Jerk Off To Improve Sex

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Mistress T

Trust me, I’m a professional…

A lot of my fans are chronic masturbators…jerking off at least a couple times a day to porn. Orgasms are really good for you, medically & mentally. It reduces your chances of getting prostate cancer, reduces stress, etc. So let’s talk about masturbating BETTER! Specifically how to masturbate to have better sex (if you get the opportunity).

1. Make sure your dick will be ready to fuck a real pussy! If your dick only knows your hand & you jerk the same way every time you may struggle to keep your boner or to ejaculate when it’s “business time”.

Experiment with lighter grips & hand positions/use your other hand. Don’t always do exactly the same thing.

Masturbate while wearing a condom! (I’m told this is called a “Posh Wank” in the UK). Get your dick used to fucking with a rubber (often free at clinics).

Get a Fleshlight or other masturbation device that feels more like a vagina. You can shop on the internet discreetly for that stuff or your local sex shop.

Or make your own home made one! I googled “DIY masturbation device” and found this helpful article, I’m sure there’s more (Feel free to comment below if you have a DIY tip to share): http://www.literotica.com/s/homemade-pussy-device

That DIY (do-it-yourself) article reminded me of when I was a horny, resourceful teen. I made an ‘insertable’ by wrapping tissues around the neck of a wine bottle (to make it softer & more life-like) & securing a condom over it with an elastic band. Yup, I was THAT serious about safe sex. Ha ha:-)

2. Build a better orgasm AND learn orgasm control by ‘edging’ yourself. Bring yourself close to orgasm then ease off…let it build again & just before you ejaculate, ease off or stop…repeat several times (or for hours!) before finally enjoying a powerful release. This will help you have more control if you do have sex with a woman (no one likes a minute man!)

3. Try different things. It’s okay to like what ya like…but experiment with variations of what you like. This will help you keep a boner & ejaculate at the right time when in situations other than just that one specific way you’re used it. You can watch different porn, or hell, use your imagination once in a while (worst advice ever from a smut peddler, eh?)…Try sitting, standing, laying down, in the shower, maybe sneak one off at work or in the car (don’t get caught).

That should keep you busy for awhile. Remember, sex takes practice and your biggest sex organ is your brain. That means if you’re nervous you might find your penis not behaving as you like. There’s a lot more to sex then just intercourse…like touching, kissing, massage, teasing…You always have a mouth & if you learn to lick pussy like a champ your lady won’t mind if it takes your dick awhile to catch up.

Best,
Mistress T

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ALS Ice Bucket Challenge!

Posted on September 21, 2014 by Mistress T

Don’t get too excited…you won’t be seeing me dumping ice water on my head…but I think you’ll find this more entertaining anyway. Plus, it’s for a great cause!

I was nominated by Mistress Sidonia Von Bork of The English Mansion. See her version here: http://www.theenglishmansion.com/blog/archives/10338

Here’s my version:

Mistress T’s Ice Bucket Challenge for ALS Motor Neuron Disease from Sidonia von Bork on Vimeo.

Best,
Mistress T

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Meg & I went to Greece Aug 2014!

Posted on September 10, 2014 by Mistress T

Meg & I (+ a billion other tourists) at the Acropolis in Athens, Greece. August 2014.

A bit overdue but hey, better late than…

Princess Meggerz & I went to Greece last month. The entire trip was covered by her slave. Unbelievable, I know, but it’s true. First class/business class tickets all the way. Really nice accommodation & transport between islands, drivers/tour guides, etc. It was an amazing trip, well done slave “cum dump”.

I promised to not make this into a travel blog. Difficult because I have traveled so much and continue to do so. But if I know my audience, the majority of you are looking for something else. (See titillating pictures below).

Rather than listing everything we did & everywhere we went (might be a tad boring for a reader) I will share a funny story:

Meg & I were out one night having drinks. We sat at the bar & the bartender was very handsome. A Greek Colin Farrel look-alike. We decided to bring him back to our place when he was off work for a skinny dip in the pool. After our dip & getting better acquainted with him outside of the bar we both were feeling a little less interested in him. I pretended to be sleepy and laid down on the bed while Meg & he sat on the sofa.

I listened, barely stifling my laughter as Meg completely worked this poor boy over. She said she didn’t really want to have sex with him but it did turn her on to see a guy suck cock. He said he was straight. She acted disappointed but encouraged him to at least try sucking his own finger to show her how he would suck cock for her.

Her tone was sweet & seductive, but a little teasing. With English as his second language I’m sure he was very confused but decided he would play along on the off chance she decided to put out.

