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Step up your jerk off game!

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Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

I’ve been having awesome sex with a tantra guy recently who practices ‘not’ ejaculating. This is a part of the whole tantra thing, for guys anyway. Not me. I cum all I want…but I’m supposed to support him in not cumming. That’s certainly new for me…I’m REALLY good at making guys cum. Ha ha.

So I’ve been thinking about my fans & ‘edging’. I’ve blogged about this before & created vids designed to guide you through edging exercises. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off, building it up again, backing off & repeating several times until finally blowing your top. The result? A more intense orgasm & increased orgasm control which is helpful when you’re trying to please your lover sexually.

I’ve also read some interesting articles on the value of not coming for longer periods of time, days or even weeks. I won’t get into that now but will focus more on shorter-term orgasm control. Watching my vids is great during this process. Why? Because I want to sell you vids, obviously. Hey, I’m not running a charity here! Okay, seriously, watch whatever porn you want but you might find it easier to stick to me, feeling like we have a relationship & we’re on this journey together. You’ll know what to expect from me & will likely be able to control things better. If you search “orgasm control” in either my clips store or members site you’ll find a variety of vids appropriate for this exercise.

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This isn’t about abstinence. This isn’t about denying your sexual urges. This is about playing with your sexual energy and harnessing your sexual power. This is about making your jerk off adventures more interesting & fulfilling. This is about making you a better lover should the opportunity arise.

Here’s a quote from tantra guru Richard Ankhara:

“Don’t take it past 70% of the pleasure point, until you’re experienced. Keep breathing deeply, in through the nose, out through pursed lips. If you get too close, breathe out fast through your mouth, and suck the navel toward the spine pulling up the diaphragm. Visualize the sexual energy moving up from the pubic bone to either the heart or the third eye. Once you’ve been doing it for a few minutes, try clenching your pelvic floor muscles on your inhalation, then relaxing them during your exhalation.
Ta-da, that’s the fundamentals of sexual tantra for men.”

So, my darlings…here’s your homework assignment: practice edging & orgasm control. Pay close attention to how you feel. If you would like to share your experience with me feel free to email me or even better: make a comment here on my blog & share with others. Obviously, this is fantastic for those who struggle with premature ejaculation but really, the energy work is great for any man.

Happy hand-humping!

xo

Mistress T

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Sex

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I’ve been neglecting my blog a bit lately. To be honest, I’ve just been busy having a lot of great sex.

I recently acquired a new lover who has kept me occupied…really good sex & a nice connection, I like him…but sometimes when it rains, it pours. (For those who don’t know: I practice non-monogamy.)

A fella who I had had a flirtation with months ago invited me to a sex party on Saturday night. There would be a tantric workshop that I was interested in. We agreed ahead of time that we were both free to play with others so when we arrived & I met a very handsome young man I was excited at the prospects for the evening.

The group was given an introduction to Tantric sex. Then we did an exercise where we looked into each others eyes for a couple minutes, & into the eyes of everyone of the opposite sex. That was interesting, holding hands & looking into the eyes of every man at the party for 2-3 minutes at a time.

Then the tantra instructor gave a demonstration on ‘yoni massage‘. (He gave a woman a full body massage including her vagina, which led to her orgasm & ‘squirting’.)

After that we were free to do as we pleased so the fella I came with & I decided to enjoy the hot tub for a bit before starting to play.

This is where it got a little weird. I know, for most of you watching a man make a woman squirt at a party would already be weird but not so much for me. The weird part was when the host of the party came out to the hot tub & exclaimed that he was honored to be graced with the presence of the Goddess Mistress T.

Awkward.

You see, I wasn’t there as Mistress T. I was off the clock & I prefer to keep a low-profile. So I explained all of that & he was cool about it but when we went back inside I found out what had prompted this exclamation. Apparently the host was a big fan & had put one of my vids up on the big screen in his theater for the party guests to enjoy. Someone else recognized me (not him though!) & said that I was in the hot tub.

*sigh*

So anyway, we started to ‘play’ in the main room with everyone else & the hot guy from earlier was sitting near by watching. He was also a tantra practitioner which was intriguing.

