Spoiled in Orlando

I’m at the tail end of a wonderful few days in Orlando, Florida. One of my dearest clients decided that it would be a treat for both of us to go to Disney together. It was! We also went to Epcot…& for some fancy meals. Today he treated me to a spa day (on my own as he had to leave early).

Cinderella's castle at Disney in Orlando

Cinderella’s castle at Disney in Orlando

At the haunted house (Disney Orlando)

At the haunted house (Disney Orlando)

At Epcot...so many awesome things to do there!

At Epcot…so many awesome things to do there!

Surrounded by luxury the whole trip...gorgeous upscale hotel...fancy dinners out...

Surrounded by luxury the whole trip…gorgeous upscale hotel…fancy dinners out…

Enjoying the relaxation room at the spa today...

Enjoying the relaxation room at the spa today…

Soaking in the spa jacuzzi...getting spoiled rotten

Soaking in the spa jacuzzi…getting spoiled rotten

This is one of those ‘professional’ relationships that falls in the gray area. He’s been a wonderful & dedicated fan for over 5 years, buying my vids, sending me generous & thoughtful presents, many complimentary & supportive emails & we’ve gotten together several times over the years in various US & Canadian cities. We treat each other like friends…I like to think that we are genuine friends…but he also fairly compensates me for my time. Some cynical people would say that I shouldn’t accept his money if I consider us to be genuine friends…but shouldn’t I? He has it to give & it gives him pleasure to spoil me. I’m not into financial domination & I admit sometimes it feels like too much…but I never ask for a thing & it seems rude to not accept. Should everyone who loves & enjoys their ‘job’ or their clients not get paid? What’s the good of cake if you can’t eat it too? *grin*

So I’m off to Nova Scotia tomorrow to spend Christmas with my family. Although I get back every year for a visit this will actually be the first time I’ve been home for Xmas since I left 17 years ago. That’s a pretty big deal. It should be…fun? I have a fairly big family with a lot of interesting characters. They all have at least a vague idea of what I do & don’t care. They’re an accepting, non-judgmental, easy-going bunch. I know I’ll be eating a lot. They’ve been doing their Christmas baking for weeks, freezing cookies, squares, sweets & diabetes-causing goodies in preparation. Wish me luck!

xo

Mistress T

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Big Ballbusting Announcement!

Mistress Nikki Whiplash spreading Christmas cheer!

Mistress Nikki Whiplash spreading Christmas cheer!

Just in time for Christmas…This is a very special announcement for ballbusting fans & aficionados. Generally regarded as the best quality ballbusting content ever created is now available for the first time via pay-per-view on clips4sale!

I’ve partnered with Nikki Whiplash to bring you the best from Ballbusting World. Authentic wham, bams & ka-pows! This is the hardest I’ve seen & some of the hardest I’ve done (yes, you’ll see me featured in some of these vids as well, happily destroying balls.)

It will be updated regularly. I recommend you buy a vid & opt in on the mailing list so you’ll be the first to know of important updates (I usually send mailers no more than 1 per week).

Here it is, go get it (& bookmark the link)!: http://clips4sale.com/87149

Say good bye to your balls! (Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash)

Say good bye to your balls! (Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash)

Me, Mistress T & Mistress Nikki Whiplash teaming up to destroy balls!

Me, Mistress T & Mistress Nikki Whiplash teaming up to destroy balls!

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Nikki Whiplash...cleaning up!

Nikki Whiplash…cleaning up!

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Best,
Mistress T

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The Spirit of Giving

Maybe someone should buy me something to wear?

Maybe someone should buy me something to wear?

Tis’ the season…the season of commercialism. The spirit of giving is certainly not lost on me. I love randomly giving…but I’m not a fan of obligatory or expected gift-giving on designated occasions, like Christmas.

Having said that, every year I have fans who want to mark the occasion by spoiling me with something & I appreciate these gifts very much. This year, along with the usual options I suggest making a micro-loan to Kiva, which directly assists people living in poverty do something constructive to improve their situation. When you help one person start a business, you also help their family & community. It’s economics that makes sense.

