Who is the man who gets what u want?

Posted on January 10, 2017 by Mistress T

Who made this mess?
….& who is going to clean it up???

Do you ever wonder who gets to be with me? Like really gets to be with me in the most intimate ways?

A few years ago I was fairly public about being single & looking but I wasn’t as vocal about my relationship when one did develop. Trying to balance some kind of private life with my public persona can be tricky. Part of me wants to keep some things just for myself & part of me wants y’all to know a lot about me to reduce the objectification of adult performers & sex workers. Like me shouting: “Hey, look at me! I’m a regular person like everyone else. I just have an unusual job. I grocery shop, I binge watch Netflix, I have complex relationships with family & friends, I’ve been in love, had my heart broken, I’ve made mistakes & hurt people I cared about, I wear flannel pj’s, I have opinions…I am a human, not just a sex doll with a pulse!”

Which brings me to this post…about my partner, which I know many of you are curious about. The reason I do it now is because I believe that he could actually help some of you. I’ll explain.

As you can well imagine, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. Is it hard to be in a relationship with a “Dominatrix” or “Porn Star”? Sure, for some guys, however, my partner is the most emotionally mature man I’ve ever met. There is no power dynamic in our relationship. Neither is Dominant. We are equals. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in.

He’s a high level communicator, intuitive, intelligent, empathetic, open-minded & sexually skilled. He’s self assured because he brings qualities to a relationship that are lacking in many men. How do most men learn to find & build a healthy relationship? How do most men learn to be better partners & lovers? Although the education exists it isn’t mainstream & I’ll tell you, unfortunately the majority of men aren’t skilled lovers or good partners. That’s just the harsh truth.

Over the years I’ve had requests from fans who wanted to serve my lovers or boyfriends. He’s been dabbling in that, chatting with & doing cam with a few of my fans. He’s rather good at it & enjoys it. It’s become a fun little hobby of his & sometimes we go on cam together with my fans which is fun for me too.

Beyond fetish sessions (laughing at my sissy cuckolds & slaves who get off on humiliation, forced bi or Financial Domination) I feel like some fans could benefit from a bit of coaching. This is the guy who ‘got’ ME. The guy who won my heart & sexually satisfies me. He is superior for that reason alone & all my cuckolds should worship him for that…but other guys who just want advice on how to communicate with women in real life, especially the type of women they crave: self-assured, successful, Dominate women. How to start & build a meaningful relationship with that kind of woman. How to please a woman sexually. Sex tips & individualized training on being a better partner & lover. He can do that & the domino effect is some women will be happier with better men. It’s ninja-level FemDom when you think about it: my good man training men to better please other women. I love it!

Sure, a lot of you will just want to go on cam for 10 minutes & jerk off while he laughs at you & tells you that you’re inferior…& it’s hot because he is a superior male who gets to fuck the woman you’ve been jerking off to for years…& it’s hot because he’s a good looking younger bi guy who gets off on the idea of making my cuckolds suck his cock & eat his cum…& yes, he is happy to do that…but he can also do so much more.

Of course ur not gay…but u can’t deny that’s a great ass…

Admit it, u like his ass…ur drawn to it…

…so drawn to it that I bet u’d lick it if I told u to.
Now it’s all u’ll be able to think about…

For example, he can assist with erectile dysfunction & orgasm control…he’s a professional tantra practitioner & works solo or does double sessions with the very talented Olivia Jade (http://oliviajade.net/). Olivia is one of, if not the most highly regarded certified tantra practitioner in Canada. She helps a lot of men with ED & premature ejaculation, among other things. I highly recommend her services as well.

So, if you want to ‘serve my man’ (via skype cam or messenger/email ) in the usual dirty ways: cuckolding, forced bi, humiliation, jerk off instruction, cum eating instruction, etc. & you’re in a position to be generous, reach out to me & I’ll coordinate it. We can both be involved or you can serve just him. Or, if you think you could benefit from chatting with an evolved man who in my experienced opinion is an expert at having a healthy relationship AND is also highly sexually skilled…send me a note:

MsT@MistressT.net

As I mentioned, this is just a fun little hobby for him & his time is limited so he will give his attention to those who are the most generous & enjoyable to deal with. This is a rare & valuable opportunity so conduct yourself accordingly. That means:

communicate clearly about what you’re hoping for/wanting/what you’re into
be ready & able to tribute to show you’re serious
be respectful & reliable

Those things go for me as well!

