Questions for a university psychology course.

Posted on September 25, 2015 by Mistress T

A psychologist has asked me questions for a university course he’s teaching. I thought some of my fans might be interested in the answers so am making a blog post out of it.

Questions:
1. How do you see domination fitting into normal human sexuality?

There is a wide spectrum of Domination in sexuality, from a subtle power exchange of one person initiating or being on top in a sexual position, to light bondage, role play, or harder impact play, spanking, paddling, etc. The specific activities aside, I think people often experience at least a subtle sense of being more submissive or more Dominant in a sexual encounter. That can be thrilling. To either be pursued & ‘taken’ enthusiastically or to be the one with more control in the situation. The spirit of that can make sex more exciting, even if in your own head you feel it without telling the other person, to use your imagination & pretend you are submitting or Dominating. For example, without thinking of “Domination” I’m sure a lot of women enjoy being on the bottom in the missionary position, which is in a sense, a submissive position.
2. What about you makes you popular with the men who are your fans? Are these things common to or possible in all dominant people (or people being dominant), or are they particular to you?

For me specifically there is a confidence that my fans seem to be drawn to. Confidence seems to go hand in hand with Dominance so I feel that quality is common in most or all Dominant people. I’d like to say that being perceptive/empathetic & intelligent are also valued by my fans but wouldn’t say those things are necessarily common to all Dominant people. Human sexuality is complex. Dominant people are just people who enjoy being in control. There are as many different types of Dominant people as there are fans or submissives with different tastes & interests.
3. How is what you do healthy for a person’s sexuality – yours or the sexuality of the fans?

This is a highly individual answer but I’ll answer with some examples. Some of my fans have secret fetishes that they do not feel comfortable sharing with their wives. Maybe they like to dress up in women’s lingerie or they have a foot fetish. Maybe their fetish developed after they were married and their wife just wouldn’t be understanding about it. Maybe they don’t even have sex anymore so she especially wouldn’t be interested in indulging his sexual interest. By watching my vids he gets an outlet. He gets to indulge in his fetish without cheating on his wife, or asking her to do something she’s not comfortable with. Maybe he doesn’t get to play out his fantasies exactly as he’d like to but he at least gets to let the pressure off. Have a little harmless fun.

Another example: Some of my fans are in control at work & home. The have a lot of responsibility/pressure/stress. Someone else being in control for even a few minutes is like a weight being lifted off of them. A mini-mental vacation. They can watch a 10 minute “masturbation instruction” vid where I tell them to stroke & ejaculate on command, maybe with a count down, like it’s a game and they are happy to just take orders from someone else for a little while. To escape their normal lives. After that they are refreshed, more relaxed & able to return to their normal lives a little lighter. It helps them be better boss’s, better parents, husbands, etc.

Yet another example: Sometimes my vids help men to be better lovers. Men with premature ejaculation issues can learn orgasm control through my vids.
4. Is there a line that you see where domination crosses into something unhealthy? If so, how would you describe where this could become unhealthy?

In extreme situations Domination could be associated with non-consensual sex, verbal or physical abuse/violence. There are people with mental health issues who Dominate in unhealthy ways…but mentally healthy people who enjoy incorporating Dom/sub play into their sex life usually have no desire to harm their partners beyond their limits. It’s important to learn to play safely, to respect boundaries, etc. The vast majority of people who engage in mild to wild Domination play do so in a healthy way, whether solo (masturbating to vids) or with partners. Even porn addiction isn’t that different from Netflix binging, Facebook or other social media addiction, video games, etc. Sexual pleasure is healthy, mentally & physically. However you find that pleasure among consenting adults is ALL GOOD.

(A side note about porn addiction: In mainstream porn young men can get the wrong idea about what real sex is like & essentially ‘train’ themselves to only be able to get hard & cum from this kind of stimulation. I don’t feel like Domination porn quite has the same effect but it’s possible that if a young man only ever masturbated to porn of women Dominating men he may have a difficult time adjusting to real life sex with a woman who is not Dominant. This would be more of an extreme situation. Ideally, watching porn would expose a person to a variety of scenarios & actually educate them, stimulate their creativity & help them to feel more comfortable with their sexuality.)
5. Is domination something that is consistent with your general personality (as your friends and loved ones in life have known you), or is it very different from the way you are in life on a day-to-day basis?

