Music Appreciation Moment

Posted on February 8, 2015 by Mistress T

This is a more personal piece. Not sexy…but this blog is meant for you to get to know me more intimately, so this qualifies.

I had an amazing day. I visited a very dear friend who is fighting for his life. He’s been fighting cancer for years, winning, but it keeps returning. He’s still fighting & is one of the most inspiring people I know.

We laughed. We cried. We enjoyed delicious tea, cookies & cake. We listened to music on his high quality sound system. Big band, the Tragically Hip, 80’s rock ballads. Then I suggested Pink Floyd & he suggested we indulge in some of his morphine for that experience.

(Disclaimer: I am not a regular taker of drugs of any kind. I experimented in my 20’s with party drugs & hippie stuff but in my 30’s I just haven’t been that interested.)

So I sat with my dear friend, holding hands listening to Pink Floyd really loud while floating on a morphine cloud.

He’s been listening to a lot of music lately. He’s also been watching a lot of comedy & spending time with the people he loves. Music, laughter & love being his priorities these days.

I don’t ask a lot of my fans or slaves. I could really be so much more demanding…so I’ll ask each of you to do something for me today (& any time really) but especially today: Play one of your favorite songs as loud as you can & do nothing besides listen to it all the way through. Really listen to it & enjoy it. Savor it. Heck, dancing to it would be fine too. Let’s call it a ‘music appreciation moment’.

Will you do that for me? Will you do that for you? It’s not going to change the world but it’s not going to hurt anything either (unless it pisses off the neighbors for 5 minutes. Oh well.)

Big love,

Mistress T (or in this case, the woman who is also Mistress T)

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Tips For Better Pussy Worship

Posted on February 6, 2015 by Mistress T

There’s hundreds of articles out there on improving your oral skills…but a lot of guys learn how to lick pussy badly from watching mainstream porn movies…so here’s one more article to hopefully put men on a better a path.

I’ll start from the basics & go from there, so be patient if you feel like you already have a handle on things.

Go slow. Slower. Even slower.

– Don’t rush in. Take your time seducing a woman’s pussy. A pussy is most responsive when it’s anticipating contact, aching for it. So tease the surrounding areas starting from far away (like the neck or ankle, but at least the inner thigh). Then start with breath or a very light, wet finger (spit discreetly on your fingers).

Pro tip: This is a great time to compliment her lady parts unless you’re operating in complete darkness: “You have a beautiful pussy.”

Observe Her Responses.

– Some women will verbally tell you what they like but if not, follow her cues: body language, breathing, moans, how her tummy moves, if she spreads wider, etc. Every guy doesn’t like his dick sucked the same way & every woman doesn’t like her pussy licked the same way, so don’t expect the exact moves to work on everyone. Figure out what SHE likes.

Pro tip: Ask for guidance: “You can tell me how you like it, or when you want more of something I’m doing right….so I can figure out how to blow your mind.”

The Clit & Beyond.

– Everyone knows by now that most women cum from clitoral stimulation & most men can figure out where the clit is by now but if you can’t find it, for the love of god, ask her to show you. You can mask your ignorance & up the kink factor by asking her to touch herself for you…just for a moment, say that you want to see how she touches herself…& then LOOK where she touches herself. Bingo-ringo: do that with your tongue. Start slow & gently. You can lick around the other areas going back to the clit in increasing frequency, pressure & speed as she gets closer to orgasm.

Pro tip: It’s not a race to orgasm. Some women take a long time but assure her there’s no rush, that you love being down there. Switch off with your hand if your jaw is locking up.

Finger Bang?

– Some women like a finger inserted, some like 2. Some like the whole hand. Some none at all. Some like g-spot stimulation (which you need to finger bang her or use an insertable toy to reach.) This can be a tricky one & you’ll need to ask her point blank or watch her cues very carefully to figure out how she feels about being inserted while being licked.

Pro tip: Always make sure whatever you put in there is well-lubricated. Spit, even if you think she’s wet. No such thing as too slippery. Purrrr.

Love That Pussy.

– Make sure you are sending all the right signals that you are loving that pussy. Moan a little. Tell her you love her pussy. Tell her you love the way she tastes, smells, looks (but don’t blather on, you’re down there to do a job). Don’t make her feel like you’re just licking her pussy out of obligation just to get to the sex. Forget about your own dick, needs, orgasm for the time you are devoted to her pussy. Make her feel like licking her pussy is the only thing in the world you want to do & you want to do it perfectly.