You only live once!

Mistress T

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Back from Guatemala

Posted on January 8, 2017 by Mistress T

Meg, Ceara & I exploring a volcano.

I’m back from my trip to Guatemala with Princess Meggerz & Ceara Lynch. It was an interesting trip. Good food, good friends, nice scenery, warm weather…some ancient ruins, some luxurious spa time & lots of relaxing time to read. Here’s a few random pics from the trip:

I’ve returned to an unusually cold & icy Vancouver. We’re having a real winter here & it’s as bizarre as it is unpleasant. I’ve lived here for 20 years & I’ve never seen so much snow. We typically just get rain in the winter, like Seattle. Brrrrr!

I’ll be ramping back up to start filming again in a couple weeks, so if you have custom vid requests you can send those in again.

As for my book…my first draft is with the professional editor I hired so that’s exciting. It will still take a few months of going back & forth, reworking things, but it’s moving along!

Mistress T

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Prepare For The Holidays!

Posted on December 18, 2016 by Mistress T

The holidays are upon us! For some this is a joyous time, for others, not so much. So I created this little vid to offer some suggestions for helping you these days if it’s a challenge for you: https://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Click the link above this pic…not the pic…I know, I know…the pic should be clickable but cut me some slack. I can’t even set the time on my microwave.

I have sent the first draft of my book to the professional editor I chose. So that will get worked on by her for the next few weeks while I’m spending the holidays with my gal pals exploring Guatemala. You might have heard of these two trouble makers: Ceara Lynch & Meggerz. We’ve done a lot of traveling together over the years, I’m excited for more…& also looking forward to the warm weather!

I randomly chose this pic of us from 2013. Meggerz is on the left, Ceara Lynch in the middle, the great Mistress T on the right.

I know a lot of you will have extra time on your hands in the coming weeks so I’m going to make sure you’re set up with a bunch of great porn, to suit a wide variety of tastes.

Of course ME…you already know my site & clips store but note that there are a couple new additions, if you prefer different platforms:

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
Clips4sale: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869

IWantclips: https://iwantclips.com/store/57715/Mistress-T

Kinkbomb: http://www.kinkbomb.com/studio/Mistress_T_-_Fetish_Fuckery

If you like ball busting, face sitting, women beating up men & other more physical FemDom action I strongly recommend Nikki Whiplash’s studio’s. I’ve had the great pleasure of working with Nikki & I would count her as a close friend. Her verbals are fantastic & I find her style of Domination very genuine & seductive.

Nikki Whiplash & I a few years ago…likely discussing our mutual love of ballbusting:-)

Ballbusting World PPV: http://clips4sale.com/87149

Lethal Bitches: http://clips4sale.com/87557

Nikki Whiplash’s PPV, for a variety of FemDom scenes: http://clips4sale.com/96987

Speaking of FemDom variety…you’ll want to check out the PPV studio brought to you by the diabolical Sidonia Von Bork of TheEnglishMansion.com, Bitch World FemDom: http://clips4sale.com/66613

Don’t click the pic, remember, I haven’t figured that out…the link is above, studio 66613 (bit creepy that number, isn’t it?)

If Financial Domination is something you’re interested in Ceara Lynch & Princess Meggerz are legends. That’s not all they do…they also specialize in fetishes for panties, feet & other body parts & clothing items…& they’re great at humiliation…& other stuff. It’s a different style of Femdom from The English Mansion & Nikki Whiplash & I’m here to ensure you have a buffet of choices…so here’s links for them:

Ceara Lynch: http://clips4sale.com/studio/16312

Princess Meggerz: https://iwantclips.com/store/6085/Pay-To-Obey-Meggerz

Alrighty, you’ve got enough porn options there to keep you busy for a dozen holiday seasons.

If you’re feeling charitable, Doctors Without Borders is a good one (I donated myself today): https://donate.doctorswithoutborders.org/onetime.cfm

Thanks for all your support this past year & always. I hope that I entertained you & helped you to explore your sexuality. Orgasms are good! (Yeah, yeah, except you poor suckers locked in chastity…I don’t know how you do it…I’m going to go masturbate right now, cuz orgasms are pretty much the best thing ever.)

Mistress T

Follow me on twitter for pics & random other stuff, sometimes funny, sometimes clever, sometimes bitchy, you never know what you’ll get: https://twitter.com/MistressTdotnet

What I’m NOT into.

