A Slippery Slope…

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I had a private session recently with a guy who had found himself on a slippery slope of perversion. He was in his mid 20’s and was somewhat inexperienced sexually. He had stumbled across my vids randomly on the internet and was happy to learn we lived in the same city.

He had always liked women’s feet. Summer brought lots of pretty feet in flip flops & strappy sandals. He started looking for foot vids on the internet to masturbate to. He had no idea how to actually live out his fantasy. He even had a girlfriend but he was too shy to say anything to her about his interest in feet. So he booked a session with me.

He had obviously done his research since his initial email was perfectly communicated, to the point with nice manners. He arrived on time & even brought thoughtful gifts! He was so nervous that I could see his hands shaking as he set down the money.

We chatted for a bit. I tried to put him at ease. I didn’t need a guy dropping from a heart attack. That’s lousy for business.

He explained that he hoped this session would break him free of his fetish. He hoped that if he lived it out, actually worshiped a woman’s feet that he would “get it out of his system” and move on. I just smiled sweetly and tried not to laugh.

We spent a lot of time with me sitting on his tummy with my feet on his face. I like sitting on guys and he was curious about “human furniture” too. We discussed his sex life with his girlfriend. I gave some suggestions on how he could attempt to introduce foot worship gently to her, or at least test the waters to see if she would be receptive:

– offer foot rubs when her feet might be sore, then be good at rubbing them, go slow & carefully.

– have a bath together and get into the position where they are facing each other & her feet are on his chest…then give her toes a little kiss, see how she responds…maybe start to lick and suck her toes gently.

– during intercourse get into the position where she’s laying down with her feet up on his shoulders (he should be upright so their bodies are at 90 degrees, not her bent in half) and during the heat of the moment bring her foot to his lips and sensually kiss & lick a little to see how she reacts.

He appreciate these tips and in the course of conversation mentioned that sometimes he doesn’t last very long during intercourse. So I gave him some tips for orgasm control & recommended some of my vids to guide him through it. I explained that he needs to please his girlfriend sexually and that meant he should learn to last for as long as she is getting pleasure from his cock. I pointed out that a sexually satisfied girlfriend is one who is happy and more wiling to do what he likes, will likely nag less & everything will just run more smoothly in the relationship.

At the end of the session he was having trouble cumming from the foot job he requested but also confessed he jerked off just before our session because he was afraid he would cum too quickly and be embarrassed. He was rock hard though & very into it. I asked if he felt horny & frustrated, wanting an orgasm but not quite being able to reach it. He said yes. I told him that is how he’s probably been leaving his girlfriend feeling. He agreed I was probably right. I told him he was to start making efforts to be a better lover & to put his girlfriend’s pleasure before his own. I told him to remember this feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction the next time he’s making love with his girlfriend. I denied him an orgasm but I’m sure he jerked off as soon as he got home.

He gave me a generous tip at the end but the real reward for me was feeling like I may have helped a man become a better lover to please women.

So do you think he’ll be cured of his foot fetish affliction? I asked him to follow up with me in a couple weeks & let me know. *smirk*

Mistress T

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Step up your jerk off game!

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

I’ve been having awesome sex with a tantra guy recently who practices ‘not’ ejaculating. This is a part of the whole tantra thing, for guys anyway. Not me. I cum all I want…but I’m supposed to support him in not cumming. That’s certainly new for me…I’m REALLY good at making guys cum. Ha ha.

So I’ve been thinking about my fans & ‘edging’. I’ve blogged about this before & created vids designed to guide you through edging exercises. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off, building it up again, backing off & repeating several times until finally blowing your top. The result? A more intense orgasm & increased orgasm control which is helpful when you’re trying to please your lover sexually.

I’ve also read some interesting articles on the value of not coming for longer periods of time, days or even weeks. I won’t get into that now but will focus more on shorter-term orgasm control. Watching my vids is great during this process. Why? Because I want to sell you vids, obviously. Hey, I’m not running a charity here! Okay, seriously, watch whatever porn you want but you might find it easier to stick to me, feeling like we have a relationship & we’re on this journey together. You’ll know what to expect from me & will likely be able to control things better. If you search “orgasm control” in either my clips store or members site you’ll find a variety of vids appropriate for this exercise.

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This isn’t about abstinence. This isn’t about denying your sexual urges. This is about playing with your sexual energy and harnessing your sexual power. This is about making your jerk off adventures more interesting & fulfilling. This is about making you a better lover should the opportunity arise.