I was enjoying being watched by him but I was slightly distracted by what was now being played on the big screen that people were commenting on. It was my friend Lexi Sindel fucking a guy with a huge strap on. I have been in several FemDom Empire vids so I kept worrying that I would pop up on the screen again.

We moved to another room where we continued & finished playing…the sex was great! Then the hot guy glided in & I asked him to join us.

Wow.

Round 2 was pretty epic…but would you expect anything less from a super sexy tantric practitioner? He touched me in ways that I’ve never been touched.

I got home after the sun was up & slept peacefully for a few hours before meeting a friend for brunch. For some reason I was still so frisky I called in my other new lover for Sunday night & did another marathon night of love making.

You would think that would be plenty. Why be greedy? Well, why not? So when the hot tantric practitioner contacted me Monday morning to see if I’d like to get together Monday night I just said yes. Especially since it included him making a delicious vegan dinner, singing & playing guitar for me & some pretty deep conversation. Oh, and hours of passionate sex, again, in some ways that I’ve never experienced before. We never stop learning, eh?

Okay, okay…but then that was enough. 3 different lovers, 3 epic nights of sex: I was finally ready to take a break, wave the white flag, tap out.

Sometimes it can be hard for people to reconcile the Mistress T you know from my vids & who I really am as a person outside of my job. That’s why I created this blog, for you to get to know me more intimately. I think it’s an important exercise to reduce my ‘carbon footprint’ making porn, by helping guys to see me as a real person, to not objectify me the way many women are objectified in porn.

In real life I’m actually a fair bit ‘hippie’. I’m interested in energy, connection & sexual spirituality. Maybe I’ll do a cuckold vid where my lover isn’t a well-hung black stud who fucks my brains out 6 ways from Sunday, but rather a guy really skilled at pleasuring women using his brain, energy & touch as much as his penis, a man I have amazing chemistry with…I shouldn’t imply they are mutually exclusive….but really fulfilling sex is actually about so much more than dick size. It can be harder to ‘see’ that stuff though & porn is a visual medium (which is why I continue to favor larger phallus’s for my scenes). Well, I’ll hope that at least my words reach a few of you through this blog.

xo

Mistress T

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Tips For Better Pussy Worship

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There’s hundreds of articles out there on improving your oral skills…but a lot of guys learn how to lick pussy badly from watching mainstream porn movies…so here’s one more article to hopefully put men on a better a path.

I’ll start from the basics & go from there, so be patient if you feel like you already have a handle on things.

Go slow. Slower. Even slower.

– Don’t rush in. Take your time seducing a woman’s pussy. A pussy is most responsive when it’s anticipating contact, aching for it. So tease the surrounding areas starting from far away (like the neck or ankle, but at least the inner thigh). Then start with breath or a very light, wet finger (spit discreetly on your fingers).

Pro tip: This is a great time to compliment her lady parts unless you’re operating in complete darkness: “You have a beautiful pussy.”

Observe Her Responses.

– Some women will verbally tell you what they like but if not, follow her cues: body language, breathing, moans, how her tummy moves, if she spreads wider, etc. Every guy doesn’t like his dick sucked the same way & every woman doesn’t like her pussy licked the same way, so don’t expect the exact moves to work on everyone. Figure out what SHE likes.

Pro tip: Ask for guidance: “You can tell me how you like it, or when you want more of something I’m doing right….so I can figure out how to blow your mind.”

The Clit & Beyond.

– Everyone knows by now that most women cum from clitoral stimulation & most men can figure out where the clit is by now but if you can’t find it, for the love of god, ask her to show you. You can mask your ignorance & up the kink factor by asking her to touch herself for you…just for a moment, say that you want to see how she touches herself…& then LOOK where she touches herself. Bingo-ringo: do that with your tongue. Start slow & gently. You can lick around the other areas going back to the clit in increasing frequency, pressure & speed as she gets closer to orgasm.

Pro tip: It’s not a race to orgasm. Some women take a long time but assure her there’s no rush, that you love being down there. Switch off with your hand if your jaw is locking up.