Posted on December 8, 2016 by Mistress T

Let’s have a frank chat…

I just tweeted asking for blog suggestions & someone requested ‘capnolagnia’ which I had to google. That’s the fancy term for smoking fetish.

I decided to do a post about what I’m personally not into or what I don’t do & why you won’t see me doing it in vids (even if I’ve done it in the past), cuz, what the heck.

Smoking Fetish: Growing up both of my parents smoked. It was the 80’s & it was more acceptable back then. They smoked in the house & they smoked in the car. I grew up smelling like an ashtray. In my early teens they decided to quit but my mother couldn’t do it. She continued to smoke behind my fathers back for months & I observed that bullshit right at the time a lot of my friends started smoking. I thought: “fuck that”. She never did quite & I’ve had a very negative visceral response to the smell of cigarette smoke my whole adult life. So you will never, ever see me smoking a cigarette or using a slave as an ashtray. I’ve done vids with other Dommes smoking & slaves being used as ashtrays but it’s really, really not my jam.

Shoe jobs/boot jobs: I was in a relationship with a guy for years who had this fetish. Not only did we film those shoe jobs but I also did many off cam, just for him. He used to take a long time to cum & my leg would cramp up from the repetitive motion. When we broke up I swore I’d never give another shoe job or boot job again…& I haven’t.

Enema’s: In my early days as a Pro Domme I did a few sessions where I administered enemas to clients. I can sort of get my head around the fetish from the clients perspective but from the Dommes point of view I don’t really get it. It’s smelly & strange. No judgement of those into this but it hasn’t been presented to me in a way yet that appeals to me.

Adult Baby: I know this is a very popular fetish & although I get the ‘nurturing’ part of it I’m not comfortable having a guy pretend to breast feed on me & the whole diaper thing really puts me off. I associate it more with incontinence in the elderly or disabled than a baby. I’ve never been around babies so I don’t have a lot of personal experience to draw on. Even the idea of doing a POV vid (just me talking to the camera) makes me uncomfortable. Sure, part of it is the idea of doing anything sexual with a baby gives me the heebie-jeebies but I understand that’s not really what the fetish is about. Not meaning to insult those who are into it, I know the psychology is complex for this one, it just into my thing.

Pony Riding/Asshole Licking: This one is deeply personal. Long-time followers will know that I did dozens (hundreds?) of these vids for Club Stiletto in the past. Often with the same slave, known as Gaspman. He was a strong pony & I felt very comfortable doing facesitting/asshole worship scenes with him. He was a true gentleman & a very, very close friend. He passed away last year after a long, brave battle with cancer. It was extremely hard on me. Filming with Club Stiletto or doing similar scenes is just too raw for me. I’m not sure if I’ll ever do them again.

Scat: It’s illegal & despite me dabbling in it in the past I have not had anything to do with it for years (beyond the occasional ‘toilet talk’ scene which still sells disturbingly well). This fetish seemed to bring the nuttiest, most relentless & annoying type of fan. Spoiler alert: I’m not into it. Sorry to burst your bubble, I know I’m a convincing actress & I’ve created some fantastic vids for scat fetishists but please stop emailing me graphic emails, I don’t want to read them. I mute or block guys who tweet me about shit/scat so just don’t. Go find a Domme who currently advertises that she caters to that fetish. Go.

Giantess: I used to love this fetish. The vids were fun to create, but 2 things happened: 1. Piracy. The market for Giantess is small so they ban together to share content really effectively. 1 guy buys the vid & shares it with hundreds of others which means that I don’t make enough money off the vid. 2. The payment processor for my members site decided that me swallowing or stomping on the little fella in those scenes was too close to fantasy snuff & asked me to remove them. Bizarre but fuck it. So I don’t film them anymore. I would still consider it as a well-paid custom vid that I just put on my clips store (not my site) so if you miss my Giantess scenes & want to order a custom just email me.

Peddle pumping: Just no.

Cum on my face or cum in my mouth: Unless it’s by accident I don’t aim that hose at my face. Splooge stings the eyes, messes up the make-up & hair…& it’s a degrading act, in my opinion. I also HATE the taste of cum. Once in a blue moon I’ll shoot it on my tits, it’s not big deal…but not my face, not on purpose anyway.