You may recall my “Free Porn for Charity” blog entry from less than a month ago?: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

It is already a success with 10 guys “loaning” $900! You are welcome to make a micro loan (with or without the free porn part)…instead of sending me a present. That would make me happy.

Otherwise, if you really want to send me someTHING check out my updated Amazon Wish List: http://amzn.com/w/LYLSUGVVJA6W

You can send Amazon Gift Cards (or other gift cards) to my main address: MsT@MistressT.net

There is a tribute button on my clips store (not visible on some mobile devices).

If you want my mailing address to send something, email me.

I also really appreciate guys supporting my work by joining my members site. December is a great time for that because I add a few extra vids the last week of December to ensure those with extra time to masturbate have lots of fresh goodies. (I also add a few extra on my clips store if you prefer the pay-per-view option.)

xo

Mistress T

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A cuddling service makes sense!

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I’ve worked in the adult biz for nearly 10 years in various roles. I’ve met many MANY other ladies in various types of adult work over the years. What I’ve learned is that a lot of clients are lonely & craving human contact. It’s not always about the orgasm. It’s not always about fucking or getting beaten/humiliated, etc. A lot of guys just want to talk, to be touched in any way, to have a connection. It doesn’t even matter if the guys are married as often they’ve become distant from their partner.

There’s a lady in Victoria BC who is doing a booming business in “cuddling”. I applaud her. Here’s the article: http://metronews.ca/news/vancouver/1229047/b-c-woman-offers-cuddling-sessions-for-60-an-hour/

I have no doubt she’s flooded with business & I hope more women will read this article & consider starting their own similar business. I understand that prostitution laws vary in different places (prostitution is legal in Canada…even though what this woman is doing is non-sexual in a different country a cuddling service may fall under that category. I can’t speak to that.)

Here’s why I hope more women will do this:

A. It makes the world a better place. Human connection makes happier people. Happier people make a better world. (I know, hippie-talk, but science backs this up.)

B. It’s an easy & satisfying way for a woman to make some extra money.

Safety issues aside…meeting in public first & taking precautions is good. Sex worker safety has been much debated & is a whole other topic but I’ll say a few things: The most dangerous sex work is street based (desperate, drug-addicted street walkers are more vulnerable). Mid to high end sex workers who screen clients & work out of a safe space rarely deal with violence. The non-sex-work world is far more dangerous in comparison (online dating/meeting people in bars/actual partners. Yeah, the highest incident of violence against women is by their own partners or date rape. Guys they know, not “Johns”.)

For guys looking for this service try asking any service provider (escort or yup, even Dommes). It doesn’t hurt to ask. Respect the answer. For sure a lot of Dommes will tell you to sod off, but some will see it as an easy session. Don’t expect a discount off of the usual rates. Most providers charge for their time, not the service but you can ask politely: “I would really just like a cuddle session please. No sexual contact. Would that be the same rate?”

Another tip for the fella’s (& a tip to the ladies to communicate to any fella): BE CLEAN! That means you have washed head to toe & in all crevices within the last few hours using hot water, soap & shampoo. Do not wear cologne or strong scents. Be wearing clean cloths. Bring clean, dry socks if you have a foot odor issue. Brush your teeth AND tongue & don’t eat an onion & garlic sandwich on your way over. If the lady asks you to shower or use mouth wash before your session: DO IT, even if you just did it an hour ago. Some women ask this of every client regardless. Respect that.

Last tip to all the cuddlers out there: fucking enjoy it! Give yourself over to it. Breath deep & steady. Relax. Physical human contact is healthy for your mind & body. It’s like a spa treatment.

Cuddle on!

Best,
Mistress T

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A Typical Encounter…

MistressT_hote_seductionRecently I accepted a private session. It’s a rare event these days. I’m pretty busy with producing vids, yoga & life in general. I’m selective about whom I meet with privately. I want to enjoy the experience too, so I screen for compatibility.

