Jian Ghomeshi: Rough Sex vs. Assault

Posted on November 4, 2014 by Mistress T

Jian Ghomeshi

In case you don’t know who Jian Ghomeshi is he’s the CBC broadcaster who was recently fired over assault allegations. He made a very public Facebook post defending himself & it has been all over the news for the last week.

Several women allege that he hit them with a closed fist or open hand; choked them with his hands around their neck to the point that they almost passed out; covered their nose and mouth so that they had difficulty breathing; and verbally abused them before, during, and after sex acts. The women have said that they did not consent to this behavior.

Ghomeshi said it was “consensual”. He admits to being into rough sex.

Most say this is not a conversation about kinky sex, it’s a conversation about assault. I tend to agree but since I’m in the fetish scene I’m going to focus on the kink angle.

If Ghomeshi has alternative sexual interests, like cross-dressers, foot fetishists, pony boys, diaper play fans, etc…it can be challenging to find partners to play out fantasies with. Ghomeshi admits to being into rough sex. It sounds like he likes to choke, smother & slap around his partners for sexual jollies. This is actually only a problem when the partner does not consent to that & isn’t into it (or if he takes it too far….um, “closed fists” might be too far dude)….but THIS is the part a lot of people will have a hard time with: there are women who really get off on that kind of play. They are out there. I bet Ghomeshi has even found a few, maybe even introduced this kind of play to a few women who didn’t even know they liked it.

It’s a complicated issue. Especially if his fetish hinges on the women NOT being into it…then that’s just straight up assault. But what if he’s just been really bad at finding like-minded sex partners….and/or really bad at negotiating the parameters of a rough sex ‘scene’?

So to be clear, yes, I am a women saying that some women would want this kind of rough sex…in fact, if Ghomeshi doesn’t end up in prison I bet he’ll never have to look very far to find cooperative bed buddies again. Sure, most women will hate him for being a scum bag woman beater…personally I see a possibility that it was a little left of that. I see a man with sexual urges he was unable to control, a man who did not respect women enough to ensure he had their clear consent for rough play & a man who took things too far. So a weak, stupid man. A man who did not know how to get his kinks fulfilled in a healthy way. Possibly a man with some other issues…but I’m not a therapist, again, I’m focusing mainly on the kink angle here.

So for us in the kink community here are the take-away lessons:

– It’s never okay to physically hurt another person without their explicit consent and boundaries discussed & agreed upon.

– Even if you are playing the submissive role you must speak up if you are not okay with what is happening (and/or ensure boundaries were clearly discussed before). Sex games aside you must take care of yourself & assert your right to be respected.

None of us are mind readers. Communicate!

This is an excellent unbiased new article with all the facts (updated today):

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/the-jian-ghomeshi-scandal-what-we-know-so-far/article21379820/

Side note: A lot of the coverage on this issue is about creating a safe place for victims of violence and sexual harassment to come forward. I am in complete support of that & mean no disrespect to any potential victims. I have chosen to take a closer look at one aspect of this situation with a BDSM perspective.

Best,
Mistress T

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A special re-connection…

Posted on October 20, 2014 by Mistress T

Looking back…

Way back when I was a new Pro Domme I had a house boy nicknamed “Puppy”. We had an amazingly comfortable & delightful relationship. I didn’t know then how lucky I was. I have since realized that most so-called house boys end up being high-maintenance, drama-plagued disappointments.

Puppy was anything but a disappointment. He tried really hard to please me in every way & he usually achieved that goal. He was a pleasure to have around but after several months of excellent service his work took him away & he sadly left me.

I was never able to replace him & eventually gave up on house boys & personal servants all together. I remembered him fondly but didn’t hear from him for years.

Last week I received this email:

Hi Mistress T,

You will have to search your memory banks to remember me and I hope that your memories might be fond ones. You named me ‘puppy’ and I was your service slave for some time when you were first starting out as a professional Dominatrix.
I saw you recently at a fetish event and I wanted to say ‘hi’ but not surprisingly you were always surrounded by people. I was not sure if you would remember me after so long and did not want make you feel awkward if I walked up and you did not remember me.

