Who is the man who gets what u want?

Posted on January 10, 2017 by Mistress T

Who made this mess?
….& who is going to clean it up???

Do you ever wonder who gets to be with me? Like really gets to be with me in the most intimate ways?

A few years ago I was fairly public about being single & looking but I wasn’t as vocal about my relationship when one did develop. Trying to balance some kind of private life with my public persona can be tricky. Part of me wants to keep some things just for myself & part of me wants y’all to know a lot about me to reduce the objectification of adult performers & sex workers. Like me shouting: “Hey, look at me! I’m a regular person like everyone else. I just have an unusual job. I grocery shop, I binge watch Netflix, I have complex relationships with family & friends, I’ve been in love, had my heart broken, I’ve made mistakes & hurt people I cared about, I wear flannel pj’s, I have opinions…I am a human, not just a sex doll with a pulse!”

Which brings me to this post…about my partner, which I know many of you are curious about. The reason I do it now is because I believe that he could actually help some of you. I’ll explain.

As you can well imagine, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. Is it hard to be in a relationship with a “Dominatrix” or “Porn Star”? Sure, for some guys, however, my partner is the most emotionally mature man I’ve ever met. There is no power dynamic in our relationship. Neither is Dominant. We are equals. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in.

He’s a high level communicator, intuitive, intelligent, empathetic, open-minded & sexually skilled. He’s self assured because he brings qualities to a relationship that are lacking in many men. How do most men learn to find & build a healthy relationship? How do most men learn to be better partners & lovers? Although the education exists it isn’t mainstream & I’ll tell you, unfortunately the majority of men aren’t skilled lovers or good partners. That’s just the harsh truth.

Over the years I’ve had requests from fans who wanted to serve my lovers or boyfriends. He’s been dabbling in that, chatting with & doing cam with a few of my fans. He’s rather good at it & enjoys it. It’s become a fun little hobby of his & sometimes we go on cam together with my fans which is fun for me too.

Beyond fetish sessions (laughing at my sissy cuckolds & slaves who get off on humiliation, forced bi or Financial Domination) I feel like some fans could benefit from a bit of coaching. This is the guy who ‘got’ ME. The guy who won my heart & sexually satisfies me. He is superior for that reason alone & all my cuckolds should worship him for that…but other guys who just want advice on how to communicate with women in real life, especially the type of women they crave: self-assured, successful, Dominate women. How to start & build a meaningful relationship with that kind of woman. How to please a woman sexually. Sex tips & individualized training on being a better partner & lover. He can do that & the domino effect is some women will be happier with better men. It’s ninja-level FemDom when you think about it: my good man training men to better please other women. I love it!

Sure, a lot of you will just want to go on cam for 10 minutes & jerk off while he laughs at you & tells you that you’re inferior…& it’s hot because he is a superior male who gets to fuck the woman you’ve been jerking off to for years…& it’s hot because he’s a good looking younger bi guy who gets off on the idea of making my cuckolds suck his cock & eat his cum…& yes, he is happy to do that…but he can also do so much more.

Of course ur not gay…but u can’t deny that’s a great ass…

Admit it, u like his ass…ur drawn to it…

…so drawn to it that I bet u’d lick it if I told u to.
Now it’s all u’ll be able to think about…

For example, he can assist with erectile dysfunction & orgasm control…he’s a professional tantra practitioner & works solo or does double sessions with the very talented Olivia Jade (http://oliviajade.net/). Olivia is one of, if not the most highly regarded certified tantra practitioner in Canada. She helps a lot of men with ED & premature ejaculation, among other things. I highly recommend her services as well.

So, if you want to ‘serve my man’ (via skype cam or messenger/email ) in the usual dirty ways: cuckolding, forced bi, humiliation, jerk off instruction, cum eating instruction, etc. & you’re in a position to be generous, reach out to me & I’ll coordinate it. We can both be involved or you can serve just him. Or, if you think you could benefit from chatting with an evolved man who in my experienced opinion is an expert at having a healthy relationship AND is also highly sexually skilled…send me a note:

MsT@MistressT.net

As I mentioned, this is just a fun little hobby for him & his time is limited so he will give his attention to those who are the most generous & enjoyable to deal with. This is a rare & valuable opportunity so conduct yourself accordingly. That means:

communicate clearly about what you’re hoping for/wanting/what you’re into
be ready & able to tribute to show you’re serious
be respectful & reliable

Those things go for me as well!

You only live once!

