Monthly Archives: November 2016

What’s happening?

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I’m sure you’re all dying to know what’s going on in my world so here’s the update.

The book is humming along. I’ve been writing & researching how to self publish/figuring out next steps. I met with a potential editor but it wasn’t the right fit so the search continues. I’m being very particular about who I work with on this project. I have a budget to hire experts but I also want to enjoy working with them.

I took a little road trip to Vegas to hike around Red Rock & the Valley of Fire with my pal Princess Meggerz for her birthday (Find more about her here: http://meggerz.com/). Beautiful nature around Vegas for those who think it’s just a party town.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

We also enjoyed a luxurious spa day compliments of a very generous anonymous fan who sent a $1000 tribute for the spa. I’m not one to brag about gifts & tributes (I know, I’m a lousy FinDom) but holy guacamole! By any standards a $1000 random tribute for the spa is impressive & very much appreciated.

At the spa in Vegas!

At the spa in Vegas!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

While I’m bragging anyway…the same week I sold my worn & torn pantyhose for $500…which I felt was rather generous too. That pretty much covered the hotel in Vegas during our stay. I don’t usually bother selling my worn items as guys don’t usually offer enough to make it worth my while to wear them long enough to get them stinky or to package them up & mail them. But $500? Yes, that was worth my time & effort…& I gotta say: it was a bit of a thrill:-)

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

A little more bragging…a new devotee who aimed to impress basically cleared my Amazon wish list & I’m at a bit of a loss as to what to add to it now as I’m not really that greedy. Bad timing as xmas is coming & I know fans like to spoil. I’ll likely direct tributes to one of the charities I support. Stay tuned for that but in the meantime, my Kiva offer is still valid: http://blog.mistresst.net/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

I squeezed in a visit with Lexi Sindel before leaving (Find more about her here: http://lexisindel.com/). Love that brilliant, funny woman. I also got to catch up with slave Wade, Lexi’s long-time devoted slave. We’ve filmed together for years & he’s a great guy. I wish all slaves were as well-mannered. He said a lot of guys ask him how they can get an opportunity to serve a Domme like he has in real life (not just a paid professional session). His very smart response: Make yourself useful first, without expectation. Give her what you can, make her life easier, be valuable & if she’s a Domme worth serving she’ll show her gratitude, you’ll be rewarded BUT it’s not an exchange. Give & serve unselfishly, then be grateful for what comes.

It’s certainly worked for for slave Wade! He’s served her for many years & has had experiences that most subs could only dream of. To get a taste for how he’s living the good slave life check out Lexi Sindel’s FemDomEmpire.com. You’ll see a lot of Wade getting all kinds of action. Also note that a lot of the equipment you see was made by him, being handy has taken him far:-)

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn't think to take any pics. We've shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn’t think to take any pics. We’ve shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

Wade bound in one of his contraptions...from a recent vid of mine: "Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking"

Wade bound in one of his contraptions…from a recent vid of mine: “Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking”

I love road tripping, especially now in my recently acquired camper van with my boyfriend. I love finding random places to pull over & sleep. One night we tucked in behind an old fire station in a tiny ghost mining town between Vegas & Portland. The view in the morning was charming.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

We stopped into Portland on our way north to visit one of my favorite people: Ceara Lynch (More about her here: http://www.cearalynch.com/). It was great to see her & hear about her adventures, the progress of her exciting hybrid-documentary “Ruin Me” (https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/ruinme/ruin-me) & to have a smashing karaoke party night.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

I’m back in Vancouver now writing for the next few weeks. My goal is to finish my manuscript before I head to Guatemala for Xmas with Ceara & Meg.

I have long overnight layovers in Miami, Florida on both ends of that trip & would consider dinner dates or breakfast dates with fans. I prefer more casual, social meet ups rather than structured, professional sessions. Plus I won’t be traveling with any equipment. So if you live in Miami or near by & would like to meet me, this is a very, VERY rare opportunity. The tribute will need to be motivating as the ‘demand’ for my attention exceeds the ‘supply’ but email me to discuss if you’re in a position to be generous: MsT@MistressT.net

One last thing…I’m soon launching a studio on IWantClips & adding more content to my long neglected Kinkbomb studio for those who prefer those platforms for pay-per-view vids. I’ll make another blog post with the links in a few days. Stay tuned!

Thanks for all the love & support. I feel like I have a huge team of cheerleaders behind me.

xo

Mistress T

No shame.

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Some misguided critter recently tried to shame or insult me by calling me an escort. I would have been more insulted if they had accused me of being the kind of person who would try to shame someone for being an escort.