After a lot of encouragement he must have started sucking his finger (I was only listening) and I heard her giggling, chastising him saying: “That’s how you would suck cock?! Like THAT? *wet mouth noises* Is THAT how you would want your cock sucked? Is that how girls suck YOUR cock? Like THAT?” More giggling.

My whole body was shaking with laughter at this point.

For about an hour this went on and on as he tried harder & harder to show her he knew what good cocksucking looked like, sucking his finger. Trying to satisfy her…as she remained unimpressed. She cruelly teased him for being a terrible cocksucker, wondering out loud how he could possibly lick pussy well with such horrible oral skills. She never raised her voice or spoke quickly. She just continued in this sensually teasing tone and pace which made him think he still might have a chance. The poor boy.

Finally after about an hour I took mercy on him. I got up, tossed his cloths to him (we had been skinny dipping, remember? He had been sitting there in a wet towel this whole time) and told him to go home.

God knows how long she would have batted him around like a cat with a mouse. I was impressed with her teasing skills & saw why she is so very very good at being a Financial Domme.

Before y’all feel too sorry for the bartender…he was a very handsome guy working in a busy touristy bar. I confirmed he gets quite a lot of pussy without having to work too hard at it. Not that night, no…but I bet it was a night he won’t forget.

As for the rest of our trip: Greece was great & I had such a wonderful time with Meg she’s planning to come stay with me for a bit in Vancouver in October. I have a feeling we’ll be doing a lot more traveling together in the future…and with her living in NY I have slightly more motivation for going there…which I know will make a few of you very excited.

Find more pics on Meg’s blog: http://meggerz.com/

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Enjoy the pics!

A romantic moment between Meg & I on the very romantic island of Santorini, Greece.

Looking for pervs…

Sunset in Santoini. Shocking, isn’t it?

We stayed at a very posh place in Mykonos.

We made friends with other fun folks.

The view from our room:-)

Meg & I had an amazing time!

Meg & I enjoying our 1st class/business class seats. Soooo nice!

Best,
Mistress T

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The thrill of exposure

Posted on September 3, 2014 by Mistress T

As you can imagine, I get a whole lot of interesting mail. Lots of confessions. Sometimes I’m the only one who knows the darkest secrets certain men hold.

Well, not this one: “Stef” is all about the exposure. He wants the world to know that he’s a dirty, cock-loving little fag boy. This is not a drunken whim, Stef has been emailing me consistently for weeks begging for this, he has paid me to do this and I’m not the first Domme he’s done this with. So, without further adieu I present Stef’s filthy pics & excerpts from his emails to me. Some of you may find this fascinating…and if you find it arousing & want to do the same, by all means contact me, prepared to pay for the privilege.

Stef: “I hope to make a movie with you, i dream of your strapon in my ass :). I’m really serious when i invite you in Montpellier (one oh the best town in France said the New York Times!)”

Well Stef, I just might do that. I love France.

Stef: “In virtual: i would like to be denounced as a homosexual. be exposed on internet. You know i play the straight man in normal life, girls are looking at me. i had a girlfriend 2years ago but she discovered that i had sucked cock and offered my ass to men while i was with her because she saw pics on my cell phone. she insulted me, i was humiliated but she didn’t imagine all the things i did (wearing her panties or clothes and being fucked by men like that). So she left me and since this time, i went to gay bar more and more.
I’ve seen her 1 month before because i had some things to her since we were together. this day i weared a tight pants but she didn’t talk about it, i don’t know if she guesses that i’m addict to cocks now..”

Stef: “Please expose me as the pathetic lyer i was. I used an innocent girl in order to protect my social reputation of “straight man”. But i’m not a man anymore, don’t u think? While she was at work, i cheated. She didn’t understand why i was touching her less and less. She couldn’t imagine that her “Camille” was a bastard who was craving cocks more than her pussy. Close to the end of our relationship, i was becoming more and more impotent. For example, one evening she called me and invited me to join her in her apartment. I came and she was wearing sexy clothes, she was gorgeous and she wanted to have sex with me. But my dick stayed soft and she was disappointed. She didn’t know that, during all the afternoon she was working, my ass was pounding by 3 men who chummed inside me like the real whore i am.”

To the rest of my readers…use the comments section to share your opinions on this sort of thing. Are you interested in reading about another guy’s exploits/experiences? Does his exposure do anything for you? Or is this sort of exposure a completely selfish act for ol’ Stef…who no one really gives a damn about anyway? Thoughts?