Mistress T

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If I knew then what I know now…

Posted on May 18, 2016 by Mistress T

This blog post will likely not be titillating. That’s your fair warning if you were hoping for jerk off material. My vids are GREAT jerk off material, by the way:-)

Last night I hosted a focus group for a friend of mine who is planning to start an initiative for educating young women on sex issues. The purpose of the focus group was to find out what topics should be covered in more depth, to find out what young women want to know more about.

I was in attendance as a more experienced woman in the areas of sexual health, fetish/BDSM/kink, fetish parties, non-monogamy, consent, etc. I asked another mature female friend of mine to attend who has extensive knowledge in tantra, mindful masturbation, connection/intimacy, etc. (She’s well known for her tantra sessions, intimacy coaching, etc.: http://oliviajade.net/)

The conversation moved organically around a variety of topics: how to communicate with your lover about how you like to be touched & pleasured, dealing with lovers who have erectile dysfunction or low sex drive, tips on giving better blowjobs/handjobs, mutual masturbation, safer sex practices, how & where to get STI testing, where to get sex toys, sexual safety, consent & techniques to navigate date rape & non-violent sexual assault, helpful books to read, where to get fetish attire for fetish parties, birth control, how to teach a guy to clean his foreskin properly, learning how to have better orgasms, opening monogamous relationship up to include others, etiquette at sex parties or swinger parties, how to discuss your kinks or curiosities with a new partner…I deliberately just rattled off random topics because that’s how the conversation went, organically, naturally, moving from one topic to the next. We covered a lot of ground & in the end my friend got quite a few topic ideas that could be dedicated sessions.

In the beginning it was awkward but as we all became more comfortable & familiar I could see the value in this. Mature, more experienced women there to answer questions & give advice, younger women coming together & hearing each others questions, knowing that they aren’t alone or the only ones who have dealt with difficult situations or the only ones who don’t know certain things. The younger women were very appreciative of the opportunity & I’m a sucker for feeling appreciated. I for sure will be volunteering my home & myself for anything like this in the future.

I have been thinking for awhile of doing a series of non-pornographic vids for younger men. Vids that educate & help them to become better lovers & more intimately ‘connected’ to themselves. I would cover topics like masturbation techniques to prepare themselves for sex with another person, communication techniques to improve sex with another person, hygiene & grooming, consent/respect/compassion, understanding that most porn is entertainment not education/unlearning bad habits formed from watching porn, how to discuss your kinks with a new partner, etc. After last night I feel inspired to educate both young men & women. If I had known then what I know now! Well, I can help some of them get valuable info that will make their sex lives better, reduce anxiety, shame, confusion, etc.

If you have a topic you’d like me to cover in an educational vid please use the comments section here on my blog.

Best,
Mistress T

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Step up your jerk off game!

Posted on May 14, 2015 by Mistress T

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

I’ve been having awesome sex with a tantra guy recently who practices ‘not’ ejaculating. This is a part of the whole tantra thing, for guys anyway. Not me. I cum all I want…but I’m supposed to support him in not cumming. That’s certainly new for me…I’m REALLY good at making guys cum. Ha ha.

So I’ve been thinking about my fans & ‘edging’. I’ve blogged about this before & created vids designed to guide you through edging exercises. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off, building it up again, backing off & repeating several times until finally blowing your top. The result? A more intense orgasm & increased orgasm control which is helpful when you’re trying to please your lover sexually.

I’ve also read some interesting articles on the value of not coming for longer periods of time, days or even weeks. I won’t get into that now but will focus more on shorter-term orgasm control. Watching my vids is great during this process. Why? Because I want to sell you vids, obviously. Hey, I’m not running a charity here! Okay, seriously, watch whatever porn you want but you might find it easier to stick to me, feeling like we have a relationship & we’re on this journey together. You’ll know what to expect from me & will likely be able to control things better. If you search “orgasm control” in either my clips store or members site you’ll find a variety of vids appropriate for this exercise.

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This isn’t about abstinence. This isn’t about denying your sexual urges. This is about playing with your sexual energy and harnessing your sexual power. This is about making your jerk off adventures more interesting & fulfilling. This is about making you a better lover should the opportunity arise.

Here’s a quote from tantra guru Richard Ankhara:

“Don’t take it past 70% of the pleasure point, until you’re experienced. Keep breathing deeply, in through the nose, out through pursed lips. If you get too close, breathe out fast through your mouth, and suck the navel toward the spine pulling up the diaphragm. Visualize the sexual energy moving up from the pubic bone to either the heart or the third eye. Once you’ve been doing it for a few minutes, try clenching your pelvic floor muscles on your inhalation, then relaxing them during your exhalation.
Ta-da, that’s the fundamentals of sexual tantra for men.”

