Who am I to you?

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I’ve had a lot of time to think here in Thailand. I basically just do yoga, eat, sleep, write and do a few other fun things. It’s the longest I’ve gone without filming or editing. I have an auto-responder on my email so I just check it occasionally for anything urgent that my auto-response doesn’t address.

My life is usually about 70% Mistress T. (Anyone who runs their own business will understand) Right now it’s about 10% Mistress T.

I haven’t told a single person in a month what I do for work. I realized last night when I met someone new and told the white lie of being a video editor. I haven’t had to explain what my bizarre job is or lie about it in weeks. People here are less about ‘what do you  do back home?’ and more about ‘what are you doing here right now?’.

It’s interesting to me that to thousands of men I am just Mistress T. That they only see me as the cruel cuckoldress, the holder of chastity keys, the ass-fucker, the woman who makes men suck cock, the kinky MILF, the strict Dominatrix, the ball-buster, the one who controls orgasms, makes men submit…that to some men I am only Mistress T.

I see you. The jerker-offer. I see you eating your own cum. I see you sticking toys in your ass watching my vids, imagining it’s my strap-on. I see you following my instructions and cumming on command. I see you and I know that is not all that you are. I know that after you cum you might have to get back to work, back to your wife, back to your sick mother, back to your favourite video game or TV show. I know that some of you are lonely and some of you are extremely busy. Some of you wrestle with religion and your desires. Some of you are sneaking around behind your wife’s back, some of you are watching my vids with your girlfriends. I know you have opinions and feelings.

I know that some of you want me to call you a worthless fucktard in one moment and then after you cum wish someone would tell you that you have worth and that you are loved.

I know that you are multi-dimensional. That you are complicated, sometimes contradictory.

I fulfill fantasies. I am a fantasy. Mistress T is a part of me but it’s not all of me and it’s dangerous to allow my fans to objectify me into that tiny box. By letting you see me, by making you really see me, I am hopefully fighting the objectification of all women. If I make a guy think: “Oh wow, Mistress T is actually a real person, she’s the kind of person that friends come to for support when they get their hearts broken, some of her peers call her Mistress Goofball because she’s so silly and loves to tell bad jokes, she was really socially awkward and lonely as a kid, she’s passionate about animal welfare and the environment so she’s mostly vegetarian, she loves cat vids and hates cucumbers…” Maybe the next time they see a hot woman in public or a woman in another porn video they’ll see past the tits & ass to the human beneath. The person who has loved, been loved, been hurt, who has fears, passions, problems and triumphs.

I’m not trying to stop you from having your indulgences. When your dick is hard what turns you on turns you on. It’s how you’re hard wired. But when you’ve blown your load take a moment to honour the Goddess who just helped you get your rocks off, whether it’s in person, in vid or your imagination. Whether it’s me or someone else. Take a moment to consider that they have a life beyond your fantasy, just like you. Respect.

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A couple of Netflix Documentaries to watch…

I recently watched a couple of documentaries on Netflix that were recommended to me. “Hot Girls Wanted” and “Love Me”.

I know most of my readers aren’t here for documentary reviews, but bare with me.

“Love Me” is a documentary about American men seeking love and Ukraine women seeking marriage and a life in America, both using an introduction service to meet. Kind of the ‘mail-order bride’ thing, but more in depth. They followed about a dozen guys through the process and frankly I found the whole thing fascinating. Also sad in some ways. Sad because it reminded me of how many lonely people there are in this world who want nothing more than companionship.

The American men were mostly ‘conventially’ unattractive. Heavy set or obese, awkward social skills, etc. but had at least a decent amount of money. The Ukrainian women tended to be very attractive physically but often spoke little or no English. Both parties had an interest in family, which was the commonality that brought them together.

I confess, it made me uncomfortable. The imbalance of physical attractiveness was often so acute. How in most cases nothing else seemed to matter to the men except looks, they didn’t seem to care about personality or compatibility…or even whether or not the woman was even interested in them. To be fair, the two couples who ended up getting married and living in the US seemed genuinely happy with each other. Down right adorable to be honest. I couldn’t help wondering what sex was like? Did the women genuinely enjoy sex with these guys? Some women don’t care what a guy looks like (I’ve had some fantastic sex with guys who were…well, NOT pretty…hell, I’ve been known to say that ugly guys try harder in bed) and some women feel better about themselves having sex with guys who aren’t as good looking. So I know looks tend to be less important to women than men…but we’re talking a pretty wide gap here in both looks & personality. They weren’t charasmatic, charming, but just average looking dudes.