This is feeling like a really negative post so I’ll wrap up the “don’t do’s” & remind you of some of the things I love & that I’m good at:

Cuckolding
Encouraged Bi
Strap-on
Orgasm control/edging/hand jobs
Humiliation
Ass Worship (just not so much specifically tongue on asshole these days)
Ballbusting
Adult Son/Mom fantasies (very different from Adult Baby)
Chastity
Foot Worship

Mistress T

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What’s happening?

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Mistress T

I’m sure you’re all dying to know what’s going on in my world so here’s the update.

The book is humming along. I’ve been writing & researching how to self publish/figuring out next steps. I met with a potential editor but it wasn’t the right fit so the search continues. I’m being very particular about who I work with on this project. I have a budget to hire experts but I also want to enjoy working with them.

I took a little road trip to Vegas to hike around Red Rock & the Valley of Fire with my pal Princess Meggerz for her birthday (Find more about her here: http://meggerz.com/). Beautiful nature around Vegas for those who think it’s just a party town.

Meg & I at the Valley of Fire in Vegas.

We also enjoyed a luxurious spa day compliments of a very generous anonymous fan who sent a $1000 tribute for the spa. I’m not one to brag about gifts & tributes (I know, I’m a lousy FinDom) but holy guacamole! By any standards a $1000 random tribute for the spa is impressive & very much appreciated.

At the spa in Vegas!

2 tributes of $500 for $1000 at the spa for Meg & I. SO nice!

While I’m bragging anyway…the same week I sold my worn & torn pantyhose for $500…which I felt was rather generous too. That pretty much covered the hotel in Vegas during our stay. I don’t usually bother selling my worn items as guys don’t usually offer enough to make it worth my while to wear them long enough to get them stinky or to package them up & mail them. But $500? Yes, that was worth my time & effort…& I gotta say: it was a bit of a thrill:-)

$500 for these pantyhose? Yes!

A little more bragging…a new devotee who aimed to impress basically cleared my Amazon wish list & I’m at a bit of a loss as to what to add to it now as I’m not really that greedy. Bad timing as xmas is coming & I know fans like to spoil. I’ll likely direct tributes to one of the charities I support. Stay tuned for that but in the meantime, my Kiva offer is still valid: http://blog.mistresst.net/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

I squeezed in a visit with Lexi Sindel before leaving (Find more about her here: http://lexisindel.com/). Love that brilliant, funny woman. I also got to catch up with slave Wade, Lexi’s long-time devoted slave. We’ve filmed together for years & he’s a great guy. I wish all slaves were as well-mannered. He said a lot of guys ask him how they can get an opportunity to serve a Domme like he has in real life (not just a paid professional session). His very smart response: Make yourself useful first, without expectation. Give her what you can, make her life easier, be valuable & if she’s a Domme worth serving she’ll show her gratitude, you’ll be rewarded BUT it’s not an exchange. Give & serve unselfishly, then be grateful for what comes.

It’s certainly worked for for slave Wade! He’s served her for many years & has had experiences that most subs could only dream of. To get a taste for how he’s living the good slave life check out Lexi Sindel’s FemDomEmpire.com. You’ll see a lot of Wade getting all kinds of action. Also note that a lot of the equipment you see was made by him, being handy has taken him far:-)

This is an old pic from years ago with Lexi & Wade. It was just a personal visit this trip & we didn’t think to take any pics. We’ve shot some really fun scenes over the years tho!

Wade bound in one of his contraptions…from a recent vid of mine: “Extreme Humiliating Bound Milking”

I love road tripping, especially now in my recently acquired camper van with my boyfriend. I love finding random places to pull over & sleep. One night we tucked in behind an old fire station in a tiny ghost mining town between Vegas & Portland. The view in the morning was charming.

Some old mining town between Vegas & Portland.

We stopped into Portland on our way north to visit one of my favorite people: Ceara Lynch (More about her here: http://www.cearalynch.com/). It was great to see her & hear about her adventures, the progress of her exciting hybrid-documentary “Ruin Me” (https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/ruinme/ruin-me) & to have a smashing karaoke party night.

Ceara Lynch & I in Portland recently.

I’m back in Vancouver now writing for the next few weeks. My goal is to finish my manuscript before I head to Guatemala for Xmas with Ceara & Meg.