I never said so this in your presence because I always got tongue tied but you are the most intelligent, graceful, articulate, thoughtful, funny, creative and all around amazing woman that I have ever had the honor of knowing. You are also one of the most honorable, ethical and integrity filled people that I have ever met and I have had the good fortune to know lots of quality people in my life. You always conducted yourself with grace and class and I have always admired all of those traits in you even after I was no longer serving you.

Thank you for teaching me all that you did. And thank you for your patience with my many mistakes. I delighted in pleasing you with my cooking. I loved the idea that putting meals in your freezer was helping to take care of you, not that you needed to be taken care of, but simply as a symbol of my devotion.

I don’t really know why it has taken me this long to have the balls to contact you and say ‘hello’. I understand if you are too busy and/or have no interest in returning my email. I am happy with the simple thought that this email might please you or bring even a brief smile to that beautiful face of yours.

Even if I do not hear back from you I wish you continued success in all you do. Though that is really a given with your talent and intelligence. I hope that your life is filled with much love, peace and happiness.

Your puppy

I was delighted to receive this email, naturally. As I mentioned, he served me in the beginning when I was still figuring things out. A lot has happened in the last eight years. I invited him to join me at a fetish event Saturday night. I received this email after:

Dearest Mistress T,

It was absolutely wonderful to see you last night. I really enjoyed reconnecting with you again. Thank you for your kind words and for graciously allowing me to dance with you and your slave. Somehow you have grown even more charming, witty, graceful and beautiful than I remembered. Trust me when I say that is no mean feat.

I truly hold you in the highest regard. Not just because you are ‘kinkyasfuck’. But simply as a human being who has the courage to live life honestly and on her own terms.

With much affection,
puppy

I’m not sure yet what place puppy might hold in my life in the future but it’s nice to have him back & it would be nice to have him around. We’ll see. So many slaves, fans & clients have come & gone over the years. Some have stuck around but the nature of the business is that there are many single-serving relationships. It really means something to me to have longer term relationships.

Speaking of long-term vs. short-term…I’m excited to see one of my longest running, most devoted slaves in Orlando just before Christmas! He has been with me for years & we’ve followed each others ups & downs…the relationship is strong & mutually fulfilling. He’s taking me to Disney & I’m SO looking forward to it!

At this point I plan to only see him during my stay but if I end up with any free time I’ll contact those who have applied to be on an Orlando contact list (email: MsT@MistressT.net with “Orlando” in the subject line.)
Best,
Mistress T

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Film Slave Application

Posted on October 14, 2014 by Mistress T

I get a lot of emails from guys hoping to be in my films. So here’s all the info you need to apply correctly (Note: Who? What? Where? When?):

1. LOCATION! (Where?) I am only planning to film in Vancouver starting April 2016 for the foreseeable future. I am not filming at all until then & I have no plans to travel anywhere else & film at this time. So if you are not in Vancouver or willing/able to come to Vancouver there is no need to apply.

(Do not email asking if I’m coming to Denver, Germany, Boston, Toronto, Dubai or anywhere else to film. I travel a lot but I don’t film all over the world. If you can’t come to me but you can afford to pay all my expenses to come to you, then maybe, but I don’t “tour” & it’s highly unlikely I will randomly be in your city. I do not have plans to return to the UK at this time.)

2. PICS. (Who?) You should never send an unsolicited “dick pic” to anyone…but if you’re seriously applying to be a film slave I need to know what you look like. But not just your dick: your whole nude torso with erect penis. I prefer fit guys with big cocks for most of my films but there are certain roles where other body types & penis sizes are used. Face pic optional.