Pro tip: If possible, offer to lick her pussy & nothing else, at least sometimes, or the first time, whatever. Maybe she’ll insist on sex after because that’s what she likes but give her a chance to enjoy being spoiled only & have it all about her. This may have bigger pay offs in the long run.

This article doesn’t cover everything. I could talk about adding toys into the play, incorporating dirty talk or role-play, I could discuss the pro’s & con’s of beards or stubble vs. smoothly shaved, g-spots/squirting, etc. But maybe another day. Or feel free to ask me a question in the comments area.

Best,
Mistress T

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Frequently Asked Questions

Posted on February 2, 2015 by Mistress T

One link to answer them all! (Hopefully).

Film Save Application:

http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/film-slave-application/

Private Session Inquiries:

http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/private-sessions/

Bi/Cocksucking scenario’s, private or filmed, sucker or stunt cock:

http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/bi-stunt-cock-unicorn/

Custom Vid Request:

http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/custom-vids/

Online training via email, webcam:

I’m not currently accepting new/more online slaves that require a lot of attention. If you are very generous & lower maintenance send me a tribute then email to apply: MsT@MistressT.net

***NEW*** PHONE Sessions:

Phone Sessions

Tribute:

Use the tribute button on my clips store (you may not see the tribute button if you are using certain mobile devices):

http://clips4sale.com/23869

Or tribute by sending an Amazon Gift Card to this email address (I prefer a Canadian GC from Amazon.ca): MsT@MistressT.net

Amazon Wish Lists:

Amazon.ca (Canadian version that anyone can buy from): http://www.amazon.ca/registry/wishlist/

Amazon.com (US version that anyone can buy from): http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/

You can best serve me by joining my members site and/or buying my vids from clips4sale. This is how you support the work that I’m so passionate about. Also, follow me on twitter for hot pics & updates…and read my blog!

Best,
Mistress T

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Vegas 2015 recap

Posted on January 30, 2015 by Mistress T

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

I’ve survived another of our legendary Vegas trips! I had an amazing time, as always.

I cherish the relationships I have with others in this wacky industry. It means so much to have peers to discuss the unique issues that come with this business. I’m sure it’s the same for anyone, whether you’re a lawyer, work in the medical field, a teacher, a mechanic, a bar tender, a CFO, a coder, etc. There are things about your work that only those who do the same work understand. For me living in Vancouver I’m often fairly isolated from others who understand my work. My friends are very supportive, but it’s different hanging out with those who walk the walk & talk the talk.

So these Vegas trips are great opportunities to network, meet new friends and build on the relationships I already have. Sure, we party a bit, but we also share meals & talk, go to the spa & talk, hang out & talk. It’s fun AND it feeds my soul.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room…Meggerz & I.

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Here’s a shout out to both Kinkbomb & Clips4Sale who hosted amazing dinners & events. These events bring the community closer & it’s very much appreciated.

We has some crazy nights too...Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

We had some crazy nights too…Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo….mmm furrries:-)

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Here’s also a shout out to The Cupcake Girls. They provide excellent free services to women in the adult industry. (Like legal advice, medical/dental, counseling, educational support, emergency services, etc.) They have a suite at the AVN convention where gals can come get their hair or make-up done for free, get mini massages, something to eat, etc. It’s a wonderful place to connect with other ladies in the industry & a very positive way to spread the word about the good work they do.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

So, until we meet again! Thanks to the ladies who made this trip awesome. Particularly…& because your photo is here:

Princess Meggerz: www.Meggerz.com

Ceara Lynch: www.CearaLynch.com

Alexandra Snow: www.AlexandraSnow.com

Lexi Sindel: www.FemdomEmpire.com

Shauna Ryanne: http://shaunaryanne.weebly.com

Caroline Pierce: https://twitter.com/caroline_pierce

Jasmine Mendez: http://laughinglatina.weebly.com/

Mistress T

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NY Trip Rescheduled Due To Blizzard

Posted on January 28, 2015 by Mistress T

It’s up to you New York…New York!

This is an update for all you New Yorkers hoping to see me…you did not miss your chance! Due to the blizzard my flight was cancelled (no flights were going in or out of NY). Rather than trying to cram the bookings I had into half the time I decided to postpone the trip.