I have long overnight layovers in Miami, Florida on both ends of that trip & would consider dinner dates or breakfast dates with fans. I prefer more casual, social meet ups rather than structured, professional sessions. Plus I won’t be traveling with any equipment. So if you live in Miami or near by & would like to meet me, this is a very, VERY rare opportunity. The tribute will need to be motivating as the ‘demand’ for my attention exceeds the ‘supply’ but email me to discuss if you’re in a position to be generous: MsT@MistressT.net

One last thing…I’m soon launching a studio on IWantClips & adding more content to my long neglected Kinkbomb studio for those who prefer those platforms for pay-per-view vids. I’ll make another blog post with the links in a few days. Stay tuned!

Thanks for all the love & support. I feel like I have a huge team of cheerleaders behind me.

Mistress T

No shame.

Posted on November 14, 2016 by Mistress T

Some misguided critter recently tried to shame or insult me by calling me an escort. I would have been more insulted if they had accused me of being the kind of person who would try to shame someone for being an escort.

Over the last 12 years I have been a stripper, a Professional Dominatrix, a cam girl, an escort & fetish model/performer/porn star. I’ve done phone sex, I’ve done my version of a peep show or voyeur show, masturbated for money, done girl-girl shows, sold cuckolding sessions where a guy paid to lick another man’s cum from my pussy, I’ve spat my boyfriends cum into a guy’s mouth for $1000, I’ve had sex for money, I’ve done shows & lap dances at bachelor parties, I’ve done topless poker dealing, topless bartending & sold tequila shooters naked on a clothing optional beach…I’m sure I missed a few things I’ve done for money using my body & sexuality….but you get the idea.

And I’m not ashamed of any of it.

It’s my body, my life, my choices.

I decide from one day to the next what I feel comfortable doing with my body. It has evolved over the years, but I regret nothing & have no hesitation in asserting my boundaries, whatever they are that day.

I do not buy into the BS hierarchy of adult industry workers. Strippers thinking they’re better than escorts because they don’t have sex with their customers, FinDom’s or non-nude fetish models thinking they’re better than those who get naked, phone sex or cam girls thinking they’re better than others for whatever reasons. Sometimes ladies in this industry can be pretty judgey considering how harshly we’re all judged by people in the vanilla world. Some lump us all together & at best they think some kinds of work are at least not ‘as bad’ as others. Even if we’re accepted & supported by our loved ones in our choices, no one prays that their little girl will grow up to be a sex worker & most won’t brag about it. The whole adult industry is stigmatized.

Women have been using their bodies & sexuality to make money for a very long time in a lot of different ways, not just in adult work. Some do it because they want to & they like it, they find it empowering, some do it for money, sometimes both. It does nothing to benefit anyone to try to shame women for it. If most men could do it they would & I doubt they would have any shame about it.

What people choose to do for work does not define who they are or all that they are. Women in the adult industry are also mothers, daughter, sisters, friends, animal lovers, Trekkies, gamers, teachers, foodies, therapists, painters, swimmers, pilots, volunteers, writers, sports fans, musicians, travelers, gamblers, sexual assault survivors, recovering alcoholics..they might be struggling with mental illness, mourning the death of a loved one, be fighting a legal battle with an ex, be caring for an elderly family member, be dealing with PTSD, be studying to get a new job outside of the industry, be working toward a personal goal or be helping someone else to get in or out of the industry…I could go on & on because every woman doing adult work has a story, a unique personality & a life beyond her job.

So, keep this in mind the next time you find yourself or hear someone else judging, objectifying or shaming a person in the adult industry.

Shamelessly,

Mistress T

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Book update…

Posted on November 7, 2016 by Mistress T

Some of you know that I took a few months off last winter to start writing a book. I went to Thailand & made quite a lot of progress before my trip was cut short & I needed to return to Nova Scotia due to a death in the family.

I still had some time to write back in Vancouver before I got back to filming & editing but after that my writing got stalled. I thought I could work & write but it didn’t turn out that way. Months went by & I didn’t write a word. So I pushed to build up enough content so I could take a few months off from filming & editing again.

I’m about half way through my second & current break & I’m pleased to say that I’ve been writing like a mother fucker! I’ve made huge progress & am in the last end of the first draft of my book. There’s still a lot of work to be done before you will have an opportunity to read my book but the hardest part is nearly done.

The book is a ‘fiction’ based very closely on my life. VERY closely. It tells the story of the making of Mistress T from the beginning, from before I was even born actually. All the ingredients that went into the final product. Those with interests in psychology will likely find lots to think about. I wanted to have the freedom to embellish or omit things here & there as well as add a bit of creative writing (completely fabricate some parts) so I decided to not make it an autobiography…but again, the vast majority of the story is 100% true.