Finger Bang?

– Some women like a finger inserted, some like 2. Some like the whole hand. Some none at all. Some like g-spot stimulation (which you need to finger bang her or use an insertable toy to reach.) This can be a tricky one & you’ll need to ask her point blank or watch her cues very carefully to figure out how she feels about being inserted while being licked.

Pro tip: Always make sure whatever you put in there is well-lubricated. Spit, even if you think she’s wet. No such thing as too slippery. Purrrr.

Love That Pussy.

– Make sure you are sending all the right signals that you are loving that pussy. Moan a little. Tell her you love her pussy. Tell her you love the way she tastes, smells, looks (but don’t blather on, you’re down there to do a job). Don’t make her feel like you’re just licking her pussy out of obligation just to get to the sex. Forget about your own dick, needs, orgasm for the time you are devoted to her pussy. Make her feel like licking her pussy is the only thing in the world you want to do & you want to do it perfectly.

Pro tip: If possible, offer to lick her pussy & nothing else, at least sometimes, or the first time, whatever. Maybe she’ll insist on sex after because that’s what she likes but give her a chance to enjoy being spoiled only & have it all about her. This may have bigger pay offs in the long run.

This article doesn’t cover everything. I could talk about adding toys into the play, incorporating dirty talk or role-play, I could discuss the pro’s & con’s of beards or stubble vs. smoothly shaved, g-spots/squirting, etc. But maybe another day. Or feel free to ask me a question in the comments area.

Best,
Mistress T

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Jerk Off To Improve Sex

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Mistress T in a latex nurse's outfit.

Trust me, I’m a professional…

A lot of my fans are chronic masturbators…jerking off at least a couple times a day to porn. Orgasms are really good for you, medically & mentally. It reduces your chances of getting prostate cancer, reduces stress, etc. So let’s talk about masturbating BETTER! Specifically how to masturbate to have better sex (if you get the opportunity).

1. Make sure your dick will be ready to fuck a real pussy! If your dick only knows your hand & you jerk the same way every time you may struggle to keep your boner or to ejaculate when it’s “business time”.

Experiment with lighter grips & hand positions/use your other hand. Don’t always do exactly the same thing.

Masturbate while wearing a condom! (I’m told this is called a “Posh Wank” in the UK). Get your dick used to fucking with a rubber (often free at clinics).

Get a Fleshlight or other masturbation device that feels more like a vagina. You can shop on the internet discreetly for that stuff or your local sex shop.

Or make your own home made one! I googled “DIY masturbation device” and found this helpful article, I’m sure there’s more (Feel free to comment below if you have a DIY tip to share): http://www.literotica.com/s/homemade-pussy-device

That DIY (do-it-yourself) article reminded me of when I was a horny, resourceful teen. I made an ‘insertable’ by wrapping tissues around the neck of a wine bottle (to make it softer & more life-like) & securing a condom over it with an elastic band. Yup, I was THAT serious about safe sex. Ha ha:-)

2. Build a better orgasm AND learn orgasm control by ‘edging’ yourself. Bring yourself close to orgasm then ease off…let it build again & just before you ejaculate, ease off or stop…repeat several times (or for hours!) before finally enjoying a powerful release. This will help you have more control if you do have sex with a woman (no one likes a minute man!)

3. Try different things. It’s okay to like what ya like…but experiment with variations of what you like. This will help you keep a boner & ejaculate at the right time when in situations other than just that one specific way you’re used it. You can watch different porn, or hell, use your imagination once in a while (worst advice ever from a smut peddler, eh?)…Try sitting, standing, laying down, in the shower, maybe sneak one off at work or in the car (don’t get caught).

That should keep you busy for awhile. Remember, sex takes practice and your biggest sex organ is your brain. That means if you’re nervous you might find your penis not behaving as you like. There’s a lot more to sex then just intercourse…like touching, kissing, massage, teasing…You always have a mouth & if you learn to lick pussy like a champ your lady won’t mind if it takes your dick awhile to catch up.