3. WHAT? List what you would be useful for in a film/what you’re into. Here’s what I would be most interested in:

-really big dicks that produce big loads of cum (for FemDom Fetish Handjobs)

-guys that can take big strap-ons

-cross-dressings/sissy’s

-forced bi guys who will suck or get sucked by a dude

-ballbusting guys

4. WHEN? If you’re coming to Vancouver: when? If you live here: what days/evenings are you available? (Again, I won’t be filming until April 2016)

Note that everyone appearing in my films must be over 18, sign a model release & be photographed holding their photo ID next to their face (whether you show your face in the vid or not).

I have more film slaves than I need right now so if you’re not accepted but you want to book a private session, that’s also an option. Some of my film slaves started out as private session guys.

Recap: When you email me be brief & include the “WHO? (pic) – WHAT (activities/roles) – WHEN (dates?) – WHERE (Specify Vancouver)”

Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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Forced Bi: Myth or Real?

Posted on October 10, 2014 by Mistress T

Glory hole forced cock sucking! Mistress T & Amica Bentley.

Why do I ask if it’s a myth? Well, I have long made jokes about guys who ask to be made to suck cock…accusing them of just being cowardly bisexuals who needed a nudge to cross that line.

A mountain of personal experience is finally starting to convince me that straight guys DO exist who have no interest in gay activities without a female present. They have no desire to hook up with a guy online, go to a gay bathhouse, get drunk with a buddy & play hide the salami, watch gay porn, etc. They absolutely require a female they’re attracted to there…preferably in control & encouraging them to put that penis in their mouth…or lick those balls/ass, eat that cum, etc.

It’s like a FemDom version of ‘Bobbing For Apples’!

These days we are certainly learning that sexuality is not black & white. Gay, straight, bisexaul, pansexual, gay-situational, male, female, transgender, sissy, kinky, vanilla, Dom, sub, switch…on & on.

So folks, it’s complicated. It’s unfortunate that we get locked into labels & our feelings about those labels. I know many guys are really conflicted & confused about aspects of their sexuality. They really love women & are only attracted to women…yet really want to feel a dick in their mouth…maybe as an act of submission to the larger cock that gets to fuck the female of their desire (talking about a cuckolding scenario here).

Whatever the deep psychology of it is (I’m not really a therapist, I just play one in weird porn movies) I have met enough straight guys who want to suck dick (for me or with a woman present) to know they do exist. I can no longer deny it. Or mock it, as I’ve been known to do with a lot of eye-rolling, implying they were just closeted bisexuals who needed a shove.

So let your freak flag fly if you’re one of those guys…or whatever kind of freak you are. Thanks to the internet you can find others like you. The more we accept & even celebrate our differences the sooner we can ruin the hotness of feeling like we’re into some dark, twisted, taboo stuff that makes us a secret pervert, like a super hero secret. Wait, what did I just say? Yeah, that’s the flip side of all this information sharing…there was a time when secret inclinations explored on the down-low was a major part of what made it sexy. Overall I think it’s better for things to be out in the open…but there is a part of me that misses the days when I first started to explore kinky stuff & thought I was special. When I felt a bit of shame for being so perverted. Like chasing the dragon, you can never go back to your first time.

On that note…if you’re into Forced Bi stuff it’s a genre I’ve done a lot in. Why? Because it sells like crazy! Obviously there’s a huge demand for it. But also because I really enjoy it. A lot of women watch gay male porn or get aroused seeing two guys gettin’ freaky. I also get a thrill pushing men to do extreme things FOR ME, especially if it’s their first time. Hey, I can’t get a lot of my “first times” back (remember the chasing the dragon thing?) so I live vicariously through my puppets who experience new kinky things at my hands.

You can search “Forced Bi” on my clips store but I don’t use the word ‘forced’ on my members site (the payment processor doesn’t like it) so I call it ‘encouraged bi’…which really is more accurate anyway. The search function on my site works great:

See the handy search field there? “Encouraged Bi” will lead you to all my “Forced Bi” stuff since I can’t use the word “Forced” on my site.