Now that it’s nearing the end my excitement is really building. I decided to write this book for me, to process some of the things that happened to me in earlier life & understand how they contributed, for better or worse, to the adult I am. I saw writing as a kind of therapy. Now that it is taking shape & I’ve spoken to a handful of experts, it’s possible that this book could become quite successful…which would be a nice bonus.

I’ll soon hire an editor & others to help move through the next steps. I’ll likely self publish but will still need a team of professionals to assist with the process, a designer, a good marketing company, a studio to record an audio book, etc. I am starting to look for the right people & companies so if you have recommendations please send them my way. (I am looking for those top in their field & I have a budget for it.)

Though I should have enough content to get me through I want a bit more of a cushion so I will be doing a couple days of filming in the next couple weeks. This will be the only opportunity in the next couple of months to have a custom vid created by me, so if you have a custom vid request email it ASAP to: MsT@MistressT.net

Thanks to everyone for their support & encouragement! xo

Mistress T

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How To Email A Pro Domme

Posted on October 31, 2016 by Mistress T

Step 1. Remove BOTH of your hands from your genitals. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is trying to send an email while in a heightened state of arousal while typing with one hand. This often results in spelling & grammar mistakes as well as coming across like a buffoon.

Step 2. Do some research to show you value her time. Check her FAQ to see if your question is already answered. Check to see if she has a travel schedule posted. You can look on her website, her clips store or twitter profile for info.

Here’s my FAQ: http://blog.mistresst.net/fetish-focus/frequently-asked-questions/

Members site

Clips4sale studio

Twitter profile

Step 3. After you’ve done your research if it still makes sense to contact her be brief & clear in your communication. Keep the flowery compliments to a minimum & get to the point. Keep in mind that you are contacting a “Professional” as in it is her profession/job/business. Your feelings for her might be highly personal, you might feel in love with her or that you worship her but she is not a gal you’re writing to on a dating site, she’s not a pen pal, she’s not sitting there waiting & needing your compliments, hoping that some random guy will reach out to her & try to court her. In fact, if all you want to do is send a compliment I strongly urge you not to. Even if you are a paying customer (you buy vids/you’re a member of their site) if all you want to do is email a compliment: don’t! Your email will be one of many she has to sift through that day to get to the ones that need her professional attention: a custom vid request, a session request, etc. If your intention is to brighten her day with a compliment it will have the opposite affect as an annoyance since now she either has to take the time to respond or feel rude by not responding. If you are actually just hoping to get some free attention that is even worse.

Step 4. Ensure you give all important details. If you are requesting a session, let her know what you’re interested in specifically, when, where & for how long. If you’re requesting a custom vid give an outline of the important details without sending a lengthy script (I’d like a custom vid, approx 15 mins, solo, small penis humiliation with you wearing leather gloves. Please use my name Brian throughout the vid. Thanks!) Before hitting ‘send’ put yourself in her shoes (not literally). Imagine receiving that email. Is it clear? Do you think she has enough information to make a decision regarding accepting your session, custom, film slave application, etc? What else might she need? Use common sense!

Step 5. Level up. If you really want to stand out from the crowd & show her that you respect her time & prove you’re serious about whatever you’re contacting her about, consider sending a tribute. If she has a wish list, send her something off of it. If she has a clips store see if there is a tribute option. Even buying a few vids or joining her site sends the right message. It tells her that you’re not a freeloading time-waster trying to get her attention for free. BUT do not assume that buying a $10 clip or a $20 gift entitles you to an endless amount of her valuable time or attention. It just gets things off on the right foot.

My wish list: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_x_Wd6fybQNHG5B9

http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_x_Wd6fybQNHG5B9

Step 6. Don’t pester. Don’t send dozens of emails in a row, a few minutes apart. You’ll look like a psycho. Give her a day or two to respond. She might be on holidays, she might be busy filming, she might be sick, dealing with family or pet issues. She does have a life outside of your fantasy world.

Step 7. Don’t be fucking stupid. Don’t send an email saying you want to be a film slave if you live in a place you know damn well she’s unlikely to be filming in (Israel, Missouri, Argentina, India, etc.) & you’re unable to travel anywhere. If you can’t geographically be in the same place at the same time how the fuck do you think she’ll be able to film with you? Don’t request a vid that you know damn well she’s not going to do (like castrating a guy). Don’t email a Professional Dominatrix asking for sex unless she has explicitly stated she offers escort services or ‘full service’ (assume most Pro Dommes do not). Don’t send dick pics unless she has asked for them. (I request them for film slave applicants or occasionally for a paying distance slave to prove he’s in chastity, otherwise do not fucking send me your nudes, dick pics, your pics of you cross dressed, etc. Unless you’ve paid me to look at those pics they are very unwelcome.)

