No shame. my body my choice

Some misguided critter recently tried to shame or insult me by calling me an escort. I would have been more insulted if they had accused me of being the kind of person who would try to shame someone for being an escort.

Over the last 12 years I have been a stripper, a Professional Dominatrix, a cam girl, an escort & fetish model/performer/porn star. I’ve done phone sex, I’ve done my version of a peep show or voyeur show, masturbated for money, done girl-girl shows, sold cuckolding sessions where a guy paid to lick another man’s cum from my pussy, I’ve spat my boyfriends cum into a guy’s mouth for $1000, I’ve had sex for money, I’ve done shows & lap dances at bachelor parties, I’ve done topless poker dealing, topless bartending & sold tequila shooters naked on a clothing optional beach…I’m sure I missed a few things I’ve done for money using my body & sexuality….but you get the idea.

And I’m not ashamed of any of it.

It’s my body, my life, my choices.

I decide from one day to the next what I feel comfortable doing with my body. It has evolved over the years, but I regret nothing & have no hesitation in asserting my boundaries, whatever they are that day.

I do not buy into the BS hierarchy of adult industry workers. Strippers thinking they’re better than escorts because they don’t have sex with their customers, FinDom’s or non-nude fetish models thinking they’re better than those who get naked, phone sex or cam girls thinking they’re better than others for whatever reasons. Sometimes ladies in this industry can be pretty judgey considering how harshly we’re all judged by people in the vanilla world. Some lump us all together & at best they think some kinds of work are at least not ‘as bad’ as others. Even if we’re accepted & supported by our loved ones in our choices, no one prays that their little girl will grow up to be a sex worker & most won’t brag about it. The whole adult industry is stigmatized.

Women have been using their bodies & sexuality to make money for a very long time in a lot of different ways, not just in adult work. Some do it because they want to & they like it, they find it empowering, some do it for money, sometimes both. It does nothing to benefit anyone to try to shame women for it. If most men could do it they would & I doubt they would have any shame about it.

What people choose to do for work does not define who they are or all that they are. Women in the adult industry are also mothers, daughter, sisters, friends, animal lovers, Trekkies, gamers, teachers, foodies, therapists, painters, swimmers, pilots, volunteers, writers, sports fans, musicians, travelers, gamblers, sexual assault survivors, recovering alcoholics..they might be struggling with mental illness, mourning the death of a loved one, be fighting a legal battle with an ex, be caring for an elderly family member, be dealing with PTSD, be studying to get a new job outside of the industry, be working toward a personal goal or be helping someone else to get in or out of the industry…I could go on & on because every woman doing adult work has a story, a unique personality & a life beyond her job.

So, keep this in mind the next time you find yourself or hear someone else judging, objectifying or shaming a person in the adult industry.


Mistress T

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Name & shame…sort of.

"Why would you NOT mention WHERE you want to meet me??? Why?!"

“Why would you NOT mention WHERE you want to meet me??? Why?!”

Avid readers of my blog probably know that geography is important to me when it comes to inquiries to meet…yet many of the inquiries (for private sessions or film slave applications) make no reference to a location. It’s frustrating to read a long email, to reply asking for the city & have the response be some obscure place I’ve never been, have no plans to go to & the applicant has no intention of coming to meet me.

Below is an example of such a communication that happens frequently EXCEPT this is also an example of a clearly mentally unstable person who seemed fine at first & then goes psycho. I don’t need to post this persons email address because what he requests is so specific & unique any Domme reading this will remember it & never accept a session with this hateful, unbalanced person.

Greetings Mistress T,

I’ll save you the long and overly articulated email, as it states you desire in your blog.

–I have never seen a mistress before, but your beauty is too spellbinding to resist.
–I’m deeply into ballbusting as I had a testicle removed as a baby, and it fucked my head all up as a child.
–I desire a caring, or “motherly” type of approach to ballbusting; I’m not into humiliation or abuse, but rather affectionate and sympathetic infliction of testicular pain.
— That being said, I would still happily comply with the requirements you have set for your clients: addressing you as you desire, me being addressed as you desire, etc.

Do my desires fit within your style for a ballbusting session?  What is a “donation” for a session like this?

Thanks much,


NOTE: He sounds great in his first email. He mentions that he reads my blog …but I guess he missed the parts where I harp on about guys not communicating clearly by telling me WHERE they want to meet me. So I respond with:

$x for x minutes in Vancouver…if that’s where you’re hoping to see me?

Mistress T

Mistress T,

I saw that you’re in Vancouver (beautiful city!), and I was hoping you might have a travel schedule, as I’m in Denver.  Though if you are stay put in Vancouver, then I might have to plan a trip.  Although if I do that, considering travel and lodging, I might have to go the on-camera model route, if that’s of interest to you.  Otherwise, I’m in Vegas quite a bit, if you’re ever there.

NOTE: Now I’m annoyed. I’m not going to Denver or Vegas in the foreseeable future. IF he comes to Vancouver he won’t be able to afford to pay for a session. So maybe I should have just not responded but I think the question is valid…so I asked:
“Why would you have not mentioned location in your 1st email?”

That’s all I wrote. Just that question. At which points he shows another side to himself:

Christ you mistresses are all the same.  Are you even human?  What the hell’s the difference?  I do a lot of traveling and I can make it to Vancouver if I need to.  I want to thank you for reminding me why I’ve had no desire to see a domme in the first place.  Have a great time in that fantasy world of yours where low lifes lick your boots.  Sounds very fulfilling–your parents must be so proud. 

NOTE: My parents are actually very proud of me & yes, they know what I do…but it’s interesting that so many people fall back on that insult. I hope in the future a person can freely choose to do adult work without the stigma that’s attached to it. Here’s a great article about this topic…I’d really like all of you to read it:

So, fellow Dommes out there…beware of a guy requesting a ‘motherly’ ballbusting session (1 testicle, in Denver). He’s a nutter.

For the rest of you, for the love of fucking god, tell me what city you are inquiring about when you write about meeting me. I live in Vancouver. I go to the UK a couple times of year. Other than that my travel is random & I don’t “tour”…so no, I’m not randomly going to be in Michigan, Toronto, Italy or Argentina.

Don't be fooled by cute-ness!

Don’t be fooled by cute-ness!

Mistress T

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Small Penis’s

I found this great documentary about small penis’s. It’s meant to be serious and I think it would be very helpful  for any man who feels his penis isn’t big enough.

If ‘small penis humiliation’ is a turn-on for you (yes it is a fetish) this documentary provides endless moments that you’ll love to jerk off to.

Here’s the 1st documentary called “My Penis and I” :

And the follow up documentary “My Penis and Everyone Else’s” :

I do ‘small penis humiliation’ vids. Otherwise known as SPH. Why do guys want to jerk off to me laughing at their penis and humiliating them for being inadequate lovers? It’s a form of ‘Erotic Humiliation’.  Although men are often considered visual creatures who just think with their dicks, the brain does play a huge part in the sexual arousal for most men, believe it or not *smile*.  Humiliation, degradation and shame are hot buttons for a lot of people and generalizing where this comes from or why is pointless. Does it start with something that happened in childhood? As a teen? Maybe, everyone has their own story and some men don’t know how it started, they just know they get turned on by being humiliated. I’ve even received emails from fans who say they have an average or larger than average dick and they still love to jerk off to my SPH vids.

Our beloved Wikipedia has a little more to say:

You can search the category ‘small penis humiliation’ on my clips4sale PPV store:

If you like to read, I recommend Literotica’s list of erotic stories including SPH:

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Dick Too Small To Fuck