The guy…I wonder if during sex he’s just thinking “Wahoo!” Or if he’s looking down past his giant, hairy gut & double chin at this super model who doesn’t speak English and thinks “if I hadn’t basically paid for this she would never have had sex with me”. Not in the prostitute-by-the-hour way, but in the living with each other and having children together kind of way. How would he ever know if their love was ‘real’? Maybe it doesn’t matter if both parties are getting what they want? Right now I wish Ceara Lynch was here to discuss this. Maybe we’ll get lucky & she’ll comment below with her perspective. I feel like this topic is more of a discussion peice than a monologue.

Moving right along, “Hot Girls Wanted” is a documentary about amateur girls, usually 18-22 getting into the porn business. I found a fair bit of this shocking but that’s what they were likely going for: the shock factor, especially with the violent niche stuff (facial abuse, etc.). Although I have an adult business I have been quite sheltered, living in Canada and within my niche of FemDom Fetish porn.  I have basically zero personal experience in the mainstream porn world. I got into this business around the age of 30 and was never exploited. I didn’t do it because I needed money, although the money was nice. I didn’t do it to get famous, I never wanted to be a porn ‘star’. That seemed to be the main motivator for the girls in this documentary: money, to make it ‘big’ (they loved the attention/compliments/ego stroking) and often they wanted a way out of their small town.

What I struggle with here is that the girls are so young and naive, they are so easily taken advantage of, often encouraged to do things they aren’t comfortable with. The agents/producers seem to use them very hard, knowing that they’ll probably be in and out of the business in a year or less. But this is what the market demands. Men watching this type of mainstream porn seem to want an unending supply of young new faces and for them to be used hard, broken.

I don’t imply these are unwilling victims. These girls answer ads for this kind of work, they walk in with their eyes open. They are compensated fairly (it seems). It’s just unfortunate that so many of these girls are simply too young & inexperienced to really make an informed decision…and that YOUNG & INEXPERIENCED is what guys want so badly.

I have been in complete control of every sex scene I’ve done, with the exception of the 2 scenes I did for Kink.com’s Divine Bitches. Happily, I was attracted to and liked both of the male performers I had sex with in those scenes and everyone treated me with the upmost respect. I was given the option to use condoms and have sex in any way that I wanted. In a way, the all-female team made it feel like the male performers were there as much for my pleasure as I was there to help create a quality scene that would make them money. But the nature of the situation, meeting someone minutes before having sex with them left me reluctant to do scenes like that again…and I haven’t. I knew I got lucky there, that it wouldn’t always be like that with other producers. There was a risk of getting into uncomfortable situations working FOR other people and I just didn’t need to do it. Being in control of my own scenes and deciding who I had sex with was plenty profitable and better suited to my control-freak personality.

At The English Mansion it was always a collaboration. It is a true FemDom environment and all males were given to me to use as I pleased, or not, which is why I’ve filmed so much with them over the years. That is not how it is on many mainstream porn sets, so I’ve heard.

My hat off to the porn stars who have found a way to make doing porn in the mainstream work for them in the long term. I know there’s a big difference in how various companies film and it’s hard to tell as the viewer what’s good acting by a gal who’s actually into rough sex (and treated with respect off camera) versus a gal that’s been pressured into a painful, humiliating sex act because she needs the money or worse: the type of scene wasn’t actually clearly explained beforehand (in other words, if she was manipulated into a situation that would leave her traumatized).

I don’t know what advice to give you if you’re into that kind of porn? Maybe spend your money on established porn performers who seem to have their shit together? Ones who are most likely ‘acting’ and not actually doing something they don’t want to do? If anyone has tips for ethical porn consumption (for mainstream stuff) please comment below. I’d like to know.