In case you’re wondering what I do about deposits in cases like this: I have the ability to issue a refund via the helpful support staff at clips4sale which I did for 1 gentleman. All the others were happy to hold tight for when I do make it to NY (within the next few months).

Note that if you ask support for a refund without my giving them the go-ahead you risk being permanently blocked from clips4sale. They do that to prevent scams. But don’t worry, if there is a legitimate reason for a refund I’m happy to facilitate it so you won’t get blocked. I’m a fair person.

If you are generous & able to make a deposit send an email introducing yourself & describe exactly what you’re hoping for during our time together (social/private/specific activities). Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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New York New York

Posted on January 21, 2015 by Mistress T

The fates have aligned & I will be coming to New York soon. Well, if you call fate a generous fan compensating me enough to come there…

Me in NY in 2007! I’ve been back several times since but I didn’t get any typical touristy photo’s.

This fan also gave me a flexible return ticket so I decided to take a few extra days to hang with my pal Meg, you may recall she & I have gone to Vegas, Greece & New Orleans together: (http://meggerz.com/)

Meg & I in Greece in August. LOVE this gal:-)

I’ll also have time to spend with some other fans.

How do you get to be one of the lucky few? Well, money obviously is key but it’s equally about ‘low maintenance’. That means I prefer fans who communicate clearly but briefly, who are willing & able to make a deposit right away to demonstrate they are reliable & serious…& frankly, fans who are just really excited about spending time with me. That means it’s more about connecting with ME than a list of services or props.

This will likely be my last trip for awhile. I plan to take some time to work on other projects (don’t worry, the vids will continue) but trips take a lot of energy & I’ll be putting that energy elsewhere. So if you want to see me, this will be you last chance for awhile.

Here’s how you apply. If you do not follow these instructions you will likely not get a reply. If I am not interested or able to see you, you may not get a reply either:

Email subject line: New York

Email body:

#1. In a short paragraph or point form explain what you’re hoping for during our time together & what you’re offering (Minimum $500).

#2. State that you are willing to make a minimum 50% deposit via the tribute button on my clips store. http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (If you are not willing or able to do this, do not email me. No exceptions.)

My email address: MsT@MistressT.net

Cheers to rich perverts!

NOTE: Before you get all butt-hurt about it sounding like I’m all about the money & you not being able to afford to see me…put yourself in my shoes: would you rather see 6 guys a day for $200 an hour or 2 guys a day for about the same amount of money? 2 guys to negotiate all details & organize things with, versus 6? And who wants to be the last guy on the day I’ve seen 5 others? He’s not going to get the best version of me.

Also, it’s New York City! If I’m not enjoying the guy I’m seeing & being compensated well I’d rather not make money & just go enjoy the city or hang out with Meg. So if you don’t have a generous budget, sorry, that’s just the way life goes.

Best of luck to all applicants!

Mistress T

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A Gentleman’s Guide To Submission

Posted on January 14, 2015 by Mistress T

I usually avoid writing generalized “how-to” guides because although some things are universal I feel that every Domme/sub relationship should be customized.

What follows here is only my opinion. I do not speak for all Professional Dominants/online Dommes, regular life non-pro Dommes, etc.

I’ve long said that what I value most in a submissive man is good manners. To be honest, I value good manners in every person. It goes beyond just being Canadian with politeness bred into my bones. It’s not necessarily the formality of proper manners that you often get with the British (which I find delightful), it can be more casual & friendly…but the heart of it is consideration & thoughtfulness. A good submissive simply THINKS of the Dominant’s needs or wants BEFORE his own, every time.

At the risk of over-simplifying it, it really can be that simple. Just putting the Dommes needs before his own.

Taking a slightly different angle, think of it as being cared for. If you are a good submissive you ‘care’ about how your Domme feels. You care that she is happy, content, etc. You get pleasure from knowing you have made her happy. In a similar way as you would feel if you were caring for a sick person, a young person, someone who needs your help, a pet, a wounded animal, etc. If you helped someone change a tire, you would feel good. If you helped an old lady bring heavy groceries up a set of stairs to her apartment, you would feel good. If you saved a puppy that was just about to fall off a balcony, you would feel good. You get the point. The chemicals that are released which produce the emotions that make you feel good are basically the same.