You can see the search field on my clips store too…you can also search the category “Forced Bi”.

xo
Mistress T

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Jerk Off To Improve Sex

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Mistress T

Trust me, I’m a professional…

A lot of my fans are chronic masturbators…jerking off at least a couple times a day to porn. Orgasms are really good for you, medically & mentally. It reduces your chances of getting prostate cancer, reduces stress, etc. So let’s talk about masturbating BETTER! Specifically how to masturbate to have better sex (if you get the opportunity).

1. Make sure your dick will be ready to fuck a real pussy! If your dick only knows your hand & you jerk the same way every time you may struggle to keep your boner or to ejaculate when it’s “business time”.

Experiment with lighter grips & hand positions/use your other hand. Don’t always do exactly the same thing.

Masturbate while wearing a condom! (I’m told this is called a “Posh Wank” in the UK). Get your dick used to fucking with a rubber (often free at clinics).

Get a Fleshlight or other masturbation device that feels more like a vagina. You can shop on the internet discreetly for that stuff or your local sex shop.

Or make your own home made one! I googled “DIY masturbation device” and found this helpful article, I’m sure there’s more (Feel free to comment below if you have a DIY tip to share): http://www.literotica.com/s/homemade-pussy-device

That DIY (do-it-yourself) article reminded me of when I was a horny, resourceful teen. I made an ‘insertable’ by wrapping tissues around the neck of a wine bottle (to make it softer & more life-like) & securing a condom over it with an elastic band. Yup, I was THAT serious about safe sex. Ha ha:-)

2. Build a better orgasm AND learn orgasm control by ‘edging’ yourself. Bring yourself close to orgasm then ease off…let it build again & just before you ejaculate, ease off or stop…repeat several times (or for hours!) before finally enjoying a powerful release. This will help you have more control if you do have sex with a woman (no one likes a minute man!)

3. Try different things. It’s okay to like what ya like…but experiment with variations of what you like. This will help you keep a boner & ejaculate at the right time when in situations other than just that one specific way you’re used it. You can watch different porn, or hell, use your imagination once in a while (worst advice ever from a smut peddler, eh?)…Try sitting, standing, laying down, in the shower, maybe sneak one off at work or in the car (don’t get caught).

That should keep you busy for awhile. Remember, sex takes practice and your biggest sex organ is your brain. That means if you’re nervous you might find your penis not behaving as you like. There’s a lot more to sex then just intercourse…like touching, kissing, massage, teasing…You always have a mouth & if you learn to lick pussy like a champ your lady won’t mind if it takes your dick awhile to catch up.

Best,
Mistress T

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The thrill of exposure

Posted on September 3, 2014 by Mistress T

As you can imagine, I get a whole lot of interesting mail. Lots of confessions. Sometimes I’m the only one who knows the darkest secrets certain men hold.

Well, not this one: “Stef” is all about the exposure. He wants the world to know that he’s a dirty, cock-loving little fag boy. This is not a drunken whim, Stef has been emailing me consistently for weeks begging for this, he has paid me to do this and I’m not the first Domme he’s done this with. So, without further adieu I present Stef’s filthy pics & excerpts from his emails to me. Some of you may find this fascinating…and if you find it arousing & want to do the same, by all means contact me, prepared to pay for the privilege.

Stef: “I hope to make a movie with you, i dream of your strapon in my ass :). I’m really serious when i invite you in Montpellier (one oh the best town in France said the New York Times!)”

Well Stef, I just might do that. I love France.

Stef: “In virtual: i would like to be denounced as a homosexual. be exposed on internet. You know i play the straight man in normal life, girls are looking at me. i had a girlfriend 2years ago but she discovered that i had sucked cock and offered my ass to men while i was with her because she saw pics on my cell phone. she insulted me, i was humiliated but she didn’t imagine all the things i did (wearing her panties or clothes and being fucked by men like that). So she left me and since this time, i went to gay bar more and more.
I’ve seen her 1 month before because i had some things to her since we were together. this day i weared a tight pants but she didn’t talk about it, i don’t know if she guesses that i’m addict to cocks now..”