Mistress T is a persona…but is certainly close to who I am off screen. I have always been a naturally confident, self-assured person who likes to be in control. Not to the point of arrogance, bullying or an inability to allow someone else to take the lead. Day-to-day I am pretty relaxed & goofy.
6. Do you think that domination (or submission) is something that every person should try out, or is it an interest that only some people would probably have an interest in?

I think every person who feels like trying it, should. That doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. Most people, if they were very honest, would know instinctively whether they feel drawn to or curious about Dominating or submitting. Some simply have no interest & that’s fine. As I said before, human sexuality is very complex. If every person you know could anonymously let you know what their sexual fantasies are I bet you would be hard pressed to figure out what ‘normal’ is. There is no so such thing. If we all wore t-shirts with our sexual fantasies written on them it would not be long before we all became more accepting & less shocked but what we think is ‘taboo’ or abnormal.
7. We have a wide range of students with a wide range of belief systems, from atheist to conservative Christian. Do you have a message to share with university students who are strongly Christian that may help them to approach, learn, and think about domination instead of just throwing it out and labeling it as immoral or wrong?

Do Christians think that Domination is immoral or wrong? Gosh, I didn’t realize. Do you mean they think God will judge them & they won’t get into heaven? I suppose if someone thinks sex is only for reproduction & not enjoyment then anything like this is going to be too far of a leap. Sorry, otherwise I just don’t quite understand how religion plays into this? I realize my moral compass might be a little fluid after all the years of depravity I’ve engaged in…but my opinion is that what happens between consenting adults in privacy is their business. If it feels good, do it. The world needs happy people & sexually satisfied people tend to be less stressed & in a better position to do Gods work/helping your fellow man, etc.

Satan is RIGHT behind me…isn’t he?! He’s already stolen my nose, I can feel it! So why am I still smiling?

A note about Domination & sexuality. The book & movie 50 Shades of Grey started a lot of discussions about Domination. Those who are informed on Domination often criticize it for portraying things incorrectly. Some consider the scenario’s to be closer to abuse than safe, consensual Domination. Criticism aside it did put a spotlight on the undeniable fact that many people, especially women are curious or interested in Domination, kinky sex, BDSM, bondage, fetishes, role-play, etc. The internet has opened up the world of kink to those who may not have had access to information before. People are curious, they are asking questions, exploring & becoming more accepting. Those who judge & condemn other people for their sexual preferences are rightfully becoming the endangered species. Each of us has to live our own lives & we owe it to our 80 year old future selves to make the best of the years and not saddle ourselves with “what if’s”, “should have’s” & regrets. Be true to yourself.

Best,
Mistress T

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Did I anticipate the perceptions?

Posted on September 7, 2015 by Mistress T

How am I perceived?

I was lovingly asked recently: “How did you expect to be perceived by people before you got into this business?”. He asked the question because I often mention my frustration with stigma & judgement. How there are times when I lie about what I do to avoid that judgement, etc.

I thought about it for a moment before responding with the cliche statements of: “I didn’t really choose this work, it kind of chose me, so there wasn’t a lot of advance thought about other people’s perceptions.” Which is only partly true because my path to this work was not a straight line.

I first chose to moonlight from my vanilla job & sell tequila shooters naked on a hippie beach. I was not judged there, I was celebrated, supported & loved.

I was comfortable in my own skin…on a nude beach I felt at home.

I then chose to try stripping but I was certainly aware of the stigmas attached to that profession. I wore a disguise, kept it secret & only did it briefly before going back to vanilla work again. I loved being a private dancer in a strip club. I did no-contact private dancing (so not lap dancing) & my sales experience helped me to be an effective hustler, selling guys dances. It was profitable & I was good at it but I felt like I was “too good” for it. Even I judged me!

I eventually went back to stripping after being miserable in my vanilla job. That led to creating my version of a voyeur show or peep show at home. Guys would come over & pay me to masturbate & talk dirty while they jerked off sitting on a chair by the bed, no touching allowed.

