these circumstances I would since the tantric massage & yoni massage means that you are massaging all around and IN my pussy. No penis penetration though…this is about learning to please a woman. However, you could watch he & I have tantric sex/intercourse. Are you getting hot under the collar yet?

So, for cuckolds, you could have a cuckold style session with us OR send your wife/girlfriend to him for pleasure.

For others who just want to learn to be better lovers/learn how to please a woman, you could learn some new skills.

Some of this can be done over Skype but for hands-on sessions you’ll either need to see us in Vancouver or bring us to you.

Check out the vid below & email to discuss: MsT@MistressT.net

Here’s his website address (you can contact him directly through his site): www.TantraGuy.ca

Click the link below to view the vid on the FREE page on my site.

Click the link below to view the vid on the FREE page on my site.

Click here to view the cool vid: http://www.MistressT.net/freemovie/tantra

Best,
Mistress T

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