If you want to follow or communicate with Stef here’s his twitter account:

https://twitter.com/Subqueer (Stef Queer Bitch)

Best,
Mistress T

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UK in Sept/Oct 2014

Posted on August 22, 2014 by Mistress T

I will do a big blog on my Greece trip soon…but for now, I have another big announcement:

I will be back in the UK/London mid September to early October! I look forward to catching up with my friends at The English Mansion, seeing some special fans, filming some great smut & getting up to the usual shenanigans.

Mmmm...England, it was nice to be inside you again...

Mmmm…England, I look forward to being inside you again…

If you want to see me read carefully:

1. Proving you’re reliable:

If I have not met you before you will need to provide a deposit…even if you’re volunteering as a film slave (your deposit will be returned when you show up).

Exceptions: if I have met you & know you’re reliable or if you can provide a reference.

2. Communicate clearly but briefly in your first email with the following:

– Location (clarify that you want to meet in the UK. I get tonnes of emails from all over the world.)

– What do you want? (Private session, volunteering to be a film slave, social time? Specific activities you want or what you’re volunteering to do.)

That’s it really, tell me what exactly you’re hoping for or what you’re offering, clarify it’s for the UK & be prepared to pay to show you’re serious/reliable if I haven’t met you.

I want cuckolds who will suck cock & eat the creampie on film, preferably showing your face + sign a model release.

It’s like a FemDom version of ‘Bobbing For Apples’!

I love meeting fans so if you’re generous & have lovely manners you can enjoy my company for a meal or a party…a play, art gallery, a stroll through the park, etc.

Email (but stop & think carefully before you hit ‘send’. Did you communicate clearly but briefly?): MsT@MistressT.net

Cheerio!

Mistress T

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Black bull next week!

Posted on August 21, 2014 by Mistress T

Ka-pow! Splooge all over your face!

Ebony and ivory…

I will do a big post about my Greece trip with Meggerz soon…This is just a heads up that my black bull will be visiting me next week. So if you have a custom vid request or if you want to serve over web cam or in person in Vancouver (filmed or in private) email ASAP: MsT@MistressT.net

Mistress T

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I’m a lousy Financial Domme

Posted on July 30, 2014 by Mistress T

FetishCon 2013 with Meggerx, ceara & Mistress T.

Meggerz, Ceara & I…feet up, drink in hand…

I have a great respect for the ladies who succeed at Financial Domination. It’s a legitimate fetish and it takes skill to be good at it. I know there are literally thousands of gals out there who think it’s as easy as sticking out their palm & saying “Pay me, pig!” Well, it isn’t. I’ve had some enlightening conversations with some of the best FinDoms in the world, including my dear friends Ceara Lynch and Meggerz.

As I will soon be enjoying a luxurious trip paid for in full by Meggerz financial slave I thought it would be humorous to list ta few ways I’ve failed over the years as a Financial Domme. Hey, ya can’t be good at everything, eh!

– A pay pig once took me shopping for a purse. He took me to Coach (designer purses costing hundreds of dollars) but I couldn’t find what I wanted so I dragged him sulking to Aldo where he reluctantly bought me a $30 purse I wanted (& I used quite a bit!)

– A guy who used to like to show off how wealthy he was sent me dozens of pairs of high end designer shoes. He was pissed when I sent him back the ones that didn’t fit. I thought I was being considerate? *sigh* Canadians.

– A client once gave me a Louis Vuitton purse. I gave it to a girlfriend because I don’t like to put my valuables in a bag that has so much value someone might steal it. He was insulted.

– That same client gave me a gorgeous coat with a real fur collar. I gave it away too. I would only wear fur if it was vintage…and even then I’d feel bad about it.

– a rich fan once paid me to fly to another city to go on a date with him. He over-paid me $1000 and told me I could keep it. I sent it back to him anyway…(but he wouldn’t accept it so it got returned to me again.)

– I’m really bad at spending time on webcam/skype. While I’m not there guys send me dozens of messages begging for me to come on cam, offering generous tributes…these would be horny guys ripe for the picking (I guess?) yet…I still rarely bother with webcam.

Hey, it’s not that I don’t like money. Sure, I don’t like designer purses, obviously…but money is good. It’s security for me as I’m a saver, not a spender. Yet the Financial Slaves & I just don’t usually click. What ever it is they’re looking for, I don’t have it. I’m okay with that.

For more information on Financial Domination, google it or see this explanation: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_financial_domination

Best,
Mistress T

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Name & shame…sort of.

Posted on July 22, 2014 by Mistress T

“Why would you NOT mention WHERE you want to meet me??? Why?!”