Chances are most of you reading this are into the type of porn I produce, where women are in control. That’s good. I have surrounded myself with women who run their own businesses and call all the shots (Alexandra Snow, Ceara Lynch, Princess Meggerz, Lexi Sindel, Sidonia Von Bork, Nikki Whiplash etc.) None of whom are exploited. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting women who are doing other types of adult work but have not encountered the types of girls featured in the documentary “Hot Girls Wanted”. I guess there’s a lot I don’t know about the porn industry. If you want to be a little more informed, I recommend you watch it. Or not, If you’re easily upset by women being misused, cuz there’s enough of that in this documentary to make ya squirm.

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Thailand so far…loving it:-)

Me, on the deck of my jungle bungalow.

Me, on the deck of my jungle bungalow.

Thailand is wonderful!

The trip is going great so far. I’m not sure that I’ve ever been quite so good to myself.

I eat delicious, healthy food, including at least one coconut a day. I do yoga every day, sometimes twice. I get a nice Thai massage every few days.  I sleep in bungalow in the jungle with a gorgeous fresh breeze off the ocean. I take in some live music a couple times a week, worship at a yummy chocolate temple and do a therapeutic steam/body scrub weekly.

And I write. Blazing fingers, clicking away. It feels amazing.

I’m supported by a really good girlfriend who will be here for the first month. She hangs with me a lot for yoga, eating & social stuff but she’s independent & gives me space to write. My boyfriend is the same. Being supportive & encourging.

Whatever happens or doesn’t happen with the book I will always have fond memories of the process, at least the start. Writing out here on the deck surrounded by the lush jungle and the symphony of sounds, birds and insects serenading me (when my boyfriend isn’t actually serenading me)…looking out at the view, the torquise water and mountains beyond.

So I’m doing well here in Thailand.

Work-wise, everything seems to be going along nicely with that. I am grateful that I set up an auto-responder for my email. I understand that auto-responders rub some guys the wrong way BUT pretty much all of my emails can be answered with it. Guys know immediately that I’m not accepting custom video requests of sessions of any kind, anywhere until the end of March at the earliest. They then also get all the info they need to properly communicate what they want, how to apply to be a film slave, etc. It is actually very helpful & efficient and has made my life so much easier.

So far only one doofus took advantage of the “urgent’ option of resending his email to get my immediate attention. His ‘urgent’ need was to know when I would next be coming to England so he could consume my waste. I admit, I was pretty fucking angry that he would interrupt my vacation with a bullshit ‘urgent’ request like that. I told him off but it ruined my morning. I couldn’t seem to shake the anger that a guy would be so selfish and rude. It made me feel even more grateful for this break from work. I love filming, I could happily sit in front of the camera all day performing, but interacting with a lot of the guys who contact me wears me down. John Q Public, as they say, can been very difficult to deal with.

So, if you want to serve me in a positive way, just don’t email me until April. That would be awesome. Thanks.

Here’s a smattering of pics from the last couple weeks.

Stay well & keep enjoying my vids. If you’re a member of my site or buying them from clips4sale you are helping to support me in doing what I love. Thank you!

Xo

Mistress T

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Domonion: “No Porn” New Years Resolution lasts 46 minutes!

Chronic Masturbator unsurprisingly fails gloriously at New Year's resolution.

Chronic Masturbator unsurprisingly fails gloriously at New Year’s resolution.

Hans Ondick, a 37 year old Swedish man living in England proudly announced to all 23 of his twitter followers on January 1, 2016 that he would no longer be watching porn.

Mr. Ondick explained that he’d struggled with a porn addiction & chronic masturbation for years, sometimes masturbating more than a half dozen times a day. He went on to tell tales of wrist pain, penis abrasions and embarrassment. He had been fired several times for masturbating on the job while viewing adult content on company computers.

Mr. Ondick bragged to his doubtful followers that he would quit this time. He may have went too far when he taunted fellow fans of FemDom porn that he was better than all the other “weak-assed fetish freak boot lickers”. They returned fire by tweeting back a blurry image of a woman with a bit of cleavage showing and he caved, promptly downloading a pornographic video and “jerkin’ his gherkin” while crying. He held out for a whole 46 minutes beating many others who made similar resolutions.

The Domonion contacted several Professional Dommes & Adult Film Performers for their comments on the subject of fans resolving to quite watching porn but the only reaction was laughter.

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Holiday 2015 VLOG (Free Vid)

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I created a VLOG to thank my fans for a great 2015. It includes little chats with some of my industry friends who I met up with during my recent road trip.