So in a way, serving well is somewhat self-serving. But if you didn’t like the way it made you feel to be a good submissive than you probably wouldn’t be into that, right?

This is at the heart of submission.

Now, there is another side to ‘submission’ that sadly, if more prevalent. The so-called slave who just wants a woman to act as a puppet to fulfill his fantasies. He wants her to do specific sex acts, like piss on him, fuck him in the ass, put him in chastity, kick him in the balls, spank him, cross dress him, make him suck cock, etc. etc. It’s perfectly fine to hire a Professional Dominatrix to perform those services but understand that you are not submitting to fulfill the desires of your Mistress. It’s a different thing.

Many just have a fetish & aren’t necessarily interested in submission. They just like feet, or pantyhose, etc. and that’s fine. But one should always be a gentleman.

In my case, it is possible to hire me to fulfill your fantasy of submission, you can request certain activities, let me know what your boundaries (hard limits) are…and that’s all well & good. No judgement there. It’s how Pro Domming usually works. With structure. But consider the depth & sincerity of your experience. Consider a slight shift in your thinking. Instead of thinking only about the services you want performed, think about how you can best behave to please your Mistress. Find out what she enjoys & try it, even if it’s not top of your list, just to experience the feeling of sacrificing a little to give someone else pleasure.

Personally, I like a strong submissive. A man who is a gentleman. Not a weakling that I can bully & push around, but a man who gracefully chooses to submit to me. I like a slave who has self respect & whom I can respect.

I don’t have a lot of rules to be universally followed. It’s more of a philosophy. If you come from the right spirit than it will be received as such. That is the base from which everything else is built.

Best,
Mistress T

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A kinky short story…

Posted on January 6, 2015 by Mistress T

“Why do you pretend to be shy?”

I replied that I didn’t like intimidating people and I wanted to be treated like a normal person.

“Darling, you couldn’t be normal if you tried. There’s a boldness in you that makes mere mortals want to bow down to you, follow your orders, gain your favor, listen to your advice.”

He was wearing a leather fetish dog mask and collar but not much else. His body was strong and toned. The leather micro shorts at least left something to the imagination…until a friend whispered in my ear that he has a huge cock.

He slowly lowered himself to his knees, his strong muscles putting on a nice display. He took on the stance of an obedient dog and gently offered himself as my pet.

I stroked my leather gloved hand over his back and he shivered. I removed my glove & touched him again. This time I shivered. This was going to be fun.

Best,
Mistress T

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Private Sessions

Posted on January 3, 2015 by Mistress T

Want to meet me in person? Here’s what you need know:

#1. I am only accepting sessions in Vancouver, BC these days. You must be in Vancouver or be willing to travel to Vancouver to see me.

#2. I don’t “escort”/engage in intercourse or oral sex with clients (no oral sex means no oral sex of any kind between us. No licking my genitals or anus.). No groping me. No hard sports.

#3. What I do: Dominatrix/fetish/woman-in-control scenarios or role-play. My specialty is tie & tease/orgasm control/ruined orgasms/FemDom styled hand jobs, to be blunt. I am equally comfortable with sensually Dominant sessions or cruel humiliation scenarios. I have a full wardrobe of leather, latex, lingerie, hosiery, boots, shoes, gloves, etc. Minimum: $400/60 mins. (or $550/90mins. $700/2 hours.)

#4. My social rate is $200/hr. Conversation over dinner, drinks, coffee/tea, etc.

#5. A deposit will be required.

Disclaimer: I rarely accept sessions as I’m either creating new content or enjoying a balanced personal life. Your best bet is to communicate clearly (but briefly) in your first email. It should look like this:

Subject line: Private session in Vancouver

Body of the email: I’m interested in a (insert session length, 1 hour, 2 hour?) session in Vancouver on this date (insert specific date/time here & indicate if you are flexible). I am interested in (insert what you want here, like tie & tease with hand release or foot worship, humiliation, etc.)
That’s it for the first email. Here’s my email address. Don’t use it when you’re horny & not thinking clearly. Do NOT send me an unsolicited dick pic: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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Top 20 vids of 2014

Posted on December 31, 2014 by Mistress T

I’m sure you’re wondering what my most popular vids were in 2014? Here’s a count down from 20th to the #1 vid of my top selling 20 vids for the last year. Did you see them all?