I loved the exhibitionism, the naughtiness & of course, the money. But I didn’t like the stigma. There wasn’t much difference between what I was doing & full-on escorting. I just wasn’t actually having intercourse or oral/manual sex…but it was similar enough I didn’t tell just anyone & when I did I was careful to make the distinction between what I was doing & “full service” prostitution. I magnified that fine line.

So during those career decisions, yes, I was fully aware of what people’s perception would be. But I was running from misery working in the vanilla world, office politics, the soul-sucking or mind-numbing reality of working for boring or stupid people & climbing the corporate ladder. I was a corporate whore in the vanilla world.

Climbing the corporate ladder was a soul-sucking experience for me.

Then Pro Domme work found me. I didn’t set out to be a Dominatrix. Certain clients saw it in me & requested kink & fetish activities. I indulged & eventually I started to get positively reviewed on forums as a Dominatrix & I grew into the role. Video work found me soon after. The rest is history. (That’s the Readers Digest version for this blog post, if you’ve read my blog from the beginning you know the long version of the story.)

In the beginning…I hid my face in my ads.

If I had a thought in the early days it was that being a Dominatrix was more respectable than being a stripper or prostitute. It was cooler, intimidating , edgier. I felt bad ass. Nearly 10 years later I laugh at the “baby Domme” version of me. I have seen this ego trip many times with new Dommes. Every day I see different women in the adult business snubbing their nose at women who do different types of adult work. I’ve heard:

“I only do cam work, so I’m better than those dirty sluts who actually meet & touch those gross guys.”

and/or:

“I’m a REAL Dominatrix who does real time sessions so I’m better than those fake girls who only do cam.”

I could go on & on, cam girls snub porn girls, escorts snub Dominatrix’s, stage dancers snub private dancers, phone sex girls snub cam girls, rub n’ tug girls snub escorts, Pro Dommes who don’t get naked snub those who do, etc. There’s a lot of support & camaraderie in the adult industry but there’s a fair share of cattiness too. A certain amount of stigma & judgement within our own industry!

I love what I do. Truly. Although I feel like this work found me I did make many small & big decisions before & since to put me on & keep me on this path. I haven’t loved the stigma. I’ve been evicted once (before I understood what my rights are) & had neighbors in another place attempt to get me evicted. I’ve had guys choose to not get into a relationship with me because of what I do. There’s certainly been a fair bit of whispering & gossip behind my back.

I have a lot of fun “at work”.

At the end of the day we live our lives for ourselves. We make decisions that serve us. If you try to please other people all the time you will fail.

All jobs have good & bad. I happen to have a job that I truly love but other people sometimes judge me for doing. A lot of people with “respectable” jobs hate going to work every day. If I could go back 15 years & tell my younger self working in vanilla jobs I hated anything it would be to fearlessly go in the direction that instinctively felt right for me & ignore other people’s opinions.

That’s that advice I give myself every day now.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The desperate imbalance on Ashley Madison

Posted on August 27, 2015 by Mistress T

That wedding ring carries SO much meaning…

Another blog post inspired by an article I just read…this one about the incredibly few real women that were on the “Ashley Madison” dating site:

http://gizmodo.com/almost-none-of-the-women-in-the-ashley-madison-database-1725558944

For those who missed the whole “Ashley Madison” scandal recently, it was a dating site specifically for married people who were trying to cheat on their partners..& it was hacked, exposing a whole lot of guys. Uh-oh.

Side note: If you want to keep your online activity secret be sure to use a unique email address for that purpose only, and cover your tracks.

This article went into technical detail about their investigation into how many of the female profiles were completely fake. Fake, as in created by staff at Ashley Madison. Millions of desperate, horny men were active on this site, seeking a play partner outside of their marriage…viewing profiles, sending messages & checking their inboxes for responses that never, ever came. The site charged these men, even charged them to have their accounts deleted! (Then didn’t even delete their information).

These guys were spending money & time trying to meet a woman or women who wanted to have sex with a married man. To fulfill his sexual fantasies with…when it would have just been simpler to pay a professional who would deliver. There’s integrity in just paying to have your fantasy fulfilled. A clear transaction folks.