Here’s the link: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

 

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland

Ceara Lynch: http://cearalynch.com/

Jack Hammer & I in San Francisco

Jack Hammer & I in San Francisco

Jack Hammer: http://jackhammer.xxx/

Lexi Sindel & I in Vegas

Lexi Sindel & I in Vegas

Lexi Sindel: http://femdomempire.com/videos/

Lexi Sindel, Mina Thorne & I in Vegas

Lexi Sindel, Mina Thorne & I in Vegas

Mina Thorne: http://www.minathorne.com/

Meg & I...between Phoenix & Joshua Tree

Meg & I…between Phoenix & Joshua Tree

Princess Meggerz: http://meggerz.com/

A big, sincere thank you to all of my fans who made 2015 another great year. I feel your love every day.

To the fans who financially support me & my work by joining my site, buying my vids, sending me gifts & tributes, etc.: THANK YOU. You make it possible for me to do something I love while building security & helping others. I have a few charities that I give to so your money is doing good in the world too.

I know that not all of you are able to support me in a financial way by buying my vids, sending tributes, etc…I know some of you worship by following my blog & twitter…& I know that some of you think you are worshiping me by viewing content that you don’t realize has been stolen & actually hurts my business…if you are one of those people at least serve me by serving your planet: eat less meat, recycle, use less electricity, use less water, use products that are gentle on the environment…& be kind to yourself & others. Kindness goes a long way in paying it forward to make the world a better place for everyone.

A warm n’ fuzzy thank you to the many fans who made micro loans through Kiva this year to get access to free porn. It has been an enormous success! It continues & is still available for those who need to be discreet about payment but still want to do the right thing & “pay” for the porn they enjoy. Here’s the details: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

I expect 2016 to be another amazing year. I have already scheduled content for the first few months so I know for certain things are getting off to a great start. I’m so excited about the scenes that are coming up! You are going to go fucking banana’s over it *smile*.

Big love,

Mistress T

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Sex At Dawn – Book review & recommendation!

Mistress T with the book "Sex At Dawn".

Reading is sexy.

I recently read one of the most important books of our time, “Sex At Dawn” by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha.

“Important”…is subjective I suppose. Will it solve global warming? Bring world peace? Cure diseases? Make Donald Trump disappear? Sadly, no. Not directly anyway. Although if it lead to a world where everyone was having lots of great sex, and children were raised by groups of loving adults who generously shared what they had…I can imagine a world without greed, without ‘broken’ families, without sexual frustration, etc. would be a world most of us would rather be in. In theory it could result in world peace, reduced stress-related illness, reduced negative environmental impact & get rid of the Donald Trumps of the world.

With loads of research the authors show that before agriculture, hunter-gatherers likely lived in non-monogamous communities where men & women both enjoyed as much sex with as many sexual partners as they desired. They had everything they needed, shared their food & cooperated in raising children.

A very different structure to the nuclear family where couples are expected to be monogamous but often are not resulting in jealousy, drama, broken families, etc.

Followers of my blog will likely know that I don’t practice monogamy in my personal life. Not because of my work but because I enjoy sexual novelty & variety. A relationship is not defined by sex. A relationship is about day-to-day & lifestyle compatibility, communication, support, affection/intimacy, trust, love, etc. Sex can just be about sex. A bit of fun. If there is honesty & trust, sex outside of the primary relationship can even enhance the sexual charge within it.

“Sex At Dawn” reinforced a lot of what I already knew from my own experience & through friends with healthy non-monogamous relationships, but there was also a tonne of new information. I found it fascinating how similar we are to our closest primate cousins, bonobos & chimps. Insights into how our hunter gatherer ancestors likely lived & how agriculture changed everything (or fucked everything up, really.)

Of special interest to my readers would be a hint of “FemDom” in bonobo culture (Chapter 4, The Ape In The Mirror, page 71):

(Paraphrased) For bonobos, female status is more important than male hierarchy. The term “influential” might be more fitting than “high-ranking”. Females are respected out of affection & older females generally have a higher status. Among bonobos female “dominance” doesn’t result in the same kind of submission in males as you see inverted with other primates in male dominated structures. Female bonobos use their power differently. There’s no stressful power struggles. They use sex for much more than reproduction, they engage in sex to ease tension, to reduce stress while traveling, etc. “Make Love, not war” seems to be the bonobos motto & males live a pretty stress-free life with the females in charge.

