A cuddling service makes sense!


I’ve worked in the adult biz for nearly 10 years in various roles. I’ve met many MANY other ladies in various types of adult work over the years. What I’ve learned is that a lot of clients are lonely & craving human contact. It’s not always about the orgasm. It’s not always about fucking or getting beaten/humiliated, etc. A lot of guys just want to talk, to be touched in any way, to have a connection. It doesn’t even matter if the guys are married as often they’ve become distant from their partner.

There’s a lady in Victoria BC who is doing a booming business in “cuddling”. I applaud her. Here’s the article: http://metronews.ca/news/vancouver/1229047/b-c-woman-offers-cuddling-sessions-for-60-an-hour/

I have no doubt she’s flooded with business & I hope more women will read this article & consider starting their own similar business. I understand that prostitution laws vary in different places (prostitution is legal in Canada…even though what this woman is doing is non-sexual in a different country a cuddling service may fall under that category. I can’t speak to that.)

Here’s why I hope more women will do this:

A. It makes the world a better place. Human connection makes happier people. Happier people make a better world. (I know, hippie-talk, but science backs this up.)

B. It’s an easy & satisfying way for a woman to make some extra money.

Safety issues aside…meeting in public first & taking precautions is good. Sex worker safety has been much debated & is a whole other topic but I’ll say a few things: The most dangerous sex work is street based (desperate, drug-addicted street walkers are more vulnerable). Mid to high end sex workers who screen clients & work out of a safe space rarely deal with violence. The non-sex-work world is far more dangerous in comparison (online dating/meeting people in bars/actual partners. Yeah, the highest incident of violence against women is by their own partners or date rape. Guys they know, not “Johns”.)

For guys looking for this service try asking any service provider (escort or yup, even Dommes). It doesn’t hurt to ask. Respect the answer. For sure a lot of Dommes will tell you to sod off, but some will see it as an easy session. Don’t expect a discount off of the usual rates. Most providers charge for their time, not the service but you can ask politely: “I would really just like a cuddle session please. No sexual contact. Would that be the same rate?”

Another tip for the fella’s (& a tip to the ladies to communicate to any fella): BE CLEAN! That means you have washed head to toe & in all crevices within the last few hours using hot water, soap & shampoo. Do not wear cologne or strong scents. Be wearing clean cloths. Bring clean, dry socks if you have a foot odor issue. Brush your teeth AND tongue & don’t eat an onion & garlic sandwich on your way over. If the lady asks you to shower or use mouth wash before your session: DO IT, even if you just did it an hour ago. Some women ask this of every client regardless. Respect that.

Last tip to all the cuddlers out there: fucking enjoy it! Give yourself over to it. Breath deep & steady. Relax. Physical human contact is healthy for your mind & body. It’s like a spa treatment.

Cuddle on!

Mistress T

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Oral sex?

MistressT fetish goddess asslicking ass worship

I know you want to be him, but cool your engines & read this before emailing me begging to lick me…

I get a lot of emails from guys wanting to lick my ass and/or pussy. So I decided to make a blog post on the topic so I can just email this link rather than explaining over & over.

If you’re not a reader, the short answer is: “No”. But if you’re interested in more info please read on…

If you know my story from the beginning you’ll know that I started out doing no-contact voyeur shows/masturbation shows where the guy could jerk himself off while watching me…because although I was excited by being an exhibitionist & enjoyed naughty play I wasn’t comfortable actually having sex in that situation. I didn’t like the idea of feeling obligated to have sex with a guy just because he had paid me. From voyeur shows I transitioned to Pro Domme work & I followed the so-called traditional rules of Professional Domination (no intercourse, no oral sex, no hand jobs) & that was fine but they weren’t MY rules and over time I adjusted the rules to suit me (occasionally requiring oral service from regular clients I felt comfortable with, for example.) I even ended up in a long term relationship with someone who started out as a client.

At one point I decided that I couldn’t be sure ‘escort work’ wasn’t for me unless I tried it so I gave it a go & after about a half dozen clients my curiosity was satisfied. I simply do not enjoy being in a situation where I am obligated to have intercourse or oral sex with someone because they have paid me…when it’s my job to provide that service. All sex work is providing a service to a certain extent, even traditional Pro Domme work (you are exchanging a service for money). I am naturally Dominant & a control freak. There are limits to how “service-oriented” I can be before I hit a wall.

Hand jobs tho? I love giving hand jobs & I have no issue with that. But that’s my hand vs. my vagina, so that’s understandable. It’s certainly a lot more intimate for someone to touch my vagina or anus than my HAND touching them.

I know some people see my vids and get the impression that I do everything with anyone. BUT the men I’m intimate with in my vids are men that I am very familiar with. Often they are my own personal lovers. Sometimes friends or clients I’ve had for years. Sometimes they are slaves that have served one of my fellow Dommes for a long time, making them more comfortable to be with.