Best,
Mistress T

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What’s your story?

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I had an interesting conversation with someone this week who has a theory that many of those who are into certain fetish or BDSM activities are subconsciously trying to heal old wounds.

What are you into? And WHY?

What are you into? And WHY?

I have specific examples of clients who developed their fetishes based on things that happened when they were young. Not always a negative event, but sometimes. I often ask kinksters who cross my path how they got into what they’re into. I’ve heard many fascinating stories. For example: There is certainly a common theme of guys into humiliation having endured a lot of bullying, rejection or humiliation when they were younger.

Many people say that a person’s sexuality is “hard wired” implying they’re born that way…which I believe is true about sexual orientation, but not so much about fetishes. I don’t think you’re born with a foot fetish, for example. Something usually triggers it. Maybe a hot babysitter making you sniff her dirty feet as punishment at just the right age.

Sometimes one thing leads to another…an interest in being verbally humiliated by women leads to humiliating activities like licking mud off of boots, eating cum, or even more painful activities like getting kicked in the balls. Sometimes the fetishist keeps seeking a greater high or thrill in being humiliated or bullied by women. Sometimes they get ideas from surfing porn on the internet. In an aroused state they stumble across something new & ka-pow, now THAT does it for them too. So one should really go way back to the beginning & try to find the root of the fetish. How it all began. I encourage you all to do that if you haven’t done so already.

I’ve also been watching a show called The Shield and there’s a scene where a straight male cop is made to suck cock at gun point. He’s really messed up by the event and eventually finds himself aroused by rape, then plays out rape fantasies with an escort. It seems for him this is a kind of therapy, a way of processing what happened to him. The timing was interesting for me as it came in the same week as this conversation about healing old wounds through kink play.

I’m a big advocate of acceptance & whatever happens with or between consenting adults is fine. It doesn’t really matter how you got into what you’re into as long as no one is getting hurt (against their will). Being self aware is good and knowing that you’re not alone. I’m pretty sure people who are ONLY into vanilla sex are the minority & the majority of people have at least somewhat deviant fantasies. It doesn’t mean you’re broken, but it can be interesting to figure out how you became the way you are. I encourage you to make a comment here & share your story with your community.

Best,
Mistress T

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Ask random questions, get random answers.

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At this moment I have no idea what this blog post is going to be about. I felt a desire to write one today but wasn’t sure what to write about.

Will chewing this pen help the juices to flow? CREATIVE juices, you fucking pervert.

Will chewing this pen help the juices to flow? CREATIVE juices, you fucking pervert.

Looking for inspiration I tweeted to my 20K twitter followers:

Mistress T ‏@MistressTdotnet 4h

Throwing it out there: got a request for a blog topic?: tweet me. Ask me a question, ask me2discuss a topic/fetish, etc. No promises:-)

Out of 20K followers I got only a few responses, which I wasn’t terribly surprised with. My fans tend to be a quiet bunch. Silently enjoying my vids or pics. Saying little, providing very little feedback, often leaving me feeling like I’m on stage performing with bright lights in my face, unable to tell if there’s an audience there or not. Of course, the vids continue to sell, so I know you’re out there. Jerking off, loving me. Your wallets give you away.

“steven” tweeted:

global warming,mascot sex,geopolitics…..cuckolding…candy crush…clown sex….men who like …….? sex with your wife or husband….no….not interesting. Is it still relevant?

Okay Steven, why not? Here we go:

– Global warming: beyond saying that it’s real & we should all do our part for the environment (recycle, turn the lights off, walk instead of drive when you can, etc.) I have a feeling my fans don’t come here for those topics. See ‘google’ for more info.

– Mascot sex: keen followers know by now that I have a thing for ‘furries’. I first got turned on by this when a gal banged her boyfriend while he was wearing a big mascot costume kind of thing in the movie “The Sweetest Thing”.

Trailer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSz3HBPxz2U&noredirect=1

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Mistress T with furry in Vegas Jan 2014.

I love furries!

– Geopolitics: yeah, not gonna lie I had to look that one up, it’s the study of the effects of geography (both human and physical) on international politics and international relations.