Did all these guys really believe that thousands of women were on a DATING site hoping to have a fling with a married guy? Wow. Just, wow.

But the site marketed themselves like that. It sold millions of horny men that fantasy.

I’m also in the business of selling fantasies. But surely most guys understand that? What are the odds that I could be everything & every role I play in the wide variety of vids that I create? In the last few years I have been a therapist, a high-powered boss, a spy, a nun, a teacher, a MILF, a GILF, a prison guard…a Dominatrix who trains sissy sluts, who fucks asses, who encourages guys to suck cock, who loves boot worship, foot worship, ball busting, hurting & humiliating guys 100 different ways, a cuckoldress who sometimes keeps you in chastity, more often tells you to jerk off while watching me with other men…a cuckoldress who claims to love black cock one day & the next tells black men they’ll never be worthy to fuck me…there have been a few more contradictions over the years & dare I say I could even be called a hypocrite…IF you took everything I said & did as the gospel truth.

I’ve digressed a little from the theme of this post…which is really a harsh illustration of the massive imbalance in this world of men’s & women’s desires. There are a lot more (like waaaaay more) married men hoping to have an affair then there are women hoping to have an affair with a married man. There are way more men hoping to live out submissive fantasies with Dominant women then there are women who are eager to peg a guy, piss on a guy, spank him, dress him up in lingerie, tie him up & edge his cock for hours, etc.

This is why men pay women for these services & why women pretty rarely pay for sexual services from men. There is a massive imbalance.

You could get all butt hurt about this or you could look at it this way: it’s really nice when someone cooks for us. It happens sometimes. Friends or family will invite us over for dinner & serve us a nice meal. And we appreciate it when it happens. But most of the time we need to cook for ourselves or pay for someone to prepare it for us (restaurants). We don’t bitch every day about the lack of people interested in cooking for us for free. Right? Well, it’s basically the same for sex in a lot of cases.

In life, your attitude often determines your level of happiness. If you’re bummed all the time about not finding the perfect women to fulfill your fantasies (for free/in real life) then it’s your attitude that needs to be adjusted. Use vids, your imagination, cam shows or in person sessions while keeping an eye out for your unicorn in real life. Accept that the odds are not in your favor & find pleasure in other parts of your life. Desperation & depression will only lead to stupid decisions, like the many men on the Ashley Madison site.

Good luck!

Best,
Mistress T

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Sex Party for the Disabled

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Mistress T

I just read this Vice article covering a sex party in Toronto for the disabled: http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/an-inside-look-from-the-toronto-club-that-hosted-a-sex-party-for-the-disabled?utm_source=vicefbca

In my years in the fetish scene & as a sex worker I’ve encountered a fair number of sexually adventurous and/or kinky “other-abled” people. The brain is the biggest sex organ, so even if someone is in a wheel chair, is down a limb, has coordination issues from some medical condition, is visually impaired or something else doesn’t mean that they’re not sexually healthy, curious, adventurous or active.

The article also reminded me of the movie “The Sessions” where a man in an iron lung who wishes to lose his virginity contacts a professional sex surrogate with the help of his therapist and priest: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1866249/

It was a fantastic movie. Very well done.

My experiences with other-abled people have made me more accepting & open-minded.

There was the foot fetishist is a wheel chair who in the middle of our session needed to empty his bladder. In the position we were in it was just easier for me to fetch his pee jug for him. As I was emptying the jug into the toilet for him I noticed how I felt more like a nurse or caregiver than a Dominatrix in that moment. But it was the practical thing to do.

Another very sweet client was in such a way that he couldn’t really reach his own penis. He had a caregiver to wash him but you can imagine how he looked forward to our sessions…those rare orgasms were intense & therapeutic.

I’ve had quite a few fans on web cam who have mobility issues. The web cam sessions gave them excitement & interaction.