This young man would be traveling to Vancouver on business, staying in an upscale hotel & requested times with flexibility that worked for me. His interests were simple. Mainly, he just wanted to meet me. He had been a fan for years. Of course he wanted to have some kind of intimate experience with me & he wanted to cum. He was willing to work within my boundaries & let me decide how that part would go.

I get a thrill walking through lobbies of upscale hotels. I dress discretely & aim to be invisible, but good staff are trained to make everyone feel welcome so there’s always at least eye contact a smile exchanged as I make my way to the elevators like I’ve been there before. As I’ve been walking a few blocks my tight black dress has shimmied up to my hips, luckily covered by my longer coat. I’m sharing the elevator with a conservative looking man so I stand there feeling risky & a bit silly with my fanny in the breeze…until he gets off & I can pull my dress back down into place.

I knock on the door & am greeted awkwardly as I enter the room. Guys never know what to do in this moment so I give him a nice hug to put him at ease. He seems young to have the kind of job that would bring him to Vancouver & to this fancy hotel room…about to pay me a premium rate for my attention.

I like young people. They’re usually not bitter yet. Still enthusiastic about life. Still hopeful. Some people hold on to that spirit. For too many it fades.

Back to my young professional. He’s keen to please & has fetched a nice bottle of bubbly for me. He had asked in advance what I’d like & even though I said I would only have 1 glass he’s chosen what I assume is the best he could find. Impressive.

We sit in the wing back chairs & chat. He’s nervous, naturally…but I can see how he’s come so far for his age. He parrots poise & confidence well…& I sense he would be good at whatever he put his mind to.

We discuss his fetishes. Bless him, he’s not great at communicating them. I knew from his emails that he was a fan of my cuckolding vids. I draw out a few more details including that he had had cuckolding fantasies with an ex girlfriend. I let him gaze at my cleavage while finishing his glass of liquid courage before moving things to the bed.

I played the role of his girlfriend…confessing that I’ve been sleeping with other men. His pants grew tighter as I unbuttoned his shirt, looking him in the eyes & saying that I want to tell him what I’ve been doing…that I want to share it with him…

I ask him if he’s jealous. I ask if he wants to hear more. I tell him that he must have noticed he wasn’t quite satisfying me in the bedroom. I care about him so I tried to make it work but I needed to be sexually satisfied in other ways…by other men.

Cloths come off, the descriptions of my liaisons get more graphic…things get hotter, I tease him, stroke him & eventually he erupts with his head nestled in my neck while I whisper in his ear about the other man’s cum in my pussy he’s going to have to clean up.

It was sweet, intimate & hot. I held him after. He held me. Flesh against flesh. Breath coming back to normal. A smile playing on his face. He’d done something naughty. He’d lived out a fantasy and now we lay together like a real couple. He had been masturbating to my vids & reading my blog for years. He did feel like he knew me. And I felt like I knew him, in the way that I feel like I know many of my fans. I know a very real part of them that is kept secret from most others or in some cases, everyone else.

It’s moments like this that I feel a great sense of fulfillment in my job. Allowing these men to express a part of themselves they need to keep secret most or all of the time. Not just allowing it but celebrating it.

This was a fairly typical encounter for me, by design. This is what I look for when screening clients. A potential 2-way connection. I have range, sure. I enjoy a variety of different scenes & activities…but I want to feel a connection.

And in this moment, if you’ve read this far & you’re getting a warm n’ fuzzy feeling about me than you probably understand that & you “get” me. xo

Best,
Mistress T

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Custom vids!

This guy had a sweater fetish & wanted interactive instructions.

This guy had a sweater fetish & wanted interactive instructions.

I love bringing life to your fantasies! Here’s everything you need to know about ordering custom vids from me.

#1. Requests start at $150 (additional $50 if you want me to use your name in the vid). That’s usually it unless:

-your request is overly complicated

- it involves more people

-you want it to be over 15 minutes

-you need me to wear something I don’t already own (then you’ll either need to buy the item & send it to me or pay extra for me to buy the item.)

#2. PAYMENT via the tribute button on my clips store & put your email address in the comments area. Do not pay until I have said yes to your request. It takes up to 2 weeks for your vid to appear on clips4sale where you’ll buy it for another $10 (approx) or if you’re a member of my site it will be released here for no extra charge. (Amazon Gift Card is another acceptable form of payment).