Got a little ranty in #7, eh? Can you feel the frustration? Most of you are probably shaking your head thinking “who is she even talking to, I would never do that!” but boy-o-boy, the volume of stupid, annoying emails we all get in this biz is staggering. Don’t be that guy:-)

Mistress T

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It’s a Beautiful Life?

Posted on October 26, 2016 by Mistress T

The upbeat Europop song “It’s A Beautiful Life” by Ace of Base came out in 1995. I was 19 at the time, which is the legal drinking age in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. So when that song came out I was dancing my tail off in the legendary bars of Halifax. A town with several big universities & a major naval port. University (college) students & sailors. Oh my.

I can still remember the excitement of entering adulthood, a clean slate on which I could create whatever life I wanted. That song, full of optimism, gave me so much hope.

Fast forward to today, 21 years later. Imagine the echoey water sounds of a community center swimming pool. Today there was also music blasting & an overly excited aqua-fit instructor barking out orders to a hand full of grey haired retirees bobbing in the water. Wearing my flotation belt I was mid-way through my lap across the pool doing the vertical cross-country skiing thing the instructor was telling us to do when that song came on. That peppy, upbeat song full of nostalgia. I was transported back to my 19th year looking forward to…what? I had no idea. A beautiful life I felt determined to create. It was in that moment that something caught my eye as a focused 70ish woman passed me. It was a band aid, sinking in the water near me. I watched the band aid lazily floating in the bright blue water, the contrast with the cheerful music of my youth was poetic.

As we all switched to water jogging, then sprinting, bunny hopping, jumping jacks & a dozen or so other ways to basically do the same thing: splash around in the water to help prevent our joints from seizing up in our old age, I reflected on my beautiful life so far. All the traveling I’ve done, the business I’ve grown, all the crazy stuff I’ve experienced, the relationships I’ve had, the good things I’ve done, the mistakes I’ve made, how I’ve changed…& I looked around at the seniors around me. Knowing that I’m at least 20 years younger than any of them, I still have a lot of life to live.

Mistress T

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Who am I?

Posted on October 11, 2016 by Mistress T

This blog was set up for you to get to know me more intimately…& on twitter recently I invited fans to ask me questions that I would answer on my blog. It seems there is a lot of interest in learning more about me, the woman behind Mistress T. So here’s a bunch of random stuff, using your questions as a guide.

What are you passionate about? I am a feminist, vegetarian, animal-lover, atheist. I’m passionate about human-rights issues & equality. I’m anti-discrimination, I have ZERO tolerance for racism, homophobia, sexism, etc. I’m concerned about environmental issues & do what I can to reduce my impact.

How do you stay in shape? I’m blessed with good genes but I also eat very carefully (no meat, very little sugar, deep fried foods or processed foods, easy on the carbs, etc.) I do yoga, recently started doing aqua-fit & I walk a lot.

Trump or Hillary? I’m Canadian so can’t vote in the US election but I would NOT vote for Trump because he would be a disastrous choice no matter how you look at it. Period.

Would you be submissive? I’ve often been asked if I would ever consider “switching” & trying being submissive. If you read my blog from the beginning there is a part where I talk about dabbling as a submissive in my early days in fetish, at parties, way before I got into private sessions or video. I loved the exhibitionism but submitting wasn’t my jam. I hate pain & getting Dominated just makes me angry. I’m naturally Dominant but I don’t need to actually be Dominant all the time. I’m actually just as happy to be equal with someone. But if you’re hoping to see me in a scene where I’m being spanked, tied up, Dominated: forget it. It will never happen.

Along those lines, it is unlikely you’ll see me in scenes with big production companies like “Blacked”, etc. Going from filming my own scenes for years & working with companies like The English Mansion & Club Stiletto where it’s very much a collaboration & I’m still very much in control, the idea of just being a performer who is directed to do sexual acts with someone I possibly haven’t even met before…doesn’t hold much appeal.