I even have a story from my teens, long before I was Mistress T, when I spent the night with a friend who was paralyzed from the waist down. He was so happy to just cuddle & give me pleasure, to have the intimate human contact even though he couldn’t have intercourse. I didn’t do it because I felt sorry for him…it was just a casual thing, we weren’t dating, but I was attracted to him. Since the focus was pretty much all on my pleasure it was a uniquely satisfying experience. I confess, I’ve often looked at attractive men in wheel chairs & wondered if they’d be extra skilled at pleasing a woman with their mouths & hands. The way a blind person has better hearing.

I’m sure disabled people want to be liked for who they are despite their disability, rather than “because” of their disability. Which brings me full circle to the Vice article that inspired my blog post today.

I think a sex party for the disabled is a fantastic idea & I applaud the organizers in Toronto who put this together. I wonder how many others are like me, interested or curious about sex with people who are ‘other-abled’ but are shy or unsure of how to meet someone. You don’t want to rock up to some guy on the street & say: “I see you’re in a wheel chair so I’m thinking you’re an ace pussy licker, wanna mess around?” It seems de-humanizing or objectifying to have the disability be the launch point. So a sex party would be an amazing exploration opportunity for the disabled & those who are interested…well, there are those who actually have specific fetishes for disabilities but I’m not an expert on that so I’ll bow out before I say something uninformed.

I feel like this blog post has gone on too long. I am sensitive to everyone’s short attention span these days. So I’ll just trail off & recommend you read that article.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The Art of the “Tribute”.

Posted on August 15, 2015 by Mistress T

I am not an expert on Financial Domination. Not even close. This post isn’t about FinDom either…to be clear…it’s just my thoughts on “tributes” and some of my recent experiences.

Lots of gifts from my Amazon Wish List!

A rose by any other name would smell as sweet…a tribute is basically a gift. It’s called a tribute in the FemDom world based on your worship of “The Goddess”…but it’s basically a gift…and it often feels just as good to give a gift as it does to receive it.

A gift is not normally exchanged for something. You don’t give a birthday gift to someone you love expecting something in return. You may well get something in return but it isn’t like paying for a thing or a service. It isn’t a barter.

I have a fan who takes care of my tea needs. How it all came about now doesn’t matter but on an ongoing basis he checks in to see how my tea supply is & when I’m running low he mails me my favorite tea. I drink green tea pretty much constantly when I’m at home & I often think of him when I’m enjoying that tea.

I love tea!

By doing something sweet, simple & thoughtful he remains top of mind. Because of that he was contacted directly recently when I was passing through his part of the world & we met up for a session & dinner. There are very few fans who would have that opportunity.

I have another fan who is always looking for thoughtful ways to tribute me. He has sent me books & movies that I have shown interest in. He has provided unique insight into topics I’ve been curious about. He always sends thoughtful, generous gifts for my birthday. He is always thinking of me & I know it. He is one of the only ones who gets random emails from me just chatting about life because he stays in my mind.

My Amazon Wish List (http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_Ui5Zvb045VBN0) has served as an excellent vehicle for all kinds of fans to show their adoration for me. At first I added sexy clothing, things I thought my fans wanted to see me in. Fishnet body stockings, slutty boots, etc. I was reluctant to add ‘practical’ items like frying pans, laundry soap, comfortable foot wear, winter coats, bird seed, tooth paste, granola bars, etc. But as I started to add those things & guys bought them for me I realized how very appropriate this was. How that is in-line with what I’ve been preaching for years: there is fantasy & there is reality.

In fantasy I spend all day in my castle wearing thigh-high leather stiletto boots, wielding a whip & being pampered & served by all manner of slaves, one in my bathroom for toilet duties, sex slaves chained up in the bedroom, kitchen slaves & servants cooking & cleaning, a slave as a door mat & boot cleaner, all my furniture just being human chairs, etc.

This is not my living room.

In reality I walk a lot & need comfortable shoes. I don’t have or want domestic slaves. I live in a regular apartment, do my own laundry, etc. I would rather have some useful kitchen gear or yummy granola bars than another fishnet body stocking (I have about 30 of them by now!).

This is the truth & although I want my fans to immerse themselves in the fantasies I carefully create while they’re jerking off…afterward I want them to remember I am a real person, a regular human, not a 2 dimensional porn puppet. Thinking that I am a whip-wielding sex pot Dominatrix 24/7 is actually objectifying & unhealthy.