Over the last 12 years I have been a stripper, a Professional Dominatrix, a cam girl, an escort & fetish model/performer/porn star. I’ve done phone sex, I’ve done my version of a peep show or voyeur show, masturbated for money, done girl-girl shows, sold cuckolding sessions where a guy paid to lick another man’s cum from my pussy, I’ve spat my boyfriends cum into a guy’s mouth for $1000, I’ve had sex for money, I’ve done shows & lap dances at bachelor parties, I’ve done topless poker dealing, topless bartending & sold tequila shooters naked on a clothing optional beach…I’m sure I missed a few things I’ve done for money using my body & sexuality….but you get the idea.

And I’m not ashamed of any of it.

It’s my body, my life, my choices.

I decide from one day to the next what I feel comfortable doing with my body. It has evolved over the years, but I regret nothing & have no hesitation in asserting my boundaries, whatever they are that day.

I do not buy into the BS hierarchy of adult industry workers. Strippers thinking they’re better than escorts because they don’t have sex with their customers, FinDom’s or non-nude fetish models thinking they’re better than those who get naked, phone sex or cam girls thinking they’re better than others for whatever reasons. Sometimes ladies in this industry can be pretty judgey considering how harshly we’re all judged by people in the vanilla world. Some lump us all together & at best they think some kinds of work are at least not ‘as bad’ as others. Even if we’re accepted & supported by our loved ones in our choices, no one prays that their little girl will grow up to be a sex worker & most won’t brag about it. The whole adult industry is stigmatized.

Women have been using their bodies & sexuality to make money for a very long time in a lot of different ways, not just in adult work. Some do it because they want to & they like it, they find it empowering, some do it for money, sometimes both. It does nothing to benefit anyone to try to shame women for it. If most men could do it they would & I doubt they would have any shame about it.

What people choose to do for work does not define who they are or all that they are. Women in the adult industry are also mothers, daughter, sisters, friends, animal lovers, Trekkies, gamers, teachers, foodies, therapists, painters, swimmers, pilots, volunteers, writers, sports fans, musicians, travelers, gamblers, sexual assault survivors, recovering alcoholics..they might be struggling with mental illness, mourning the death of a loved one, be fighting a legal battle with an ex, be caring for an elderly family member, be dealing with PTSD, be studying to get a new job outside of the industry, be working toward a personal goal or be helping someone else to get in or out of the industry…I could go on & on because every woman doing adult work has a story, a unique personality & a life beyond her job.

So, keep this in mind the next time you find yourself or hear someone else judging, objectifying or shaming a person in the adult industry.

Shamelessly,

Mistress T

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Book update…

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Some of you know that I took a few months off last winter to start writing a book. I went to Thailand & made quite a lot of progress before my trip was cut short & I needed to return to Nova Scotia due to a death in the family.

I still had some time to write back in Vancouver before I got back to filming & editing but after that my writing got stalled. I thought I could work & write but it didn’t turn out that way. Months went by & I didn’t write a word. So I pushed to build up enough content so I could take a few months off from filming & editing again.

I’m about half way through my second & current break & I’m pleased to say that I’ve been writing like a mother fucker! I’ve made huge progress & am in the last end of the first draft of my book. There’s still a lot of work to be done before you will have an opportunity to read my book but the hardest part is nearly done.

The book is a ‘fiction’ based very closely on my life. VERY closely. It tells the story of the making of Mistress T from the beginning, from before I was even born actually. All the ingredients that went into the final product. Those with interests in psychology will likely find lots to think about. I wanted to have the freedom to embellish or omit things here & there as well as add a bit of creative writing (completely fabricate some parts) so I decided to not make it an autobiography…but again, the vast majority of the story is 100% true.

Now that it’s nearing the end my excitement is really building. I decided to write this book for me, to process some of the things that happened to me in earlier life & understand how they contributed, for better or worse, to the adult I am. I saw writing as a kind of therapy. Now that it is taking shape & I’ve spoken to a handful of experts, it’s possible that this book could become quite successful…which would be a nice bonus.

I’ll soon hire an editor & others to help move through the next steps. I’ll likely self publish but will still need a team of professionals to assist with the process, a designer, a good marketing company, a studio to record an audio book, etc. I am starting to look for the right people & companies so if you have recommendations please send them my way. (I am looking for those top in their field & I have a budget for it.)

Though I should have enough content to get me through I want a bit more of a cushion so I will be doing a couple days of filming in the next couple weeks. This will be the only opportunity in the next couple of months to have a custom vid created by me, so if you have a custom vid request email it ASAP to: MsT@MistressT.net

Thanks to everyone for their support & encouragement! xo

Mistress T

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