Here’s a quote from tantra guru Richard Ankhara:

“Don’t take it past 70% of the pleasure point, until you’re experienced. Keep breathing deeply, in through the nose, out through pursed lips. If you get too close, breathe out fast through your mouth, and suck the navel toward the spine pulling up the diaphragm. Visualize the sexual energy moving up from the pubic bone to either the heart or the third eye. Once you’ve been doing it for a few minutes, try clenching your pelvic floor muscles on your inhalation, then relaxing them during your exhalation.
Ta-da, that’s the fundamentals of sexual tantra for men.”

So, my darlings…here’s your homework assignment: practice edging & orgasm control. Pay close attention to how you feel. If you would like to share your experience with me feel free to email me or even better: make a comment here on my blog & share with others. Obviously, this is fantastic for those who struggle with premature ejaculation but really, the energy work is great for any man.

Happy hand-humping!

xo

Mistress T

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Sex

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I’ve been neglecting my blog a bit lately. To be honest, I’ve just been busy having a lot of great sex.

I recently acquired a new lover who has kept me occupied…really good sex & a nice connection, I like him…but sometimes when it rains, it pours. (For those who don’t know: I practice non-monogamy.)

A fella who I had had a flirtation with months ago invited me to a sex party on Saturday night. There would be a tantric workshop that I was interested in. We agreed ahead of time that we were both free to play with others so when we arrived & I met a very handsome young man I was excited at the prospects for the evening.

The group was given an introduction to Tantric sex. Then we did an exercise where we looked into each others eyes for a couple minutes, & into the eyes of everyone of the opposite sex. That was interesting, holding hands & looking into the eyes of every man at the party for 2-3 minutes at a time.

Then the tantra instructor gave a demonstration on ‘yoni massage‘. (He gave a woman a full body massage including her vagina, which led to her orgasm & ‘squirting’.)

After that we were free to do as we pleased so the fella I came with & I decided to enjoy the hot tub for a bit before starting to play.

This is where it got a little weird. I know, for most of you watching a man make a woman squirt at a party would already be weird but not so much for me. The weird part was when the host of the party came out to the hot tub & exclaimed that he was honored to be graced with the presence of the Goddess Mistress T.

Awkward.

You see, I wasn’t there as Mistress T. I was off the clock & I prefer to keep a low-profile. So I explained all of that & he was cool about it but when we went back inside I found out what had prompted this exclamation. Apparently the host was a big fan & had put one of my vids up on the big screen in his theater for the party guests to enjoy. Someone else recognized me (not him though!) & said that I was in the hot tub.

*sigh*

So anyway, we started to ‘play’ in the main room with everyone else & the hot guy from earlier was sitting near by watching. He was also a tantra practitioner which was intriguing.

I was enjoying being watched by him but I was slightly distracted by what was now being played on the big screen that people were commenting on. It was my friend Lexi Sindel fucking a guy with a huge strap on. I have been in several FemDom Empire vids so I kept worrying that I would pop up on the screen again.

We moved to another room where we continued & finished playing…the sex was great! Then the hot guy glided in & I asked him to join us.

Wow.

Round 2 was pretty epic…but would you expect anything less from a super sexy tantric practitioner? He touched me in ways that I’ve never been touched.

I got home after the sun was up & slept peacefully for a few hours before meeting a friend for brunch. For some reason I was still so frisky I called in my other new lover for Sunday night & did another marathon night of love making.

You would think that would be plenty. Why be greedy? Well, why not? So when the hot tantric practitioner contacted me Monday morning to see if I’d like to get together Monday night I just said yes. Especially since it included him making a delicious vegan dinner, singing & playing guitar for me & some pretty deep conversation. Oh, and hours of passionate sex, again, in some ways that I’ve never experienced before. We never stop learning, eh?

Okay, okay…but then that was enough. 3 different lovers, 3 epic nights of sex: I was finally ready to take a break, wave the white flag, tap out.

Sometimes it can be hard for people to reconcile the Mistress T you know from my vids & who I really am as a person outside of my job. That’s why I created this blog, for you to get to know me more intimately. I think it’s an important exercise to reduce my ‘carbon footprint’ making porn, by helping guys to see me as a real person, to not objectify me the way many women are objectified in porn.

In real life I’m actually a fair bit ‘hippie’. I’m interested in energy, connection & sexual spirituality. Maybe I’ll do a cuckold vid where my lover isn’t a well-hung black stud who fucks my brains out 6 ways from Sunday, but rather a guy really skilled at pleasuring women using his brain, energy & touch as much as his penis, a man I have amazing chemistry with…I shouldn’t imply they are mutually exclusive….but really fulfilling sex is actually about so much more than dick size. It can be harder to ‘see’ that stuff though & porn is a visual medium (which is why I continue to favor larger phallus’s for my scenes). Well, I’ll hope that at least my words reach a few of you through this blog.

xo

Mistress T

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