I know some fans crave to see me in certain situations, some would love to see me take a load of cum on my face, get fucked by several well-hung black guys, get fucked in the ass, be Dominated, etc. But my body: my choice. I decide.

Biggest joy and biggest frustration about what you do? Biggest joy: I love being creative & performing. I always have. I was in every school & church play when I was growing up. Biggest frustration: Email. Just reading my email often puts me in a bad mood. It’s a never-ending shit river of time-wasting annoyance. Reading ‘complimentary’ emails from guys who openly state they only watch my vids on free-sharing sites (so have never paid) but just have to waste my time telling me that I’m ‘the best’ to guys sending requests for sessions in random places all over the globe. Of course, it’s worse than you could imagine. I have to read it all to get to the few emails that need my attention, like custom vid requests, actually worthwhile film slave applicants, the rare session I decide to take, etc. Doesn’t sound like a big deal? Many peers I’ve met says the same thing. Dealing with emails in this biz is amazingly frustrating & over time is wears on you.

How did your family react when you told them or they found out you’re in the porn biz? I get this question a lot & have addressed it at least a couple times in my blog but again: not a big deal in my case. I was about 30 when I changed careers from sales & marketing in the vanilla world to the adult industry. I had already lived away from my family for 9 years, had invested in real estate, traveled the world & demonstrated I was able to make smart decisions for myself. They didn’t worry about me. As long as I was healthy & happy they didn’t judge. Which leads me to the other question I get a lot…

What will you do AFTER porn??? As the years go by I get this question more & more. I am 40 now & have been in the adult industry for a decade so I understand why some folks are checking my expiry date & exit strategy. There is a cliche about women in the porn industry being reckless with their money & having expensive habits (drinking, drugs, gambling, leech boyfriends, etc.). We’re not all like that. In fact, most of my peers are careful with their finances. In my case, I started investing in my retirement in my early 20’s, I invested in real estate before I turned 30. Financial security has always been a priority for me & I’ve been smart and lucky. When I am done with porn I’m not sure what I’ll do but I’m not worried. I’ll still want to keep busy & productive. I’ll have transferable skills & will find something I enjoy. At this time I’m trying to get a book written & I’ve started the free T-Time Sex Ed series. My future might include more writing, education, speaking engagements, advice columnist, performing in some other way, something that helps people, animals or the environment…money won’t be the main motivator so I’ll have the freedom to do what I enjoy with less concern about finances.

How can a slave make himself worthy? A lot of fans want to serve me, interact with me in some way, online or in person. The charitable part of me wants to give every guy what he so badly wants. But the part of me that’s in charge of self-care knows that I don’t have the energy to give that much of myself. I work toward work-life balance & that means turning down 90% of the requests I get for online or in person one-on-one interactions with fans. The few that earn my attention pay generously & have excellent manners.

Are you religious? Favorite flavor? Favorite fiction book? Do you ever wear granny panties? Ever played video games? Atheist. Good dark chocolate with lavender. Fresh sun-warm berries or cherries just picked. A nice cup of Jasmine Green Tea. To name a few. Recent favorite speculative fiction: Margaret Atwoods MaddAddam Trilogy. I don’t wear any panties. Ever (except as part of a sexy outfit for filming or fetish/sex parties). I pretty much live in yoga pants/leggings, sometimes flannel pj’s. When I was a teen I played tetris at the arcade & Super Mario at a friends house. Pong a bit as a kid. That was pretty much it.

What do You think of the friend Zone? What do You think of “nice guy syndrome”? Thank You Mistress I think the world needs more guys who are genuinely kind, respectful & thoughtful. Some girls might get a thrill out of bad boys but emotionally mature women, especially those who have had enough of getting treated like shit by bad boys, will one day appreciate a nice guy. Life is not all about getting laid. If you’re angry because girls won’t fuck you, than you’re probably not really a nice guy. Girls don’t owe guys sex. Having real friends & a sense of community is more meaningful than one-night stands. If you really want meaningless sex pay for an escort or go on Tinder to get your fix. I think if your biggest complaint is the too many girls want you to be their friend but don’t want to fuck you than you should consider yourself pretty lucky in life. Think about it. If a real romantic relationship that includes sex is what you’re after try looking for women who you have things in common with & accept those friendships while being open to them developing into more, without expectation. All kinds of different people find partners, you can too, but in the mean time be good to yourself & appreciate what you already have.

That’s it for today! Feel free to submit more questions in the comments area below & maybe I’ll do a follow-up post.

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