If you’re reading this & trying to figure out how you can get between my legs…it’s not impossible but it’s unlikely if that is your only selfish goal. You can pay for my time in private to get acquainted or if you have value as a film slave, you can apply…but don’t try to date me. I’m running a business. Respect that. Sure, I have been in a relationship with someone who started as a client (although that was 1 out of hundreds, so the odds aren’t in your favor)…but I have NEVER gone on a date (with no compensation) with someone who has started as a fan of Mistress T. Guys looking for free play greatly offend me.

So to recap:

– I don’t offer “escort” type sessions (intercourse or oral sex for pay). That means no oral worship, no direct contact between your mouth, hands or penis & my vagina or anus. By the way, prostitution is legal where I live so this is not a legal disclaimer, it’s real.

– Hand jobs are fine (along with strap-on, role-play, humiliation, foot worship, golden showers, ballbusting, spanking, sissy play/X-dressing & a few other things.)

– My social rate is $100/hour & I LOVE meeting fans! We can go for lunch or dinner…a walk, shopping, to the theater, parties, whatever. I’m a social chameleon.

– My private session rates vary depending on details but nothing in private happens for less than $300 the first time. I am very selective about who I see in private & rarely accept sessions these days. I’m pretty busy creating all the amazing content you love to jerk off to! I do need to eat though so you’re welcome to take me for a meal (at $100/hr social rate) & discuss the possibility of a private session.

Mistress T

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Paying for sex…

This post is all about ME paying for sex (not men paying me to have sex with them).


I’ve long had a fascination of paying for sex. It felt dirty & exciting. In my early 20’s I had a very handsome boyfriend who would play along with one of my fantasies. I liked to imagine that I was a very wealthy woman who attended a high society party where the individuals who were ‘for rent’ sexually wore a certain flower. You could arrange to have the person of your choice join you in your room during or after the party to service your intimate needs.

During sex I would have my boyfriend act professional, polite & service oriented. I would have him say: “Is that the way you like it Ma’am?”


I have had a variety of occasions to pay for sexual services from both males & females for myself & partners. A Lithuanian prostitute in the red light district in Amsterdam. A high end prostitute in Mendoza, Argentina & a lower end gal in a brothel in Buenos Aires. (In Amsterdam & Argentina I paid for prostitutes to fuck men while I watched.) I’ve paid male service providers for massages with hand releases for myself (rub n’ tug). Etc.

As some of you know, I have filmed almost exclusively with volunteers, fans & personal lovers. I have never paid male talent for my site but I have had the pleasure of working with them for other production companies. I felt that when it came to submissive men it just went against the authenticity to pay them. I’ve received some back lash for that but the show has gone on….I have done just fine with this business model…but then I decided to try something new.

It occurred to me that I am in the position to fuck the men who are the porn Gods of the day. The men that most men want to be. The men that most women want to fuck. I am not just a porn performer who has to fuck who ever the producer tells me to fuck, I am also the producer, in full control of everything & I can fuck whoever I choose.

It was an amazingly powerful feeling when it dawned on me that all I have to do is contact whoever I wanted to fuck & just set up a paid shoot. I get what I want PLUS it’s for business so I’ll make that money back.

With that sense of power coursing through me I thought: “If I could fuck ANY man, who would it be?” Shane Diesel, the biggest black cock in porn, a true professional with a great reputation. Now that’s going to happen. This week!

In a conversation with another female porn producer she told me that she likes paying male talent because then she knows she’s going to get exactly what she wants. Now that’s FemDom.

So it’s with great excitement & a bit of nervousness that I prepare for this occasion. I bought really good lube today, for example. I also had to decide whether to do the scene with him just POV (just the 2 of us) or with a cuckold. Having a cuckold in the scene is always a gamble. The energy between 3 people doesn’t always work. My priority is to have great sex with Shane. This is for me. I’m going to need to be relaxed & comfortable to take that huge cock safely. Dealing with another guy might be distracting. So even though the vid might sell a little better with a cuckold I decided to make all of you my cuckold. As you watch the vid you can imagine you are right there, seeing what you can’t give me.

So I’m paying for sex really & I’m very okay with that. I admit that I like the idea of it being a guys job to fuck me properly. In my head I will likely be playing out fantasies of being a high society lady who pays for sexual services and/or the owner of a plantation (you know where I’m heading with that one.)


To add to the hotness my current boy toy is really into cuckolding & black bulls. He won’t be accompanying me this time but it’s is hot knowing there is an authentic cuckold I’m close with these days who is very horny about me fucking a black porn star he’s idolized for years. It’s refreshing to be involved with a guy who loves & supports all the kinky stuff I’m into.

So, wish me luck! xo

Mistress T

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