Avid readers of my blog probably know that geography is important to me when it comes to inquiries to meet…yet many of the inquiries (for private sessions or film slave applications) make no reference to a location. It’s frustrating to read a long email, to reply asking for the city & have the response be some obscure place I’ve never been, have no plans to go to & the applicant has no intention of coming to meet me.

Below is an example of such a communication that happens frequently EXCEPT this is also an example of a clearly mentally unstable person who seemed fine at first & then goes psycho. I don’t need to post this persons email address because what he requests is so specific & unique any Domme reading this will remember it & never accept a session with this hateful, unbalanced person.

Greetings Mistress T,

I’ll save you the long and overly articulated email, as it states you desire in your blog.

–I have never seen a mistress before, but your beauty is too spellbinding to resist.
–I’m deeply into ballbusting as I had a testicle removed as a baby, and it fucked my head all up as a child.
–I desire a caring, or “motherly” type of approach to ballbusting; I’m not into humiliation or abuse, but rather affectionate and sympathetic infliction of testicular pain.
— That being said, I would still happily comply with the requirements you have set for your clients: addressing you as you desire, me being addressed as you desire, etc.

Do my desires fit within your style for a ballbusting session? What is a “donation” for a session like this?

Thanks much,

NOTE: He sounds great in his first email. He mentions that he reads my blog …but I guess he missed the parts where I harp on about guys not communicating clearly by telling me WHERE they want to meet me. So I respond with:

$x for x minutes in Vancouver…if that’s where you’re hoping to see me?

Best,
Mistress T

Mistress T,

I saw that you’re in Vancouver (beautiful city!), and I was hoping you might have a travel schedule, as I’m in Denver. Though if you are stay put in Vancouver, then I might have to plan a trip. Although if I do that, considering travel and lodging, I might have to go the on-camera model route, if that’s of interest to you. Otherwise, I’m in Vegas quite a bit, if you’re ever there.

NOTE: Now I’m annoyed. I’m not going to Denver or Vegas in the foreseeable future. IF he comes to Vancouver he won’t be able to afford to pay for a session. So maybe I should have just not responded but I think the question is valid…so I asked:
“Why would you have not mentioned location in your 1st email?”

That’s all I wrote. Just that question. At which points he shows another side to himself:

Christ you mistresses are all the same. Are you even human? What the hell’s the difference? I do a lot of traveling and I can make it to Vancouver if I need to. I want to thank you for reminding me why I’ve had no desire to see a domme in the first place. Have a great time in that fantasy world of yours where low lifes lick your boots. Sounds very fulfilling–your parents must be so proud.

NOTE: My parents are actually very proud of me & yes, they know what I do…but it’s interesting that so many people fall back on that insult. I hope in the future a person can freely choose to do adult work without the stigma that’s attached to it. Here’s a great article about this topic…I’d really like all of you to read it: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/what-i-want-to-know-is-why-you-hate-porn-stars/Content?oid=19094602

So, fellow Dommes out there…beware of a guy requesting a ‘motherly’ ballbusting session (1 testicle, in Denver). He’s a nutter.

For the rest of you, for the love of fucking god, tell me what city you are inquiring about when you write about meeting me. I live in Vancouver. I go to the UK a couple times of year. Other than that my travel is random & I don’t “tour”…so no, I’m not randomly going to be in Michigan, Toronto, Italy or Argentina.

Don’t be fooled by cute-ness!

Mistress T

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Fans say the darndest things…

Posted on July 20, 2014 by Mistress T

I think the look on my face says it all…

Here’s a peek into my mail bag…not a day goes by that I don’t read something in my email or twitter that causes me to screw up my face, roll my eyes or say out loud: “What the fuck?!”.

These are quotes from emails & my reaction to them:

From a fan in India: “i just thought if you can make me come to the US by a job visa or by the way of romance, or you can find me a place to work with you… I will thank you. “

~ Um, no. Firstly, I’m a Canadian living in Canada & secondly: no.

From a fan trying to bait/manipulate me into catering to his fetish for small penis humiliation: “Hello mistress!
I was wondering if you could tell me if I have a small penis or not?”

~ *tumble weeds blowing through his inbox as he sits waiting for a response that’s never coming*

“Ive been in chastity for a while now and I think its shrunk :l”

~ Who cares?
“I want full ownership by the most beautiful Domme who ever walked the earth!!!
Beat me, bind me, cuck me, Torture my cock and balls any way you wish, make me a sissy-slut too!!!
I am totally straight, but I would suffer the humiliation of faggotry for you!!!”

~ Ah yes, yet another “straight” guy begging me to “make” him suck cock…and ordering me to do stuff to him. Hot? Not.