Also of special interest to my readers is a mention of fetishes (Chapter 21, The Pervert’s Lament, page 280):

(Direct quote) “While many women are freed by their erotic flexibility, men can find themselves trapped by the rigidity of their sexual response, like the male sheep and goats mentioned earlier. Once determined, male eroticism tends to retain its contours throughout life, like concrete that has set. Consequently, the theory of erotic plasticity predicts that the paraphilias (abnormal sexual desires and behaviors) should be far more prevalent in men than women who would presumably be more responsive to social pressure and find it easier to abandon previous turn-ons or ignore unseemly urges. Nearly every source of evidence supports this prediction. Most researchers and therapists agree that these unusual sexual hungers are almost exclusively seen in males, appear to be related to early imprinting, and are difficult, if not impossible, to alter once boyhood impressions have hardened into adult yearnings.”

I considered doing a whole blog post just on that last bit but what the heck. There is a lot more discussion in the book about females having more flexibility in their sexuality, thus more bisexual or at least bi-situational/bi-flexible women than men, women finding a wider range of situations/activities/people arousing, etc. This was part of the argument that women enjoy sex just as much as men, if not more (debunking the myth that women don’t enjoy sex as much as men). Women being able to have more orgasms, being able to have sex longer indicating that we’re designed to have sex with multiple male partners…in a row…and the biological reasons why we might be built that way. Like to have the sperm fight it out inside the vagina for the race to the egg…survival of the fittest, or the more complimentary DNA.

This blog post has become lengthy. I’ll end it abruptly & just recommend you read the damn book!

Xo

Mistress T

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Domonion: “Straight Man Only Enjoys Blowjobs From Other Straight Men” (Satire)

Cuckolding, cocksucking filmed with Mistress T.

Heterosexuals sucking off heterosexuals: a new trend?

A heterosexual Colorado man reported only being able to fully enjoy oral pleasure when performed by straight men who are “only doing it for their Mistress or cuckoldress”.

He explained he had never been able to achieve orgasm, or even a full erection, while his female lovers fellated him. He figured he just didn’t like blowjobs until he found himself in a unique situation. While having an affair with a kinky, self-assured married women her wimpy husband came home early & caught them in the act. Rather than being upset she ordered her husband to suck her lovers cock. Before he could say “but I’m not gay” he blew a load like Niagara Falls all over the poor chaps face.

Ever since he seeks out reluctant, pussy-whipped straight men to blow him. He declares: “If I even get a remote sense they’re gay, pretending to be straight I just call the whole thing off. I mean, I’m not fucking gay so I’m not having some fag suck me off. Straight dudes ONLY.”

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Exciting plans:-)

I have really exciting news.

It’s been a few months in the making. I wasn’t sure that I would be able to do it. But I have just reached my goal.

I’ll explain.

I’ve planned a trip to Thailand to attend a yoga school, to get my padi (diving certification) & to work on my book. Yes, I’m finally writing the book so many people have been encouraging me to write. I needed to work extra hard filming & editing to build up enough content so I could put my energy elsewhere for a few months.

I just edited the last of my filmed content & I have enough! So I will be going to Thailand early January for two & half MONTHS! I will not be bringing my filming equipment or my editing computer. No filming or editing to distract me from writing.

Although the idea is to take a break from my business I plan to post pics on twitter & Tumblr + make regular posts on my blog to give you all a peek into my tropical paradise & my progress. Less frequently…& I probably won’t check my email as often but I’ll still be around enough that those who aren’t readers of my blog may not even realize I’m away so long.

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My partner is coming with me as well as another gal pal. I’m trying to entice a few others to join. We’ll see:-)

I’ve spent a lot of time in Thailand but each trip is different. My first trip I was in my early 20’s, naive, inexperienced & unprepared. I didn’t have a Lonely Planet guide book & the internet wasn’t what it is today. I had quite an adventure & I ended up getting help from a lot of people along the way.