At this moment I can feel the collective groan from those who were really hoping to find some jerk off material in my blog today. Don’t blame me, blame Steven.

– Cuckolding: you guys can’t get enough of this topic, eh? Here’s a funny story. The other day I was doing a web cam session with a guy who said he was into cuckolding. So I started telling him to pretend it was our wedding night & instead of fucking him I’ve fucked his best man…I noticed that his dick was going limp so I asked if there was something wrong. He told me that he was into being my cuckold but for some reason the idea of being married to me didn’t turn him on. *zing* I laughed SO hard.

So you'll suck his cock & eat his cum out of my pussy, but you won't MARRY ME? Worthless cuckold...

So you’ll suck his cock & eat his cum out of my pussy, but you won’t MARRY ME? Worthless cuckold…

– Candy crush: sorry Steven. I’m not sure what this is. I googled it & I think it’s a game? Whatever.

– Clown Sex: I think this would be a great way for people with a fear of clowns to get over their fear. Or maybe not? I guess it depends on if the clown is any good in the sack. (Try http://www.sugarweasel.com/)

Sugar Weasel, the clown escort! http://www.sugarweasel.com/

Sugar Weasel, the clown escort! http://www.sugarweasel.com/

– Men who like……?: You left this one pretty vague Steven. Unfortunately for you I’m now tiring of writing this damn blog entry so I’m not even going to attempt anything witty.

What Steven...WHAT?

What Steven…WHAT?

– Sex with your wife or husband….no….not interesting. Is it still relevant?: I’m sensing you’re not enthusiastic about fucking your wife Steven? Is the magic gone? This question reveals a lot about you. Unfortunately for you, I’m not a marriage counselor. I just play one in porn films, and in those cases I’m pretty sure I cause more problems then I solve. I’ll take a swing at it though:

Marriage is about a lot more than sex. It’s about sharing a life, intimacy (non-sexual), friendship, companionship, etc. If you love your wife but feel a driving need for sexual satisfaction that you just can’t find at home…fuck an escort or see a Dominatrix (depending on what you’re looking for). Practice the safest sex you can & cover your tracks to save your wife embarrassment.

You’re welcome.

Don't let your wife catch you! (A public service announcement from the NRA)

Don’t let your wife catch you! (A public service announcement from the NRA)

Best,
Mistress T

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VLOG2: Halloween Ballbusting, UK & Sex Ed

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Click this link to view the vid: http://www.MistressT.net/freemovie/vlog2-october-28-2013-halloween-ballbusting-uk-sex-ed

Thanks for all the feedback on my 1st VLOG. I received a few requests for more sex ed stuff, guidance for virgins, the inexperienced or any fella wanting to improve sexually. So most of this VLOG covers sex ed tips for beginners.

Remember fella’s: sloooow down. Also respect women & treat them well. Mainstream porn is designed as jerk off material for men, it is NOT designed to teach you to be a better lover….for women. If you want to satisfy a woman sexually usually smacking her ass & slapping her face with your dick is the wrong way to go.

There’s a little ballbusting clip in my VLOG taken just before we all went out to a fetish Halloween party. I did not film something to sell because we were running late so there’s just this little taste.

I make a brief mention of my upcoming trip to the UK. So there it is…feedback is welcome & encouraged. Comment here, tweet me or send an email: MsT@MistressT.net

Thanks!

Mistress T

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My 1st VLOG

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Here’s my 1st VLOG thingy. I chat casually about a few different things…including some behind the scenes stuff about filming with Shane Diesel, other vids, my personal life & some sex tips.

Let me know if you want more & what you would like me to VLOG about. I prefer you comment here on my blog…you can also use twitter or send me a brief email: MsT@MistressT.net

Click here to watch the vid: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Clink the link (above & below this pic) to see the vid.

Clink the link (above & below this pic) to see the vid.

Click here to stream or download the vid (it’s free): http://www.mistresst.net/freemovie/vlog1-oct-10-2013-shane-diesel-etc

Best,
Mistress T

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