Stef: “Please expose me as the pathetic lyer i was. I used an innocent girl in order to protect my social reputation of “straight man”. But i’m not a man anymore, don’t u think? While she was at work, i cheated. She didn’t understand why i was touching her less and less. She couldn’t imagine that her “Camille” was a bastard who was craving cocks more than her pussy. Close to the end of our relationship, i was becoming more and more impotent. For example, one evening she called me and invited me to join her in her apartment. I came and she was wearing sexy clothes, she was gorgeous and she wanted to have sex with me. But my dick stayed soft and she was disappointed. She didn’t know that, during all the afternoon she was working, my ass was pounding by 3 men who chummed inside me like the real whore i am.”

To the rest of my readers…use the comments section to share your opinions on this sort of thing. Are you interested in reading about another guy’s exploits/experiences? Does his exposure do anything for you? Or is this sort of exposure a completely selfish act for ol’ Stef…who no one really gives a damn about anyway? Thoughts?

If you want to follow or communicate with Stef here’s his twitter account:

https://twitter.com/Subqueer (Stef Queer Bitch)

Best,
Mistress T

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I’m a lousy Financial Domme

Posted on July 30, 2014 by Mistress T

FetishCon 2013 with Meggerx, ceara & Mistress T.

Meggerz, Ceara & I…feet up, drink in hand…

I have a great respect for the ladies who succeed at Financial Domination. It’s a legitimate fetish and it takes skill to be good at it. I know there are literally thousands of gals out there who think it’s as easy as sticking out their palm & saying “Pay me, pig!” Well, it isn’t. I’ve had some enlightening conversations with some of the best FinDoms in the world, including my dear friends Ceara Lynch and Meggerz.

As I will soon be enjoying a luxurious trip paid for in full by Meggerz financial slave I thought it would be humorous to list ta few ways I’ve failed over the years as a Financial Domme. Hey, ya can’t be good at everything, eh!

– A pay pig once took me shopping for a purse. He took me to Coach (designer purses costing hundreds of dollars) but I couldn’t find what I wanted so I dragged him sulking to Aldo where he reluctantly bought me a $30 purse I wanted (& I used quite a bit!)

– A guy who used to like to show off how wealthy he was sent me dozens of pairs of high end designer shoes. He was pissed when I sent him back the ones that didn’t fit. I thought I was being considerate? *sigh* Canadians.

– A client once gave me a Louis Vuitton purse. I gave it to a girlfriend because I don’t like to put my valuables in a bag that has so much value someone might steal it. He was insulted.

– That same client gave me a gorgeous coat with a real fur collar. I gave it away too. I would only wear fur if it was vintage…and even then I’d feel bad about it.

– a rich fan once paid me to fly to another city to go on a date with him. He over-paid me $1000 and told me I could keep it. I sent it back to him anyway…(but he wouldn’t accept it so it got returned to me again.)

– I’m really bad at spending time on webcam/skype. While I’m not there guys send me dozens of messages begging for me to come on cam, offering generous tributes…these would be horny guys ripe for the picking (I guess?) yet…I still rarely bother with webcam.

Hey, it’s not that I don’t like money. Sure, I don’t like designer purses, obviously…but money is good. It’s security for me as I’m a saver, not a spender. Yet the Financial Slaves & I just don’t usually click. What ever it is they’re looking for, I don’t have it. I’m okay with that.

For more information on Financial Domination, google it or see this explanation: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_financial_domination

Best,
Mistress T

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Name & shame…sort of.

Posted on July 22, 2014 by Mistress T

“Why would you NOT mention WHERE you want to meet me??? Why?!”

Avid readers of my blog probably know that geography is important to me when it comes to inquiries to meet…yet many of the inquiries (for private sessions or film slave applications) make no reference to a location. It’s frustrating to read a long email, to reply asking for the city & have the response be some obscure place I’ve never been, have no plans to go to & the applicant has no intention of coming to meet me.

Below is an example of such a communication that happens frequently EXCEPT this is also an example of a clearly mentally unstable person who seemed fine at first & then goes psycho. I don’t need to post this persons email address because what he requests is so specific & unique any Domme reading this will remember it & never accept a session with this hateful, unbalanced person.