#3. Email me the basic outline of your request BEFORE you pay. I’ll let you know if it’s do-able. Include the obviously important things. Don’t send a long script, just a brief outline hitting the main points. We can go into more detail if I accept it. Example:

“A humiliating jerk off instruction for a virgin who you caught jerking off with your panties. Please wear office attire & glasses, like a mature business woman & tease with lots of ass views.”

Note: There’s lots of things I don’t, won’t or can’t do so be sure to be clear in your request right away so I can figure out if I can do your request. Examples of what’s on the no-go list (these have all been requested recently too):

- I won’t kill or swallow anything living, goldfish, etc.

- I don’t smoke.

- I can’t lift & carry even a smaller dude.

- I won’t put pantyhose over my face.

- I won’t swallow cum or take a cum facial.

- Nothing goes IN my bum.

- A lot of sex scenes aren’t possible because, well, I’m not a big LA porn production company & I just film sex scenes when I feel like it, the way I like, with who I want to.

Anyway, it’s doesn’t hurt to ask but use some common sense before requesting something you doubt I’ll be able to do. If you’re familiar with my work you probably have a pretty good idea of what my range is.

So that’s basically it. Here’s my email: MsT@MistressT.net

I hope I can make your fantasy come to life!

Best,
Mistress T

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Loan $ to a worthwhile cause & get FREE PORN!

Okay, this is huge.

Have you wanted to join my members site but couldn’t for any of the following reasons:

1. You don’t have extra money to spend on porn?

2. Your wife or girlfriend might see it on your credit card statement & give you a hard time (even though I have discreet billing, I know it’s still scary for some.)

3. You don’t have a credit card? (But you could pay by paypal if I accepted it, which I don’t)

I have an AMAZING solution for you!

You can now “loan” money through a charitable organization called Kiva & I will give you the equivalent in free time on my site. In other words, you’ll donate money to a good cause (that YOU choose) but you’ll actually get the money back (because it’s a loan) AND you’ll get free porn for it.

Now bare with me as I get this rolling. You’ll need to actually email me the receipt for the money you loaned/donated via Kiva & I will manually have to set you up with a membership on my site so if loads of guys do this it might take me a couple days to get back to you, but don’t worry, you’ll get your free porn.

Here’s step-by-step easy instructions:

1. Go to http://www.kiva.org/about (I suggest you watch their info vid so you understand a little more about this charitable organization).

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2. Choose who you want to donate money to by clicking “Lend” in to top left corner & scrolling through the many worthwhile applicants (I chose to support a couple of women in 3rd world countries who were trying to start businesses).

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Choose to lend where you like, women, conflict areas, education, etc.

Choose to lend where you like, women, conflict areas, education, etc.

3. Loan the money. You can pay via paypal. If your wife, girlfriend or anyone else sees this you will look like a saint, helping a charitable organization. They’ll never know you’re also a porn pervert who will now have access to amazing jerk off material because of your good deed!

4. Send me an email with proof that you’ve done it: MsT@MistressT.net (You can request a username/password)

I’ll give you the equivalent in time on my site. I suggest a minimum of $50 for 1 month of premium access (streaming & downloading). Remember, this is a LOAN, you will get the money back at some point. So if you’re really too tight on money right now to buy porn or GIVE to charity at least know that you’re money is doing good until it comes back to you. And your reward for sharing what little you do have: free porn! Win-win.

If discretion is required you can create a new email address in gmail or whatever to email me…but know that whatever email address you use to email me I will not add it to any mailing list. You will not get anything unsolicited from me. Just confirmation your account has been set up.

Cool, right?

Questions, comments or concerns? If possible, please use the comments function on this blog in case others have the same question & would benefit from seeing the answer. Thanks!

Mistress T

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Ass Worship!

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Since “Kim K” has plastered the internet with her butt recently & “the bottom” is top of a lot of people’s minds right now, I decided to do a blog post about my rear-end.