So, my darlings…here’s your homework assignment: practice edging & orgasm control. Pay close attention to how you feel. If you would like to share your experience with me feel free to email me or even better: make a comment here on my blog & share with others. Obviously, this is fantastic for those who struggle with premature ejaculation but really, the energy work is great for any man.

Happy hand-humping!

Mistress T

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Sex

Posted on May 7, 2015 by Mistress T

I’ve been neglecting my blog a bit lately. To be honest, I’ve just been busy having a lot of great sex.

I recently acquired a new lover who has kept me occupied…really good sex & a nice connection, I like him…but sometimes when it rains, it pours. (For those who don’t know: I practice non-monogamy.)

A fella who I had had a flirtation with months ago invited me to a sex party on Saturday night. There would be a tantric workshop that I was interested in. We agreed ahead of time that we were both free to play with others so when we arrived & I met a very handsome young man I was excited at the prospects for the evening.

The group was given an introduction to Tantric sex. Then we did an exercise where we looked into each others eyes for a couple minutes, & into the eyes of everyone of the opposite sex. That was interesting, holding hands & looking into the eyes of every man at the party for 2-3 minutes at a time.

Then the tantra instructor gave a demonstration on ‘yoni massage‘. (He gave a woman a full body massage including her vagina, which led to her orgasm & ‘squirting’.)

After that we were free to do as we pleased so the fella I came with & I decided to enjoy the hot tub for a bit before starting to play.

This is where it got a little weird. I know, for most of you watching a man make a woman squirt at a party would already be weird but not so much for me. The weird part was when the host of the party came out to the hot tub & exclaimed that he was honored to be graced with the presence of the Goddess Mistress T.

Awkward.

You see, I wasn’t there as Mistress T. I was off the clock & I prefer to keep a low-profile. So I explained all of that & he was cool about it but when we went back inside I found out what had prompted this exclamation. Apparently the host was a big fan & had put one of my vids up on the big screen in his theater for the party guests to enjoy. Someone else recognized me (not him though!) & said that I was in the hot tub.

*sigh*

So anyway, we started to ‘play’ in the main room with everyone else & the hot guy from earlier was sitting near by watching. He was also a tantra practitioner which was intriguing.

I was enjoying being watched by him but I was slightly distracted by what was now being played on the big screen that people were commenting on. It was my friend Lexi Sindel fucking a guy with a huge strap on. I have been in several FemDom Empire vids so I kept worrying that I would pop up on the screen again.

We moved to another room where we continued & finished playing…the sex was great! Then the hot guy glided in & I asked him to join us.

Wow.

Round 2 was pretty epic…but would you expect anything less from a super sexy tantric practitioner? He touched me in ways that I’ve never been touched.

I got home after the sun was up & slept peacefully for a few hours before meeting a friend for brunch. For some reason I was still so frisky I called in my other new lover for Sunday night & did another marathon night of love making.

You would think that would be plenty. Why be greedy? Well, why not? So when the hot tantric practitioner contacted me Monday morning to see if I’d like to get together Monday night I just said yes. Especially since it included him making a delicious vegan dinner, singing & playing guitar for me & some pretty deep conversation. Oh, and hours of passionate sex, again, in some ways that I’ve never experienced before. We never stop learning, eh?

Okay, okay…but then that was enough. 3 different lovers, 3 epic nights of sex: I was finally ready to take a break, wave the white flag, tap out.

Sometimes it can be hard for people to reconcile the Mistress T you know from my vids & who I really am as a person outside of my job. That’s why I created this blog, for you to get to know me more intimately. I think it’s an important exercise to reduce my ‘carbon footprint’ making porn, by helping guys to see me as a real person, to not objectify me the way many women are objectified in porn.

In real life I’m actually a fair bit ‘hippie’. I’m interested in energy, connection & sexual spirituality. Maybe I’ll do a cuckold vid where my lover isn’t a well-hung black stud who fucks my brains out 6 ways from Sunday, but rather a guy really skilled at pleasuring women using his brain, energy & touch as much as his penis, a man I have amazing chemistry with…I shouldn’t imply they are mutually exclusive….but really fulfilling sex is actually about so much more than dick size. It can be harder to ‘see’ that stuff though & porn is a visual medium (which is why I continue to favor larger phallus’s for my scenes). Well, I’ll hope that at least my words reach a few of you through this blog.

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