Cinderella’s castle at Disney in Orlando…not MY castle!

When I receive a tribute of any kind I feel ‘seen’, acknowledged & appreciated. Whether it’s appreciation for the way I make a fan feel with my vids or it’s a gift to support me in my regular life…it just feels GREAT. Based on some fans sending on-going tributes I assume they’re getting similar pleasure…or in some cases I’m sure it’s a “Financial Domination” type rush.

Some guys even give to charity as a way of tributing me…& that’s a beautiful thing to do. Here’s info on my favorite charity, Kiva, you can make micro-loans (with or without getting the free time on my site): http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

So, thanks to all the fans who tribute…for the love of the tribute. The fans who appreciate me & like to do things to make me smile. Of course, joining my members site and/or buying my vids from my clips store is the BEST way to support me. That is my core business, my art, my passion! Amazon gift cards, cash tributes on my clips store or sending gifts are all lovely & very much appreciated too. xo

Big love,

Mistress T

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VLOG! Alexandra Snow, Sidonia von Bork & I.

Posted on August 12, 2015 by Mistress T

While filming for the well-loved FemDom site “The English Mansion” I filmed a casual chat with Alexandra Snow & Sidonia von Bork.

Click here to view the FREE vid: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Free vid with Alexandra Snow, Mistress T & Sidonia Von Bork at: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

It was wonderful to spend so much time with Sidonia in England (http://www.TheEnglishMansion.com/) who remains, as always, an inspiration. One of the most skilled, intelligent & creative Dominatrix’s I’ve had the pleasure of working with.

This week Alexandra Snow is a guest of honor at FetishCon in Florida. I am not attending this one but have attended several conventions which brought me together with peers from across the globe. It may have even been a FetishCon a few years ago where I first met & became friends with Alexandra (who resides in Ohio).

Having the opportunity to develop meaningful friendships with these strong, successful women in the same industry means a great deal to me. I’ve said it before, I can sometimes feel isolated running my business on my own with few others who understand what I do.

Speaking of friends in the same industry…I just spent a couple days in Portland with Ceara Lynch (http://www.cearalynch.com/) who showed me the HBO “Sex On” episode that featured her. I thought it was very well done, accurate & entertaining. I feel so much joy seeing my peers doing well, kicking ass in their careers and also achieving work-life balance. Ceara has just returned from 2 months traveling around Australia & New Zealand. Alexandra enjoyed exploring England recently & has been doing lots of fun & interesting things in her personal life. I was with them both in Mexico less than 6 months ago.

Also…The vicious Lexi Sindel of http://www.FemDomEmpire.com came to visit me in Vancouver recently. It was a personal visit (no filming) but I hope to get down to Vegas to film with her (again) in the next few months.

Back to Alexandra Snow…you can see us together (a rare treat!) in “Cleavage Weakness” for all you boob lovers. It’s a sexy duo jerk off instruction with lots of cleavage eye candy. Get it here now: http://clips4sale.com/23869

Domina Snow & I in “Cleavage Weakness” on: http://clips4sale.com/23869

Mistress T

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Seattle & Oregon!

Posted on August 3, 2015 by Mistress T

Road trip!

I have spontaneously decided to drive down to Oregon this coming weekend for an event. As I’m passing through Seattle (or beyond) I may be motivated to stop & meet 1 or 2 lucky fans. (On the way down & back).

So, what’s possible? Based on the unique & mostly personal nature of this trip there are limits but here’s some ideas:

1. Public meeting: Just want to meet me, share a meal, buy some used panties right off of me? Sure! (Minimum $300).

Fresh & moist!

2. In a hotel room or your place: tie & tease/hand release, foot worship, clothed face sitting, golden showers, humiliation, a variety of role-plays. (Minimum $400 but considering there will likely only be time for 1 lucky guy, he who is the most generous will win this opportunity.)

That could be your cock…

3. Cuckolding: yup. For real. I’ll be traveling with my fella. He’s bi & a cream pie is possible. This is also available in Vancouver now! (Minimum $500, but as above, chances are he who offers the most will get this opportunity.)

Cuckolding, up close & personal.