Women in my family tend to have pretty big cabooses. Growing up I always looked at those butts with dread because the women in my family complained about them so much. It seemed like a curse. I never heard anyone say that a big bum was a good thing.

As my womanly curves developed I was a bit sensitive about my more ample bottom. I certainly didn’t view it as a positive thing. My family, society & the media had all told me that a large derriere was something to be embarrassed of. Well, except for Sir Mix-A-Lot, he couldn’t lie about his love for big butts…but I thought it was a parody. Any compliments I received I laughed off like people were just being funny or patronizing.

It wasn’t until I got into the adult business that I really understood that not only was my butt great the way it is…but that it didn’t matter what your figure was, guys like all sorts of figures. Some guys like skinny ladies, some like bigger gals, some like Asian, black or blonde…you get the point. Being sexy is so much more than just the measurement of a certain area of your body.

I’ve learned to love my butt…after thousands of compliments over the years. I wish every woman could experience that. It’s a shame that the media & society has brainwashed so many women to believe that they aren’t sexy just because they don’t look like runway models or Penthouse Pets. So here’s a nod to Kim for at least making big booty a more mainstream thing. Bottoms up!

Best,
Mistress T

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Here's a little inspiration to not get behind in your worshiping. Ha, 'behind'. I slay me.

Here’s a little inspiration to not get behind in your worshiping. Ha, ‘behind’. I slay me.

Are you an ass man?

Are you an ass man?

That magnificent ass...

That magnificent ass…

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Looks like an ass you'd like to kiss, right?

Looks like an ass you’d like to kiss, right?

MistressT saddle up

Saddle up!

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Under that juicy ass!

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Oral sex?

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I know you want to be him, but cool your engines & read this before emailing me begging to lick me…

I get a lot of emails from guys wanting to lick my ass and/or pussy. So I decided to make a blog post on the topic so I can just email this link rather than explaining over & over.

If you’re not a reader, the short answer is: “No”. But if you’re interested in more info please read on…

If you know my story from the beginning you’ll know that I started out doing no-contact voyeur shows/masturbation shows where the guy could jerk himself off while watching me…because although I was excited by being an exhibitionist & enjoyed naughty play I wasn’t comfortable actually having sex in that situation. I didn’t like the idea of feeling obligated to have sex with a guy just because he had paid me. From voyeur shows I transitioned to Pro Domme work & I followed the so-called traditional rules of Professional Domination (no intercourse, no oral sex, no hand jobs) & that was fine but they weren’t MY rules and over time I adjusted the rules to suit me (occasionally requiring oral service from regular clients I felt comfortable with, for example.) I even ended up in a long term relationship with someone who started out as a client.

At one point I decided that I couldn’t be sure ‘escort work’ wasn’t for me unless I tried it so I gave it a go & after about a half dozen clients my curiosity was satisfied. I simply do not enjoy being in a situation where I am obligated to have intercourse or oral sex with someone because they have paid me…when it’s my job to provide that service. All sex work is providing a service to a certain extent, even traditional Pro Domme work (you are exchanging a service for money). I am naturally Dominant & a control freak. There are limits to how “service-oriented” I can be before I hit a wall.

Hand jobs tho? I love giving hand jobs & I have no issue with that. But that’s my hand vs. my vagina, so that’s understandable. It’s certainly a lot more intimate for someone to touch my vagina or anus than my HAND touching them.

I know some people see my vids and get the impression that I do everything with anyone. BUT the men I’m intimate with in my vids are men that I am very familiar with. Often they are my own personal lovers. Sometimes friends or clients I’ve had for years. Sometimes they are slaves that have served one of my fellow Dommes for a long time, making them more comfortable to be with.

If you’re reading this & trying to figure out how you can get between my legs…it’s not impossible but it’s unlikely if that is your only selfish goal. You can pay for my time in private to get acquainted or if you have value as a film slave, you can apply…but don’t try to date me. I’m running a business. Respect that. Sure, I have been in a relationship with someone who started as a client (although that was 1 out of hundreds, so the odds aren’t in your favor)…but I have NEVER gone on a date (with no compensation) with someone who has started as a fan of Mistress T. Guys looking for free play greatly offend me.