But that’s another whole story. Clearly I made it out alive & have returned several more times for the delicious food, the heat, the stunning beaches, the relaxed vibe & friendly Thai people. This will be my first time attending a yoga school (I have no interest in becoming a yoga instructor, I just like yoga) & it’s embarrassing that I’ve never done the scuba diving course. It only takes a few days & it’s cheap in Thailand. I love snorkeling & I took a half day scuba course in Bali a couple years ago in order to do a little mini-dive. I promised myself I would do more.

One more day in Phoenix. Meg (My pal & FinDom extraordinaire Princess Meggerz: http://meggerz.com/) is flying here tomorrow & we’ll do some day hiking in Joshua Tree for a few days. Meg will go back to NY & my boyfriend & I will head north, back to Vancouver. I’ll probably still do some filming there with my regular stunt cocks, enjoy the holidays & then early January: zoom zoom.

If you have a custom vid request or if you want to see me in Vancouver before I go, send that email ASAP: MsT@MistressT.net

I am also really excited about the content coming out over the next few months. I have edited some amazing scenes. I want to release them all now! ha ha.

Best,
Mistress T

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Top 3 Favorite Places

I just tweeted to my 46K followers that I’m taking requests for a blog post today. I quickly received a variety of topics but the one that stood out was this one from  :

I’d love to know if you have a top say 3 places to visit in the world. For either work or pleasure Mistress. Xx”
That seems appropriate considering that I am traveling right now (in Phoenix).
Before listing 3 places I’ll give you a bit of background, for those who don’t know me very well (yet).
I love to travel. I caught the travel bug at 18 when I took my first trip to Cancun, Mexico from Nova Scotia. I’d never been out of the province & never been in an airplane. It was a huge adventure & I was hooked. I started traveling every chance I could. I have now been all over Canada & the US, including a few trips to Hawaii. India (twice), Toyko, Thailand (5 times), Vietnam, Cambodia, Brazil, Argentina, Peru, Bali, Cuba, Belize, Mexico (4 times), England (8 times?), Paris (3 times), Amsterdam, Brussels, Italy, Berlin, Budapest, Greece…I think that’s all?
Most of the travel was on a shoestring budget/back packing. For example, I spent 3 weeks traveling around Cuba, staying in Cuban’s homes, not in a resort. I’ll give Cuba an honorable mention for the wonderful people & their sexy dancing: yum.
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Cuba

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Cuba

My #1 favorite place is Thailand. I like the warmth, I love the food, the people are friendly, the beaches are stunning, getting frequent Thai massages for around $10 agrees with me (everything is very affordable there) & it’s an easy/safe place to travel.
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Thailand

My #2 favorite place is Maui. Mostly because of Little Beach which is a gay-friendly, clothing-optional beach. Being naked in an open-minded setting is my happy place. The weather is also great in Maui. It is part of the US so it’s very civilized which for me is both a pro & a con. I enjoy experiencing different cultures so I find the familiarity both boring & a comfort. My only real complaint about beautiful Maui is that it tends to be a bit expensive.
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Maui

My #3 favorite place is Paris. I find beaches more relaxing than cities but as far as cities go, it’s hard to beat Paris (although New York is pretty awesome too!). I love the architecture, the museums, the fashion…but most of all: the food! I dream of their fresh croissants, their cheese, their wine…it seems like everything tastes better in Paris. I also get a kick out of their surly & indifferent service. Servers in cafe’s & restaurants don’t work for tips so they don’t lay on syrupy sweet phony customer service. I enjoy the honesty of their indifference to me. It’s a refreshing change.
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Paris

In writing this post I found myself remembering the positive things about all the places I’ve traveled. Sometimes it was the views, sometimes it was the architecture, the food, the people, the weather, the culture…sometimes the person I traveled with made the experience more or less enjoyable. Mostly though it was what I learned about myself through travel. For example, my own personal limits to discomfort, stress, unfamiliarity, etc. My ability (or inability) to maintain a positive attitude in challenging situations. I learned what I’m actually not that bothered by (I have a much higher tolerance for dirt when traveling, for example…I’ve slept on the floor of filthy trains in India, I’ve stayed in some pretty dodgy places all over the world, I am less bothered by my own personal hygiene when traveling & will wear cloths a lot more in between washing than I normally would…& I don’t care.)
I’ve learned to be more accepting of different people & different cultures. This is not an insignificant thing. It perhaps played into my being more accepting of people with a variety of fetishes & kinks.
I could go on & on about travel. A topic I am extremely passionate about. I’ve had amazing adventures & experiences. Feel free to ask questions in the comments section.