I will not be bringing any props or working in a dungeon so no corporal, no fancy bondage, no strap-on, no fetish attire dependent scenes…as usual, no hard sports, no intercourse or oral sex (unless forced bi cock sucking or cream pie clean up.)

If there’s something you’d like that I haven’t listed but you think might work without props or a dungeon, feel free to ask!

To separate the very keen fans from the not-as-serious tire-kickers I’m implementing the “tribute to apply” rule I recently used for my UK trip, which worked out beautifully.

Ways to pay $50 tribute (yes, you must tribute to apply to see me, but 1 option is to join my site, which I would expect from most fans anyway):

-Tribute button on my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (Clip cash card should work even if you don’t have a credit card)
-$50 worth of vids from my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
-Get a premium membership to my site: http://www.MistressT.net
-$50 gift card from Amazon.com (sent to email address below)
-$50 worth of gifts from my Amazon wish list: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist
If you only have PayPal this will work:
-$50 micro-loan through Kiva: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Or a gift card for my favorite spa (paypal):

http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/

HOW TO APPLY:

Send an email to MsT@MistressT.net:

#1. With proof of the tribute.

#2. Introducing yourself & your interests. Include references if you have them.

Best,
Mistress T

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Do I remind you of anyone?

Posted on July 29, 2015 by Mistress T

Girl next door?

Over the years I’ve had a lot of guys tell me that I remind them of someone from their real lives. I’m not sure how common this is for sex workers/Pro Dommes/escorts, etc.?

Often it’s an ex girlfriend or a love interest from their past. There is an element of nostalgia in these encounters. They sometimes fantasize that they are reuniting with a grown up version of a teenage love from 20 years ago or so. In one situation I was able to help a guy work through some issues he had had over a relationship that didn’t end well. By playing the role of this woman I could give a different perspective of events, how she may have felt, etc.

I’ve had at least a couple of guys say that I look similar to their current wives. One fella liked to be cuckolded by me & imagine that I was his wife. He wanted so badly to see his wife fuck other men but she wasn’t into it. He lived out those fantasies with me.

Imagine I’m your wife…getting fucked by another man…

I’ve had guys say that I remind them of their aunt, mom or mothers friend. Someone they had a crush on when they were younger. Sometimes a school teacher or someone in an authoritative position. We role play fantasies that would have been too taboo to play out otherwise.

Did you do your homework???

Men are very visual & I understand they often like a certain ‘look’. I’ve kept basically the same hair style & haven’t gotten tattoos & piercings like a lot of my friends. Partly because of my job, for those who fantasize I’m a 1940’s pin-up model or Hollywood actress. Or to make it easier for those who are pretending I’m someone else. I don’t mind though. I like my look.

I find it fascinating that men can imagine that I am someone else, someone who meant or means something special to them. That I can help them fulfill fantasies or work through unresolved issues. This is one of the more interesting parts of my work.

Do I remind you of someone? Or are you a woman in a similar line of work who gets told by a lot of men that you remind them of someone? Feel free to share in the comments!

Best,
Mistress T

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Thank you England! (Summer 2015)

Posted on July 22, 2015 by Mistress T

I returned from England a few weeks ago. I’ve been enjoying the sunny weather in Vancouver so have been slower than usual with a trip recap blog.

It was a great trip, as always. It was wonderful to see so many friends & familiar faces. I filmed some awesome content, went to the Glastonbury festival, spent some extra time in central London this time…indulged in scones with jam & clotted cream (yum!).

I even got to spend some time with Alexandra Snow but I’ll do a separate blog post on that in the next week.

Here’s a fun little behind-the-scenes vid I made with Sidonia von Bork & Nikki Whiplash.

Sidonia von Bork, Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash. Click the link below to go to the FREE vid!