So to recap:

- I don’t offer “escort” type sessions (intercourse or oral sex for pay). That means no oral worship, no direct contact between your mouth, hands or penis & my vagina or anus. By the way, prostitution is legal where I live so this is not a legal disclaimer, it’s real.

- Hand jobs are fine (along with strap-on, role-play, humiliation, foot worship, golden showers, ballbusting, spanking, sissy play/X-dressing & a few other things.)

- My social rate is $100/hour & I LOVE meeting fans! We can go for lunch or dinner…a walk, shopping, to the theater, parties, whatever. I’m a social chameleon.

- My private session rates vary depending on details but nothing in private happens for less than $300 the first time. I am very selective about who I see in private & rarely accept sessions these days. I’m pretty busy creating all the amazing content you love to jerk off to! I do need to eat though so you’re welcome to take me for a meal (at $100/hr social rate) & discuss the possibility of a private session.

Best,
Mistress T

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Jian Ghomeshi: Rough Sex vs. Assault

Jian Ghomeshi

Jian Ghomeshi

In case you don’t know who Jian Ghomeshi is he’s the CBC broadcaster who was recently fired over assault allegations. He made a very public Facebook post defending himself & it has been all over the news for the last week.

Several women allege that he hit them with a closed fist or open hand; choked them with his hands around their neck to the point that they almost passed out; covered their nose and mouth so that they had difficulty breathing; and verbally abused them before, during, and after sex acts. The women have said that they did not consent to this behavior.

Ghomeshi said it was “consensual”. He admits to being into rough sex.

Most say this is not a conversation about kinky sex, it’s a conversation about assault. I tend to agree but since I’m in the fetish scene I’m going to focus on the kink angle.

If Ghomeshi has alternative sexual interests, like cross-dressers, foot fetishists, pony boys, diaper play fans, etc…it can be challenging to find partners to play out fantasies with. Ghomeshi admits to being into rough sex. It sounds like he likes to choke, smother & slap around his partners for sexual jollies. This is actually only a problem when the partner does not consent to that & isn’t into it (or if he takes it too far….um, “closed fists” might be too far dude)….but THIS is the part a lot of people will have a hard time with: there are women who really get off on that kind of play. They are out there. I bet Ghomeshi has even found a few, maybe even introduced this kind of play to a few women who didn’t even know they liked it.

It’s a complicated issue. Especially if his fetish hinges on the women NOT being into it…then that’s just straight up assault. But what if he’s just been really bad at finding like-minded sex partners….and/or really bad at negotiating the parameters of a rough sex ‘scene’?

So to be clear, yes, I am a women saying that some women would want this kind of rough sex…in fact, if Ghomeshi doesn’t end up in prison I bet he’ll never have to look very far to find cooperative bed buddies again. Sure, most women will hate him for being a scum bag woman beater…personally I see a possibility that it was a little left of that. I see a man with sexual urges he was unable to control, a man who did not respect women enough to ensure he had their clear consent for rough play & a man who took things too far. So a weak, stupid man. A man who did not know how to get his kinks fulfilled in a healthy way. Possibly a man with some other issues…but I’m not a therapist, again, I’m focusing mainly on the kink angle here.

So for us in the kink community here are the take-away lessons:

- It’s never okay to physically hurt another person without their explicit consent and boundaries discussed & agreed upon.

- Even if you are playing the submissive role you must speak up if you are not okay with what is happening (and/or ensure boundaries were clearly discussed before). Sex games aside you must take care of yourself & assert your right to be respected.

None of us are mind readers. Communicate!

This is an excellent unbiased new article with all the facts (updated today):

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/the-jian-ghomeshi-scandal-what-we-know-so-far/article21379820/

Side note: A lot of the coverage on this issue is about creating a safe place for victims of violence and sexual harassment to come forward. I am in complete support of that & mean no disrespect to any potential victims. I have chosen to take a closer look at one aspect of this situation with a BDSM perspective.

Best,
Mistress T

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