Relaxing in Phoenix…

I write this from sunny Phoenix in a comfortable apartment I rented for a couple of weeks. I’ll soon head out to the Jacuzzi & maybe take a swim in the heated pool. Not sure it’s hot enough for that today, we’ll see.

I can relax...see! :-)

I can relax…see! :-)

I’ve only been in Phoenix for a couple of days & I haven’t seen much yet. After moving around so much (7 places in 2 weeks!) I was ready to just chill, read, make love in the middle of the day, eat at home & sleep. I’m reading “Sex At Dawn” in case you’re interested…& I’ve been watching “Blacklist” on Netflix.

It was quite an action-packed 2 weeks. Lots of visits with friends, lots of beautiful terrain, discovering new places, etc. I filmed some fantastic content in Vegas with Slave Wade, who Lexi Sindel graciously loaned to me. Sharing is caring!

Poor Slave Wade....so hard to hold off cumming with Lexi's & my feet taunting him...

Poor Slave Wade….so hard to hold off cumming with Lexi’s & my feet taunting him…

I almost had a session in Vegas but that didn’t work out at planned. I only accept the occasional generous booking these days & I always require a deposit. Any Pro Domme will tell you that guys who book sessions often flake out, cancel, chicken out, etc. It’s just part of the business. Even when they make a deposit they’ll often jam out but it does make those incidents less irritating.

So I accepted a booking with a deposit & arrived at the clients hotel early to enjoy the spa & to have a snack with my boyfriend in the cafe. A half an hour before the session the client emailed to say that he was so nervous he’d given himself an upset tummy so needed to cancel. I told him that he should at least come say hello & not miss the opportunity to meet me. He said he was on his way down.

I waited. I finished my food & paid. He hadn’t shown up. I emailed to say I was leaving & he said he was just too nervous to meet me. As I was leaving I saw a shifty guy looking at me funny. I paused long enough to give him a chance to say hello. He didn’t. I figured it was him but what was I to do? I walked away as he was emailing me to please come back & give him another chance. I didn’t but he sent more money for wasting my time.

What do you think about that?

Here’s a blast from the past. When I was a newbie Domme (nearly a decade ago) I used to go to cities like Calgary & do these crazy marathon work days. Holed up in a basic 3 star hotel room for a few days seeing 6-9 clients a day (1-2 hour sessions). I had a limited offering & hotel rooms were not equipped like dungeons so my sessions were often similar. Tying guys to beds or chairs, CBT/NT, sensory deprivation, golden showers, foot/boot worship and a whole lot of strap-on. I used to get reviewed on a popular review site & after one of these trips 3 different guys gave almost identical reviews. Oops. *smile*

Mistress T strap-on circa 2007

I did a whole lotta strap-on in my early days…

Those days are behind me. No more assembly line sessions. I take them when I’m in the mood, when I think I’ll enjoy someone & when the money is compelling enough. I confess, I get a rush out of being offered a lot of money for a little of my time & attention. Maybe there’s a bit of a Financial Domme in me after all?

So here I am in Phoenix, trying to set up filming in the next couple of weeks. I know I can only relax for so long before getting antsy. I thrive on being productive and I want to film. My happy place is in front of the camera. I have a couple of guys lined up this week but I don’t count my chickens until their hatched. I haven’t had as many applicants as I would have liked. Not yet anyway. Frankly, I’m surprised…although it seems that the more famous I become the more intimidated guys get. The nervous Vegas guy isn’t the first one to chicken out like that.

I’m just a nice, normal person in real life. I’m really fun to film with, nothing to be scared of.

Okay, maybe be a little scared:-)

Okay, maybe be a little scared:-)

After Phoenix we’re heading to Joshua Tree & Palm Springs for about 10 days then doing a faster road trip back up to Vancouver. Probably not stopping long enough anywhere on the way home to see anyone, but it’s a road trip after all, which allows more flexibility.

In other news, I’ve revived my Tumblr account & will start posting more on there…if you’re into that sort of thing? https://www.tumblr.com/blog/mistress-t-fetish

Best,
Mistress T

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