“I am so desperate to lick your ass and swallow your farts because it is my oxygen.”

~ No it’s not.

“I think it is hot when you work with black men and do some things in public. I could even fly you places to work with allot of black men you like and cover all expenses.”

~ Fantasy & reality are not the same thing buddy.

“I would also love to see you take an SUV on a public road and pull over and jump on the gear shift riding it to one incredible orgasm.”

~ What about me would make you think I would be interested in fucking a vehicle?

“Why would a stunning young lady like your self be empressed with a battered up boxer like me. But I want to keep fighting 4 u sweetie. I love the thought of taking painfull face punches and suffering the pain while I think of u during a fight and the thought that your all relaxed with your adorable sexy size 4 feet up. And the fear before the fight. I want to take pain for u misstress T. I’m a sadist as u can realise.”

~ This is actually kind of impressive…”Fight Club” is one of my favorite movies…keep up the good work Boxer!

“My Penis gets very Hard & Erect & I am willing to let you practice your Fellatio & Hand Job with it, in exchange for Lessons.”

~ Haa haaaa ha! You’ll let me PRACTICE giving blow jobs on your penis?! Oh, SO generous.

From a new film slave: “omg..I am such a lucky boy! I wish I could do so much more Mistress T, you have really impacted me in the short time that Ive spent around you. I mean I obviously was very familiar with you long before getting the honor of meeting you and being a film slave and honestly my thoughts have been so completely consumed with thoughts of you. I know I am just a prop, film slave and I love it! but for me, this opportunity has created such a buzz within me.. “

~ Okay, that’s actually very sweet…and a nice way to end things today.

Best,
Mistress T

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What will you do…?

Posted on July 5, 2014 by Mistress T

Me about 8 years ago when I first got into the business…one of the only pics where you can see my braces!

About 8 years ago (about 30 years old) when I started I was already old by industry standards…but you wouldn’t have known it.

The two most common questions I get asked are:

“How did you get into this?” (As in, how did I become Mistress T, a Dominatrix & adult film performer/producer.)

and

“What are you going to do…ya know, after?” (As in, what will you do when you’re too old to do this?)

For the first question I created this blog. If you read it from the beginning you will learn the whole interesting story of how I got here. I still get asked a lot but usually I redirect people to my blog for the full story & just give them the super condensed version.

The older I get, the more frequently I get the second question. At 38 I’m already a dinosaur in the porn biz. I know, I look younger and my audience tends to be drawn to “MILF’s” or more mature women but still, there is an expiry date in this profession unlike those who work as doctors or lawyers who can continue to practice when their 80 if they feel like it. It doesn’t matter how they look.

The short answer to the question is simply that I don’t know…and the hippie response is that we can’t really know. It’s one thing to have a plan, but life can throw all kinds of curve balls, good or bad. If you even consider curve balls to be either good or bad…but then I’m really doubling-down on the hippie talk.

I had a whole different life before I got into the adult biz. 12 years ago I would never have imagined I would be where I am. I seriously had no idea. I thought I would probably continue in the office world, climbing the corporate ladder. Sales/marketing, eventually management. Life threw me a few unexpected curve balls and one thing led to another. Here I am.

I love what I do & I have no plans to stop anytime soon…I’ll do this for as long as I want to & for as long as I make a living doing it. That depends on my looks but it also depends on the market & how much file sharing impacts revenues for producers…and I suppose there are other factors I haven’t even thought of. Remember: curve balls.

Sometimes when people ask about my future I know they’re really asking about finances. It’s a personal question that’s not really anyone’s business. We’ve all heard the sad stories of 40 year old strippers or porn stars who blew all their money & have nothing. Similar stories for football players or rock stars I suppose? The adult industry isn’t the only one that pays the young well because their careers are shorter than most.

The obvious answer is to move into more of a producer role, creating content with other people…and that is possible…but only if file sharing or other factors don’t impact the industry so much that money just can’t be made that way. Or maybe I’ll do something else altogether? I had a whole life before this & as a result of my varied experience I have a whole list of transferable skills. I’d love to do work that felt like it was making a positive difference in the world, to help others or our planet. I’m a little bit hippie.

Even if I am financially able to retire I won’t. I enjoy having structure & purpose. I enjoy accomplishing things & being productive.

So for now, I’m here for the long haul. Fear not. Fear not for yourself as you won’t be losing me anytime soon and fear not for me. I have always done well & I’m sure that will always be the case.

Best,
Mistress T

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Another pic from about 8 years ago. Fresh on the scene & no idea that Mistress T would become internationally known in the FemDom community. I just had fun & didn’t worry about the future:-)