Click to see the free vid: http://www.mistresst.net/freemovie/vlog-summer-2015-sidonia-von-bork-nikki-whiplash

Here’s a vid we filmed that day: “Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting”:

Click to go the vid: http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

“Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting” With Nikki Whiplash & myself, Mistress T.
http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

I’m not sure when my next trip to England will be (so please don’t ask, just keep an eye on my blog for travel announcements). I am considering different travel plans this fall & winter, travel that may or may not involve work. I’m considering Africa, Thailand, Costa Rica or warm parts of the US. I’m weighing my options & will announce travel plans if there will be opportunities for me to meet fans. If you live in a place that’s warm November-April and you want me to visit you (& you have a generous budget!), email me to discuss: MsT@MistressT.net
Best,
Mistress T

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Film Slave Application (Updated)

Posted on July 14, 2015 by Mistress T

I have written posts like this before but considering the recent flood of applications I’ve decided to write a new one, with basically the same info. My previous post on this topic: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/film-slave-application/

#1. READ this whole post carefully BEFORE you email me asking to meet me or to be in my films. If you ask to be in my films without providing all the required info I will redirect you back here. Then you’ll be ignored if you still haven’t applied properly.

#2. LOCATION is the most important factor! If you are not in Vancouver & you are not willing/able to come to Vancouver (within the next couple of months) chances are we will NOT be able to film together. I rarely film elsewhere these days. Sometimes in England but I have enough reliable film slaves there already. So say “I am available to film in Vancouver on the following dates…”

NOTE: Do not ask me if I happen to be coming to your city to film: I’m not. I am NOT filming anywhere else in the foreseeable future. If you can’t come to me you’ll need a very generous budget to bring me to you. Like at least a few thousand bucks.

#3. If you are in Vancouver or willing to come here email me pics (naked torso with erect penis) AND a list of what you’re willing to do on film. Again: I need a clear pic of your body & dick, I shoot video, it’s a visual medium…and I need to know what you’re into doing on film.

NOTE: I am most interested in:

-big dicks that shoot big loads without too much difficulty for hand job vids

-guys for forced bi cock sucking vids, suckers & suckees

-ballbusting guys

-cross-dressing/sissy/trannie types

-guys who can take very large strap-on’s

-small-dicked cuckolds who will suck cock & eat cum (I’m not as much a fan of gimp-hooded cucks in domestic scenes but will consider it if you are a really good cuckold in other ways, easy to work with, etc. I prefer cuckolds to show their face. Age & body type doesn’t matter so much for cuckolds.)

I am NOT interested in dealing with guys with the wrong attitudes. Your role as a film slave is to assist me in creating quality content. This is not a free session. This is not about me servicing your dick. You will have fun, no doubt, but it’s about me & my needs first. Creepy or annoying behavior will not be tolerated. Sending dozens of emails back & forth to organize a shoot will not be tolerated. Communicate clearly but briefly. Show me that you respect my time. I will work with those who are easiest & the most pleasurable to deal with. I am running a business after all, this isn’t Tinder or OK Cupid.

#4. A model release will need to be signed & a photo of you holding 2 pieces of photo ID next to your face will be taken (for age verification, legally you must be over 18 but I rarely work with anyone under 21.) This information is kept secure & would only be shown to the proper authorities if legally mandated. So in other words, most likely never.

#5. Showing your face?: In 95% of my scenes I don’t care if your face is shown. You’ll see most of my vids the guy is unidentifiable. If you’re willing to show your face it gives me more flexibility but it’s certainly not a deal breaker for me.

#6. I don’t pay film slaves. I have plenty of volunteers. I will require you to show you are serious in one of the following ways:

– be a member or become a member of my site (send me your username) to show that you support my work & that you’ve taken some time to research the kinds of vids you want to appear in.

Other ways to pay $50 tribute:

-E-transfer to my email address works from one major Canadian Bank to another. (If you’re that hard up for money I’ll give you your $50 back when you show up for filming.)

-Tribute button on my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (Clip cash card should work even if you don’t have a credit card)
-$50 worth of vids from my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
-$50 gift card from Amazon.com (sent to email address below)
-$50 worth of gifts from my Amazon wish list: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist

If discretion is important and/or you only have PayPal this will work (all your wife will see is that you gave money to charity, it still tells me you are serious enough):
-$50 micro-loan through Kiva: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Or a gift card for my favorite spa (paypal):

http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/

Email PICS, what you can be used for on film & dates you’re available in Vancouver, plus proof you are serious to: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
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