Greetings Mistress T,

I’ll save you the long and overly articulated email, as it states you desire in your blog.

–I have never seen a mistress before, but your beauty is too spellbinding to resist.
–I’m deeply into ballbusting as I had a testicle removed as a baby, and it fucked my head all up as a child.
–I desire a caring, or “motherly” type of approach to ballbusting; I’m not into humiliation or abuse, but rather affectionate and sympathetic infliction of testicular pain.
— That being said, I would still happily comply with the requirements you have set for your clients: addressing you as you desire, me being addressed as you desire, etc.

Do my desires fit within your style for a ballbusting session? What is a “donation” for a session like this?

Thanks much,

NOTE: He sounds great in his first email. He mentions that he reads my blog …but I guess he missed the parts where I harp on about guys not communicating clearly by telling me WHERE they want to meet me. So I respond with:

$x for x minutes in Vancouver…if that’s where you’re hoping to see me?

Best,
Mistress T

Mistress T,

I saw that you’re in Vancouver (beautiful city!), and I was hoping you might have a travel schedule, as I’m in Denver. Though if you are stay put in Vancouver, then I might have to plan a trip. Although if I do that, considering travel and lodging, I might have to go the on-camera model route, if that’s of interest to you. Otherwise, I’m in Vegas quite a bit, if you’re ever there.

NOTE: Now I’m annoyed. I’m not going to Denver or Vegas in the foreseeable future. IF he comes to Vancouver he won’t be able to afford to pay for a session. So maybe I should have just not responded but I think the question is valid…so I asked:
“Why would you have not mentioned location in your 1st email?”

That’s all I wrote. Just that question. At which points he shows another side to himself:

Christ you mistresses are all the same. Are you even human? What the hell’s the difference? I do a lot of traveling and I can make it to Vancouver if I need to. I want to thank you for reminding me why I’ve had no desire to see a domme in the first place. Have a great time in that fantasy world of yours where low lifes lick your boots. Sounds very fulfilling–your parents must be so proud.

NOTE: My parents are actually very proud of me & yes, they know what I do…but it’s interesting that so many people fall back on that insult. I hope in the future a person can freely choose to do adult work without the stigma that’s attached to it. Here’s a great article about this topic…I’d really like all of you to read it: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/what-i-want-to-know-is-why-you-hate-porn-stars/Content?oid=19094602

So, fellow Dommes out there…beware of a guy requesting a ‘motherly’ ballbusting session (1 testicle, in Denver). He’s a nutter.

For the rest of you, for the love of fucking god, tell me what city you are inquiring about when you write about meeting me. I live in Vancouver. I go to the UK a couple times of year. Other than that my travel is random & I don’t “tour”…so no, I’m not randomly going to be in Michigan, Toronto, Italy or Argentina.

Don’t be fooled by cute-ness!

Mistress T

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Fans say the darndest things…

Posted on July 20, 2014 by Mistress T

I think the look on my face says it all…

Here’s a peek into my mail bag…not a day goes by that I don’t read something in my email or twitter that causes me to screw up my face, roll my eyes or say out loud: “What the fuck?!”.

These are quotes from emails & my reaction to them:

From a fan in India: “i just thought if you can make me come to the US by a job visa or by the way of romance, or you can find me a place to work with you… I will thank you. “

~ Um, no. Firstly, I’m a Canadian living in Canada & secondly: no.

From a fan trying to bait/manipulate me into catering to his fetish for small penis humiliation: “Hello mistress!
I was wondering if you could tell me if I have a small penis or not?”

~ *tumble weeds blowing through his inbox as he sits waiting for a response that’s never coming*

“Ive been in chastity for a while now and I think its shrunk :l”

~ Who cares?
“I want full ownership by the most beautiful Domme who ever walked the earth!!!
Beat me, bind me, cuck me, Torture my cock and balls any way you wish, make me a sissy-slut too!!!
I am totally straight, but I would suffer the humiliation of faggotry for you!!!”

~ Ah yes, yet another “straight” guy begging me to “make” him suck cock…and ordering me to do stuff to him. Hot? Not.

“I am so desperate to lick your ass and swallow your farts because it is my oxygen.”

~ No it’s not.

“I think it is hot when you work with black men and do some things in public. I could even fly you places to work with allot of black men you like and cover all expenses.”

~ Fantasy & reality are not the same thing buddy.

“I would also love to see you take an SUV on a public road and pull over and jump on the gear shift riding it to one incredible orgasm.”

~ What about me would make you think I would be interested in fucking a vehicle?

“Why would a stunning young lady like your self be empressed with a battered up boxer like me. But I want to keep fighting 4 u sweetie. I love the thought of taking painfull face punches and suffering the pain while I think of u during a fight and the thought that your all relaxed with your adorable sexy size 4 feet up. And the fear before the fight. I want to take pain for u misstress T. I’m a sadist as u can realise.”

~ This is actually kind of impressive…”Fight Club” is one of my favorite movies…keep up the good work Boxer!

“My Penis gets very Hard & Erect & I am willing to let you practice your Fellatio & Hand Job with it, in exchange for Lessons.”

~ Haa haaaa ha! You’ll let me PRACTICE giving blow jobs on your penis?! Oh, SO generous.

From a new film slave: “omg..I am such a lucky boy! I wish I could do so much more Mistress T, you have really impacted me in the short time that Ive spent around you. I mean I obviously was very familiar with you long before getting the honor of meeting you and being a film slave and honestly my thoughts have been so completely consumed with thoughts of you. I know I am just a prop, film slave and I love it! but for me, this opportunity has created such a buzz within me.. “

~ Okay, that’s actually very sweet…and a nice way to end things today.

Best,
Mistress T

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What’s your story?

Posted on June 15, 2014 by Mistress T

I had an interesting conversation with someone this week who has a theory that many of those who are into certain fetish or BDSM activities are subconsciously trying to heal old wounds.

What are you into? And WHY?

I have specific examples of clients who developed their fetishes based on things that happened when they were young. Not always a negative event, but sometimes. I often ask kinksters who cross my path how they got into what they’re into. I’ve heard many fascinating stories. For example: There is certainly a common theme of guys into humiliation having endured a lot of bullying, rejection or humiliation when they were younger.

Many people say that a person’s sexuality is “hard wired” implying they’re born that way…which I believe is true about sexual orientation, but not so much about fetishes. I don’t think you’re born with a foot fetish, for example. Something usually triggers it. Maybe a hot babysitter making you sniff her dirty feet as punishment at just the right age.

Sometimes one thing leads to another…an interest in being verbally humiliated by women leads to humiliating activities like licking mud off of boots, eating cum, or even more painful activities like getting kicked in the balls. Sometimes the fetishist keeps seeking a greater high or thrill in being humiliated or bullied by women. Sometimes they get ideas from surfing porn on the internet. In an aroused state they stumble across something new & ka-pow, now THAT does it for them too. So one should really go way back to the beginning & try to find the root of the fetish. How it all began. I encourage you all to do that if you haven’t done so already.

I’ve also been watching a show called The Shield and there’s a scene where a straight male cop is made to suck cock at gun point. He’s really messed up by the event and eventually finds himself aroused by rape, then plays out rape fantasies with an escort. It seems for him this is a kind of therapy, a way of processing what happened to him. The timing was interesting for me as it came in the same week as this conversation about healing old wounds through kink play.

I’m a big advocate of acceptance & whatever happens with or between consenting adults is fine. It doesn’t really matter how you got into what you’re into as long as no one is getting hurt (against their will). Being self aware is good and knowing that you’re not alone. I’m pretty sure people who are ONLY into vanilla sex are the minority & the majority of people have at least somewhat deviant fantasies. It doesn’t mean you’re broken, but it can be interesting to figure out how you became the way you are. I encourage you to make a comment here & share your story with your community.

Best,
Mistress T

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